HI meaghanperris, i understand and fully agree with what your saying but for myself trying to implement the above over the last 5 years , chronic pain caused by other peoples negligence , at its peak makes is nearly impossible to move forward . it seems a massive vicious circle i'm in. I know what i have written is brief, and i don't know if it makes sense , communicating with the world has been a problem all my life, i'm hoping this site , with what I've been reading since i joined yesterday , will assist me to find strategies to help. This is my first time i've been on any forum , and i am unsure if i'm doing this to rules, so please ,if i'm not , i hope for direction. This little writing , for me is massively draining, so i will end here. Chow.