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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. BunnyRabbit
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    8 March 2022 in reply to Fiatlux

    Hi Fiatlux

    That's pretty lucky you can work alone in office. I wish it was the case for me but we have an open plan type office with around 100 staff members on the floor. Nobody wears mask and people are still shaking hands, not social distancing, filling up meeting rooms.

    I'm not usually agoraphobic, but since COVID I just can't help feeling fear and anxiety. I wish I could live carefree like the others in the office but I've likened it to having a fear of snakes and being asked to work with a snake sitting a metre away from you. It's just not going to happen.

    But this is a really tough social dilemma, even I don't want to live homebound all the time, I miss my pre-COVID life so much. I want to try and think about how do I re-train my mindset to not be anxious about COVID. I used to read every article about COVID in the news but now I'm just so sick of it, it's the same thing everyday. I wish there was some good news.

    At least the number of cases have dropped compared to January. I'm not sure what is to become of the vulnerable people in the future. One can only hope we have a path to survive too.

    Stay safe and well

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  2. Fiatlux
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    9 March 2022 in reply to BunnyRabbit

    Hi BunnyRabbit,

    I understand your anxiety completely.

    I am got Covid in January. It was Australia Day and I was alone and really scared. I have never been so sick. I am still feeling fatigued most days.

    I am at work again today. It’s peaceful and I am being more productive.

    I worked on a University campus for 7 years and I absolutely loved it. Loved the students especially. I felt at home there. I don’t think I could ever do that again.

    We have a long weekend coming up and I will be going out to the countryside for a couple of days. Of course I will have someone else driving and holding my hand at all times.

    I find being out in a Country town far less stressful. I would move out there in a heartbeat and understand those who had the finances to do so.

    I have also been out to open air farmer’s markets on weekends. It’s a start back to my normal, pre covid life.

    Have a great day 🙏🏼

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  3. BunnyRabbit
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    9 March 2022 in reply to Fiatlux

    Hi Fiatlux

    Thank goodness you recovered from COVID, I'm so sorry you are still feeling the long COVID aftermath though ☹️ I hope you start feeling 100% soon!

    May I ask, did you leave your job of 7 years at the University because of COVID? I would be devastated if I had to leave my job because of COVID, my last workplace were putting so much pressure on me to work physically in the office. (I work in IT sector where my job could be wholly performed remotely) So I was very frustrated why they were forcing me to risk my life, just so they can physically see me at my desk. It made me so stressed and anxious, I had nightmares and panic attacks, so bad my GP ordered immediate stress leave. I ended up taking over 60 (work) days of my sick leave and recreational leave (in a matter of 12 months) because my employer was so nasty about it. Fortunately, I have found a more humane organisation to work for and are not pressuring me to work in office.

    It would be a dream to live out in the country and open air away from fear and anxiety. I'd bring my whole extended family to live with me too if I could afford it! The majority of my family are all vulnerable to COVID, joys of genetic medical conditions ☹️ but unfortunately I haven't won the lotto yet so still stuck in the daily grind ☹️

    After getting COVID do you feel less anxious knowing what to expect and that you survived it? For me I think the anxiety stems from not knowing how my body will react. We humans are very good at expecting the worst case scenarios.

    I'm finding that people who have survived COVID are more willing to move on to the new normal. I really want to do that too, be able to go to markets or walk on the beach, read a book in the library and browse the aisles of a grocery store but I'm so scared that I won't be able to fight the infection and survive. It just pains me that I'm stuck in this constant fear and anxiety that I won't make it through if I get COVID.

    Really happy for you that you can start finding the new normal. Stay safe and enjoy the fresh air! ☺️

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    9 March 2022 in reply to Fiatlux

    Hi Fiatlux....(and a wave to BunnyRabbit)

    just a note to thank you for your heartfelt/moving post

    hoping you feel better and recover soon :-)

    Im Paul..a volunteer on the forums

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    9 March 2022 in reply to Fiatlux

    Hello Fiatlux and a wave to BunnyRabbit

    thankyou for speaking from the heart in regard to covid...you have helped many people by doing so

    I hope you have a wonderful weekend in the country!

    my kindest

    Paul

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  6. Fiatlux
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    9 March 2022 in reply to BunnyRabbit

    Hi BunnyRabbit,

    I am unsure if I am allowed to mention that I am double vaccinated. But I am sure that it helped.

