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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. Black Bubblegum
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Sophie_M

    What is the point of living when there is no quality of life? I exist to keep the wheels turning of the machine, that's my worth as a person.

    I have loved Melbourne my whole life and now it makes me sick thinking of friends and family in other states having some normality while we're dragged into lockdown because of the ineptitude of some cretin politician. It's making me hate this city and that makes me even sadder.

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  2. Gelati
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Black Bubblegum,

    You're not alone! I promise you. There are lots of people Vic-wide feeling hopeless, sad, angry, all sorts of things right now. I'm one of them. I have grown to dislike the city that I once loved and was proud of. In reality, I'll likely stay and not go interstate or to regional, as my family is here, but gosh I am not proud or in admiration of it the last year. I feel like poo - nothing pretty about it - as I've described in my post earlier today.

    My colleague in Sydney called me to see how I was at the start of the second lockdown, and he said Melbourne is the most liveable city - even for the virus. That was a lovely and funny observation for an otherwise crappy situation.

    I'm going to tell myself from this minute that it will be a short 'circuit breaker' as they say and won't be months on end - want to do that with me? We can do it - woo!

    This totally silly animal joke gave me a smile just now - "This morning I saw a neighbor talking to her cat. It was obvious she thought her cat understood her. I came into my house, told my dog–we laughed a lot."

    Hard to make me smile this weekend - so I'm impressed!

    Your life matters to me. Let me know how you are?

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  3. Gelati
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Black Bubblegum
    Also, do you ever use reddit? Look up the subreddit 'contagious laugher' - there are some videos there that sometimes leave me in tears they are so funny. It's good happy medicine and a nice alternative to browsing the news websites - I find them anxiety-inducing. Let me know if you see any videos that crack a smile :)))))
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  4. Black Bubblegum
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Gelati
    Thank you. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate that.
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  5. Gelati
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    My absolute pleasure, BB

    :)

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  6. Gelati
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    14 February 2021 in reply to randomx
    Thanks, Randomx, Doz86 and Summer Rose. It gives me great comfort and a sense of community to hear about your experiences.
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  7. Warney67
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    15 February 2021
    Hi I’m really struggling with all that’s happening at the moment (covid) , I’m usually the one who helps others thru their tough times but have no one I can really turn to who “ gets it “ like I do for them. I only work part time due to my mental battles and my fiancé is the main bread winner but her contract ended in December due to funding because of Covid and it’s very quiet and difficult time for her to find a job we require and this current lockdown isn’t helping at all, her stress is high and depression is becoming an issue but I’m battling too but I’m trying to be strong and not lose it to protect her at my own expense. The uncertainty is unbearable for me , how will we get thru it financially where do we turn to , we are on welfare at the moment and never have been in our lives and never thought we’d need to, how are others in my situation coping ? Regards
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  8. smallwolf
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Guest_8790

    Hi Guest_8790, I heard about lockdown on the news this morning. I cannot imagine how frustrating and upsetting it must be for many people. It is good to know that you have been able to see your psychologist and have been able to get your hands on tools that should be beneficial to you.

    The shopping part still confuses me ... Brisbane recently went into lockdown (it was a few weeks ago now) and of course there was the initial panic buying. That subsided after a day or so. But it seems that as soon as people hear the word lockdown the need to purchase more items of the same kick in.

    say hello to your cat, and give it a good pat. We have a cat also... quite old now! but good company.

  9. CalmCat
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Warney67

    Hi Warney67,

    Welcome to the forum and thank you for such a raw and honest first post! You are courageous!

    Don't be afraid there are support tools out there for people experiencing financial wellness problems. Try contacting the Salvos or St Vinnie's, they will have so many recourses to assist you in saving some money allowing you to spend on other essentials.

    I know it must be so hard for you at the moment but stay strong, we are all in this together! If your having a tough time give the Beyond Blue line a call, where a friendly consultant will assist you on 1300 22 4636!

    Let us know how you get on!

    Regards,

    D

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  10. Warney67
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    15 February 2021 in reply to CalmCat
    Thx Doz86 , I’m not at that stage yet financially but it’s the anxiety of the unknown which as each week passes gets more and more stressful because of what it might become if push comes to shove. I’m hiding my struggles to protect my fiancé from extra stress worrying about me .
    cheers
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  11. 3xPM'sR-Enablers
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Cthulhu

    That is very moving, Cthulhu. I have a rare lung disease on top of Emphysema and have had to isolate since March 2020. Thankfully the younger people are the better their body can cope with COVID-19.

