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Topic: Meditation, Manifesting, Gratitude & The Law of Attraction

  1. ecomama
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    30 January 2021 in reply to CMF

    Hey CMF

    I wanted to revive this thread and ask how people are going with their 'Law of Attraction' work.

    HEY HOW'S IT ALL GOING?

    I'm finding UPBEAT music to be a great stimulus for getting moving and getting things done.... "raising vibrations" as it were.

    How do I visualise "less mozzies" lol! Oh yeah bought Mozzie coils... brb. Ok done lol.

    Things are going well here in all sectors really. Got alot done inside the house on my leave over Summer with the help of Blue's Clues' Minimalism thread, LOVE that.

    Still got a lot to do but we're getting there and that's something.

    We have a BIG School Reunion this year, we have them every year, but this one's a big one (we hope). I decided to have an After Party back here for specific friends and want to have lots of painting and other stuff done by then. Doing it all myself, planning to anyway.

    I decided to take some Long Service Leave around this time so I can do some snazzy things for myself beforehand. NOT Painting.

    Looking forward to things is a something my Counsellor and I found I needed to do.

    So that's a big thing.

    Is anyone else focussing on attracting what they want in their lives?

    Love EM

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    8 March 2021 in reply to ecomama
    Hi EM and all reading,

    Sorry for late reply, have been busy and distracted with other things of late.

    My vibration is low. My work colleague is lovely but can be very negative and moody. Weve6spomen of being positive, raising vibrations and letting go of things out of our control. I haven't been seeing as many repeated numbers as I was before all this so I'm def on a low. My goal this week is to change that.

    Ive5been in my new full time role for 7 weeks now, im so blessed. I've had a few big expenses but its ok, I'm working full time so the Universe is taking care of me. Im very grateful as I would have he them anyway. I've been quite anxious again so need to work on changing this and thinking positively

    Yep, I have a bit to do!

    CMF x
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    8 March 2021 in reply to CMF

    Hi CMF

    We're Blessed too by having you on the forums.

    Congratulations on your full time job!!
    WOW! Happy Days!

    I'm working FT too now. Hopefully can maintain this all year this time!
    I'm definitely enjoying the pay increase.
    Only had one fortnight's FT pay but wow I've used that to the hilt lol.

    I hear you about having a very negative person in close proximity at work.
    I moved my Office this year and am next to an extremely negative person. Today she didn't acknowledge any greetings of Hello or anything. Like a huge black storm cloud around her.

    SO I'm putting up "sunny" and positive quotes all over the place in my spaces lol.

    EYES ON THE PRIZE CMF.

    Onwards and UPwards!

    Love EM

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    9 March 2021 in reply to ecomama

    Hi EM and CMF

    Have to say you're both positively inspirational. You've definitely raised my vibe this morning. A big THANK YOU to you both.

    Have been focusing too much on what is lacking in my life lately, which is not an entirely bad thing until it starts to become the #1 focus and lower your vibe a little. You've woken me up to replacing the lacking, placing it somewhere else so that abundance can come in and take its place.

    Couldn't quite put my finger on what was causing my discontent up until recently. Decided to meditate on inspiration the other day, for an answer, when what came to mind was 'I can't live basically, a basic life. it's just not enough'. So the quest has become about reforming myself to live a life beyond basic. First thing I did was accept the challenge of signing up for a 2 day course at an amazing place called 'Mystical Dragon'. The course is about raising your vibe. I imagine you'd be able to relate to the fact that when your vibe is higher inspiration comes to mind more easily and the things we need to bring into our life become more obvious. When the vibe is higher the flow appears.