    Again my symptoms were awful for me. I have never even had influenza previously. Everyone I know who had contracted covid, has recovered well.

    Regarding walks on the beach, I have done this too, when the weather is cooler. I hate the heat and burn too easily. I have managed to find a few local beaches that I like and even an hour outside, walking in the sand and water has gone me good. Surprisingly the beaches weren’t as crowded as I had feared. We even went for a meal afterwards at a local cafe.

    I don’t know where you are located but I search the Internet for weekend farmers markets near me. I am looking forward to going to a farmers market this Sunday. It’s located in a small country town and is only run once a month. I always find something unique in the brick a brack section.

    Outdoor music festivals were also a favourite. I am looking forward to a time when these things are going on without fear of covid cancellation.

    I just find the more I venture out, the better I get and the easier it gets.

    🙏🏼

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  7. Fiatlux
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    10 March 2022 in reply to BunnyRabbit

    May I ask, did you leave your job of 7 years at the University because of COVID?

    No. as much as I enjoyed it, it was stressful and I was flat out busy most days. I thrived on it then. I just found that I was burned out and needed to slow down. That and some terrible management changes helped me to move on.

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  8. blondguy
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    11 March 2022 in reply to Fiatlux

    Hello Fiatlux

    Thankyou for mentioning that you are double vaccinated and yes its okay if you mention it as there is no judgement on the forums

    I just had my 'booster' a couple of weeks ago....Thankyou again for sharing your experience with Covid..You have helped more people than you know

    I hope you have a really good weekend!

    Paul

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  9. BunnyRabbit
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    12 March 2022

    Hi Everyone

    Hope you are all well. I'm struggling with anxiety because I really don't know the way forward. I'm really not sure what I can do but I'm thankful for forums like this where I can verbalise what I'm feeling.  Because I'm in the vulnerable cohort I can't seem to shake the anxiety that comes with the risks of getting COVID. I really want to be involved with society but the fear and anxiety just won't let me. I know there will be a point where I'm just going to have to accept the risks, even today, I have a house inspection and I'm so anxious because I know the my real estate agent probably won't wear masks and I'm not really an assertive person, to ask people to wear a mask. Same as work, eventually I will have to go back to office where no one is wearing a mask. There's just so much anxiety for me because of the uncertainties COVID, changing policies, etc... I know there isn't an answer but thank you for having this forum so I can verbalise.

    Wish you all a safe and happy weekend ☺️

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  10. Mrs Anxiety
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    13 March 2022
    Hi, I’m new to this and I felt so much anxiety trying to think of a user name 🤣 hence my user name.
    I’m struggling mentally at the moment. My 10yo got covid last Sunday, then my 7yo and I got it Saturday morning, hubby still negative. Coming into second week of iso and I’ve got so much anxiety with work and bills. I’ve tried to apply for the covid payment to help cover my bills and mortgage. I don’t have enough sick leave to cover these things and it stresses me out so much and sinks me into depression. I have money set aside for our kitchen renovation that is booked for end of April so wondering if they’ll say no as I have access to money, but then I won’t have enough for my Reno. I hate feeling so worried about money all the time. And then my work situation. I do everything at work and I’m constantly overwhelmed by my bosses actions and opinions on things. He hates me having 1 day off for my sick kids every now and then. I can’t even remember the last time I had a day off just for me to do anything I wanted. Geese I didn’t think I’d ranted so much but I find this easier than ringing and asking for help or advice.
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  11. Sophie_M
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    13 March 2022 in reply to Mrs Anxiety
    Dear Mrs Anxiety

    Thank you very much for joining our communiity here in the forums, and for sharing such an honest post. We can hear how hard coping is at the moment; the ongoing dilemma's of COVID have been so unkind and exhausting. We acknowledge your bravery in this, but also care very much that you and your family are ok. 

    We understand that, just right now, reaching out to services by phone or web is really challenging, Mental energy can be so hard to summon in these times. But we would like to recommend reaching out to your local Financial Counsellor - you can find the closest service on the National Website - https://www.financialcounsellingaustralia.org.au/
    These will be able to help out with looking at financial support payments or looking at getting some bills out of your way or better managed. 

    We would very much like to see if any of our other referrals might help, and to check if you are ok: please do consider giving us a call at 1300 22 4636 if you can work yourself up to it. 

