Do you like yourself? and confidence? is there a connection? Certainly. So how do we gain confidence?
I admit I'm fairly confident but it wasnt like that 30 years ago. Now 64yo the reasons I gained confidence is I broke down the barriers of my naivety and inexperience. To put it bluntly- I challenged myslef to do things I never thought was possible for me to do.
Example- In 1997 following my first marriage split I embarked on buying land and building my own kit home. It was a mammoth task and I was scared, scared that I'd fail, scared it would cost me too much money on a limited income and limited borrowing capacity. Yes, I completed it- except for floor coverings aircon etc. I picked up handy hints from tradies and asked knowledgeable colleagues at work and used a library.
24 years later in April 2020 my wife and I embarked on building our last home. Built with old age in mind we toiled for 5 months doing most of the work ourselves. At 64yo I am a bit beyond it physically and mentally it was a lottery as I know under stress I'm fragile. Alas we made it and moved in last week. It is now that I realise how confident I've become in being an owner builder, inventor and creator of different things. Being knowledgeable makes you realise how many people admire your talents as they comment in awe of your achievements especially wards like "how did you do it?". "you never stop amazing me" etc.
The simple message here is, in your chosen challenge from making a doona cover to building a cubby house for grandchildren to building a house, low self esteem can stop you in your tracks. All that will do is make you feel inferior, useless and lead to depression.
Find a challenge you'll easily complete, raise the bar higher each time and never stop asking questions because most people like being asked.
When we built our caravan I didnt know the first thing about them. I asked caravan sales staff, spare parts people and owners. I took the leap and built two vans one that took us around Australia and the latest that we lived in for 8 months while building this new home.
It means taking a plunge but eventually you become confident in your abilities. Then you'll like yourself more.