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Topic: Do You Like Yourself? Your Thoughts are Welcome!

  1. quirkywords
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    1 August 2020 in reply to Guest_5432

    Guest,

    I think people who are not liking themselves

    just my thoughts thanks for caring and showing how find it hard to focus on the day,

    stay in the moment becUse they don’t like today Nd hope fir. Better day.

    Focusing on the day works if life is going well and you like how things are going.

    thanks for sharing your thoughts. I have shared mine too.

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    1 August 2020 in reply to Red_Velvet

    Hi Red (and a big wave to TonyWK ..Quirky.. Geoff..Guest....Gucia and everyone!)

    Thankyou for the post back! You are always welcome to provide support if and when you are comfortable doing so...whether here or on any thread you wish

    Hope you are having a good weekend Red

    Paul

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    2 August 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Dear Quirky,

    In your last post you wrote " "Focusing on the day if life is going well and you like how things are going" ..

    Any of us can focus on the positives Not only when we're having a good day + things going well. It's takes a lot hard work to change thought patterns. It never came easy for me. Still have to work Very Hard at it on a daily basis or even for mthe moment if needs to be. I've read many of your posts over the years.. ...

    Need to remember, each of us is Unique in our own ways yet a worthy human being equally to our peers. We all do things at our own pace, not comparing ourselves with others.

    What I posted was merely on my own personal experience in life & teaching my students how to "try" their best. Not perfection but their best.

    No less, no more.

    Regards

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    2 August 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hi to Sophie and thank you very much the words and thoughts , very much appreciated .

    And thanks to Paul , same again and always nice to hear your thoughts.

    Hi Tony and thanks also , always great hearing your views and experiences , there's always lot of lessens in there my friend. lt's weird really , l'm not so much a materialistic person as such but we've gotta pay our bills right , and so as you'd know with a business but especially in these times , when things are done through and dusted, it's like a weight lifted and there's also a pride in knowing you've achieved it type of thing . Funny , l often give myself a pat on the back at times like that.

    Hi guest , That was very good of you to take that time and thoughts . lt's strange isn't it but yeah your right really. imagine if only we could just live for today , maybe some can , maybe it's very common , not sure , sounds like a damn nice way to go though. Been very busy the last few days , really tired . So tomorrow, Sunday, l plan on being at one with the couch, all day . So that might be a pretty good practicing point huh. Thanks again.

    Thanks very much to all , rx

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    2 August 2020 in reply to Red_Velvet

    Hello Red, I've read your comment with great interest and just because we don't do or follow what others decide or tell us what to do, doesn't necessarily make us the problem child/person, it's only another opinion.

    If you are able to come out the other side a better person then that's what you are looking for, to be able to cope in all situations, and if not, then as long as you know there are people, professionals or not who understand and want to help you and I only say this as I also had been through it.

    By being able to use your 'experience to move forward in life' rather than start to believe in negative thoughts is a great opportunity to believe in yourself.

    Well done.

    Geoff.

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    2 August 2020 in reply to Guest_5432

    Thanks guest

    and thanks fir explaining,your ideas.

    i suppose I may have not exoressed myself as well as I may have,

    I appreciate your ideas and said it was only my thoughts,

    I would never compare others.
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    i appreciate it takes hard work,

    I have been through a traunaruceventbthus year and know how hard it is to focus on the day and look not focus too much on the past and worry about the future,

    some days it is harder than others.

    thanks again for your input into this thread and your willingness to share your experiences.

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    2 August 2020 in reply to geoff

    Random

    I have been following your posts for a while but haven’t commented recently as many others here have been so helpful and kind to you that I would just be repeating their wirds,

    thanks for your honesty and your willingness to express your feelings.

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    2 August 2020 in reply to Red_Velvet

    And thanks to Geofff also , with dyslexia sometimes you just can't read , or it;s more a you just can't see things , other times it's fine , so if l miss things or people , no offense intended.

    Thanks very much quirk , god knows l know you must have your hands full this yr and no problem at all, you've got enough to deal with . And yeah , very appreciated and thx to all again , l didn't even expect any replies tbh but the thoughtfulness of people round here never ceases to amaze , l'm an emotional person and fairly open with the few right people in this world that come along , so yeah l think it's healthy to talk about our stuff if there's is anyone we feel comfortable with that actually giva toss. l think it helps to to even just write about things around bb also , for people to gt it out, not even about expecting replies , it's just good for us to get things out.

    Best to all. rx

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    2 August 2020 in reply to blondguy
    Hey Paul,

    I'm interested in your reply to Katy. You have quoted her and said that she has drawn a longbow with her expression of her experience of being a woman in this world.

    As a woman, i could really relate to Katy's post, and to Sleepy's post.

    In what way do you feel a longbow was drawn?

    My understanding of drawing a longbow is that someone is exaggerating or lying.

    I am just interested.

    And also a bit worried that judging someone's experience is a bit limiting and hypoceitical on a forum such as this?

