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Topic: Keeping busy

  1. Gizz 36
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    19 October 2019
    Sometime I might be cleaning or at work and the negative thoughts can sink in. I was at my doctor and he said just don't think about them and try not to dwell on them and sometimes at home I'm cleaning and I get angry about my life but today I put on music as I cleaned is it a better way to deal with bad thoughts.do u just have to accept that life doesn't always go you on way and u might feel better and life might be a bit raised it feels a bit better the noise of the music kind of blocks out the negative thoughts so just asking thanks
  2. MyLadyGirl
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    20 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36
    Hello Gizz 36
    Negative thoughts will always be there even though we try to re direct to positive thoughts. It’s will only subside when we are open and talk it out. Throw the negative by either writing it on the paper or telling BB counsellor what’s bothering you or if you want post at your message and we can help you. Negative thoughts only will outcome when or if we realise that it’s not or unreal.
  3. Gizz 36
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    20 October 2019 in reply to MyLadyGirl
    Hi mlg I thought maybe getting into a habit of thinking differently. And distract myself from bad thoughts and try and think different. I've talk about my negative thoughts before with shrinks family members. I was on antidepressant for a while,and it helped for a while.I think the gym is the best place for dealing with depression but I don't always have the motivation but that's my opinion thanks for the reply
  4. MyLadyGirl
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    21 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hello Gizz 36,

    Diverting your mind or making your mind to think other things or re directing your mind will not solve any problems. The problem will always be there. It will be in your subconscious mind until you realise or come to a sense that, that problem is just a bug that can be fixed. All problem have a solution and the solution need to be practiced and over come it only by ourself. The word 'while' you mention in your post is a good example of my point. Sharing your negative thoughts can and could over come your problem. If you feel reluctant or unwillingly to talk on your post, call BB helpline and talk to them. I am sure that they can help you.

    If yo feel comfortable we can share what we did today as that can help you.

  5. Gizz 36
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    22 October 2019
    Hi mlg I never knew there were solutions to all these problems I was on antidepressant for a while. I got off them. They worked for a while but then I was taking them but didn't see improvement in my life still was shy and not confident.so I came off them I'm having problems with motivation like I wanna go to the gym that might give me more confidence and make me feel better about myself or get a hobby but I don't want to be on tablets anymore but I'm open to any suggestions thanks for the reply
  6. MyLadyGirl
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    23 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    If you give yourself a chance problem can be solve. For example like you going to gym thinking that the problem can be solved but as how much you go to the gym the problem will always be there. I too go into depression or into a situation of anxiety but I try not to put too much into it. I talk it out to someone or my self in the mirror (crazy but it help me). Why you like to do the most beside going to gym? Please don't be shy with me as I am an open minded person. I accept the person who they are and what they are because they are a beautiful person. Like you. I can be there fore you to talk too.

    Since you like to go to the gym, have you join group exercise. It allow you to be social and get to know someone. Try some baby step. Try doing it to the place that you love to go the most. It will help a bit.

    You said you want to be off with the med. Have you talk to your doctor about it. If your off has it helped you?

  7. Gizz 36
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    23 October 2019 in reply to MyLadyGirl
    Hi mlg I like to know more about u
  8. MyLadyGirl
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    24 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hi Gizz36

    what would you like to know about me? I am a simple person that works with crazy people thinking I am crazy because I make them laugh and happy. My parents live abroad and I live here. I love pink and love to eat. I am chubby and kind and sweet in my heart..

    Tell me about you.

  9. Gizz 36
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    24 October 2019 in reply to MyLadyGirl
    Hi again mlg well I'm 36 single I work as a welder I like drawing I have my own house well a unit which im about to sell which i think has caused alot of stressed lately.moving in with my brother and my parent's are Irish and I didn't do too well in high school I think I have a self esteem issues really can't see myself having a happy future thanks for listening
  10. MyLadyGirl
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    25 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hello Gizz, it's nice meeting you. Simple and sweet introduction.

    I am in my 40s, Love gardening as I love to watch the flowers bloom. It's more of watching the plants that I grow healthy and it make me smiling. My parents are from abroad and it was difficult to leave them to a foreign country. Managed to survive on my own despite having an anxiety of wanting to go home cause missing them. Eventually started to realised that I need to do something for my self at once. So started to come to Australia to start a new life.

    When I first came here, I meet this Irish guy who was studying a Master. He was a nice person too.. So I assume you're an awesome person too. Please do not have low self esteem about yourself. I know there is so much wonders in you that will bring your confident back.

    As I said please don't be shy to say what you feel of saying as we are here to help you and I am a good listener.

