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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. Doz86
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    14 July 2020 in reply to BobHopes

    Hi BobHopes,

    Thanks for much a open and honest first post.

    So much of what you said resonates with me, I can't thank you enough for sharing.

    To get through these uncertain times are you doing some of the amazing things GavH mentioned? Like morning meditation, exercise, learning something new or going into nature?

    If things become overwhelming, give the Beyond Blue line a call. They're really great at having a good old chat.

    Reagrds,

    Doz

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  2. fred4761
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    Hi everyone,

    Randomx and Elizabeth - I have a funny story to share about the x’s and ‘stand here’ markings on the floor . . . I took my niece to the cinema during the school holidays (a strange experience with cinemas limited to max 20 people per session, because we don’t live in the same household we had to sit two seats apart from each other and the other few people in the theatre were all well spaced out too, and after the movie finished we had to exit via an emergency back door instead of walking back through the foyer!). As we were walking towards the food counter my niece was taking huge leaps from one marked x to the next and commented that this is the worst thing about the coronavirus - having to only stand on the markers because her legs aren’t long enough so she has to jump!!! And here I was thinking that she was just being a kid having fun. The staff behind the counter had a good laugh about it and I couldn’t help but laugh a little as I explained that you could step on the floor in between markings. My niece was surprised and then so relieved by this revelation. It was good to laugh, until then I realised that I haven’t been laughing much lately. Since then I have been trying to think of things that make me laugh each day. It helps brighten my mood a little and takes my mind of things even if only for a few moments.

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  3. quirkywords
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    14 July 2020 in reply to Lauren57r

    Lauren, sorry you are struggling. It is hard when you cant reach loved ones.

    Can you video chat with them.

    Are you getting enough sleep, eating well and exercising.

    Is there something you like doing like walking, a craft, writing, art, musi, reading or anything that brings you joy for even a little time.

    If you can get a routine it can help. Maybe reading threads that interest you o the forum may help and you can reply if you want to.

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  4. blondguy
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    14 July 2020 in reply to fred4761
    Hi Fred4761.....Thankyou for making me smile with the post about your niece...I just realised I havent had a laugh for a while either! Good1 :-)
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  5. randomx
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    15 July 2020 in reply to blondguy

    That's a classic fred , kids are such characters sometimes.

    Strangely lately when l catch myself having a laugh l then get hit with guilt and a feeling that l shouldn't be laughing in these times. So then l think to myself well l'm not laughing at these times certainly not , or at anything or anyone about these times , am l forgiven , surely it's good for us in allowing yourself to just forget for a second , you know.But l've noticed a big difference in people l know even my brother. He brings the whole virus thing up quite a bit too which is very unusual for him in anything and shows he's struggling .

    But tbh , l do see the same in most people too going on between the lines and stresses , especially out and about , shops and what have you. People are politely chirpy or giving a little smile as they avoid you or try to do the right thing or step in the right place. But you can see we are all deeply effected . lt's damn nice though that people try to get through this being about people and doing their business in as pleasantly a way as they can muster up . lt's a beautiful effort from people really l reckon , knowing the true troubled waters below in almost everyone l think.

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  6. Leesa69
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    15 July 2020
    Hi...this is the first time I have ever done anything like this.
    I’m not coping, I miss my kids, I feel anxious if I have to go out, I have lost all my confidence.
    the government say we are in this together...I don’t think that’s correct, because I feel very alone
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  7. golden82
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    15 July 2020 in reply to Leesa69

    Welcome Leesa69,

    I hear you, I am alone and isolated .. and agree we are not all in this together as we all have vastly different circumstances.

    I hope you can find some connection on here. There is this thread and a couple of others inc under the depression link. You may like to read about others feelings too.

    I totally get the loss in confidence. All the lockdowns have stopped exposure therapy and so my panic to go out has got worse. Slowly trying to get back...slowly. I hope you find help here, there are also support lines. Take care :)

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  8. Sandygal
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    Hi, I am new to being on here. I am seeking to try and help control my depression/bipolar. I live by myself in an over 55s retirement village with two greyhounds named Lollie and Tess and two canaries named Herman and Gomez. They are great company if not too quiet. I have suffered Bipolar for many years but have had it under control until the beginning of April when, not realising it at the time, things were completely different. I am a school crossing supervisor and because of my lung COPD and Diabetes have not been cleared to work at all. I do talk briefly to the other residents when I walk my girls but am not one to socialise (which we cant do anyway). My daughter lives 10 minutes away with my two twins grandchildren (15 years old). I feel like i just want to put my head in a washing machine and give it a good wash to clear all the crap out of it. I also find at the moment off course all the bad things of the past decide to rear their ugly head again. Im hoping to receive help and happy to give support to others. Thank you for letting me post.

    Sandygal

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  9. Sandygal
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    16 July 2020 in reply to BobHopes

    Hi Bob,

    Yes I know where you are coming from, it is getting harder to go out on top of everything else. Hang in there hon.

