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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. Doolhof
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    18 November 2020 in reply to mb20lover

    Hi Tayla,

    You mentioned you had been to Headspace and had a bad experience. I'm sorry to read that. I have had to learn over the years that bad experiences do happen, I don't like them very much and I am concerned they may happen again.

    The problem is that when I decide I am not going to try something again because it didn't work last time, I miss out on a possible opportunity that may go well next time!

    As you are struggling to find any help right now, would you consider trying Headspace again?

    I told myself I wasn't going to try another psychologist for a while. I have come to a point now where I am thankful I did continue. I had to realise a bulk billing psychologist was not available in my regional area so had to accept I need to pay. In the past that was not possible either due to lack of money!

    It does sound like you have tried so hard to get help. I really feel for you and hope so much that you are able to find some assistance.

    All the best from Doolhof.

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    18 November 2020 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi All,

    South Australia is going to be shut down for 6 days with lots of restrictions.

    Good thing we have food in the house and the essential toilet paper!

    We aren't allowed to exercise outside of the house, think I can handle that for 6 days! Plenty of exercise can be done inside. Weeding is still exercise though and I still have plenty of weeds!

    I have some books I haven't read yet and craft projects to do.

    I'm thankful for all I do have to help me through this and through what ever else Covid tosses up at us!

    To all in S.A. hope you are doing okay.

    Cheers from Dools

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  3. quince
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    18 November 2020

    Hey guys,

    I'm feeling a little (lot) bit stressed about going into lockdown and not being able to leave the house to exercise. (For context, I'm managing an eating disorder, and this is an allowable coping strategy for me at the moment). Anyone perhaps from Victoria have any suggestions for some low key ways to do this without seeming like a complete weirdo to the other people in your house? Trying to figure out if it's going to be better to go to my parent's (where there's more space to walk around, but more prying into my behaviour), or stay in my share house in the city (very little space, nowhere to walk around, but no-one watching what I'm eating). Either way, I'm worried I'm going to have a lot of answering to do if I'm running laps around the backyard.

    Thoughts? Advice? I've called the Butterfly Foundation, and they helped calm me down, but strangely (lol) didn't give me any suggestions for how to exercise in lockdown.

    Thanks.

    x quince

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  4. mb20lover
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    18 November 2020

    Hello all, I'll just reply and mention you all in 1 comment to make it easier.

    Doolhof - no I wouldn't try Headspace again, sometimes I use their eHeadspace 1-on-1 chats but that's all, otherwise I don't want anything to do with the Centre I went to. Everytime I drive past it (well with my Dad), I get really triggered. I know you're just trying to help and offer a suggestion though, so thank you, I do appreciate it. I've thought about paying but its a lot of money, and it all adds up, so I try to get bulk billing Psychologists through Medicare. Yep I've tried everything, having bad luck. Asked my Psychiatrist & GP to recommend & refer me to places but they have either been bad or can't help/don't take new patients. I've asked places to put me on the wait & cancellation list should an appointment come up or if someone cancels, but no one seems to be willing to do that. Unfortunately COVID has made things worse for everyone, including those with mental illnesses and the professionals, sigh. I hope it goes away soon and things can sort of go back to "normal". Thank you for the suggestion anyway. Oh and I'm sorry to hear about SA going into lockdown, I'm in Victoria but not in the city part.

    quince - hello there. I'm sorry you're feeling this way quince, and that you struggle with an Eating Disorder. I'm not sure what you could do in terms of where you could exercise, maybe you could try some Yoga if that's your thing? I really don't know, whatever you feel comfortable doing and you feel you have the energy to do. Butterfly Foundation are good, I've only contacted them once but the person who spoke to me was lovely. Maybe you could try calling them or going on their webchat again asking for some exercising in lockdown tips?

    - Tayla.

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    18 November 2020 in reply to quince

    Hi Quince

    I can understand you being stressed about going into lockdown without the opportunity to get out for exercise. I'm really sorry that's happening in SA. Hopefully this drastic action will help to stop cases spreading and it will soon be over.

    I'm in Vic and have to confess aside from my daily walk (got up to 8 km!) I didn't do a lot of exercise in the house. But, my daughter did (it helps her manage her OCD).

    Hopefully these ideas will help:

    • Running up and down the stairs
    • Jumping jacks
    • Lots of stretching, sit ups and push ups
    • Using tins of soup or jars of pasta as light weights to do arm exercises
    • Dips, using a dinning table chair

    Maybe you could Google some ideas and work out a program.

    Wishing you and all living in SA the best of luck. Hang in there.

