This is a great topic to discuss. My wife saw the TV show but I missed it.
I've struggled with my weight all my life. The only thing positive I can say about my body is that I have a large chest along with its lower spare tyre. As a young airman I did weight lifting and kept fit but regardless the spare tyre stayed.
I've learned the following-
- That there is a photo of me at 2yo eating a piece of bread- I was chubby then.
- That I've read that apart from liposuction the minute fat cells can remain there dorment when losing lots of weight but spark up when we begin to gain it again. So, we can fool ourselves that we wont look like we did
- That embracing ourselves for who we are is so important. Us overweight people will unlikely loose a lot of weight so the worry isnt worth it
- Fat shaming is a big issue and I've tackled it the following way-
Before my wife and I got together an ex brother in law mentioned her to me "she really needs to do something about her weight". Yep, he was slim, never had a weight issue in his life. He has red hair and red beard. My reply to him was - "so are you taking steps to change your hair colour"? "why" he asked. Well red hair is unpopular and I presume you were teased when a child for having it, am I right".
"Yes I was, often teased and I hated it". So I assume you'll dye it then to hide it so other people dont have to look at it"?
He stared at me and realised my point. But here's the thing- he changed the topic. A few minutes later he was about to leave my presence to go home. "Oh, by the way- my wife has a lovely shade of brown hair dye you can have if you think you'll need it". He walked away.
Now before anyone thinks I was cruel I dont think I was, I equalised his judgemental comments. I never used to be so assertive/combative but after decades of tolerating this kind of attitude that I place in the same league as racism, religious judgements and any other discriminations I ended up deciding that fighting back in a tactful witty way is best because you dont actually display anger or nastiness but you do take the matter up to a point whereby they realise their judgements are unfair and cruel.
I've survived much better with this approach. The following thread explains it a lot.
Standing up to abuse/judgemental attitudes takes courage and not all of us can do it.
Great topic Quirky