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    16 July 2020 in reply to Sandygal
    Hi there and welcome to the forums :) 
    We hope that you do find some support amongst our community, connection to others can be so healing. Its great that your daughter and grandchildren live so close and that you have a home with so many pets!  We’d urge you to reach out for help to discuss some of the thoughts that are bothering you.  We’re available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.

     
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    16 July 2020 in reply to Sandygal

    Sandygal

    welcome. Your dogs and canaries sounds like loyal companions.

    I have had bipolar for over 40 years .

    I used to say sometimes my brain felt like it was being agitated in a washing machine and my thoughts like all the clothes getting twisted.!

    This is a supportive and friendly place.

    There is a thread This bipolar life if you wnat and come and look and chat if you wnat to. e are a friendly group and like new people coming along. Just a thought.

    Otherwise feel free to post here,.

    So glad you reached out and wrote your post. It is hard at the moment.

    Quirky

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    16 July 2020 in reply to BobHopes

    Hello BobHopes,

    Welcome to the forums, I hope you can stick around.

    I know it might sound cliché, but we are all in this together. We are going through a similar thing together, we are dealing with it in many ways, but yet, still we are working together. We have a support system here where we can talk to others who are going through what we are going through.

    Personally, I have found that organising my desk and cleaning have helped me feel more productive. I found that a cleaner surrounding equates to a clearer mind. I hope others could share their experiences in what has helped them maintain a positive mindset during this tough time.

    All the Best!

    P0L0

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  13. Elizabeth CP
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    16 July 2020 in reply to P0L0
    I am finding the constant bad news very stressful. The numbers in hospital is alarming & this will impact on the ability of my husband to get the surgery he was recommended We live in fear of him requiring hospital treatment because of his condition but now I will be required to look after him at home if he becomes sick but thatcould be very stressful doing that with no support. I feel that there is no longer any hope. I am forced to watch him deteriorate waiting for him to die without being able to do any of the things he enjoys.
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  14. P0L0
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    16 July 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Hello Elizabeth CP,

    The amount of cases of coronavirus coming out of here in Melbourne is indeed alarming. I do hope you and your husband are safe during this time especially due to his need for hospital treatment. Do not give up hope. Everyone here, including me, are here for you at any time, to support you. If you need anyone to talk to or if you need support, please contact Beyond Blue Support Service on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST at www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport . There is also Lifeline on 13 11 14 or the Lifeline crisis chat 7pm - 12am at https://www.lifeline.org.au/crisis-chat/ .

    You can get through this,

    P0L0

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  15. Sleepy21
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    16 July 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP
    i'm really sorry elizabeth for what you are going through and how you are watching your husband struggle. That's truly difficult and i'm sorry to read that. It is a horrible time for many, i'm sending you strength and care and some healing moments for you and your husband
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  16. SapereAude
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    16 July 2020

    Hi all,

    Some tough times faced by so many. But there is light ahead. Do the right things and we can overcome this scourge. It may not be overnight but we WILL DO IT.

    I've had some medical setbacks (not Covid related) and will begin some infusion treatments shortly which will hopefully improve things, but it looks like I'll be requiring these for the rest of my life. I'm fortunate though that this is relatively minor compared to what many are faced with, both physically and mentally.

    Take care :-)

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  17. Black Bubblegum
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    17 July 2020

    I honestly give up.

    I am so lonely and have nothing to live for and seeing the greed and idiocy of people is just making me worse.

    I'm losing touch with friends online and have nothing else. Food has lost taste, things that were sure fire wins like music and reading bring no joy. I'm just done.

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    17 July 2020 in reply to Black Bubblegum
    Dear Black Bubblegum,

    We're so sorry to hear how much you're struggling right now. As you know, our forums are a safe and non-judgmental place where users give and receive support based on their own experiences with mental health, many of which will be similar to yours. We want you to know we're here to provide you with as much support, advice and conversation as you need.

    Our support service is reaching out by email as we are worried about you.

    Please know help is always available to you. You can speak with the qualified mental health professionals at our support service any time 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or our firends at Lifeline on 13 11 14.

    If these feelings are more than a reaction to the current coronavirus restrictions, we encourage you to start your own thread here - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/depression - which will help others give you more approrpaite support,  advice and conversation.

    Please keep checking in and letting us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it.
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  19. P0L0
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    17 July 2020 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Hello Black Bubblegum,

    You are strong and you do have strength. You had the strength to post here for help, and you have the strength to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to make it there. You can do it. I believe in you and everyone here believes in you.

    Good luck!

    P0L0

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  20. Doz86
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    17 July 2020 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Hi Black Bubblegum,

    You have the strength, stay strong! You wrote such a brave post that is unknowingly helping others.

    Give the Beyond Blue line a call on 1300 22 4636, they are there to talk with anyone. Go on, reach out!

    Stay safe and please let us know how your doing.