    Kind thoughts to you

  6. Grouchy88
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    19 November 2020
    Re what to do to help.
    Evening primrose oil-mood/ period /vitamin thing.
    Tried st john wart if no pregnant
    I just write down lots. Paint by number.
    Calm music.
    Music with uplifting-shakira song from sing movie, greatest showman.
    Post narcissist rship-and u dont realise! My church was ready to help once I said I gonna split-no help beforehand.
    Cept i have kids with him😵
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    19 November 2020 in reply to mb20lover

    Hi Tayla,

    Thanks for understanding that I am only making suggestions for you. I really do wish I had some answers and solutions for you!

    I understand being triggered by past experiences as well! It is not a pleasant state of mind to be in.

    Yes, this Covid situation is not helping people gain access to mental health and the shut downs and restrictions are causing their own issues.

    Are there some things you can do to help yourself? I have experienced times when I have not been able to do anything other than go to bed and cry so I do understand life can be difficult and it feels like nothing will work.

    Today I am looking to find a balance between cleaning the house and doing other jobs seeing as I am home and finding pleasant activities to do as well to make sure there is a balance.

    Here in S.A. we have 6 days of rather intensive lockdown and then who knows what. So starting today, I want to try and get the balance right and be sure to check on my mental health.

    Cheers from Dools

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    19 November 2020 in reply to quince

    Hi quince,

    I'm curious, did you end up going to your parents or are you still in the share house? Must be a difficult time for so many.

    I'm very fortunate in the fact we have a large garden so I can easily exercise outside.

    You could Google inside exercises and see what is appropriate for you.

    You may like to start up a competition with your house mates and see who can keep up an exercise routine for the longest, or devise different exercises using what you have in the house. See how many creative ideas you can all come up with.

    Sometimes we just have to put ourselves first, look after us and be aware of our own needs and not worry what other people think, say and do. Not always easy I know!

    Hope you find a balance between wanting to keep fit and trying to fit in with life.

    Cheers from Dools

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    19 November 2020 in reply to quince

    Doing exercise at home during lockdown is normal behaviour. Many normal people do it so whatever exercise you do will not be seen as weird. In the UK an older person was knighted for raising money for charity by walking some huge distance in his tiny backyard. If he can do it anyone can without feeling 'weird'.

    My husband's physio recommended a step exercise program when unable to leave the house for exercise. I googled it and found a number of simple programs to try or just make up your own. Find some wood or other sturdy surface to act as your step if you don't have a suitable step in your home. Basically you are just stepping up and down forwards or sideways. To adapt lift knees higher. Try moving your arms in time to the movement in different directions including overhead. The idea is to go fast enough to get your heart rate up. Intersperse with wall push ups squats, lunges etc. Takes very little room. Holding tins to act aa weights is optional.

    Other option is to put on favourite music when you are alone and dance.

    Good luck

  10. quince
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    19 November 2020

    Hey all (Tayla, Summer Rose, Doolhof, Elizabeth),

    Thanks for all your support an excellent suggestions. Doolhof - I ended up going to my parents' place. They live some way out of the city, and have an acre of garden, so I thought a lot more space to exist and walk around.

    I'm feeling much more calm this morning since the initial shock, and I appreciate everyones' reassurances that it's normal to do exercises at home. I managed to get a fair bit of running and walking around done early this morning, and some yoga, and I think steps are a good idea too.

    I'm trying to take the perspective that this is maybe a situation I needed to challenge some of the rules I have, and really focus on keeping a healthy schedule.

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    19 November 2020 in reply to quince

    Hey quince!

    What resilient posts you've shared.

    If you have time to through the posts within the forum, you might find some great ideas of activities to do. Being that your only limited to exercise inside some great exercise channels on YouTube you should check out are "BOHO BEAUTIFIL" & "POP SUGAR FITNESS". I'm sure you'll love them if your into yoga.

    Good luck over the next 6 days and my thoughts and prays are with SA!

    Reards,

    D

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    19 November 2020 in reply to quince

    Hey all.

    Sorry to hear about the lockdown, I know how it feels being from Victoria, regional though but it's still affected us, having to wear masks everywhere, it's so annoying especially on hot days & when walking, ugh. I try to do some word search games on my iPad & stuff like that.

    Quince, glad you could get some exercise.

    - Tayla.

  13. aJoker
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    I agree with the hard lockdown but there is one needless aspect of it that I am very upset and anxious about.

    My circumstances are that I am the sole resident in my house during the period when my children are not here, 12 nights per fortnight. During which time I spend a lot of time at my partners house and vice versa. As it turns out I won't see my kids for 9 days, and so I am in solitary confinement for 6 days, 7 nights (and probably more). Usually such a withdrawal of human interaction is a punishment, so I question its applicability in my case.

