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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. Carolyn Rae
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    14 April 2020

    Boy, oh boy.

    My second week working from home. I'm struggling with the non-existent face to face camaraderie with my work family.

    That plus managing my Bipolar and being surrounded by my partners issues (he is ex-navy and has PTSD).

    Feeling low at the moment, my medication stops me from sinking lower.

    I'm sooooo grateful for what I do have (a job, a roof over my head).

    I'm an empath who loves giving and receiving hugs- look forward to the day that I can do that again.

    Take care everyone.

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  2. Guest_1643
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    14 April 2020 in reply to GenR
    Hey GenR - how are you doing with the substituted social interactions?
    Online is different but it has some perks... I actually feel more comfortable seeing my psychologist on telehealth! I can talk more freely - what a weird.
    Definitely hard with mental health issues over this time, although in some ways i feel more prepared than others, as i've learnt so many coping strategies that can be applied easily now.
    I hope you are well and i think that's so cool that your understanding of microbiology is helpful now. There is so much confusion out there. Big win that you can have some understanding, it does help!
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  3. Guest_1643
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    14 April 2020 in reply to Carolyn Rae
    here's to the empaths! i'm sure many around you are grateful to have such a caring person in their lives. That does sound hard regarding your husband and his PTSD. staying home can bring things up. I hope you are both okay and that the lack of hugs and social connections isn't playing on you too strongly... take care
  4. Caels
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    14 April 2020

    I hope it's OK to post this.

    Until today I have found that in isolation being in the garden has lifted my mood, just the act of being out with nature in the fresh air with insects and the earth has helped to keep me grounded.

    Today, I don't know why but I've hit a low. I just lounged around unable to talk to friends on the phone or my husband, he doesn't understand depression or deep sadness/loss. I feel empty and could cry at the drop of a hat. I know my situation is not as bad as others and being grateful for things should help. I'm finding the media, with their terrible choice of words and dramatised pronunciation, very depressing because they never highlight the good things like those who have recovered. Yet I have to watch the news once a day incase something has improved or changed.

    I find as each days passes, with no end in sight, that I am losing a bit more motivation and will to find ways to stay a positive and an active participant in an isolated life. I haven't felt this way since I was a teenager and as a young single adult when I first moved to Australia alone. I know it leads to me sitting on a mental fence working out if I let it all fall apart or I brush myself off and get on with things.

    I hope tomorrow in the garden will bring a smile and lift the dark mood that has crowded my mind today. I hope that everyone finds a smile tomorrow.

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  5. Lucas-L
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Caels

    Hi Caels, it's great that you have shared your troubles, because talking to people is the best way to get through a difficult situation! I'm glad to hear you're enjoying the nature, because that is a great way to practice mindfulness, and focus on something calm and pleasant.

    It's perfectly understandable to be upset about the current situation, especially if you are suffering from depression. Physical activity also gives us dopamine. So please try to remember that things will feel better soon. Physical distancing is affecting our brain chemicals, but try to focus on the fun things you have planned for today.

    Please don't get too attached to the news, because as you say, everything is dramatised. Remember to put this into perspective. The world has dramatically improved in past 20 years, and continues to get better and better. Poverty, hunger, child mortality, clean water and adult literacy have all improved two fold in that time, and will continue to improve.

    I hope you're feeling better tomorrow, there's plenty to look forward to! Keep enjoying the garden, keep talking to the people you love and try to do as many fun or relaxing activities as you can (exercise, reading fiction, meditation, etc)!

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  6. calmseeker
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    15 April 2020

    Hi all,

    So I thought I was doing ok with all the 'inside' time I have been having lately, until a trip to the shops for groceries highlighted otherwise. As someone who deals with panic disorder/anxiety, I often have times where I find it difficult to leave the house but force myself to and muddle through with some uncomfortable feelings but nonetheless in the end I get through. But wow, yesterdays trip out was really difficult - I felt so out of place and uncomfortable, a bit sweaty and my eyes were flitting around. I couldn't wait to get out of there. I think I might need to go for a few more walks during the day in order to eliminate that agoraphobic type feeling that hits me when I need to go out for essentials. I am sure I am not alone with these feelings. Kindest thoughts to everyone in these strange times. CS xo

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  7. quirkywords
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Lucas-L

    Welcome Lucas and Cael to the forum , and thanks for making your first post.