    In the meantime, I am sure many of your peers, or our community champions will jump to your cause as soon as they can.  Thank you again, sincerely for your post and for Joining our community.
      Regards,

    Sophie M
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  12. Sophie_M
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    13 March 2022 in reply to Mrs Anxiety
    Dear Mrs Anxiety

    Thank you very much for joining our communiity here in the forums, and for sharing such an honest post. We can hear how hard coping is at the moment; the ongoing dilemma's of COVID have been so unkind and exhausting. We acknowledge your bravery in this, but also care very much that you and your family are ok. 

    We understand that, just right now, reaching out to services by phone or web is really challenging, Mental energy can be so hard to summon in these times. But we would like to recommend reaching out to your local Financial Counsellor - you can find the closest service on the National Website - https://www.financialcounsellingaustralia.org.au/
    These will be able to help out with looking at financial support payments or looking at getting some bills out of your way or better managed. 

    We would very much like to see if any of our other referrals might help, and to check if you are ok: please do consider giving us a call at 1300 22 4636 if you can work yourself up to it. 

    In the meantime, I am sure many of your peers, or our community champions will jump to your cause as soon as they can.  Thank you again, sincerely for your post and for joining our community.
      Regards,

    Sophie M
  13. Blue_flower0
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    14 March 2022

    I just tested positive to covid yesterday. I have gone through stressing, crying and worrying about who I have contact with. I have been angry at myself for getting covid and not being more aware. Did anyone feel the same way?

    I find the psychological side is SO much worse then the physical side. Physically I am ok mentally I am frustrated, worried and upset.

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  14. BunnyRabbit
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    14 March 2022 in reply to Mrs Anxiety

    Hi Mrs Anxiety

    I'm sorry you're feeling unwell. I suffer from anxiety too so I know how easy it is to let yourself spiral down that rabbit hole.

    I know it's hard, but try to recognise when you're feeling anxious and look for that 'happy place' to try calm yourself down, be it your children, your husband, your hobbies. Don't forget to reach out to family and friends for support.

    I truly hope you can get that COVID support payment to help ease your worries. I used to worry about what my employer thinks and worked myself to the bone just to maintain my employer's satisfaction. At the end of the day, I was burnt out and ended up leaving, I had a nice farewell morning tea, some small token gifts and a card saying I will be missed. After leaving I realised whilst it is important to be professional and hardworking, it should not be at the cost of your health, or those of your family. If you need to take carer's leave to care for a loved one, you shouldn't have to feel guilty about that and it's your employer's problem to manage the business, they need to account for sick days, that's what they're there for. Plus, everyone knows the situation about COVID, nobody wants to get it and it's not your fault if you do.

    btw this forum is great for venting ☺️ I've found everyone is very kind and patient. People often share stories or send well wishes that often cheer me up after a bad day.

    Hope you're feeling better soon!

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  15. BunnyRabbit
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    14 March 2022 in reply to Blue_flower0

    Hi Blue_Flower0

    You are so right about the mental struggles being so tough. I haven't got COVID yet, but I get so anxious about 'What if I get COVID?' I'm vulnerable to COVID so I worry if I'll get very sick, I'm worried if I will not be able to work again, worry about plunging into financial hardship, will my husband have to quit his job to look after me if I get very sick and not recover. I can't help thinking of the worst case scenarios. Some days I just cry too because I feel too helpless, and it's just been dragging on for years now with us knowing COVID is not going anywhere in the near future either. Since COVID I've developed agoraphobic tendencies, I'm to scared to be near people in fear I might catch COVID or pass COVID on to someone.

    I find most of my anxiety stems from the unknown, I have no idea how my body will react if I get COVID.

    Now that you have COVID are you feeling less anxiety knowing you are physically ok? It would be nice to know how people are coping after getting COVID.

    Hope you get better soon!

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  16. mmMekitty
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    14 March 2022 in reply to Blue_flower0

    Hello Blue_flower,

    Welcome, & thank you for your post. It's so unfortunate you have caught COVID-19.

    I'm thinking, you did everything you knew to do to protect yourself, & minimise th chance of catching COVID-19, That's all anyone can expect & hope for. I don't think there is anyone who could have stayed home, alone for the last two years -you have to go out sometime. For you to have caught COVID-19 means someone else was infected, & you've happened to be near for long enough, too. & that may be all there is to it.

