Online forums

Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile

Complete your profile

Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community.

Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia.

Join the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

Forums / Staying well / Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. Tangney
    Tangney avatar
    84 posts
    30 July 2020 in reply to SD0102
    Hi SD0102, Unfortunately, I have no confidence that things will get better. The virus is going to be with us for a long time. That would be ok if people were prepared to accept that but most people are not. Back in June, I had no hope, nor did I have any in March as I knew that there would be nothing but panic and no answers, so I'm not disappointed now that the situation hasn't changed, as I see no hope at all on the horizon as long as there is personification of the virus as "evil", "an invisible enemy", and "toxic", a thing that we have to go to war against. The reality is that it is a biological formation, the sort of thing that human kind has lived with for millions of years. The more that people focus on it, the more they lose sight of what is really important in life. Constant focus on ourselves and our own personal survival, especially when most of us are not in high risk situations, is bringing society to the brink of destruction. I hope that people will stop being so scared about this disease, but I'm afraid that our way of life has been irreversibly destroyed. I actually wish that I would just get it and die so that I don't have to watch all this destruction in slow motion, but I know that if I get it, I won't die from it. If I could put my hand up and take the places of all those who are so scared, I would gladly do so if it would stop the panic.
    3 people found this helpful
  2. SD0102
    SD0102 avatar
    32 posts
    30 July 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Hi Elizabeth

    Hope you had some success with your appointment on Wednesday and you and your husband are going ok.

    regards SD

  3. Elizabeth CP
    blueVoices member
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    Elizabeth CP avatar
    2133 posts
    30 July 2020 in reply to SD0102
    thanks for you support SD. I drove to the appointment on wed & was waiting in the car until time to go in to limit time wearing a mask in waiting room. Then 2-3 min before appointment was due I got a call from the receptionist cancelling appointment. Next appointment not available for 3 weeks. I had hoped to discuss the impact the PTSD seems to be having on my reaction to current crisis. I'm really struggling. I am also very upset by people refusing to follow the restrictions because that is just making it harder to get things under control & causing more problems. I can't say much more because the thought of how many people are really suffereing in different ways due to the pandemic is so upsetting.
    2 people found this helpful
  4. quirkywords
    Community Champion
    • Outstanding members who have volunteered their time to support others here on the forums
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    quirkywords avatar
    7415 posts
    30 July 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Elizabeth, that would be so annoying not getting your appointment.

    There is much misinformation that people get confused and then indirectly affect you who is following the rules

    1 person found this helpful
  5. blondguy
    Life Member
    • Life membership is awarded by beyondblue for providing outstanding peer support to the online community over a period of 3+ years.
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    blondguy avatar
    10501 posts
    30 July 2020 in reply to SD0102

    Hi SD01102

    This is a hard time we are going through for sure and yes Im having increased anxiety levels through this difficult period too...I understand what you are going through...Im in Victoria

    We are lucky to be in Australia and having a such a proactive response from our health officials...especially considering we have never been in this situation before...Thankyou for being here SD!

    3 people found this helpful
  6. Elizabeth CP
    blueVoices member
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    Elizabeth CP avatar
    2133 posts
    31 July 2020 in reply to quirkywords
    The people who upset me are those who deliberately disobey the rules. Obviously there are people who go to work or shops etc before they realise they are sick & infect others. They should not be blamed in any way. That is different to people who know they are sick but still go out in public or to work putting everyone at risk.
    4 people found this helpful
  7. ecomama
    Valued Contributor
    • A special award for members who go above and beyond to support others here on the forums
    ecomama avatar
    1101 posts
    31 July 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    I went back to work last week after 2 months off... PTSD and anxiety was out in the stratosphere... I had been watching the news daily. I have avoided daily news for decades.

    My bf lives and works in the U.S. so I was watching this develop there and I felt shocking.

    Also my mother who I have been NC for decades due to violence, was acting as though she was homeless (high risk, unsafe behaviours)... still, causing horrible trauma responses in my adult children.

