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Topic: A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members

  1. White Rose
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    15 July 2017 in reply to Guest_3712

    Stressless, I am lost for words. Thank you for your kindness.

    We may not meet in person but I feel I know much about you, such as your generous spirit to everyone, even your mom. I am about to plant some roses and now they will always remind me of you.

    Maybe we will meet one day walking down the street. I will know you by your lovely smile (and the halo). 🌼

    Mary

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  2. Guest_3712
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    15 July 2017 in reply to White Rose

    Hi. Mary

    You are very welcome and also very deserving I have a mental picture of everyone I talk to on BB , but yours is always clearer than most.

    I can see the years of a sometimes hard life in the lines on your face, but they are softened by the creases of easy loving smiles and dancing eyes.

    You walk with purpose although sometimes hindered by pain , and are always ready to help others you meet who may not be as able but probably have your age.

    You deserve everything good life has to offer you my beautiful Rose- I will also think of you whenever I see roses 🌹 🌹

    Stressless

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    26 July 2017 in reply to Guest_3712

    Hi everyone,

    I would like to send a bouquet of pink daisies to Sara today for this pearl....

    I think being able to accept love without question when it's offered, is a form of self love.

    I had never thought of that. I had heard of building self esteem by accepting compliments but accepting love? What a wonderful thought.

    Thank you Sara. This is worth thinking about more.

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  4. Just Sara
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    26 July 2017 in reply to Quercus

    I'm happy you picked up on that one Quercus;

    It means much to me, especially today. I've been the recipient of love, and have given mine without wanting anything in return...unconditional.

    Love is a provocative subject, and elicits views that deep down are probably the same.

    Pink daisy's sound beautiful. Are they the one's with a yellow centre and seem to have a sheen on the petals? If they aren't it doesn't matter, I'm grateful and in awe this thread is still producing quotes that evoke healing and recovery.

    My best...

    Sara xo

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  5. Quercus
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    27 July 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Hehe Sara they can be whichever pink daisies you like best 😊.

    I want to share something today which has hit home in such a profound way. Maybe it will help others too.

    Thank you Mary for pointing out something I didn't notice about my posts which is truly important. I would like to give you a kardinal rose for your potted rose garden. It is dark red and smells wonderful. Thank you my friend.

    Giving yourself orders sounds really good but are you going to carry this through?

    There is a school of thought that says when you mention wrong or incorrect thoughts and actions, such as stop sabotaging yourself, what you actually retain is the instruction to continue with the sabotage....

    So can I get you to rewrite your letter and change all the negatives to positives? There are quite few there. I have counted at least twelve. It may mean omitting some of your thoughts. That's good. No need to reference the negative.

    Do others do this too? Think they're giving themselves a positive message but wording it all in negatives? Look at your posts. I got a bit of a shock. Luckily we have a community here who can point out when we aren't helping ourselves!

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    29 July 2017 in reply to Quercus

    Hi everyone,

    Today I would like to spare a moment to honour Just Sara (Sara) who has touched the lives of so many here with her compassion, insight and wisdom. But I think it's the light and love that shines through most of all.

    You see parts of herself not only on her own threads but also in her replies. She generously gives and shares so much of herself here. We are all better for it...

    I often think that life is unfair. I wish for more and better for her and it saddens me to know that she has been through so much pain and loss in her life. But her spirit is strong and her message of hope and love is even stronger. With that in mind and with admiration...

    I would like to award a no expenses spared, extravagant garden in her honour that comes with its own water features (yes, plural), a gazebo, pool, sauna and an array of flowers from orchids to lilies to sunflowers. I don't know much about horticulture so have no idea which flowers grow in which climate but we will make it work. I am also hiring a full-time jazz band to play any jazz number that she requests ;-)

    I leave you with her own poem:

    **Love's in Season**

    When light beams, skin glows

    Where snow falls, darkness knows

    When river runs, freedom flows

    Where leaves brown, wind blows

    Summer, Winter and Spring, Fall,

    When seasons hope...Love Grows!

    - Just Sara

    Love,

    Pepper xoxo

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  7. Just Sara
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    29 July 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    My response?

    Tears obviously; lots and lots of them...you know me so well Pepper. All of what you've given as well as a Jazz band! Who could ask for more? I'm humbled and thrilled...thankyou

    When one plants seeds, we want not only to watch them grow, but to revel in their beauty once mature. That's how I approach this forum; I watch as we all grow and mature into beautiful souls from wounded seedlings living underground.

    Some take longer than others, some are glorious thornless roses while others are thistles with purple flowers. But all have a purpose and right to grow and exist despite their origins.

