I see a lot of posts about partners and the replies saying said partners are wrong. Are we just patronising people? Confirming their illusions?
I do not think we should ever tell anyone their partner/carer/parent is wrong without all the facts and both sides. I know people might "feel" a certain way but to confirm they are right and everyone else is wrong, is just silly.
We can validate peoples feelings without saying other people are wrong. What do we even know about the facts? People with MH issues often feel things that are not real. Supporting them is one thing but telling them to leave family/friends for nil support is silly.
I know some people need to get away from abusive others but how much do we know is abuse and how much is just thoughts from a person suffering from MH issues?
Years ago when no anger management support group was in my area they sent me to an abused wives group. I got kicked out for smacking a woman. She complained that her husband pushed her (during an argument) after she hit and punched him. So, she hit and punched him and he pushed her to get her away from him. He was being charged and she got free counselling. She admitted to all of this. I was appalled. She attacked him and when he had enough he pushed her away. She fell and claimed assault and the law stuck with her. I smacked her and I did it as an abused wife who suffered broken bones because dinner was not ready when my husband got home,,,,at random hours after he finished drinking. (Not proud of it,,,,,hold on,,yes I am)
My husband would disappear for months at a time then turn up at 3am at a random day, no warning and kick the chit out of me for dinner not being on the table. As if this woman had anything to complain about. She was hitting her husband first.
I don't know if it is me talking now or my other self (Piker) but there should be a line. IT is me...Piker would be swearing by now. But there should be a line. There should be a rule where we cannot blame everything on others or their lack of support. This MH issue is not others problems, it is ours and we should not expect others to support us through it.
Others, even significant others should be allowed to walk away at any time without attack from us. They have a right to.