    I hope all is well now.

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  12. 3xPM'sR-Enablers
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Black Bubblegum
    There are plenty of reasons for living, Bubble. Personally, I've had to isolate since March 2020 because I suffer from Emphysema and a rare lung infection called Cryptococcal (a normal Flu can kill me. Covid-19 would kill me in days) which is normally associated with HIV (I don't suffer from HIV or any other Immune Deficiency Disease). When I feel really down I always remind myself that there are millions far worse off than myself and that I'm very lucky to be living in this country. I would be dead if I didn't. I really hope things pick up for you (cool nicname!). All the best!
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  13. 3xPM'sR-Enablers
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Warney67
    G'Day 67, I've been isolating since March 2020 when I caught a lung infection called Cryptococcal. It was originally thought that I had COVID-19 hence the reason I started isolating then. In July 20' I was hospitalised and diagnosed with Crypto, Emphysema, and Pneumonia. I've been isolating since as it takes a year on very strong antibiotics to kill the Crypto (if it enters my blood and goes to my brain I will die). I've had to half the dose because I suffered liver failure. A Flu would put me in Intensive Care and probably kill me (COVID-19....Gone in hours or a couple of days). I found peace finally when I went into Security and helped people. I haven't worked full time since experirencing trauma and haven't worked at all in over 10 years. It cost me the house I owned and many other things too. The insurers were disgraceful and cut off payments regularly and I foolishly tried to save my home from the banks (should have sold). I wore 5 supports (upper and lower back, knees, ankle and foot) and took many pain killers and returned to work with unhealed fractures and swelling that was still present a year after the attack (I hadn't been paid in months). The years of strong pain killers gave me bowel problems and heart disease. A doctor stopped a workers comp payout with a completely spurious assessment recently. When I get down (often) I think of my beautiful child, the woman and 2 kids I saved, and the millions in the world far worse off than me. I over think about the love I'm given by others. There is always someone far worse off than me somewhere in the world-Millions in fact! We are very lucky to have been born here. I hope you can see that light at the end of the tunnel. The more you concentrate on it, the brighter it gets. Take care.
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  14. Warney67
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    16 February 2021 in reply to 3xPM'sR-Enablers
    Yes there are always people worse off and you seem one of them , I have lueakemia so I’ve been isolating too being in high risk catergory, I have little faith in the powers that be to look after the little guy and fear that my family will suffer thru no fault of our own . Goodluck with your situation.
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  15. smallwolf
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Warney67

    Hi Warney67,

    Sorry I missed your original post here... Must have posted about the same time? So I have part of your story here and can relate to some of what you said especially about not wanting to worry your partner. For me, it was telling my wife about suicidal thoughts. It was something that I really did not want to talk about though I could with my psychologist. The funny thing is that my wife was strong through it all. Sometimes our partners can be stronger than we give them credit for. They may see differences in us we dont want to talk about.

    On isolating... A friend has almost no immune system because of various other issues. So venturing outside is dangerous for him. A side effect of this is loss of contact or connection with others except through FB (for him). Which is also unhelpful if negative thoughts run rampant. And writing here may also be a good outlet for you?

    Tim

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  16. Pcode3
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    16 February 2021
    The Victorian government has once again forgotten singles living alone. I’ve grown tired of getting angry, so another single friend who lives alone has all of a sudden fallen in love with me..... I hope we decide we don’t decide to split up once lockdown ends... 
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  17. CalmCat
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Warney67

    HI Warney67,

    I'm so sorry to hear you have leukemia and are going through such a hard time.

    With everything you've shared I'd talk to your GP and let them know of the anxiety that is effecting you. There are short term treatments out there for anxiety that could be beneficial in your situation. Go see your GP and let them know of your anxiety, I'm sure they'll be able to help.

    Please let us know how you get on.

    Regards,

    D

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  18. Gelati
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Pcode3

    That's awesome news!

    I have a partner but he lives interstate so I am living alone too and found it surprising we weren't allowed a bubble buddy again this time. It all seems very family centric.

    Anyway, I hope your new romance goes well!!

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  19. blondguy
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Hello Everyone...You are all very strong people who speak from the heart and thankyou for being a part of the forum family :-)

    Hi Black Bubblegum....I understand your pain as I am in Melbourne too...and yes the lockdowns hurt for sure!!