    My youngest children and adult children and I were / are essential workers and worked far more hours during the crisis point in our area. We ALL also supported elderly neighbours who appeared shell shocked. One adult child saved a client's life in this period. We have all suffered some type of abuse from the public but we can wash that off. They are stressed and full of fear.

    My Employer told us to take leave if we needed / could. After months I did. Saw a trauma psych, did lots of MH work on myself (thank God because what I've had to deal with recently was bad).

    When I returned to work last week it was like EVERYONE was either depressed or had hyperactive anxiety.
    At a presentation for us all, many things were conveyed disrespectfully so I spoke out on behalf of us all MANY times.... my staff looked so tired...

    A local mum had died which we found out the next day was suicide. Our Community was and is reeling. It gets worse but that's enough said...

    Then my youngest daughter disclosed her suicidal thoughts...

    Families are breaking up all around - one of my adult children's family broke up in this period. 2 have dropped out of Uni to cope with providing services to the public (yet get abused which frankly I find appalling)... 2 others have wanted to drop out of school... 1 will do this no doubt.

    It's a tinder box out there... one spark and people ignite.... it's VERY CLEARLY a Mental Health crisis....

    People who know more, DO more.... we KNOW what we have to do and it's to extend KINDNESS in all the ways we can, even little ways. Before people would smile and say thankyou when I did a kindness for a stranger.... NOW tears come and a look of shock and relief when I help randomly...

    Those of us LIVING have the power to change a person's life even if it's for a moment...

    I'm Praying for all those suffering in any way during this crisis...

    Love EM

    3 people found this helpful
  8. Tangney
    Tangney avatar
    84 posts
    31 July 2020 in reply to ecomama
    Hi ecomama. I know what you mean. Everyone is either depressed or anxious: anxious due to fears of acquiring the virus; or depressed due to the damage being done by never ending restrictions or by just being worn out by the tasks at hand. It seems like you are feeling that you're doing a thankless task on top of it all. This can lead to burn out, which I'm only too well aware of Your comments about this being a mental health crisis resonate with me. It's a mental health crisis that isn't getting anywhere near the amount of coverage of the virus cases. The numbers with respect to mental health will not be known for another two years because of difficulties with collation of the figures. However, one figure that is known is that more than 3000 people suicided in Australia last year. It's expected that this year's figure will be much higher based on evidence from what happened during the GFC. I hope that you and your daughter are ok. You should not be subjected to abuse.
    3 people found this helpful
  9. quirkywords
    Community Champion
    • Outstanding members who have volunteered their time to support others here on the forums
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    quirkywords avatar
    7415 posts
    31 July 2020 in reply to ecomama

    EM that is a very sad situation you have described.

    I feel most people on the forum practice kindness and are aware of mental health issue thats why they are here. Beyond Blue is working hard to help people in crisis,

    I agree extending kindness is a great thing to do.

    Maybe people can think of a small way someone was kind to them and they were kind to others.

    2 people found this helpful
  10. Moonstruck
    Moonstruck avatar
    3301 posts
    31 July 2020 in reply to Tangney

    Dear ecomama and Tangney too......

    What can be done to stop this spread of "Fear"?? I feel beaten down and bombarded with an apparent insistence that I become as fearful as the majority of the population. I am not frightened of the other virus, I never have been. "fear" is much much more dangerous and contagious....and there's no mask to protect myself from this persistent emphasis on FEAR.....please people, stop spreading it! Is that too much to ask?

    5 people found this helpful
  11. quirkywords
    Community Champion
    • Outstanding members who have volunteered their time to support others here on the forums
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    quirkywords avatar
    7415 posts
    31 July 2020 in reply to Moonstruck

    I suppose there is a line between fear and helpful information.

    I must live in different circles as I dont know anyone who is frightened or afraid of the virus just people who are informed with a healthy approach. Most people I know take in what they need to know and get on with their lives.

