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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. SapereAude
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    29 June 2020

    Hi all,

    Hope you are all okay. In VIC we have seen another 75 cases overnight which is concerning. A reminder not to let down our guard or become complacent in our fight against this virus. Thankfully the other states and territories are faring much better. A timely reminder for them also.

    Keep reaching out online and supporting your households. It's not an easy time for anyone.

    Take care. :-)

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  2. meforcats
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    29 June 2020 in reply to SapereAude
    It's a bit scary about the increase in cases here in Vic. It's increasing quickly in the last couple of days. My daughter thinks I should buy masks in case they become mandatory and people start panic buying. They've already started on the toilet paper again. I don't understand why people do that and leave nothing for others.
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  3. quirkywords
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    29 June 2020 in reply to meforcats

    Hello all

    One thing we have learnt this year is we need to live with uncertainity because if we don't it will cause us problems.

    t is so hard not knowing but I have learnt planning ahead for the future and not being realistic and flexible has not worked this year for me.

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  4. Doz86
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    29 June 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi quirkywords,

    Thanks so much for your post.

    I agree with you, this year has been one of such uncertainty, however I've still achieved so much! I've achieved such more mental strength, grown from becoming a Community Champion, fixed my foot (had bone spurs) and learnt from the working at home situation.

    Regards,

    Doz

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  5. Lauren57r
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    30 June 2020 in reply to Doz86

    I hope I'm not the only one feeling like this

    I have given up on trying to plan for the future or hoping for a better one cause as we have seen the Second wave is not far from happening Australia wide as it has here in victoria. I don't see how much longer people will survive past September with the job seeker and job keeper benefits ending snd this causing huge anxiety because I don't know what I am going to do once it ends

    I am also ready to give up trying to find a job as I'm constantly getting my hopes up to then only have them crushed due to not having enough qualifications or experience and with all the uncertainty going around how do you for certain gain those missing things in order to be employed if everything could get shut down again

    I just don't know anymore

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  6. Tee Soh
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    30 June 2020 in reply to Lauren57r

    Im also in the same boat.

    I’ve been feeling a bit sad lately receiving regret letters from my job applications.

    i did manage to get up and ride my bike this morning. I was a bit slow and been feeling down Iike Im dragging myself just to do something. A car honked at me for being slow and made my mood worst. I feel stupid and useless.

    got home and found myself crying helplessly.

    my partner has been supportive and he pays for rent, electricity and food as I have been running out of money. But I miss the feeling of spending my own money from my salary.

    Im really hoping this covid situation will be over soon, and the job market improve. Coz it’s just hard

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  7. Doz86
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    30 June 2020 in reply to Tee Soh

    Hi Tee Soh.

    Thanks for such a aspirational post, you are loved.

    It sounds like you are going some great support and are keeping active.

    Just remember we were all locked down not long ago.

    Wishing you the best of luck with your job!

    Regards,

    Doz

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  8. blondguy
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    30 June 2020 in reply to Lauren57r

    Hi Lauren57r/Tee Soh

    Im also in Vic and this is a difficult time we are all going through...I understand and appreciate your situation

    There is always hope...Even without experience there are jobs available.....if you know where to look...Just one example...JB Hifi have just experienced record growth....many people are ordering product from home and many companies need staff to help with the increase in demand

    my kind thoughts....Paul

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  9. randomx
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    30 June 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hi one and all , another Vic just for any newies.

    Hey Paul , great suggestion my friend , never know it might just help someone out . Always loved jb , l use to buy all my music and equipment from them back in Melbourne days.

    Well some more surprises for us in Vic again today huh people , oh goodie, it's all just so hard to believe isn't it. The first belt back in May and seeing our Gov and prem's standing there on tv and announcing all this mind blowing stuff , jaw dropped, the news and the rest of the world, that mth is still with me as if an hour ago.

    Just for anyone with work and job issues , you know September and the 6mths was more just a starting point so try not to worry just yet if at all possible . But they've also said right through too that others might need longer and the assistants will be extended sooo, hopefully it'll b ok.

    Personally right now , a week of zero's would really make my day first of all.

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  10. randomx
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    30 June 2020 in reply to randomx

    Sorry that should've been March btw . But you know, so it's only what a bit over 3 1/2 mths really so far for us , man does it feel like a lifetime to others , it does to me. Subconsciously though l still feel like l'll just wake up sometimes , even being awake and knowing too well unfortunately it's real.