    I can relate to there being key people whose vibe impacts yours. For me, it's my husband. He's a wonderful caring supportive man but one of his goals in life is to live as simply as possible. I've been so accommodating in living simply that it seemed I'd lost my spark to some degree. It can be a lonely experience when your partner doesn't want to add ventures to the relationship or seek excitement. From my experience, you gotta create energy to be able to feel energetic. At 54, he puts his lack of energy down to simply 'getting old'. Me, I want to 'get young', hence the vibe raising quest. Again, I thank you both for your inspiration. You've changed my outlook dramatically. You're gifts to this world.

    You've inspired me to become more sensitive too. When the vibe's a little low at times I gotta learn to ask more

    • Am I sensitive to a challenge that's come about that I can't quite recognise?
    • Am I sensitive to a person who's influencing my energy?
    • Am I sensitive to the need for change?
    • Am I sensitive to the need to let go of an outdated idea or belief that doesn't serve me?

    The list goes on when it comes to what influences may be at play, what changes the way we feel life.

    My wish in this moment involves blessings for you both on your path, well deserved blessings/gifts from the Universe, in return for you both having gifted me a new perspective.

    :)

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  5. CMF
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    9 March 2021 in reply to therising
    Dear Therising,

    I've made my day.

    Thank you x
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  6. ecomama
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    9 March 2021 in reply to therising

    Dear therising, indeed you ARE! lol I think I've written that before to you, such a gentle generous soul.

    Thankyou.
    Thankyou for all those Blessings too!
    They must've included some more new bedding from Spotlight this afternoon lol, so THANK YOU!

    My work is broadly in the field of 'disabilities' and the whole 'deficit model' of thinking drives me nuts.
    Sure I have to analyse, test, score, measure and okay I'll do that BUT when I speak to the families and individuals I work with about HOW AWESOME THEY ARE, they shine!

    They smile! Sometimes they cry - alot.
    You can see love exuding from them, with a definite sense of relief, that I can see a whole lot more of than any "deficits".

    We all have 'deficits' (Lord I can't stand that word lol)... or things we'd like to improve!
    ALL
    OF
    US.

    But and it's a big butt here.... how's that going for us as individuals?..
    and in relationships?..
    and in families?..
    and the whole of society to ALWAYS focus on them. Eeeek. Awful.

    We can choose to get bogged down in everything that's "wrong" with us or in our relationship or wherever....

    OR drum roll...

    We can look at the most beautiful parts of ourselves and others.
    Our qualities, resources, anything that's wonderful.

    therising, why live a life even beyond basic when it can be purely abundant!

    A Brene Brown podcast I listened to on "Fear" was amazingly wonderful!
    It's helped me turn the last bits of fear on it's head (the C-PTSD has so little lingering now, I'm SO GRATEFUL!).
    Brene talks about....
    "Thanking fear for trying to protect me".
    I'm not really a perfectionist lol BUT if you are, thanking the perfectionism inside us for trying to encourage us to strive for better. IDK I'm still not a perfectionist lol!

    Then imagining and visualising all the elements of our dream life.
    As much as absolutely possible.
    Then acting as if it's ALREADY here.

    My bedding is lol, so I'll be unwrapping that after my Counselling session.

    Love and many Blessings to you too therising AND you CMF and all the wonderful peeps reading.

    EMxxxx

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    9 March 2021 in reply to ecomama

    Oooops sorry I forgot to write that the OPPOSITE to the deficit model is having a GROWTH MINDSET.

    Sunshine, rainbows and fairy floss. 🌈🥰😍🍀

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    9 March 2021 in reply to therising

    Oppps...I meant to say YOU"VE made my day.

    So i am trying to change my focus to being positive. I have a dental appointment which has been causing me some anxiety. It is in May however I am on a wait list if an earlier appt comes up. I was anxious all weekend and sort of wishing i could get in earlier to just get it over with. Well today they called and told me they have an opening for tomorrow! So tomorrow it is.

    Its been hard to find parking at work due to road works and last week so had to use 2 hour parking and keep moving the car which unsettles me. Today i just accepted that if that is the case so be it, it's out of my control. I got to work to find the road not closed off and was able to park all day. Bonus

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    9 March 2021 in reply to CMF

    Wow CMF, you got what you wanted!