    I suppose people react to messages in different ways. Moon that is an interesting observation.

    5 people found this helpful
  12. Moonstruck
    Moonstruck avatar
    3301 posts
    31 July 2020 in reply to quirkywords
    Must have come across a bit hazy again..no I wasn't referring to those I know ..my friends etc...I meant what appears to me to be the majority of community in general esp media, some pollies, some writers on here. Those spreading fear are far more than those who aren't..
    3 people found this helpful
  13. Doz86
    Community Champion
    • Outstanding members who have volunteered their time to support others here on the forums
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    Doz86 avatar
    163 posts
    31 July 2020

    Hi Guys,

    I think you both have valid points.

    I think some people including myself interpret uncertainty as fear. But by keeping our minds active and our body's safe, we can prevail through these uncertain times.

    Regards,

    Doz

    4 people found this helpful
  14. SoundlyBlurred
    SoundlyBlurred avatar
    5 posts
    31 July 2020
    I think this pandemic is preventing me from finding any sort of happiness at the moment. I've been unemployed since before the first lockdown, went through a million job interviews in-between with no leads, I've been heartbroken (maybe twice), I went through health issues (but recovered after 1.5 months of hell) and I realise I have no friends that actually care about me. I would have travelled the world for the first time in my life and would have given me space to feel hopeful again but I can't even do that. I have taken up knitting which is nice but it doesn't let me escape from the sheer boredom and reality that I have no one. Being in Victoria and hearing so many high cases each day, it makes me anxious of the future. The pandemic has affected and hurt so many people in the world...
    2 people found this helpful
  15. golden82
    golden82 avatar
    82 posts
    31 July 2020 in reply to SoundlyBlurred

    Hi SoundlyBlurred,

    I hear you. It is a totally depressing time at the moment and it looks like/feels never ending. Re the applying for jobs - I admire you for doing this and it shows you have strength to keep pushing on. I am sure it is a knock each time you have missed out - but I think you should still take it as a win as you have bothered to apply and try (which some don't) and also you have gained an interview (if on those times you do) and so each time you get a bit of experience. Re the travel - omg I totally agree. I have been thinking about this a lot of late too. I am 37 yo and feel like around a mid life crisis as at a cross roads in life. I am unlikely to be able to have children due to the damage I have done with anorexia. And so have been trying to carve out a hopeful alternative for meaning in my life and traveling the world was in that plan. I have never done this as always been studying, working and health struggles. And then now this lockdown of Australia and the world indefinitely has made me extremely flat. I think a lot of others too. I really feel for all the young people who are just starting out and wanting to travel and also the retirees ready for the travels they have saved for. My dietitian just retired and had been looking forward to returning to her birthplace in UK and see family over there - and is now trying to do work in the garden. It is just so depressing. And it can't possibly go on this way for too much longer - vaccine or no vaccine. Some sense and measures will have to be put in place to get a life as close to normal as possible. That is my hope anyway.

    2 people found this helpful
  16. ecomama
    Valued Contributor
    • A special award for members who go above and beyond to support others here on the forums
    ecomama avatar
    1101 posts
    1 August 2020 in reply to Tangney

    Dear Tangney

    Thankyou for your kind response. You're a sweetheart lol.

    Tbh I do a very thankful job and am thankful for my career. I LOVE my work. I love the clients, it's those I serve that I do my job for. I don't need to be thanked, I'm paid. I've done my job for free for years because I love doing it so much.

    Same with my children, they don't need thanks either.

    The PTSD was from previous personal experiences. It became unmanageable just because it was worsening without specialised treatment. I'm grateful for the treatment and I haven't had a PTSD episode in months now.

    Perfect timing because the "MH climate" out there is skyrocketing. This is what I noticed going back to work and having less shut downs here atm, more people are out and about. I must note that I have NOT witnessed blatant disregard for the health recommendations around me - quite the opposite.

    We practise many things in our family. Prayer / Meditation is important for us. Gratitude is a HUGE one. Being loving to each other and others is a very big one too.