    Hi Gelati....Thankyou for the heartfelt support with 'There are lots of people Vic-wide feeling hopeless, sad, angry, all sorts of things right now. I'm one of them'..ditto here Gelati

    Hi Warney67....Thankyou for providing others with your valued support...especially with your health status...That take serious strength...and then some...

    Hello 3xPM'sR-Enablers...heartfelt appreciation for sharing your own health in regard to Covid..and the effect it can have on people with ongoing (and chronic) health issues..I hope you and Warney67 can continue to be a part of the Beyond Blue forums..on a new thread topic...(only if you wish of course)

    Hello Pcode3!....Welcome to the forums and thankyou for your post too. I feel your pain as we have never been restricted like this before. Im in PCode3 too and its hard work when we are single

    Just my own opinion if thats okay...Depending on tomorrow's cases in VIC (Feb 17) I feel the lockdowns will be lifted.. ...my kind thoughts

    Paul

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  20. randomx
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    16 February 2021 in reply to blondguy

    Yeah if there's no new over night we should be out of this , againnnnn, l hope ! My good will has pretty well left the building with this rubbish.

    rx

  21. mb20lover
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Hey everyone.

    Black Bubblegum, and everyone else here - I'm sorry you feel that way. I also feel like there's no point being here.

  22. ecomama
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    16 February 2021 in reply to blondguy

    Hey everyone

    I've read back many posts and am so sorry for what each of you are going through right now.

    Hopefully you all feel better for sharing your journeys in this safe and comforting space.

    Again, you are all showing great courage in, sometimes, despairing times and I just want to send some huge cyber hugs and let you know I'm Praying for you all.

    I Pray you all receive healing on all levels.

    Seems like a LOT of self-care is called for!

    Lots of love
    EM

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  23. blondguy
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    16 February 2021 in reply to randomx

    Hi RX...Tayla....just trying to confirm some good news about the lockdown being lifted which has been reported in todays Herald Sun (17th)....Subject to Confirmation of course :-)

    www.3aw.com.au/latest-audio/

    Hey EM....your prayers and input are wonderful..thankyou

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  24. Gelati
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    17 February 2021 in reply to mb20lover

    Hi MB,

    You've helped me before. So this time I'm sending my love and courage to you.

    I care.

    Gelati

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  25. Warney67
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    17 February 2021 in reply to smallwolf

    G’day tim , thx for your reply , I’ve had anxiety/ depression for over 40 years and never knew til 13 years ago , no support was given whether it was known about or not hence I don’t talk to my family ( mother) so I’ve battled away doing things my way to get by ( not necessarily the right way ) my fiancé is a great support but I suck things up a lot to not stress her more than she’s under already re her getting a job for us to live our lives . social anxiety means isolation isn’t an issue for me it’s more being told what I can and can’t do that I can’t deal with , having said that I’ve joined a social golf club and met few new mates that I’m enjoying , so lockdown puts pay to that side of things my main source of enjoyment. I also have dysthymia so my highs are very very rare so when my one source of any real high or buzz is taken away ( golf ) it doesn’t help my situation. I will be fine I know it’s just hard Atm the uncertainty

    cheers Warney

  26. Warney67
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    17 February 2021 in reply to CalmCat

    Thx D

    my luekaemia itself is under control it’s my immune system that’s compromised and with covid well I just gotta be careful , my anxiety well that’s a day by day roller coaster and I’ve started meditation which I try use when the overthinking starts , usually in the mornings . I appreciate your reply and will use this forum to vent .

    cheers warney

  27. Warney67
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    17 February 2021 in reply to blondguy

    Hi blondguy

    cheers for your kind words , I don’t see myself as strong , quite the opposite , try to beat this bastard by myself and failing , when in reality I’m still here so must be strong

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  28. mb20lover
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    17 February 2021 in reply to Gelati

    Thanks Gelati, that means a lot. You've helped me too. And yeah I heard about that, thanks blondguy.

    Hi Warney67.

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  29. randomx
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    17 February 2021 in reply to mb20lover

    imagine if the government gave all the money they waste to us instead.

    They've still been running lockdown ads all night and l saw the last one 5,ins ago. lt bloody ends at midnight what are they doing wasting a few more million still running the ads all night. rx

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  30. Matchy69
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    18 February 2021 in reply to randomx
    Hi randomx I saw a lockdown add here last night and I am in Qld.I thought have I missed something and realised it was for Victoria.

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