    Thinking of you for the dentist tomorrow.

    Well done with the car spaces at work lol.

    Bringing miracle into your life with one change of mind.

    Love EM

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    Hi EM

    I will definitely practice meditating on abundance. There are so many areas of my life where I can practice. Now I realise how lucky I am to be able to say that, to say I am free to practice in many areas of my life.

    The fact that you work for other people's freedom to find the best in themselves and express that best in a world that does tend to focus on deficits makes the world a better place for having you in it. In spiritual terms, you'd be regarded as 'a light worker', a guide who brings about enlightenment, someone who sheds light on things and the truth for other people. You are the reason this world is not so dark. I've heard it said before that the life of a light worker can be filled with many challenges and much pain, things that are graduated through in order to find that light within. The more you graduate the more brilliant you become, to both your self and those around you.

    I imagine we will always face challenge of some nature, for we are always graduating in some way. The 2 typically go hand in hand. To graduate through focusing on abundance, through a clear vision of the path ahead, means graduating through the magic, while maintaining a degree of flexibility and faith in the universe (that it knows best).

    Okay, so, today I will begin practicing. I haven't practiced a lot in the past, when it comes to manifesting, but I do have a good imagination which I believe will serve me well in mastering this practice. I'm excited.

    Happy dreams to you in fresh linen :)

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    Hi therising, thank you! What a deeply complimentary post, I'm so humbled. Thankyou.

    I've been called lots of things in my life hahaha but lightworker is nice! lolol thankyou.
    I won't go into the white witch stuff I was pointed out as.. lol.
    I only told my BF the clear explicit truth about a thing that happens with me, that was pointed out by many other female family members... it's about dreaming. I've hinted from time to time but he got the whole truth this week and said he wondered why I kept telling him a dream I'd had and what I was going to do next. He still loves me! hahaha.

    I did a lot of "training" in yoga, chakras, dream works etc in my 20s.
    Also had amazing hypnotherapy which has been one of the best things I could've done way back then, it's benefitted me from then on.

    Moving on...

    I really found the Dr Joe Dispenza meditations perfect for manifesting.
    He has many of them free online too!
    Being taught how to access the quantum field of endless possibilities is incredibly freeing.

    I think the MORE ways you can be reminded of your dream life, the better things become.
    "Thoughts become things"...
    So I have a Dream Folder (not for dreams but for things and "being" stuff like happiness, love etc).
    Some ppl have a Dream BOARD. Pin photos of things they want up there, including feelings. Or draw them, apparently this is even more powerful if we draw or paint them. I LOVE watercolours for this.

    I think the whole concept can be challenged by our rational brain when we still have to clean up the dog poo lol and stuff like that (I actually compost ours haha!).
    When we do these things with LOVE and gratitude eg I love our baby boy poodle! The feelings overlay the chore element of it.

    That's why I found the whole "minimalising" efforts over Summer SO JOYFUL! It was hard darned work but wow... I kept hold of the "picture" of the finished rooms in my mind, still a huge work in progress in mine but loving the creative process too!
    You bet this place is getting lighter all the time.
    I even "smoked" our whole boundaries and every room when the kids were out with a number of Sage sticks, many indigenous cultures have smoking ceremonies.

    These are some of the milder processes we do lol.

    Abundance, sure! Why not!

    Onwards and UPwards!