    Thanks.
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    2 August 2020 in reply to Birdy77

    lf it's any consolation ladies too btw . any women l have ever. ever , been around or even watched on live shows , mother's , sisters , mother in laws and all their friends , l could say 90% of any women l've ever been around or watched , comment about a mans looks , my own mother use too on any man that ever walked into the house or she'd encountered somewhere . As a matter of fact l'd actually say they're far more vocal than men and it's pretty well anytime anywhere . Even growing up my dad or brothers rarely commented on a womens looks, all my sisters and mum did though. My ex mil and all her friends always did too , never did l hear her husband or the sons talk about women like that.Same with men on tv now , even just watching the voice , and delta or kelly, never do you hear peep out of the guys . l find that quite typical.

    ln my view men have actually been trained over the yrs to not even comment in Australia but for some reason women can go for their lives. So try not to feel too victimized bc l can assure you from a lifetimes observation , it does well and truly also go both ways.

    rx

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    2 August 2020 in reply to randomx
    Hey Rx,

    I was not criticising men in any way!

    I was commmenting on the conditioning that we all receive about our appearance, that a huge majority of people, (no matter how we identify) can relate to being judged by our appearance.

    I thought it was a valid point.
    That's all.
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    2 August 2020 in reply to Birdy77

    Hi everyone,

    I think people have expectations on the them for how they look and behave and it is not often from individuals commmenting on others. In the media bit he men an wemon are under pressure to be slim or muscly Or tall, or be wrinkly free, have lots of hair etcetc. Different cultures have exoectatiins of what is considered a beauty,

    some women have spent their whole life’s trying to beautiful and slim and young looking and men who wish they were taller had more muskets etc.

    i suppose one needs to accept ourselves as we are.
    it can take a lifetime .

    Thanks everyone for your contributions to the discussion because it will help others,

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  13. randomx
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    2 August 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    No worries birdy, hear what your saying . l found what really , really , helped me as a guy , was the day l stopped caring what other people think . lt's my way of being comfortably at peace.

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    3 August 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hello Rx.

    Now you're talking with positive things about yourself..

    Partly quoted in your last post :- "was the day I stop caring what other people think"..

    Doesn't only apply to men, women feel the same too. It's often the plain people who are the most genuine, kind ones around. They have beautiful hearts.

    It's the inner person that counts not the exterior. Too often people look at the exterior of a person being a judgmental without actually getting to know them.

    Keep up with your good work erx. Be Yourself, Not someone else.

    Regards

    the ole chook

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    3 August 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hello RX, please be assured, there is never any 'offence intended', I take each person on their own merits, and no one is better than anybody else.

    We all have/had different experiences and needed to struggle through all of this alone and as heartbreaking it is for every one of us which is soul destroying, we all have one another to reach out to.

    Please take it easy, not only for yourself but to everyone else who is searching for answers in how to conquer this illness.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

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    4 August 2020 in reply to Birdy77

    Hi Birdy77 and everyone!..Quirky....RX...Guest...Geoff

    Its always goods to see you...and have your contribution to any discussion on the forums!

    My reply to Katy on was on July 29....You are always welcome to discuss my posts...no worries at all ! I hope you can read my post to Katy in context as per the conversation as a whole Birdy77 :-)

    Birdy77 mentioned "And also a bit worried that judging someone's experience is a bit limiting and hypoceitical on a forum such as this"

    Can I ask if you like yourself?

    my kind thoughts

    Paul

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    4 August 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hi Blondguy.

    Re: Your reply to Katy, 29th July... I normally don't comment on your questions nor take sides with anyone.

    This thread was originally founded by you "Do you like Yourself? Your Thoughts are Welcomed".. meaning you had invited anyone to express themselves of how they truly felt. Many have responded to your request with genuine words of how they felt. A thread thread that has helped them at no end.

    What I have noticed, is your welcome for new ones & give commendation of excellent posts sent, however, seldom do you ever express anything about yourself.

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    4 August 2020 in reply to Guest_5432

    Hi Guest

    Appreciate your post and thankyou! I hope you can contribute to the thread topic if and when you wish!

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    4 August 2020 in reply to Guest_5432

    Hello Guest_5432, if I can say, and sorry to interrupt, but this particular thread started over 4 years ago, and in support, Paul has mentioned this numerous times, I apologise in interfering.

    Best wishes.

    Geoff.

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    4 August 2020 in reply to blondguy
    We are all equal on this forum and that is what makes it helpful and work so well. A useful reminder is if not something nice to say then not say anything at all- as words and tone can be hurtful. And Guest has contributed to this thread and others, as we all have, but try accept it is a level playing field and remain respectful. I have nothing further to add to this thread myself. But a good thread nonetheless. Regards.
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    4 August 2020 in reply to blondguy
    Hello Paul,

    Thank you, yes i did read your comment within the context of the whole conversation.

    That's why i couldn't understand your judgment of a longbow being drawn.