    Lucas I like the way you used your first post to offer suggestions to Caels.How are you going Lucas. ? What is working for you and what is frustrating you.

    As they say we are all in this together.

    Caels, I think many can relate to plodding a long then suddenly hitting a bump and having a low day. I think it is important to acknowledge your feelings and the fact you feel like crying. These are difficult times.

    Also give yourself credit for coping with a lot and for recognising how your garden has helped you.

    Do you like succulents, or scented flowers or herbs or something small you could plant.

  8. quirkywords
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Carolyn Rae

    Welcome Carolyn Rae,

    You are doing well as you coping with a lot on top of isolation.

    I too have bipolar and I know I am always watching my moods.

    There is a thread here called This bipolar life that you are welcome to browse . It is a friendly supportive group who help each other and understand about bipolar.

    Being being aware of what is hard and also realising what works for you. Being grateful is good.

    On this forum you can support people like you have done in being honest in this post.

    Thanks for your post.

  9. Speak Your Truth
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    Is there anyone out there in this forum land who can see some positives coming from “life after Covid19” ?

    I know it is said in the media that Covid19 will always be with us, but in a more manageable way in the future (or words to that effect), but what else is in our future I have to wonder about

    Can anyone offer thoughts on how we can look forward to happier, better, positive times so we can return to things that we have before this considered ‘normal’

    I am looking for happy, positive things to hang on to, to keep me going.

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  10. DedicatedToHealth
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Speak Your Truth

    I can see some, just a few mind you, positives now and in the future. Now - we can take time to pause and refocus how we manage our time, hear about vulnerable ppl in our community and reach out, establish new patterns (exercise). In the future - we can prepare for new events of this sort (at an individual/community/governance level), reconfigure supply chains so smaller populations in remote areas get goods set aside for delivery to their supermarkets etc, re-establish manufacturing/ag production for sustainability, develop models for retailers to limit purchases from the very beginning of a panic mode.

    **my thoughts are with those doing it tough through this

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  11. Roarke
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    15 April 2020

    Hi, I’m new to beyond blue and I’m trying to find some support not specifically with COVID but depression and chronic pain. I looked at the link to this and saw that none of the posts had been answered. Just wondering how effective this will be.

    heres trying... I have chronic back pain that stays with me all day, every day. Sleep gives me some reprieve. I had to resign from my job about two years ago and have been at home since. I have tried everything except surgery and that’s starting to look appealing, although terrifying.

    depression has started to come back, after battling this for a couple of years. Not at good mix. Is anyone else is in boat? I’d love to hear from you and read about what you are doing to help battle this monster .

    cheeres, Roarke

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  12. Roarke
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Pinkjules1984
    Hi Pinkjules, I hear what you’re saying and it sucks. My bit of advice is remember that, although really important, is that your special day is that, one day. You will have many, many years together and your wedding day will fade in its importance as you travel the years together. I have been happily married for 33 years and life, children and each day the memory of your big day fades. So, to sum up, what is a huge problem for you now, will be forgotten or laughed about in the years to come. Good luck and hope this provides some perspective. 😍
  13. meforcats
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    15 April 2020 in reply to CalmCat

    Doz

    You could also look up ABC iview and SBS on demand for movies or series.

    All the best.

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  14. meforcats
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Speak Your Truth

    I think I'll be closer to friends and cherish them more when all this is over. I've been in contact more often with more people lately. Emails and texts. I've even decided to invite friends over one at a time now that I've had the cleaners here. I'm an introvert and NEVER invited friends over. Can't believe how I'm changing in my 70s! We're never too old to learn/change.

    Cheers.