    I can see and feel the fear in others but no one will benefit if I AM ALSO drowning in that in my own mind.
    We really need to hold strong to any and all MH gains we've made and guard them well.
    I refuse to watch the news reports whatsoever and rely on updates via work to keep informed of health restrictions only.
    I don't engage in hyped up gossip.
    THIS is what protects me and gives me strength.

    It starts with ME and emanates outwards from there. I have far too many children and grandchildren to "lose the plot" with any hysteria "outside". Doing what so many others seem to be doing will get us where they are... not in a good space.

    Keeping centred, calm and joyful helps everyone. My D is doing REALLY well now. It will be a long haul for her and me but that's a parent's privilege, she's willing to do the work which I'm also grateful for.

    I've spent the money I'd saved for our trip to the U.S. for Christmas this year with bf and his family.
    I employed workers with this money. And bought things we needed and some we wanted too lol.

    I started a thread on Random Acts of Kindness in response to things I've witnessed around me after I posted my previous comments.

    Love to you all
    EM
    EM

  17. nictheman
    nictheman avatar
    5 posts
    2 August 2020

    Hi, 

    It truly is a tough time with Coronavirus. I am up at 2:30am on a Sunday morning breathing heavy, dealing with the anxiety of being a Melburnian, not knowing when this might calm down, or not knowing if we go into 'stage 4? stage 5? stage whatever' additional lockdown.

    You can only control yourself. That's what I keep telling me! You can only control your own decisions, and convince your close friends and contacts to do the same. We're so stung by the daily cases, we just live for that 11-11:30am update from Premier Andrews. But as long as you do your little bit - wear a mask (if you can, it's okay if you can't psychologically, there's many reasons why this might be a battle!!), stay in as much as you can, sanitise and social distance. If we all go in with the attitude that we do our tiny bit, we can get through.

    It's frustrating, it's scary, hell it's terrifying. But we can do our little bit and then we just live our lives.

    I send my love to all of you. I'm strangely glad we're the first place to fight this. I hope the time comes that we get past it, and all the other cities learn from our experience and Australia as a whole gets through better than most countries.

    6 people found this helpful
  18. P0L0
    blueVoices member
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    P0L0 avatar
    74 posts
    2 August 2020 in reply to nictheman

    Hi nictheman,

    Very well said and welcome to the forums!

    Sometimes when I get a bit anxious over the whole situation here in Melbourne, I try to look at every news article and every bit of data that is released by the government. I want to understand and know more, thinking that it would make me less restless about likely being in lock-down for a while longer. However, I have found to just not focus on the news. I now only check to see daily cases for Victoria, and daily cases for my city council. In doing so, I don't worry as much and I can enjoy the little things much more, like going outside for a walk in the peaceful sunny parks I am fortunate enough to live near, or just forgetting about everything and just watching my favourite YouTube videos, or doing my hobbies like playing the keyboard.

    P0L0

    3 people found this helpful
  19. randomx
    randomx avatar
    1391 posts
    2 August 2020 in reply to P0L0

    Yep , no doubt about it she's a very tough and just shear mind boggling time, so don't be too hard on yourselves people . lt's perfectly natural that you'll feel all these things and more , this is a once in a century just out of this world incomprehensible thing. We're only human and there isn't really a manual for this one.

    l'm trying not to watch any updates now myself and if one pops up l flick , fast . k find staying away from those , the news , anything to do with it is helping me a lot. Head in the sand l know but eh , whatever works is fine with me l just had to start turning away , it was just getting too much.

    l guess in a way l'm lucky in that l still have a fair bit going on , although l'm not suree if that's really a good or a bad because on the other hand l know we'd all probably rather just sleep this one out. lt is hard to even care much about anything we do have to do or have going on , well l find myself anyway but l suppose it probably is good for us to have things if we do have , although focusing or even giving a damn right now is where l find it hits.