    No blame or shame. So, please, being angry at yourself is not so good for you. I wonder, if this was your best friend we we are talking about, what would you say to them?

    How are you going to spend your time while isolating?

    What are thing you can do to help yourself relax & not be so stressed?

    One thing you can do is to come here to chat & vent. You'll get some ideas about what others do when trying to cope with stressful times in their lives. So, you are welcome to take a look around into other places on this website, read threads, & post as you feel.

    All the best,

    mmMekitty

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  17. Fiatlux
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    15 March 2022 in reply to Blue_flower0

    I hate myself for saying this, but I was frustrated with the person I believe that I caught Covid from. This person was the only person that I had spent any time with and I know that he was blasé about catching it. He even misled the testing clinic and didn’t mention that he had symptoms. Again exposing others. I was isolated and very cautious. So I was furious that when our positive results came in, this person still went about his daily business and left isolation and possibly exposed others.

    I understand your anxiety as we cannot control others actions.

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  18. CMF
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    15 March 2022 in reply to BunnyRabbit

    Hi BunnyRabbit and all reading

    I had Covid earlier this year. Did feel great but not as bad as expected. Achey muscles & joints,fever on & off for a few days, tired. I had a bit of a cough for a couple of weeks after it.

    Hope this helps.

    Cmf

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  19. BunnyRabbit
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    15 March 2022 in reply to CMF

    Thank you CMF!

    I'm trying my best to get myself out of this COVID anxiety so I can try to re-learn how to go about life pre-COVID. I need to learn how to make it to my front gate to pick up my mail without feeling as if I will get COVID.

    Hearing positive stories from people helps. The more I hear about good news (I don't mean you getting COVID as good news, I'm really sorry you got it, but that you recovered is good news). I know I have co-morbidies and I won't be blase about protecting myself but I need to build up enough courage to at least do the basic essentials of life, go to work, get my groceries, visit family, etc...

    So thank you for sharing your story so that others like myself can find some comfort.

    Much love and stay safe!

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  20. ChookDad
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    Hi All, I feel uncomfortable discussing this with anyone even close friends. My mum died from covid 2 weeks ago. She did all the right things since pandemic began only to be let down by the system in aged care . The constant messaging about getting on with life is really distressing for me. I am afraid to speak to even my doctor or a professional about this as they have all moved on but I can not process this grief inside me
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  21. Sophie_M
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    16 March 2022 in reply to ChookDad
    Hey ChookDad,

    We’re really glad you could come to the forum to share this with our community. We’re so sorry to hear about your loss, and about how hard it’s been to discuss this. That must be horrible. We know it isn’t easy to share something like this, but we think it’s a powerful step and we really appreciate your openness and bravery in sharing.

    Are you connected with any bereavement or mental health support currently? This is obviously an incredibly painful time, and it’s really important you and your family are supported through it. We'd highly recommend talking to Griefline, on 1300 845 745 (6am to midnight AEST every day). We also want to invite you to reach out to our support service on 1300 22 4636 to discuss how you are feeling. They are experts in supporting people going through this and will listen in a kind, understanding and non-judgmental way. You can reach us through online chat, too.

    We’d love for you to start a thread of your own to share more of your story and your perspectives, if you feel up to it. 

    Thanks again for sharing here. We hope this helps you towards getting some support with this, and we hope you can be as kind to yourself as you have been in sharing with the community here.

    Kind regards,

    Sophie M
  22. mmMekitty
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    16 March 2022 in reply to ChookDad

    hi ChookDad,

    I'm so sad to hear about your mum's death from COVID-19, & how disappointed you are with the with the age care she received. I'm sure you will be feeling very angry. Let down, too, by the people around you, who don't seem to understand the great loss in your life. To recieve the messages & the expectations you 'should be over it by now' & getting on with things like they are, is most unfair, inconsiderate & unsympathetic as I can imagine.

    I'm glad Sophie_M has given you good advice. I'd welcome a thread where we could talk more.

    Warm regards

    mmMekitty

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  23. blondguy
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    16 March 2022 in reply to ChookDad

    Hello ChookDad

    my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your mum..not to mention the pain you are going through

    Paul

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  24. Fiatlux
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    16 March 2022 in reply to BunnyRabbit

    I need to learn how to make it to my front gate to pick up my mail without feeling as if I will get COVID.

    This I went through. Working from home, my study looked out to the front yard. I would see the post arrive, but couldn’t go out to get it. I am o.k. Now. It gets easier.