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  15. Sophie_M
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Roarke
    Hi Roarke and welcome our valued online forums community,

    It sounds like the issues you've been dealing with for the past couple of years are very similar to those many are now facing with the coronavirus restrictions. We're confident you will find all the support, advice and conversation you need here. This is a safe, non-judgmental place where users give and receive support as and when they are able based on their own experiences with mental health.

    Don't let the comments count at the top left beneath the title fool you though. The "xyz number of comments, 0 answered" is an unfortunate quirk of our system which we are trying to get removed. If you take a slightly closer look you'll see posts made here and on all our threads have a least one direct reply if not many. So take heart, by taking the first step in sharing your journey with us here today we're confident you will realise how effective our forums can be.

    If you have issues relating to depression, anxiety and related that do not fit under the topic of "Coping during the coronavirus outbreak", we encourage you to search our other threads which cover a multitude of topics loosley group according to category. You can even start your own.

    You might find our newbies guide to the forums particularly helpful at this time: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/welcome-and-orientation/newbies-guide-5-tips-for-getting-the-most-out-of-the-forums-(updated). Our FAQs are also a treasure trove on information on how the community works: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/welcome-and-orientation/the-forum-faq-thread-.

    Thanks for joining us here and we hope to see more of you around these parts whenever you feel up to it.
  16. Lucas-L
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    15 April 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Thanks quirkywords! I was feeling a bit frustrated about a few too many things swirling around in my mind that I want to get done. Setting a key goal for the day has really helped though. Also being active and focusing on enjoying the moment. I created a new activity, sliding around the house in my socks!!

    @Speak Your Truth I think everyone will be really appreciative of things like being able to hug people, go out for meals and many other things that will make us really happy to be able to do! The issue of homelessness has gained more attention from media and politicians, so we may see some more proactive solutions for this. Also, hygiene will be better, so fewer people will get colds and flus!

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  17. Ggrand
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Speak Your Truth

    Hello SYT..

    Cala..I think that most people will be more family orientated, and understand their children more..(value their family and friends more)

    A lot will find new jobs..new careers...

    The sun will still shine...Trees and flowers will still grow and bloom..birds will be singing...bees will still make their honey..rain will fall... the universe will still her creation...and we will still apart of the universe..to feel the sun, wind and rain, to see and smell the beautiful flowers and trees.to hear the beautiful and melodic tunes of the birds..We will still be alive to enjoy all that our beautiful planet has to offer us...

    I think that is a really good positive to look at..

    I hope you are okay Cala and everyone...Yes we’re in it together..and we will all hopefully get out of it together...With Gods grace...

    Grandy....

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  18. Speak Your Truth
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    15 April 2020 in reply to DedicatedToHealth
    Thank you for your reply DTH 👋
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    15 April 2020 in reply to meforcats
    Thank you for your reply meforcats 👋
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    Thank you for your reply Lucas 👋
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    15 April 2020 in reply to Roarke

    Roarke, Sophie M has answered your question.

    This is a supportive forum.

    Pain must be so hard to cope with and would not help the depression.

    If you browse the threads you may find some they talk about physical pain and depression.

    Thanks for helping another poster.

    welcome Roarke , I will look out for your post if you decided to post again.

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    15 April 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Grandy thank you 🙏. Your reply warmed my heart, lovely words. I need that. 🤗😘

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    15 April 2020 in reply to Speak Your Truth

    Hi All,

    How did everyone go today?

    The highlight of my day in isolation was my housemate buying some juggling ball to learn how to juggle off.

    It is amazing how we are all getting together finding something to smile about in such altered times.

    I was really struggling yesterday, however today is a different story.

    Hope you are all smiling.

    Regards,

    Doz

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  24. Speak Your Truth
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    15 April 2020 in reply to CalmCat

    Hello Doz86 and everyone

    I’m glad to hear you had some fun with your housemate juggling balls. I can imagine it was fun watching and you had a laugh.