    And then there are those who 'gel' with us; befriend us; complement us. Pepper, my once thought lost friend, I'm blushing with pride and joy knowing I've made a difference in this complex world of ours thanks to feedback from people like you. You've been infectiously likable/lovable as my friend; an example of youthful creativity, wisdom and strength.

    Long live those who've gone the distance and continue to fight the good fight with each other by our side! Long live BeyondBlue!

    Sara xoxo

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    29 July 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Thats beautiful Pepper, and so very fitting for Sara.

    Taurus xx

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    29 July 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Pepper,

    I have no words to say how much I like and agree with your wonderful tribute to Sara.

    I had now rods to express how I feel but you did it so beautifully.

    Quirky xx

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    29 July 2017 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi Sara,

    I'm so glad that you saw my post today :-) I meant every word of it (and it looks like Taurus and Quirky also agree with my sentiments).

    I'm a little speechless at your response- deeply moved. Yes, I do see your nurturing nature on these forums. I see how you try so hard to make sure each person feels his/her life is a worthwhile one and that we all have a right to exist and be heard.

    As for your compliments...I'm tearing up. I don't know how to respond other than to say thank you, and I'm so glad that my words helped to lift you that teeny tiny bit today (despite your tears).

    Words are all we have on these forums to communicate. Life is uncertain, and while I remain hopeful...who knows what will happen tomorrow so if I care, I am trying harder to tell people that because we don't always get a second chance. Sending you loving thoughts...

    Taurus and Quirky- I appreciate the gentle support and encouraging words immensely. I'm also glad (but unsurprised) that you feel the same way about Sara :-)

    Love,

    Pepper xoxo​

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  11. kanga_brumby
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    10 August 2017
    I would love to present CMF with every red rose in the shop. For being a great support for myself during my latest melt down. Thanks for being there.
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    10 August 2017 in reply to kanga_brumby

    Hey Peter;

    CMF (Comfy as I like to call her) is a wonderful presence on this forum, so it's no surprise to see her name in lights. I'm sorry you've been thru the mill Kanga; we all know how painful that can be.

    Your tribute's a grand gesture and indicative of how members encourage and support each other in times of need. Giving feedback as you have, lets Comfy know she's appreciated. Good on you!

    I'm sending out squeezing hugs to warm your cockles and lift your spirits.

    To CMF...you go girl! You're an amazing and genuinely caring person we all adore. Your sense of humour is one of your many beautiful qualities along with the kindness you've obviously showed Kanga. Well done!

    Warm Winter hugs to all...

    Sara xo

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  13. CMF
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    10 August 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Kanga, That is so beautiful. Thank you, I'm lost for words.

    Sara, thank you, your words are lovely. I'm still lost for words.

    Yeah I have no words, gosh. Well I am a little teary now. I'm going to make a cuppa and have a little cry, a good cry, tears of happiness. I can feel my heart beating, it is full of love for you guys and everyone here. Yeah, I'm stuck for words.

    xxx

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    10 August 2017 in reply to CMF

    Hi,

    I wasn't going to post today so this will be my one and only post of the day. But I just had a quick squiz and stumbled upon one of Taurus' posts.

    To be fair, I have stumbled upon many of Taurus' posts over time. I think we have to hand it to her especially considering everything she is currently going through, she still puts in the time and thought to write such empathic and detailed responses. It must be very draining at times...

    So here's a toast to Taurus for her empathy and commitment. I am currently negotiating a dramatic, OTT floral gazebo with the landscapers and builders for you :-)

    Sidenote: I hope your find some Taurus Time (T-Time) because we don't want one of our bright stars to burnout ;-)

    Thanks for being you,

    Pepper xoxo

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  15. Guest_9809
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    10 August 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Oh Pepper .......... ! Gosh I feel so very privileged and honoured. Thankyou ever so much for your kind words and nomination for a 'bouquet'.

    That OTT floral gazebo will work perfectly in my back yard and I have 'just the spot' picked out for it. Cant wait! (-:

    Oh dear, please pardon me while I go away and have a little cry - extremely touched by your post. xx

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    10 August 2017 in reply to Guest_9809

    Hi Taurus,

    I'm moved by your response. I'm glad it helped to lift your spirit a little- tears and all- as you so deserve the thanks and recognition :-)

    The OTT floral gazebo construction work will start asap in your chosen location...whatever flowers you like will bloom all over the gazebo...around it and some climbing flowers as well...

    Kind thoughts,

    Pepper xoxo

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    10 August 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    I want to send a knightly bouquet of flowers to White Knight, who helped me last knight even though he has had a difficult week himself.

    It was much appreciated as are all Tony's posts, full of compassion and wisdom and honesty.