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  11. Sleepy21
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    1 July 2020 in reply to randomx
    hey rx, it feels like 10 years to me lol.
    The weirdest for me is i only left hospital around march, and then this began. I can't remember things being regular for ages. Upheaval has been my daily norm for 6 months
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  12. randomx
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    1 July 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    Ahhh sleepy , and right when you could've desperately needed some normal, seems like another lifetime doesn't it, hope your ok , big huggies.

    rx

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  13. Elizabeth CP
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    1 July 2020 in reply to Sleepy21
    You are not alone. I had finally agreed to extra support in Feb to avoid a total breakdown after a series of very stressful events over the previous 12 months. Had some promises of needed support so hoped I could finally get a break to recuperate & a chance to get on top of things so I could manage then Covid hit & all the things to be put in place were no longer possible. Recently things seemed to be improving & there was talk about some things restarting but now that's all gone. I really hope the new lockdowns in Vic turn the tide so we can get back to normal whatever that was.
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  14. Black Bubblegum
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    1 July 2020

    Struggling badly, but painting on fake positivity that's cracking everyday.

    I'm incredibly irritable, cranky, lonely and increasingly angry. Which is just fuelling my depression more and more. Everyday I'm feeling more hateful.

    Honestly at a stage of wondering if there's even a reason to live anymore.

  15. Thal1989
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    1 July 2020
    It certainly feels like I haven't had much of a breather in the last 12 months. My teaching degree ended on a very sour note, after I failed not one but four practicals. I was too stubborn to give up, but in the end, I wish I'd called it quits much sooner. It seems kids just aren't my thing, not at the moment. You need to be in a good headspace to give kids the kind of support they need, and it's probably safe to say we all struggle with that from time to time. I just wasn't in the right headspace at all.

    Right after that happened, there was the bushfires, and although my hometown was incredibly lucky, it still was an incredibly stressful time (as it was for many). I evacuated and my workplace got evacuated as well.

    Now it's COVID and I've been stuck at home for months. Even with lockdown over, except in Victoria, the strain is really getting to me. I can't turn to my family for support because feelings aren't exactly something I feel comfortable talking to them about. It just ends up in misunderstandings, arguments, and accusations of being ungrateful.

    I've gotten myself into this rut, and I have no idea how to get out again.

  16. quirkywords
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    1 July 2020 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Hello to everyone trying to cope.
    Bubblegum

    i am sorry you feel so bad.
    If you feel like talking to a qualified mental health professional, please know our dedicated Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service is here for you. You can call them day or night on 1800 512 348 or chat to them online 24/7.

    there is support here, we are listening and know you are struggling.

    Thal

    welcome to the forum. I am sorry you have had a rough year,.. I have too and lost my home and shop in the fires, years ago I discovered teaching was nit fir me so I opened a book shop,

    I know when everything this year seems to be against us that we lose hope, we need hope,Would you consider talking to a qualified mental health professional, please know our dedicated trained Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service is here to support you

    on 1800 512 348,

    Sometimes talking to a person who will listen.

    take care everyone who is struggling,

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  17. Karthi
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    2 July 2020

    Anxiety has hit the roof since I got my positive result this morning. 40 y old male with two little kids 15 months and 3 months old, mum staying with us who is 62.

    Moved house 3 weeks ago, mum had a fall and sprained her knee 2 weeks ago and so we started sending our 15 month old to the childcare, 3 days after which was 26th June Friday, he came with runny nose. As anxious parents, we were reassured by friends that it could be daycare germs. Sunday the 28th, my wife had mild nasal congestion and my mum started with coughing. Got anxious, took time off work and 4 of us got tested in the drive through testing center with me still being completely with no symptoms. Later that night, had mild nasal congestion and no temperature on any of us.
    1st July, 3rd day after the test (been in isolation since testing) , my result is positive and anxiously waiting for other family members to get their results. Worried about my mum and my little 3 months old son and can’t get my mind off to sleep. Feeling extremely anxious of the next few days and how we going to cope. Hoping to get some support words from anyone who has gone through and recovered from the illness

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  18. meforcats
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    2 July 2020 in reply to Karthi

    My Dr told me that many people get a mild dose of the virus like having a cold. So let's hope you will be one of them.

    All the best to you and look after yourself.

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  19. SapereAude
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    2 July 2020

    A strange one but my 7yo and I set up some cricket stumps in the backyard. To start, you both stand 5m from the stumps (so the stumps are between you) and throw and try and knock the bails off. Once they are doing that consistently, move back 2m and have another round of throws. Repeat until you run out of room in the backyard.

    Preferably use a tennis ball to avoid broken windows etc. If the person aiming at the stumps misses, hopefully the ball can be fielded by the other person who then has their throw. If the throw was waywood, you'll need to get the ball or even better have a couple of balls to play with.

    We have found it fun, a light form of exercise (better than sitting inside right) and somewhat therapeutic in letting frustrations out.

    The starting position is something like this.

    PLAYER 1

    STUMPS

    PLAYER 2

    You could add more players either directly behind the stumps or have the game forming a cross (ie players at 'square leg' and 'backward point').

  20. Sophie_M
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    2 July 2020 in reply to Black Bubblegum
    Hi Black Bubblegum,

    Thank you for sharing this with us. We know it's not easy. Please know there is always help available to you no matter how dark things seem. On the forums, we're here to give you as much support, advice and understanding as you need.

