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Topic: A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members

  1. Quercus
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    8 January 2019 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi everyone,

    I love this thread. Geoff is spot on DB you are unfailingly kind. Thank you for your post on my thread today.

    Geoff I notice your posts to others too... always have. You're a God send!

    When Sara created this thread she wrote that it is also for sharing "pearls". I wanted to share this that Mary (White Rose) wrote to me...

    I had a lesson from my psych yesterday when I was talking about a specific flashback that kept re-appearing.

    She told me I needed to be self-compassionate. So I asked for more information and she said, "Where does it hurt, put your hand on that spot". (My chest) So I did.

    "Close your eyes and feel the warmth of your hand, relax the shoulders and let yourself think about that warmth. Think about the incident and allow yourself to be comforted."

    This was instead of trying to distract myself from thoughts which she said only made them harder to go away.

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  2. geoff
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    8 January 2019 in reply to Quercus

    Hi Quercus, lovely to hear back from you and always appreciate a compliment.

    Thank you.

    Geoff.

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    20 April 2019 in reply to geoff
    Hello Everyone...

    I would like to dust this thread down if it’s okay......I was going to go around to each thread and pop a few Easter goodies off.....but I think that would take me until next Easter😁..

    I so much would love to give each wonderful person posting or reading and behind the scenes...A beautiful Easter basket full of Easter goodies...which has inside it, some chocolate eggs 🥚..chocolate rabbits 🐇...chocolate chickens 🐓...and also a little crystal jar full of hope 🌈..little wishes🌟... love 💕and hugs.🤗..You are all amazing people who help other people that are strangers....and that’s pure gold..

    Love and hugs everyone..💕🤗..

    Grandy....Happy Easter everyone...
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  4. Quercus
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    21 April 2019 in reply to Ggrand

    Thank you Grandy for reviving this positive thread (it was nice to log on in a low place and see your message to everyone).

    Also, thank you for the TLC you constantly give to others. I hope the Easter bunny brings you one of the goodie baskets too.

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    21 April 2019 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy,

    I agree with Quercus, thank you for your lovely message you have sent out to everyone.

    I also hope you have a lovely Easter no matter what you do.

    Thanks for all the times you have been here for me and for so many others!

    Cheers from Dools

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    21 April 2019 in reply to Ggrand

    You're beautiful Grandy 🤗

    Hi everyone ☺

    Happy Easter to you too lovely sweetyheart and everyone

    💑💜🗯

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  7. Ggrand
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    29 May 2019 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello everyone....

    I really would like to give a beautiful bunch of flowers...to all the people working behind the scenes at BB...I’m in hospital again,,and I found a rather thick book from Beyond Blue..called “A guide to what works for Depression”..It’s been keeping me company since I found it here.....Thank you BB..your even helping me while I’m in hospital...and your also helping so many people that you could never imagine.....

    My Kind and gentle thoughts, and a hug if you like them...

    Grandy...🤗💜..

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    30 May 2019 in reply to Ggrand

    "And whether or not it is clear to you.. no doubt .. the universe is unfolding ...as it should".

    Max Ehrmann... Part of "Desiderata"

    You got this beautiful lady 🤝

    Eternal love 💜 support encouragement and belief in you dearest friend 🤗👩‍❤️‍👩💜🌱

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    30 May 2019 in reply to Ggrand
    Hi Grandy, we thank you for your kind acknowledgement and are glad to hear that our supports and resources continue to assist you in moving forward in your mental health journey. We wish you well in your recovery. Our community is here to help you through this.

    Take care
     
     
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  10. geoff
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    30 May 2019 in reply to Ggrand

    Hello Grandy, can I also wish you the very best.

    What life throws at us when we want to achieve the things we want to do, may not be a loss and could be a blessing in disguise, that's what we wish for.

    Best wishes.

    Geoff.

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  11. Blusky
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    30 May 2019

    Hey all,

    I just wanted to say thank you to everyone that contributes to this site. The advice and general chat helps to ground me.

    Last time I visited, I was posting threads, since then when I have a rough patch I find coming back here and gaining perspective ( and distraction) which helps relieve my anxiety.

    Keep up the good work.

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    31 May 2019 in reply to Blusky

    Good on you Blusky same back to you contributing with threads and posts.

    It really is an amazing place extremely well run with a very high standard of respect to everyone.

    Hope you go ok ☺

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    1 June 2019 in reply to Ggrand

    For Grandy

    A huge bouquet of tulips for you

    Bear Hugs and TLC for you and your recovery ....Miss you heaps

    Paul x

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    2 June 2019 in reply to blondguy

    Hello Paul..and everyone..