    I was struggling yesterday too, but although today wasn’t fun or exciting the weather was really good and I got out in the garden for a while and used up some of my excess energy.

    I find it really does help me to feel better to get some practical things done. But I have little motivation and it takes so much effort for me to get started, but once I do it’s all good. Trouble is I seem to make more mess than I clean up so I never get ahead, even for a little while 🥴

    I hope everyone is coping well. Bye, Cala

  25. invisible_girl
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    Currently I'm feeling very targeted during this outbreak. Due to social distancing rules our work started moving people around and having people work one day on, one day off. Except me, they make me work full time in the office, so they shoved in a corner away from everyone else.
    And I'm feeling quite isolated and upset because people are no longer working in shifts and they're all coming into the office every day, sitting at their normal desks, but here's me still in the corner alone and no one else is being forced to stay 1.5 meters + away.

    I feel like they just want to get rid of me from every one else for no reason and I hate it.
    Why would they do this to me and not care about anyone else? I'm not sick or been anywhere, I'm not more susceptible.
    I feel angry and upset being treated this way.
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    16 April 2020 in reply to invisible_girl

    Invisible girl,

    welcome to the forum and yhanks for writing your post sharing your experience.

    am sorry you have been treated this way. Everyone needs social distancing and no one should be made to feel they are being treated differently.

    Can you talk to your boss and ask why you have been treated like this. Do you have a person there who you trust and can confide in.

    know it can be hard to speak up but at this time we should be kind to each other while following guidelines.

    Keep posting here if you like as I would like to know how you are going.

    Welcome again.

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    16 April 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi Everyone,

    Today in my mental health first aid catch-up at work we spoke about the 'cyclone' effect and the comparisons it has with the virus, there is:

    - The build up (preparation)

    - The eye of the storm (duration)

    - The aftermath

    We're currently in the eye of the storm where there is a long period of calm and uncertainty.

    I found this concept really helpful. Do you also see the virus stages, like the stages of a cyclone.

    Regards,

    Doran

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    16 April 2020 in reply to CalmCat

    Hi Doran

    I had never thought about the comparison between the virus and a cyclone until you shared your post. Thank you.

    Thinking in this way is somewhat reassuring. It normalises what we are experiencing and reminds us all, as with all storms, this one shall pass to.

    Kind thoughts to you

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  29. Emmen
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    16 April 2020 in reply to CalmCat

    Hello Doran,

    This is a very apt comparison! I guess the aftermath will come with its own challenges, things will definitely have changed, but maybe we as a society will become kinder and more mature (I hope!).

    - Emmen

  30. Moonstruck
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    16 April 2020 in reply to Emmen

    I feel my increasing sstress and problem coping with this, is different to most others I see writing here. e.g.. I have no real difficulties with isolation, staying home, boredom etc. nor am I afraid of catching the virus.

    what is causing me immense distress (and getting worse) is the constant restrictions on our personal freedoms, the freedom of "choice".

    I don't believe anything I was doing, or going, or walking, or sitting at..."pre Corona" was thoughtless, rude, or selfish anyway....so why the constant reminder that "life will never be the same, we will have to be "different" somehow." How exactly, do you want me to change?..

    I thought I was a fairly nice considerate person already!

    Our leaders say over and over again (especially my State Premier) that even though here in our state, we've seen enormous improvement in "flattening the curve" lessening cases etc, what we are doing has been working well, etc etc... we still "have a very long way to go, this is going to last for a long time yet, we are going to see another outbreak, do not relax!". Hearing and reading that every day is so demoralising and depressing.

    To have our personal freedom, our "choices" taken away one by one, with no reassurance it will get easier has beaten me down at last.

    I see my grand kids forbidden to go to school, to have face to face contact and rapport with their beloved teachers, socialisation skills with their friends and school communities.

    I am told where I can go, where to stand, what to touch, where to walk, people fined huge amounts for sitting alone on a park bench, seats in shopping malls roped off so no one can take a rest, gotta keep walking!

    I feel we are being treated like criminals, in what once was a "free" country.

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