    Love EM

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    Hi CMF

    Wow! I have visions of you saying to other's 'Okay, this is how it's done (manifesting)' and then you rub your hands together and wait for the magic to happen. Bamm, there's the early dental appointment. Bamm, there's the parking spot. I smile when I say I feel like Harry Potter in my 1st year at Hogwarts, under the tutelage of a master practitioners. I hope this image brings a smile to your face :)

    It's definitely hard to practice the magic in life without a guide, someone to say 'This is how and why this works and this is how and why that doesn't work'. For someone to help you make sense of the magic is so important, otherwise it can leave you feeling like you've lost your mojo, especially when you need it the most. I imagine you've had a lot of epiphanies throughout the course of you learning to tune into the magic of life. You know, things like 'That's why I can't work my magic! It's other people who are influencing it' or 'I can't feel the flow if all I'm feeling is 'down' (that vibe that disconnects us from the flow)'. It can definitely be hard not to feel that vibe known as 'down' when no one's helping raise us above it. From personal experience, raising your own self is one of the greatest challenges in life, especially if you're surrounded by saboteurs of different natures.

    As I mentioned to EM, being a 'lightworker' (someone who brings about light for others) is a challenge. When you're enlightening others on the path you are practicing, you'll encounter many challenges which both test and strengthen your abilities. You become not only a guide but an encouraging example to others. Easy to pass a test that's easy, much harder to test your commitment or faith in the powers that be when the challenge is enormous. You're still practicing the magic, which speaks volumes as to your nature.

    As you light the path ahead for both yourself and others, I wish you miraculous moments of magic and many epiphanies that come to raise your vibe in the most amazing of ways. Hoping that dental appointment served you well.

    :)

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    Hi EM

    Once my 18yo daughter and 15yo son clean their rooms (currently fire hazards), I will smudge the house:) Got a couple of sage sticks just sitting there. All 3 of us feel the vibe of the house is low and somewhat agitating. We actually want to move house but my husband's too comfortable here and isn't in agreement. It's easy to be a visionary, with a strong imagination regarding change, though far more challenging when not everyone shares the same vision. My kids are wonderful visionaries. I'm gifted to have them as an inspiration in my life. They're master motivators.

    Joe Dispenza is someone who has amazing enthusiasm, especially when it comes to the vision he has for others. Another who I love when it comes to his enthusiasm for the quantum field is Gregg Braden. The visionaries who have come before us make it much easier for us not to look so 'insane'. You could speak to someone about the magic of the quantum field and have them look at you like you're losing your mind but the second you mention Joe Dispenza's or Gregg Braden's education, experience and practices in this area, the blame for your insanity is put onto them, their influence. I imagine they'd be happy to take the 'blame' as long as your feeling the connection and joy of life.

    Minimalising and fully living in the moment is definitely something that's a challenge to practice. It's easy to become anxious when there is so much to do in the future, much harder to focus on the moment you're actually in. Simplifying is a skill that offers many gifts. Wondering if you've ever thought 'I began life thinking simply, going with the flow, being a visionary of sorts and focusing on the moment, so who the heck complicated this thing called life for me, somewhere along the way? Where are the skills I should have been taught?'

    You're BF is fortunate to have a gifted teacher in his life. I'm hoping he'll come to learn a lot from you, the more he opens his mind. I hope, at the very least, he is impressed by your natural abilities to connect with life in astonishing ways.

    Although I don't practice any set form of Yoga, I've found basic stretching practices to be effective in raising my energy levels to some degree. I don't realise how much tension I carry until I stretch and think 'Oooh, things are a little highly strung/tight there'. Releasing stored tension is impacting. Led me to wonder whether contortionists are pretty laid back people, mentally. I know, weird thought. I do tend to wonder a lot.

    :)

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    Here's a round about one. I started a new role at work in January. My colleague lives an hour away and it started off Well despite her wishing she coukd work from home. Well, over the last 8 weeks it's becoming not much fun. She has become negative, moody, wingeing all the time about not wanting to be there, wanting to work from home, how long it takes to get to work and back etc. She is so moody, esp at time of the month. It is really draining me, the negativity and wingeing. Its causing some anxiety as she has snapped at me a couple of times and I don't even want to ask her questions anymore. She was told this week she can WFH 2 or 3 days,of course she's chosen 3. I was a little angry at the fact that I'm still learning and now I'll be on my own 3 days a week. Today I realised that maybe it's a blessing in disguise. I've been on my own a few times and I've managed. I like working on my own and the fact she is really upsetting me lately means I won't have to put up with it much longer. I think the Universe may have done me a favour as She is becoming intolerable.
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    Hi CMF