    Thanks again White Knight

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    11 August 2017 in reply to quirkywords

    Thankyou Quirky.

    We all have different abilities. I seem to have the ability to still help even through my dark times but not everyone has that capability.

    Im realising of late just how great the community us here. Money cant buy that.

    Tony WK

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    11 August 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Im sending out a massive bunch of Sweet Pea flowers and Arnotts Choc Monte to my Dearest Sara.
    for her endless encouagment and support to me and many other members despite being in a tough situation herself
    I hope she knows how proud I am and also honoured to be her surrogate grandaughter

    xoxoxoxoxoxo

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    11 August 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Thankyou my sweet :-/

    Yes, today's a difficult one, but thanks to lovelies like yourself, it's made easier.

    I'm proud of you too hun. Life challenges you so...I'm here as are you, and that's what BB friends are for.

    I love sweet pea's, my Nan's favourite. I'm grateful for the flowers, your well wishes and faith in me.

    Hearts...

    Nan Sara xoxo

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    11 August 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    I remember you saying they were your favourite flowers and u seem to like those arnotts bikkis too so i thought id put those in there too

    Lots of love, i know your doing it tough even when your not saying anything. Hopefully these will bring abit of light into your day

    Xoxoxox

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    16 August 2017 in reply to startingnew

    This one is for Cornstarch. I could be wrong but I get the impression she isn't the kind of person who is into virtual gifts.

    But on the off chance that I'm wrong, how about a new field for her to grow more corn?

    Anyway, I wanted to swing by to give an honourable mention to her very insightful and powerful post that she left on Sara's main thread "Getting to know you or is that me." Plus I kind of hope you guys will read it too...

    Let's just say I took a screenshot of it and my jaw hit the floor when I read it. Left me a little speechless and made me question my own intelligence. Seriously, check it out...it's confronting in a way but she makes a lot of sense.

    Pepper xoxo

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    16 August 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Seriously, Cornstarch's post (see above) was so good. I'm so impressed that I'm posting twice about it lol (see above).

    If there was such a thing as a "perfect post", hers was about as close as you can get. Blunt as f*** but so insightful and raw with a cold truth thrown in. No romance or holding back. Really powerful. Maybe it's not for everyone but it's still very insightful. I highly recommend that you check out her post on 16 August 2017.

    Pepper xoxo

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    16 August 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hey Pepper

    I just posted on the same thread as Corny did....Its one of the best threads I have read on the forums....

    I hope this link makes it easier for your bouquet for Corny for others to read...My Best for you Pepper

    www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/long-term-support-over-the-journey/getting-to-know-you-or-is-that-me/page/38

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    16 August 2017 in reply to blondguy

    Amazing, thanks Paul! :)

    I 300% agree with you. Intimidatingly and scarily insightful indeed. I feel like a 2 year old writing compared to her. Lol. Yes, everyone, follow that link and take a screenshot :)

    Pepper xoxo

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    16 August 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    I totally agree Pepper;

    Ptsd, insight and intelligence on a good day in all its glory. Well expressed Corny.

    Sez xo

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    16 August 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    No worries Pepper....just a typo from me " one of the best *posts" I have read on the forums..lol

    I felt like a 1 year old reading Corny's post...I have saved it to my 'coping folder'...

    Paul xo

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    Hi,

    I just wanted to post to say "thank you" to Just Sara (Sara).

    She already has an extravagant OTT garden with state of the art facilities but I suppose we can add maybe a treehouse, greenhouse and games room.

    The reason that I wanted to make this honourable mention was I think some of Sara's posts on her main thread helped me come to a revelation about myself. It's amazing when reading and replying to others' posts bears fruit in unexpected ways. I'll throw in some mango trees in your garden as well :)

    Love,

    Pepper xoxo

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    17 August 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Positive feedback's always a winner Pepper...thankyou.

    The same goes for your posts too you know. When it resonates, it helps. Sometimes we're not ready, but down the track we are. It just is.

    I love mango's and cook with them often. A games room with a pool table would be exciting, thanks. (What can I say; misspent childhood. lol)

    Inspiration comes from everywhere, nature especially. Seen any birds lately P-girl?

    Gratefully yours;

    Sez xoxo

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    17 August 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Thanks Sara. I just ramble and blab...nothing much to be gained from my many musings. Lol.

    Funnily enough I have seen a lot of birds. Specifically ones that have lately taken to flying past in close proximity to my head (often missing by cm lol).

    Today there was a small bird acting strangely above me. Just kept flying around in these circles above me. It did that till another bird came along and the 2 flew off together. It made me smile :)

    I love the green eyed cat avatar btw!

    Love you,

    Pepper xoxo

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