    Even during Victoria's harshest Stage 4 Lockdown (State of Disaster) they allowed an exemption for partners living apart to see each other, and for singles to catch up with one person.

    Given that South Australia is experiencing an even harsher regime of no exercise, and no leaving the house except for one shopping trip per day then the mental health aspect of solitary confinement should be a public health concern, not just for me.

    I am anxious about the next week, and I'm also a little angry that this apparently hasn't been considered by SA when there is a precedent to accommodate sole residents in Victoria and other countries, too.

    It seems that "a dual household travel bubble" is in effect with children still able to be taken from one parent's house to another, and for providing care to an elderly or infirm person. Why not extend that to those who are a single resident, too? i.e. a single resident person can effectively join another household during this time (your parents, your partner, another friend?), and can also move directly between the two residences.

    Are there any suggestions with campaigning for this?

    I mentioned this on Twitter and the only response I got was "ffs you can be alone for 6 days".
    Can almost all other people handle being alone for 6 days?
    I reckon I will feel like I'm stuck on the Sydney to London flight for a week instead of a day. Same, same, same. Bored with movies, books, puzzles - and feeling fatter and weaker.

    If I am excessively anxious about this, then can I legally legitimise it so that I can visit my partner? i.e. visit a doctor for this anxiety, and then my case can be covered by the guidelines? Any thoughts and experience would be helpful.

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    20 November 2020 in reply to quince

    Hi Quince, being from regional NSW, I can only imagine how despondent you are feeling. As Quirky said, ‘Just when you see the finish line, it moves’ .


    As per your comments, it’s funny (not really ! ) what individual people find most important in these situations. I do however feel for you, not being able to see your loved one for such an extended period of time, is no doubt very upsetting.

    I have a very good friend who has not been able to return home to Scotland, and has missed some important family events & funerals. Although she is such a bubbly person naturally, I see the impact this situation is having on her. Just to know that you are not able to just jump on a plane, so freely as before, is quite confronting.

    Yes, I have been lucky where I live (so far), but please know that there are those of us out here, that do think about people, like you, and everyone else that has been impacted, and you are in our thoughts.

    Given the situation in SA, it has proven circumstances can change in the blink of an eye for any state, especially those states accepting returned overseas travellers.

    Fingers crossed you get to see your loved one, sooner rather than later .

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    20 November 2020 in reply to aJoker

    Hi aJoker,

    Thanks for such a raw and open post.

    Being a Victorian I understand where you are coming from. Having come through the Victorian lockdown a stronger person I can assure you you'll handle it, I promise. You must be elated that you can go for exercise now? However, I can't put myself in your shoes when it comes to family woes, I missed mine during lockdown -just utilizes FaceTime as much as you can.

    Just remember that you'll be able to handle this, and turn the loneliness in to an experience in solitude, you'll come out stronger.

    Regards,

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    20 November 2020 in reply to ecomama

    Thanks EM for thinking of us re the audio description on TV, Sorry I didn't reply earlier. I've been a bit overwhelmed and struggling to find time to reply. I still need to find out how to use it.

    I will post later when I have time to think properly.

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    21 November 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    I'm feeling a bit anxious. I found out my daughter tested +ve. She lives in the UK. I found out 3rd hand from my brother who found out from his daughter who spoke to my dtr yesterday. I haven't been able to speak to her since last Sat so I don't know how she's managing. She's single so noone to support her while she's sick. I wish I could get through to her. I really miss her. She was applying for jobs back here before Covid hit so now she's stuck. She doesn't want to come back without a job.

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    21 November 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Hi Elizabeth

    I'm really sorry to learn your news.

    For most people Covid is a mild illness and I hope that is the case for your daughter. There is no evidence to think otherwise, so let's hang on to this fact.

    When I put myself in your shoes, I really feel your anxiety. I hope it helps you to know that you obviously raised a confident, courageous and independent child. Not everyone can pick up and move countries.

    Somehow I feel her inner strength and you at the other end of the phone will help get her through this.

    I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.

    Kind thoughts to you

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    21 November 2020

    Hello again all.

    This year is so hard for everyone. I just want to go to a concert, that's the only thing that actually helps me.

    - Tayla.

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    21 November 2020 in reply to mb20lover

    Hi mb20lover,

    Thanks for all your amazing posts.

    Don't worry i think we will be back at concerts by April! And we've come so far so the next few months till April wont feel long at all.

    Hope you're having a great weekend.

    regards

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    21 November 2020 in reply to Doz86

    Hey Doz86, thank you.