    Thank you so very much for the beautiful tulips...I’m going to put them on the bedside table next to my bed...Hospital rooms are so dreary...Thank you for the bear hugs and tlc...I need them so much.....I hope you and your lovely fur buddy are doing better then before...

    Love and hugs,

    Grandy...💜🤗

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    2 July 2019

    We parade our faults to ourselves and others and believe this encompases all that we are.

    Thank you Mary (White Rose) for these gems in Quirky's critic thread.

    Positive statements such as I can drive well, I can knit and sew, I am a good mother etc, start to reverse the brainwashing we do to ourselves as well as allowing others to define us.

    We can get so far down this road that many people give up and accept their inferiority.

    I went to Quirky's thread today trying to find some way to quiet the critic. Found your words and remembered once you asked me to rewrite a post of mine removing the negatives (and the word NOT).

    I feel inferior. But you are right, that is me accepting to feel that way.

    Thank you for the reminder ❤

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    11 July 2019 in reply to Quercus

    Nat

    Thank you so much for your words. I have just found your comments and feel so touched by reply. I wish I had seen them before Friday but I went to Melbourne on Tuesday and missed this post. You have made my day I feel good.

    Bless you.

    Mary

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    11 July 2019 in reply to Quercus

    Nat, I want to give you a bouquet of native flowers and shrubs , because you have such insights into your behaviour and are able to take on the suggestions of others.

    I think your self awareness, is such an admirable trait.

    On some days if I took out all the negatives in my writing it would be very very short.

    I also like the way you promote my inner critic thread!!

    Quirky

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    13 July 2019 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi everyone,

    Mary I am stoked that the post made you feel good. I think most of us here forget at times that people are reading and that something you write can be significant for someone else. Your posts are helpful to me.

    Quirky I recommend your threads often because I gain so much reading them. Questions are fascinating.

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    13 July 2019 in reply to blondguy

    Congratulations Paul!

    Just saw your new badge and life membership is a massive achievement. Very well deserved.

    On top of replying to posts, you're always making sure the forums are a welcoming place. You check in with the cafe and social areas regularly, and making sure people are acknowledged and included.

    I'm not sure how to express how much I appreciate this except to say I am thankful for all you give of yourself to this community.

    ❤nat

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    13 July 2019 in reply to Quercus

    Hi Paul, well done, you well deserve the green badge, life member after replying to so many posts in such a short time, an enormous effort and such dedication, terrific job.

    Best wishes.

    Geoff.

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    14 July 2019 in reply to geoff

    Dear Paul~

    A crown is something that looks great, that others admire -as they should.

    It can also be a weighty burden, which you have borne so well. My admiration on achieving Life Membership

    Croix

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    14 July 2019 in reply to Croix

    Hi Paul,

    A wave and a "Goodaye" to you and I echo all the words said above!

    Cheers to you and all the best from Dools

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    15 July 2019 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Paul,

    Well done.

    TonyWK

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    15 July 2019 in reply to white knight
    Hi Paul, awesome!!! Big hugs for a special guy!
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    15 July 2019 in reply to blondguy

    Paul,

    Congratulations on your latest achievement. The care and concern you put into your posts and the way you manage long threads making everyone feel welcome is second to none.

    Take care

    Quirky

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    16 July 2019 in reply to quirkywords
    Congrats Paul.
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    18 July 2019 in reply to smallwolf

    Hello Paul...

    If it’s okay I would like to join in and congratulate you for the green crown...Life membership...You so much deserve it for all your kindness, care, time, compassion and your want in wanting help people...Well done..and thank you for being here and the person you are...

    Kind thoughts..and 🐻🤗..

    Grandy..

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    20 July 2019

    Congratulations dear Paul ☺

    Agree with everything said

    🤗

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    Hi everyone,

    Sometimes you read something on the forums that is truly powerful and want to share it with others. Sara made this thread once for this reason. To share and give thanks.

    I read a post today by 2Quik which made me stop in awe.

    I know it will help others too. 2Quik writes about releasing feelings of responsibility and guilt which nearly all survivors of abuse experience. It is an issue I struggle with too.

    "I'm slowly giving back to them what was never mine and it belongs to them.

    I won't carry their burdens and weight anymore".

    Taken from 2Quik's thread heart shattered to bits.

    Thank you 2Quik for these words. I hope it's ok that I share them with others here and that this is the start of your journey towards healing.

    Nat

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    26 February 2020 in reply to PamelaR

    Hello PamelaR, I do apologise for not thanking you much earlier but I've been off colour the last few days or so, physically, and really do appreciate all the kind remarks you have made to a group of people.

    Thank you kindly.

    Geoff.

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