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  25. Fiatlux
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    16 March 2022 in reply to ChookDad

    Hi ChookDad,

    I lost my dad in August 2011 and I miss him like more than ever.

    I understand your grief. My siblings and even my mum all appeared to be ok and moving on after the funeral. Like you are only allowed to grieve for that week. Yet I just couldn’t “move on”.

    My grief hit me really hard several months after, when the reality hit, that Dad wasn’t coming back. Father’s Day, Christmas Day all the days we got together were no more.

    My grief is always here with me. It never leaves but I deal with it different Now.

    My Dad got influenza virus and passed very suddenly. I was in shock for quite a while.

    Peace to you 🙏🏼

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  26. BunnyRabbit
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    17 March 2022 in reply to ChookDad
    Hi ChookDad

    I'm so sorry for you loss. I can't imagine how you're feeling. Sending you virtual hugs. Thank you for sharing your story on this forum, it's a great place to express how you're feeling. The people are lovely here, there's no judgement, just genuine support and kindness.

    If you're feeling up to it, try some of the resources the moderators have suggested. Hopefully, some of the information might help you feel a bit better. Just keep in mind your grief for the loss of your mother is still very raw, so don't force yourself, be kind to yourself and let your body and mind take it's time to heal. The adage, 'Its ok to not be ok' rings true to me. Took me a while to accept that but when I did, it helped me build up the courage to reach out to get help.

    It's very hard to open up, if you're not used to it. Maybe try write down how you're feeling and when you're ready, one day show what you have written to a trusted person. When I have trouble talking about how I'm feeling, I write it down and read it to someone.

    I can totally empathise with you about the pressure to 'live with COVID'. I also have anxiety and struggling to 'live with COVID'. I had to leave my previous job because my employer kept pressuring me to come back into the office and get used to 'living with COVID'. They would use phrases like, 'there are plenty of vulnerable people coming back to the office, you're not the only one vulnerable'. Just the thought of leaving home makes me sick. I'm trying little things to ease my anxiety, just walking to my front gate to check my mail each day or sit on my balcony for a while. Once every two or three weeks, I might attempt to take a walk to the local shops very early on a Saturday morning when most people are sleeping, I've had mixed results, but don't beat myself up over it if it didn't go the way I had envisioned.

    Do what works for you at your own pace, everyone is different.

    Hope to hear more from you in this forum.

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  27. BunnyRabbit
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    17 March 2022 in reply to Fiatlux

    Hi Fiatlux

    That's so true! I have my good days and not so good days. I'm trying an experiment at the moment, trying to inch out of the confines of my home (the indoor space) but generally not actually 'leaving' my home.

    Just as much as I can tolerate, such as going to get my mail, or taking the rubbish out. You're right though, it does get easier. I don't know if I'll ever go back to pre-COVID days but for now I'll be happy if I can just do these things without having a brown pants moment!

    Stay safe and well!

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  28. Guest_1055
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    17 March 2022 in reply to ChookDad

    I am so sorry for your loss of your dear mum ChookDad.

    I have never experienced grief like that. Maybe the grieving process is different for everybody. Maybe you are numb or in shock still. Perhaps don't rush the process. So sorry

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  29. kjkj77
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    18 March 2022

    Today is the day I tested positive for Covid -19. Im hoping its the less severe and more contagious variant thats currently sweeping through Perth, WA. All the same rather sobering to see those two little red lines show up on the rat test.

    A good excuse to rest up and decline a rather full social weekend; bbq/pizza oven catch up in Spearwood, Freo Art Galleries, helping son out with three puppies. Then work on Monday.

    March is a good tine to get this. Up todate with x3 vaccines and an opportunity to get this done n dusted before the winter.

    Dont want to have the flu in any shape or form during winter .

    Advise and encouragement welcome.

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  30. mmMekitty
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    18 March 2022 in reply to kjkj77

    Hello Kjkj, & welcome to the forum.

    You seem to be coping well, adjusting your plans & taking a 'philosophical' view. I think that's great.

    So, I wonder, what do you suppose you will be doing over the weekend? The time will go quicker if you have things to do, but not too strenuous, eh?

    You can always take this time to do those self-care things that most of us tend to neglect, now you have these few days home.

    Feel free to come & chat about how you feel & are coping.

    Warm regards,

    mmMekitty

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