    Anyway , hang in there , stay safe and as hard as it is not too well , we can't control much else to do with all this sooooo , well , you know.

    rx

    5 people found this helpful
  20. randomx
    randomx avatar
    1391 posts
    2 August 2020 in reply to randomx

    Just wondering .

    What's the go with masks in regional Vic next wk ? l heard something last wk from Sunday night all Vic may have to wear masks out and about . Not sure if they were just thinking about bringing that in or it's gonna be in full stop , from Tonight .

    Don't wanna google or watch the news just yet to find out as l'll be bombarded with all the crap l just don't feel like hearing right now.

    rx

  21. SoundlyBlurred
    SoundlyBlurred avatar
    5 posts
    2 August 2020 in reply to golden82

    Hi golden82,

    Thanks for your kind reply, it means a lot. It is truely admirable hearing from people like you who have gone through a lot and still have a positive outlook to the future, it makes one feel more hopeful. I have struggled too with studying, working and health to ever travel in my life. I hope someday that everyone is able to have their lives back to normal. Stage 4 restrictions have just been announced and while I do feel anxious, I want to be more hopeful that we will get out of it ok.

    2 people found this helpful
  22. Elizabeth CP
    blueVoices member
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    Elizabeth CP avatar
    2133 posts
    2 August 2020 in reply to randomx

    Sorry masks come in for regional Vic tonight when you leave your home unless you have a valid exemption. Regional Vic will start Stage 3 restrictions this week same as we were in first lockdown. Metro Melbourne is Stage 4 tonight. I am trying to think about how this will help turn the situation around which we badly need. We're going further & further downhill so something has to be done. I'm struggling to feel hope as things are so bad.

    Sorry I'm struggling to know what to say because it is so hard with nothing to look forward to.

    2 people found this helpful
  23. randomx
    randomx avatar
    1391 posts
    2 August 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Thanks very much Elizabeth , beautifully explained , ta.

    Sorry your feeling all this so hard, it is unbelievably surreal l know and especially hard for you. And no problem ok, struggling for words myself at this stage too like so many of us after all that's going on.

    rx

    2 people found this helpful
  24. Guest_5432
    Guest_5432 avatar
    146 posts
    3 August 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hi Elizabeth & All at Beyond Blue.

    I'm really sorry to read the way you feel with more restrictions in Victoria.

    As of 6pm, 2nd August 20 here in M/ Metro I thought to myself here we go again. No doubt many fears are going through people's minds of the uncertainty outcomes. I also had some of those thoughts too especially with such short notice by the time I decided to put on the news of what's happening round the place. No time to do anything constructive.

    Supermarkets back on item limits to avoid panic buying - that's a positive so Everyone will have a opportunity to buy needed items not just for the greedy ones. Also 55 items allowed per shop per day with only 1 member in the family to shop. Not allowed to shop 5km radius from home. Mmmnnn...

    Midweek curfews 8pm- 5am .. There's really nothing any of us can do about the curfews as it's a protection for all of us to try to contain this deadly pandemic. We all need to comply with the authorities the best way we can. We can't control other people behaviors. but we can do Our part the best we can.

    It's sad not all folks takes it seriously..

    I had decided to go into voluntary self isolation due to low immo system since early in March this year in Victoria. That's well over 5 moths now with very little contact. Its hasn't been easy for me either. It's my outlook of how I'm dealing with it that keeps me going.

    All of us have different circumstances & responsibilities of what works best for them. Keep your chin up Elizabeth. You're a strong woman. All the best.

    Regards.

    5 people found this helpful
  25. LaurieD
    LaurieD avatar
    67 posts
    3 August 2020 in reply to Guest_5432

    Hello Guest :)

    I noticed your mention of low immune system and would love to talk with you about that if you're happy to. I and my family are in Qld and my youngest daughter (21) has a suppressed immune system for SLE. It's hard to figure out how to live wisely in this pandemic so I'd love to hear your insights and choices on this.