    As they were discussing how difficult it can be when we feel judged by our appearance etc and Katy was saying some readings had helped her and that really, our physical bodies are here to facilitate our lives, not for the viewing pleasure of others - a valid point.

    I was simply wondering what you meant by your comment, as i found it a little harsh, especially as people commenting here are more than likely feeling a little fragile anyway.

    Sorry if i misinterpreted, it's easy to do that on a forum. That's why i asked for clarification.

    And sorry for the spelling mistakes which you picked up on in my post and another - misspelling things on the forums always makes me feel bad.

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    4 August 2020 in reply to Birdy77

    This has been a helpful thread to me and I am going to get back on track,

    I think we are all sensitive and turned and worried at the moment and we are doing our best,

    Do you like yourself,?

    well after a traumatic start to this year I do like myself but I don’t like what happened to me, I have been angry and pitied my self and every day I recall something else I lost.i sometimes get annoyed at how I cry a lot but I feel I am doing the best I can.

    i wonder do you find things that happen to a person affect their ability to like oneself..?

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    5 August 2020 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Elizabeth -just wanted to thank you for the share about your dad. I thought that was really lovely.

    Thanks everyone who has contributed to this great thread :)

    Quirky -it sounds like you're judging yourself for your feelings/reactions but also recognizing that you're doing your best? I think that's a good way to look at it. I feel like I have a lot going on at the moment and I'm struggling with it, so perhaps I can remind myself I'm doing my best? Thanks for that. I hope things are moving in a more positive direction for you.

    Katy

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    5 August 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Hello Quirky, 'things that happen to a person affect their ability to like oneself..?', absolutely, we're aren't sure whether or not a decision we choose is one we can carry out or what the repercussions will be, not only for ourselves but also to other people or if we actually care, this all depends on the situation we're in and if we are able to cope.

    No one likes to be criticised in any circumstance, especially when coping or trying to overcome any type of depression and we often mention this to anyone who is new to the forums, because it can push us back into a previous state we're slowly coming out of.

    If we modify our behaviour, try and change our thoughts, and slowly be brave enough to try and have a lifestyle, whether or not it's the same or on another path and you believe you are progressing, then warmth, care and encouragement is something we truly need.

    Take care and it's a good thread.

    Geoff.

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    5 August 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hello everyone

    Thinking of everyone in Victoria.

    Katy thanks for your supportive words.

    I feel we are all trying our hardest here and the support available on this thread is very helpful.

    Geoff, I like these words of yours.

    "If we modify our behaviour, try and change our thoughts, and slowly be brave enough to try and have a lifestyle, whether or not it's the same or on another path and you believe you are progressing, then warmth, care and encouragement is something we truly need."

    Paul Thanks for all your hard work in keeping this thread going. many appreciate you efforts here . I have used this thread for years as a go to thread, when I need to work on my self esteem which is a lot of the time.

    Kind thoughts to all.

    Quirky

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    5 August 2020 in reply to golden82

    Hi Everyone and thankyou for your super helpful contributions that have provided peace of mind to others!

    Hey Golden82.....you have made an identical post on my Covid-19's Impact on your Well being thread. You mentioned that you are a 'health professional' on other threads and thats a bonus to the forums where providing support and guidance to people that are doing it tough.

    Hey Birdy77 ....thankyou for your heartfelt post as always! I have always respected everyone's point of view and done the best I can to provide the best support possible to you

    Hey Katy....always great to have your heartfelt posts on the forums

    Be well everyone

    Paul

    Note:....70% of people that 'click' on the forums are people that choose to benefit by 'reading only'....the remaining 30% elect to post here to find some peace of mind.

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    5 August 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Hey Quirky

    Your caring thoughts for Victorians are wonderful...and your super helpful advice when you mentioned "I think we are all sensitive and turned and worried at the moment and we are doing our best....Do You like yourself?"

    Nice1 and thankyou Quirky.....Paul

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    6 August 2020 in reply to blondguy

    It's in anticipation that all the people who only try and find comfort in reading the many posts provided by this site, do eventually participate in what they are struggling with.

    I'm sure your situation can be related and identified by the vast number of those who have already been involved and all we want to do is listen to what you want to say.

    It's not nice to be alone and feel as though no one cares, because we do.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

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    6 August 2020 in reply to Pumba293
    First of all welcome to the forum Pumba. I hope that you find this community as helpful as I have. There are days when I hate myself. I look at myself and wonder what people see in me and with my condition I scratch myself until I feel pain or bleed, I also get aggressive in my tone of voice and say hurtful things. Then there are days when the light shines and I can see how people like me. I hope that helps
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    6 August 2020 in reply to aussiestorm

    Aussie storm what a wonderful honest and welcoming post,

    I do hope today isa day when the sun shines for you as your words are so helpful.

    Can you see a difference I. How you see things on the days when you like yourself to the days when you don’t. ?

    Thanks again

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