    Regards,

    Doz

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  21. SoundlyBlurred
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    17 July 2020
    I haven't posted here in a very long time but I wanted somewhere to express how concerning it is that Victoria is in the 2nd wave and I'm in the lockdown zone. A few weeks ago I thought there was hope things would go back to normal and that I'll find a new job and finally get back on my feet with life as 4 months of boredom has impacted my mental health. It was like we were almost succeeding and suddenly everything just crashed and burned.
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    17 July 2020 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Hi Black Bubblegum,

    Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Well done on having the courage to reach out. That's amazingly brave of you.

    I hope you can give Beyond Blue a buzz 1300 22 4636 and that they can help you.

    I hope you can give us an update on how you are feeling when you are ready to do so.

    Take care.

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  23. Moonstruck
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    17 July 2020 in reply to SapereAude

    Hello there Sapere Aude

    May I ask how you think we can overcome this scourge without a vaccine...especially if positive tests keep showing up here and there for a number of years?

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    18 July 2020 in reply to Moonstruck

    If we don't try to stop the spread of the virus life will not be worth living. Maybe we let everyone visit people with the virus so we all get infected at once then those that recover can bury the rest of us & get back to normal life. Life is not worth living anyway.

    My husband can't get the surgery to stop life threatening complications of his conditions because he can't get the tests needed first because of the risk to staff because of the virus. 

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    18 July 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP
    Hi Elizabeth CP,

    We're sorry to hear that your husband is experiencing such serious health complications. We understand that this situation must be distressing and quite frustrating as well. Please know that our community is here to support you and we will get through this. We would strongly urge that if you are feeling overwhelmed that you get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467). Please also do feel free to visit our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. The website will be regularly updated with information, advice and strategies to help you manage your wellbeing and mental health during this time. 

    Thanks for reaching out here, please know we are here to support you through this time.  
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    18 July 2020 in reply to SoundlyBlurred

    Hello SoundlyBlurred,

    It can be disheartening going through this lockdown. I too am in Melbourne. However, we cannot give up hope that things will get better. We need only get through each day as it comes. We must have hope. Remember this lockdown helps those most vulnerable, so just imagine, when you and me stay home, we are helping our loved ones. The people we love and the people who love us.

    We can get through this!

    P0L0

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  27. Doz86
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    18 July 2020 in reply to P0L0

    Hi POLO,

    I'm in the same boat with you here in Melbourne.

    We will get through these challenging time and all come through better, stronger and kinder humans.

    We should all look at CODIV as perpetual life experience.

    Stay strong and keep smiling.

    Regards,

    Doz

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  28. Hanna3
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    18 July 2020 in reply to Moonstruck
    Hi Moon, I think all we can do for the time being to stop our hospitals and funeral homes etc being overwhelmed is to practice physical distancing & follow the guidelines on hand washing/face masks/testing etc. As I understand, the most hopeful looking treatment at the moment (pending any vaccine being available some time in the future) is the use of antivirals such as they found for the AIDS epidemic, which allow you to be non-contagious and stay alive as long as you remain on treatment.
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  29. Ggrand
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    18 July 2020 in reply to Doz86

    Hello Everyone...

    I am one of the minority that wasn’t fazed by the isolation...I liked it when I went to the shops and their wasn’t a great many people around..

    I live central west NSW..in a tiny village...We were and still are very lucky that COVID hasn’t come within 75 kilometres of where I live ..

    My sons live in the hot spots of the metropolitan areas..and like all mums, wish I was with them to keep them safe..even though they grown men with children of their own,,,,It’s strange how we always seem to think of them as adults...

    I think that through the epidemic that were all going through..it has made us think of our loved ones and how very precious they are to us..

    Isolation protects them...and us..I msged my kids and let them know that they are all welcome to come to mine if they can get of work until this is all over...There first response was..Thank you mum....but there’s no way they will come here, just in case they bring the COVID with them in some way...That made me very proud of them...Just as everyone here is proud of each other for staying isolated even as hard as it is..you are all doing a wonderful job and keeping your love ones safe...You all should be so proud of yourselves...

    This will end..and then mums, dads, sons/ daughters, grandparents/children , friends can all get together to celebrate and enjoy each other’s company, love and hugs once again...

    Stay strong lovely people..for you, your family and friends..they really do appreciate what your doing for them..and visa versa....

    kind thoughts, care and some warm comforting hugs..🤗.

    Grandy..

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  30. Sleepy21
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    19 July 2020 in reply to SoundlyBlurred

    Hi Soundly Blurred,

    That's hard, a very unpredictable and turbulent time with lockdowns.
    How are you feeling at the moment? Have you found any ways to help you with all these ups and downs? I think many people felt a bit thrown and we've now been asked to adjust again. Let's hope that we can get there as a state

    This time round, the rules are confusing to me? I'm going to an appointment on Monday and they've asked me to wear a mask - which is fine! No problemBut then I've gone to the dentist (no request for mask), the physio (no request for mask) and that was fine. I'm trying to be open to these new requests and changes and go with it. It will be my first time wearing a mask on Monday!! Already thinking about it...

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