    All the very best to you. My heart goes out to you and all Victorians - I have family there too (Melbourne) and it's rough, that's for sure.

    Laurie

    3 people found this helpful
  26. PatienceBay
    PatienceBay avatar
    108 posts
    3 August 2020

    Just wanting to share a personal lesson from today.

    I never had low self esteem about my physical appearance until the world changed irreversibly in February 2020 because of public response to Covid-19.

    I look basically the same as before, but becoming a depressed homebody has altered my self-image.

    I randomly met a man, who is now taking me out on dates. His interest in me completely confuses me because I no longer believe I'm attractive. Whenever he texts me or it's time to go on a date with him, I feel overwhelming fear and anger. I just want to tell him to go away.

    When he complements me I don't know whether to think he's an idiot or just lying to try to get into my pants.

    He's actually a lovely man (based on what I know of him so far) and I love his company and we have a lot in common, but that seems irrelevant right now.

    It's interesting to learn what life is like for a woman who believes she is unattractive. A new perspective. I feel like I just can't win. Just want to crawl into a hole and be left alone.

    So this is my new, post-COVID, inability to accept love and support from others.

    Very interesting to see how quickly one's life can change!!

    We've been living with talk about this virus for 6 months, and already it feels more like 200 years.

    So fed up and angry tonight!

    The worst of it is knowing there's no point blaming the external world for my problems, and I actually need to go within if I am to find solutions. That's hard!!!

    2 people found this helpful
  27. blondguy
    Life Member
    • Life membership is awarded by beyondblue for providing outstanding peer support to the online community over a period of 3+ years.
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    blondguy avatar
    10501 posts
    3 August 2020 in reply to LaurieD

    Hi LaurieD

    your kind post is appreciated more than you know! Thankyou so much for your heartfelt wishes to the people in Victoria...Paul

    1 person found this helpful
  28. fernwehr
    fernwehr avatar
    28 posts
    3 August 2020

    I am so completely over it tonight.

    I am so angry that we are paying for the actions of a few.

    The cost seems too high. We are losing less people to corona than we normally do to the flu. What we are doing to people’s mental health, physical heath, livelihoods seems so much more damaging.

    I feel trapped and controlled. Like I’m again paying for someone else’s actions. I don’t have a choice but to withstand them. No one wants to hear that you’re not coping. You need to put on a happy face and suck it up. It’s so triggering.

    Someone else shouldn’t have this much control over the life we have struggled and sacrificed to build. These restrictions will tear so many lives apart.

    I just don’t want to play any more.

    3 people found this helpful
  29. Sophie_M
    Community Moderator
    • Works for beyondblue moderating these forums
    Sophie_M avatar
    2781 posts
    4 August 2020 in reply to fernwehr
    Hi fernwhr,

    We're so sorry to hear that you're struggling tonight. We empathise with how difficult this time is for many. Please know help is always available to you. Remember that if you feel it would be helpful, you can speak with the friendly mental health professionals at our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service 24/7. The website is also worth looking at as there are lots of articles which offer tips and ideas to help you cope.

    Please keep checking in and letting us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it.
    1 person found this helpful
  30. golden82
    golden82 avatar
    82 posts
    4 August 2020 in reply to fernwehr

    Hi fern.

    Sorry i cannot help or change your situation and for all in Victoria.

    All i can say is i agree with yours and others comments and sentiments. They are totally valid with what you are all experiencing.

    I am in Adelaide but we or any other state could be next. I would like for you to know that the general feeling of Adelaide seems to be very sad for Victorians. So even though we obviously don't have your restrictions we have a lot of ppl feeling heavy and depressed and sad for you fellow Australians. All i can say is you are in ppls thoughts. I know that doesn't mean much but believe it is true and hopefully you won't feel alone or forgotten.

    Please try as best you can to look after yourself. Perhaps even reading posts and posting as you have to relate to others. Wishes to you and all Victorians at this time.

    3 people found this helpful

Stay in touch with us

Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones.


Sign me up