    April feels like ages away :(

    - Tayla

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    hey all

    how are u all in Victoria doing with the new rules? Did you hear today re masks? Interesting change which feels very sudden.... apparantly now Australia is doing very well on the global scale in terms of managing the virus.... seems like only yesterday when we in Victoria were seen as the worst and most problematic and had surges everywhere. And now we're doing relatively well and able to lax a lot of the restrictions! I guess that's a win for us and I hope it makes people feel more free and able to connect more easily to others. Social isolation can be very hard for some of us... I'm hopeful it will improve my own personal mental health to be able to socialise in small groups again and not to be alone quite so much .... How is everyone else feeling?

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    Hey Sleepy21.

    I'm in Victoria, I heard about the news today. I still see people out in public not wearing masks, even when we were supposed to, ugh! And this is people of all ages, like people in their 20s who must think they're too cool to wear one. I can however understand with the elderly or if they have paperwork saying they have an exemption but nobody seems to. Like some people in Woolies today, this guy was walking around eating food in the store, such as the fruit, with no mask. Let's hope he doesn't spread COVID & has clean hands. Ugh.

    As for the masks, apparently we don't have to wear them outside unless we can't social distance, so at a market or something I would assume. Inside we still have to, so supermarkets, Doctors, and so forth.

    I hope concerts come back soon, as things are starting to open up. COVID has been so hard on everyone and I feel so sorry for those losing their lives, jobs, money, mental health issues getting worse, and so forth. it's heartbreaking.

    - Tayla

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    Thanks D .

    Yeah it's pretty amazing in Vic although we've had hardly anything up in my are right through all this heart went out to Melb and it certainly got pretty scary for awhile there state wide. l find it just mind boggling now to think of 21days or what ever it is from all that , with zeros, still can't believe it tbh.

    But incredible stuff Vics and DA , and congrats all round , we certainly showed the knockers what we're made of . rx

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    23 November 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Hi Elizabeth,

    I'm really sorry to read about your daughter. I do so hope you are able to contact her. Must be very concerning for you. Hopefully she has someone there she can reach out to for help and support.

    Can you gain more information from the person who has had contact with your daughter?

    Wish I had the words to share with you that may help in this time of concern and anxiety. Thinking of yuoand your daughter. Cheers from Dools

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    23 November 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hi randomx and All,

    Victoria certainly did tough it out with restrictions being in place for so long. Hopefully people Australia wide are coping okay with their mental health throughout this pandemic.

    Here in S.A. we have had an interesting experience with a massive shut down, a partial reversal and now still needing to be cautious but not in strict lock down. We had been cruising along quite nicely until this glitch.

    It is surprising how people interpret the changes, rules and regulations and consider what actually applies to them.

    It seemed in my work place each day last week new rules and regulations had to be adhered to. Frazzled my mind a little when I am the one out front trying to control other people's behaviours.

    Keep safe everyone, cheers from Dools

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    23 November 2020 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools

    that is interesting how you have had that change recently in SA and gone between increased, partial and no restrictions. It is a bit confusing sometimes and people can sort of give up trying when the rules change a lot.

    How are people handling the changes in SA? Hope you are all okay and managing.

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    23 November 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi Sleepy,

    I guess everyone copes differently. It amazed me that people were lining up at the bottle shops for hours making sure they had enough supplies to last a year...sorry I mean 6 days! I know for some people alcohol is essential and they can't live without it. I was just a little surprised at alcohol sales.

    The whole thing with this Corona Virus, no one knows if it will actually be a 6 day, 6 week or 6 month lock down so best be prepared how ever that looks for you.

    I'd rather be in a country and a state that locks down to protect everyone instead of allowing everyone to do what they like and have thousands of people die.

    My work is essential, so it didn't make a great deal of difference to me until the rules changed and people were free to move around again.

    I'm thankful other people make the rules and I just have to follow them.

    Cheers all from Dools

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    23 November 2020 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Guys,

    Doolhof's - I think that a great attitude re "I'm thankful other people make the rules and I just have to follow them.".

    Today I went for a walk at lunch time and it was amazing not having to wear a mask, allowing the fresh air to pass straight through my lungs! And I'm so so thankful that the limits on the amount of people have raised just in time for Christmas, we are so lucky compared to Europe atm.

    There is also an amazingly inspiring advert on TV uniting all Melbournian's! It's great!

    Hope you all have a splendid night!

    Regards,

    D

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    26 November 2020 in reply to Doz86
    Doz I'm so happy to be living in Oz and not US or UK. The number of deaths and cases over there is horrendous. I don't know why they don't make masks mandatory in US. That might be one of the first things that Biden will do hopefully. And they don't seem to social distance too often.

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