  11. MyLadyGirl
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    25 October 2019
    Gizz, I hope age is a number for you as I hope you don't drift away.
  12. Gizz 36
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    53 posts
    26 October 2019

    Hi mlg I had a bad couple of months I started going to the gym yesterday and I felt great I had so much energy and had one of the best days at work in a long time didn't feel like everyone was judgeing me exercise really helps how r u hope ur well

  13. MyLadyGirl
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    26 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hello Gizz,

    Care to share what happen with you couple of months? (that is if you feel comfortable) Yes I remember when I was back home in my country I was chubby and I went to gym. Not much if weight lifting but more of a group on exercise work. I did Zumba and cycling. Zumba was tiring and exhausted because I was chubby. Love my cycling as it helps me to loose lots of weight. You are right, when we are in gym no one say things as we one to improve one physical body and shape. But even how much you go to the gym the feelings will always be there. So Gizz, share your feelings what's bothering you.

    As for me I went to doctor yesterday. Doctor said I am recovering. I went for a major operation 3 weeks ago. Hence I am unable to do much work (lifting and cooking). It's so sad that I am away from family and no one to help. But all is well. It's weekend, and I am with my video games. I play WoW classic. New at it but will get better.

    So what did you do today?

  14. Gizz 36
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    53 posts
    27 October 2019
    Hi mlg I'm sorry to hear how much u missed ur family it must be tough. I have my family here so I'm pretty lucky.but I don't really see them to much.its pretty hard to make new friends. I went to the gym but u r right didn't feel as good yesterday felt a bit depressed so I drank not to many thought just a couple just to feel better but I'm gonna rest from the gym today and go tomorrow I'll try a build my confidence up I feel that's the only way I can beat it .what's bothering me is that I see my friends that I grew up with are now married kids family etc and I'm alone and miserable no friends no girlfriend cause I feel like I'm being judged god there are some assholes out there.cool I used to play a lot of video games when I was a kid like super Nintendo Mario bros sonic street fighter. Man I miss my childhood,can video games help with problems thanks again for reply
  15. MyLadyGirl
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    27 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hello Gizz,

    Nope video games cannot solve any problems. It's just an entertainment only. I am board at home so I tried new things. Like you going to the gym, I play games and watch tv to ease my loneliness. Why don't you play game. I don't see why you can't as your limiting yourself.

    I really understand how you feel seeing your friends are married with kids and you are not. It feel like what is wrong with me. Why I can't have that happiness that they are having. You feel envy and jealous for them. When they invite you, you feel reluctant. My dear friend, you are a special person that you are not aware. Yes they may have a lovely life just as a picture but being in a relationship and in a married life have lots of problems and takes lots of compromise and understanding. It will take time for you to meet a wonderful girl that want to meet a nice guy. Do you know that there are women out there that just want man that are reliable and are seeking for an honest person. It's just that they don't open up because they are afraid like you. Scared of failure and being deceived.

    Let me tell you a secret about me. I am not married and I am in my 40s with no kids. Lonely. But I know that there is a man out there for me. Just they don't know where and how to find. So I wait hoping they open their eyes and look for me. In the meantime, I entertain myself for a coffee alone, movie alone and playing games.

    Have you tried joining dating side like POF or zook?

  16. Gizz 36
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    53 posts
    28 October 2019
    Hi mlg thank u again u to are a special caring person and I hope u find someone as for friends the ones I see on Facebook r my high school friends who r married and have kids. They turned their backs on me and ignored me,still wondering what I did wrong for them to turn into jerks.trust me I haven't had a real friend since I was 16.i had one who keeper in contact but he was doing his own thing at the time he made new friends.so I just keep working in a job I hated.had no friends or a girlfriend I've never had a girlfriend I'm 36 now I'm so unhappy I know I'm whinging but it's hard to fit in I had tried dating site but if I have no friends how will a girlfriend treat me u know I'll be judged I hope ur doing well ,I hope u go and see ur family soon hopefully 2020 will be a better year
  17. MyLadyGirl
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    28 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hello Gizz, I wish 2020 will be a good for you too. What I have learned in life that people come into our life for many reasons. One is to teach us and move on. Have you talked to your friend asking the reason why he is behaving like that? Maybe you need a closure with him. You should not put too much energy of your pass. Be happy for him. Be grateful that he has a family. Let it go. If not you will be sad and uneasy thinking of the pass and not moving forward. You are holding to a friend of your pass not wanting to move on. Eventually as time goes by you will have a friends that will be there.

    Who said you do not have friend? I am. Yah I don't drink not smoke but that does not mean we cannot be friend (that is if you want). I am here for you to talk about anything. I will support you as how and as much as I can. Well to tell you the truth I too no friends. My friends are back home busy with families. Here I have zero friends. I know how it is as it feels lonely and if you want to talk or hang around with a friend you don't have.

    I know some of the website is for dating and etc but there is some that just want to meet friends. There are some girls do not care a guy having friends. You should not just speculate. Some just want a friend or a loyalty guy. Just try. You might never know who you will try.