    We'd also recommend reaching out to our support service on 1300 22 4636 any time 24/7 or our friends at Lifeline on 13 11 14.

    Please keep checking back here to let us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it.
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  21. SapereAude
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    2 July 2020 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Hi Black Bubblegum,

    Sorry to hear you are struggling so badly. It must be so hard.

    Have you spoken to your GP yet about your feelings? I would definitely give Beyond Blue a call if you need to wait for an appointment in the meantime. Having a chat with them can help.

    What sort of things do you like doing? How have you been occupying your time lately?

    Take care!

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  22. quirkywords
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    2 July 2020 in reply to Karthi

    Welcome karthi

    i am sorry you have a lot to worry about, I hope you get results of your family

    I also wonder if you may consider reaching out to BB support service on 1300 22 4636 any time 24/7.

    Feel free to post here anytime and hope you get all the support you need. .

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  23. SD0102
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    2 July 2020

    Today my anxiety has been all over the place. I woke up feeling sad about the situation in Victoria, in the hope that it would be a better day down there for case numbers, but it was not be. Although I’m in NSW this situation could quite easily be our state next, which worries me. Just when we thought we were making a headway, and restrictions were being eased, the situation has changed again. I wish there was a simple switch, to turn off all of these worrying thoughts. Just when I think I’m starting to have some break through with my anxiety this all happens. When these feelings become overwhelming, it is difficult to refocus & put things back into perspective. I know I will get there, by putting my thoughts & feelings down, I find helps me, so thank you for this forum.

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  24. blondguy
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    2 July 2020 in reply to SD0102

    Hi SD0102

    Thankyou for sharing your thoughts re Covid-19 as this is an unprecedented time we are all going through...We both think the same and I also wish there was a switch to turn off the worrying thoughts too

    There is only so much you and I can do at this time except to care for ourselves as a priority

    you are not alone! Please be gentle to yourself.....Paul

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  25. randomx
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    2 July 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hey SD , Paul . Yeah l hear you both, it's all feeling like a dream right now and l must've been using more back up than l was aware of in getting through those first few mths , because now with these latest hits l feel like there are no reserves left . l wish somebody would just turn this whole bloody thing off .

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  26. blondguy
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    3 July 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hey RX

    I hear you loud and clear mate...Ditto here....We have never been through anything like this before..I'll be on 'Do you like yourself'

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  27. Elizabeth CP
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    3 July 2020 in reply to blondguy

    I'm struggling like most people. It seems hopeless. Initially I tried to get through by reminding myself that strict lockdowns would control the virus quicker allowing us to get back to normal. Now I feel like it will never finish. I need a break because I'm not being effective as a carer. Competing demands, lack of motivation & ongoing health issues leading to tiredness & pain make it hard. With the increased cases I'm unsure if I should have support workers & other professionals to see my husband. I am unsure if it is safe to visit family members even though none of us are in hot spots. I don't know where I can turn for advice. 

    My husband's condition is escalating & made worse by some of the restrictions If this spike isn't controlled the surgery recommended to help will be off the table as it will once again be too dangerous for him to go to hospital making it more stressful for me.

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  28. The Rose
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    3 July 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Hello Everyone on this Thread.

    Yes, we're all definitely living in times of much uncertainty, fears, anxiety, concerns & the list goes on & on about the coronavirus/covid19 that's affecting each of us in various ways.

    There's many topics on the BB Forums that I prefer to stay neutral, however, the best way to cope each day is by taking One Day at a Time.

    Live for today & today only.

    None of us really know what tomorrow will bring so enjoy your life just for the today or even for the moment.

    This will help to overcome the "what ifs" by not becoming to absorbed of what may or may not happen. Life is to short & precious to worry about tomorrow's future.

    Thank you for reading.

    "the rose, the ole chook"

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  29. ruralite
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    3 July 2020
    I used to go to the capital city to see my psychiatrist when the virus broke out. I went one more time, then I became terrified about being in the capital city, because I live in a small rural town. the closeness of the people and the tests you had to have all the time,got to me. I can not go back to the city,even tho it has got better in the city. I still feel terrified and will not attempt to go back,if ever. Have others experienced this problem. If so ,how did you handle it? The stress of it did activate my my anxiety and depression.
  30. hellofriends999
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    Hey all,

    I'm feeling pretty miserable during this time as many people will be too. I'm trying to stay away from media stories as much as possible because of the increased anxiety and depression it triggers. As we may be going into a second wave and eventually further lockdown rules I am feeling more and more alone and sad. I don't get to see my partner and friends, and there's just this pit in my stomach that will not go away that is debilitating.

    Any advice or tips is welcomed that have somewhat helped you get through the day please send them my way. I want to get through this strong and resilient but feel I am losing that battle day by day.

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