Hi GAWGA (and a wave to all),
What an intriguing idea for a thread. I love it :)
It sounds like you’re perhaps looking to make some meaningful changes in your life, and that you’re gradually trying to figure out what that means to you personally. Good for you! I would be interested to hear how things go for you.
I think it’s all an ongoing process for me. There isn’t necessarily a final goal in life for me; it’s all an evolving process/gradual unfolding of sorts.
What steps have you taken to feel back on solid ground sometimes?
I have mentioned bits and pieces of the following elsewhere, but thought that this thread was a good place to tie it all together. Also, it ties in with your topic (I think).
I’ll preface the next part by saying that my worldview/approach may not suit others, which I understand, but it works for me :)
One of the biggest changes I’ve made in recents times is I try not to fight my own feelings. It helps me in terms of finding “solid ground.” What I mean by this is if I feel happy, I feel happy. If I feel sad, I feel sad. I try my best to avoid fighting how I’m truly feeling.
Admittedly, there are situations where I avoid expressing certain emotions e.g. work, certain family commitments, etc. But outside of those spheres, I try my best to allow space for my feelings. To me, this has created a huge sense of relief...
I try my best to confront my own feelings, from elation to grief these days. It has actually been very empowering. Obviously, it’s also more painful in many ways, but in the long-term, I do find it personally more empowering than other approaches I’ve tried. Feel it to tame it.
To stop myself becoming overwhelmed by an emotion, I alsonbreak things up with action e.g. work, socialising, trying new things, going outdoors, etc.
Overall, as I approach more & more days with this mentality, I feel much more alive. I don’t feel like I’m running from myself anymore. Grounded.
I’m much less afraid of painful emotions like sadness, grief, heartbreak, etc. I don’t look for distractions as much, because I’m confronting more than I am running or hiding....
That’s not to say that I don’t ever feel overwhelmed and that it never hurts (it often does hurt), but I feel a newfound sense of confidence to be able to face painful emotions (as well as embrace the more pleasant ones). Both are a part of life as far as I’m concerned...
Thanks so much for letting me share a little about the current path that I’m on :)
Kindness and care,