    Why do you hate your job? Do you have any preferences?

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  18. Gizz 36
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    53 posts
    29 October 2019
    Hi mlg it's been years since my so called friends turned on me I've been alone a long time know I had one of them who looked me up on Facebook but I rejected his request because I member this one time I rang him up and asked if he wanted to do something and go out and he said no I'm sick so I went out to the pub alone later on that night I saw him there with other friends so I didn't feel to good.thank you for being my friend I'll be ur friend aswell what country does ur family live in yeh dating site I'm a bit worried that dating sites are a scam hope u have a good day and chin up
  19. MyLadyGirl
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    29 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36
    I am sorry to hear that your friend were not being a nice person. Just forget him. You are too good for him. Friends will always be friends. They can be nice and meantime back-stab you. That's why true friends are hard to find and I know you will.. Well I am from Malaysia Indian ethic. If you don not try you would not know. Just try and see.. you can ask me if you are afraid off.
  20. Gizz 36
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    30 October 2019 in reply to MyLadyGirl
    I mlg how r u I woke up today and I was lying in bed for about an hour and the I said stuff it I need to get up and get out of the house.so I went to the gym this morning and had a work out 10 mins on the treadmill 5 min riding a bike and lifted weights I think overtime if I go to the gym and change my diet I'll feel better. I had a hard day yesterday at work I think it's the heat . I still feel worried right now but I think I need to talk to someone and go back on the tablets. But I feel being active is a positive step forward so how r u today I hope u start being more active and eat better it might change ur life.it might be hard at first but I heard it get easier as the day turn to weeks and then months and it just get better good luck
  21. MyLadyGirl
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    30 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hi Gizz,

    I am so glad that you crawled out from the bed and had a strong will power to go to the gym and do some work out. How are you feeling after the work out. Good? Yes I agree with you that having a good diet do makes you feel better. I have a diet too. I don't eat much meat more of a vege person and I eat my traditional food that is good for health. Morning i eat fruits. Sometime naughty bread with egg or with tuna.. How about you?

    Yes yesterday was a hard day as today too. So you said you are a welder. Are you working in the company or? I work in a child care. Loves my crazy babies kids. They make my day bring and on going. Yes they do drive me crazy sometime especially the new one. But that's what I choose and I have to like it no mater what.

  22. MyLadyGirl
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    30 October 2019
    So what do you want to talk about? Care to share
  23. Gizz 36
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    53 posts
    31 October 2019 in reply to MyLadyGirl
    Hi mlg I haven't got much to say I'm listening to meditation music videos on youtube.people in the comment section saying that they feel much better have u tried it I'm trying it now I feel ok today not the best but ok.im staying away from alcohol. Sometimes I felt alcohol was helping me but it just a band aid oh well gotta go to work soon hope u have a good day
  24. MyLadyGirl
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    31 October 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hello Gizz,

    How was your day today? What made you do meditation? Why meditation? What makes you happy?

    My day was so trying but went well. We had Halloween team today and most of the children wore their costume. Was funny. Some wore scary costume. I did not do anything.

  25. Gizz 36
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    53 posts
    1 November 2019
    Hi mlg I've tried meditation because every website that talks about depression or anxiety always say meditation is a good for depression so I thought why not so before I went to bed I put my headphones in and drifted off to sleep with soothing music so I don't know if it works but it doesn't hurt to try and went to the gym and had a small work out how r u
  26. MyLadyGirl
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    1 November 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Hello Gizz,

    I am glad that you are making your self calmer by doing meditation. How long have you been doing it? What other depression that you have besides the one that you told me.

    I have been good just that the weather has been too hot and I do not have air condition at home...

  27. Gizz 36
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    53 posts
    1 November 2019 in reply to MyLadyGirl
    Just started meditation 2 days I didn't know there was other depression but I think I have some type of social anxiety disorder seeing a shrink on the 28th to hopefully fix it Yeh it is hot I don't like working in it it suxs
  28. MyLadyGirl
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    2 November 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    How did you feel after meditation? Any progress?? Yes the weather pass two days have been hot.I hope all goes well with your shrink.. Do let me know the progression.

  29. Gizz 36
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    2 November 2019 in reply to MyLadyGirl
    Hi I don't know really how it's going but I'm still alone and still comparing my life to others maybe I should get off Facebook
  30. MyLadyGirl
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    2 November 2019 in reply to Gizz 36

    Gizz, you need to stop comparing yourself with the life of social media of facebook. You should thinks that people in facebook worked hard to get to the point where they are but they also feel alone and depress in their own way. They too are facing things life you do but they do not show..

    Can I ask you a question. you said you are alone. Have you tried doing something. Meaning you like to go to the gym, have you talked to anyone there. Meaning just talk to them about exercise like weight lifting?

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