    As the old saying goes 'Be careful what you wish for'. Sounds to me like you wished well - less time with her negativity and complaining. Now is your chance to wish again and again. Keep going. Wish and visualise your reality as many times as it takes to practice being in the flow. Practice makes perfect :)

    One of the things I love wishing for and visualising in my reality is a strong connection to inspiration. More often than not it comes, as long as I'm not vibing too low. I'm currently putting out a big call to inspiration in order to help make a positive difference to my mum. Her sister passed away a couple of days ago and she's trying to process not just her passing but also the challenging and highly questionable behaviour of some relatives that are giving my mum somewhat of a hard time. While these relatives can be absolutely lovely people, when they're not being lovely people they have a tendency to be closed minded and self serving. My aunt's passing has triggered my mum to really question a lot of the relationships in her life which has become a somewhat tormenting and angering process. Inspiration came to mind today so I phoned her to relay the message, 'You don't want other people's behaviour to lead you to a build up of mental and physical tension. Grab a couple of pillows and scream into them for as long as it takes to vent. Scream and cry as much as you feel you need to. At the end you may be feeling completely exhausted but instead of just thinking you're completely exhausted, imagine you're also completely relaxed. Focus on what completely relaxed feels like compared to completely tense'. Of course, while the pillow therapy won't solve the overall issues, it will help manage the tension that comes with those issues while she's trying to work them out. At 82 and being in poor health in some ways, she needs to consciously manage her blood pressure as best she can, under the circumstances. This is a challenging process but I know she'll make it through and come out a different person, someone who loves her self more. Something I often wish for is that my mum learns to love herself more. Sometimes we only learn through the seriously tough challenges. I'm determined to keep raising her through and beyond these challenges.

    With your new found freedom from workplace negativity on the horizon, what reality do you visualise next? What does inspiration suggest? Maybe a small celebration, to celebrate the master manifester, you.

    :)

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    Hi therising,


    'While these relatives can be absolutely lovely people, when they're not being lovely people they have a tendency to be closed minded and self serving.'

    This is like my work colleague!

    I can visualise myself in a quiet workspace where I am confident and just getting the work done. I feel light, clear headed a free. This is how I felt when I started the role, before her constant negativity and wingeing started to wear me down. I k we I was where I belonged, kept seeing recurring numbers. I don't see them much anymore and I'm doubting myself. I can see myself back on a happy space.

    Cmf x
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    Hi CMF

    You've inspired me. I'm going to speak to my mum about the importance of living how she wishes to feel. If she can't feel this with those people in her life, then the answer is clear when it comes to what she needs to do. You'd know what I mean when I say some people lead you to feel dreadful, full of dread, where you have to watch what you say. They're hard work when you're not agreeing with them. It's kind of like you have to act like the kind of person who pleases them, as opposed to being your natural self. Actually, I have a few of those people in my own life when I think about it. Again, you've inspired me, leading me to change my life in favour of a new more positive reality. Now, with a clear vision, I say bring on the challenge. I imagine it's going to be a ripper.

    Thanks :)

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    Hey CMF and therising

    Sounds like firm boundaries work is required.

    No way can you afford to let those negative ppl influence your thinking or saturate your lives.
    No way.

    I've said to that lovely lady whose been ughhhh awfully negative, "I can't afford that kind of thinking in my life... can we A B C (focus on the work goals)"
    It took about a week.
    I was consistent.
    She hasn't changed her personality lol, but she heard my Boundaries. (Probably because I repeated them over and over lol... down to the "Nup. Not going there right now. Can we.... goals").

    And the other half is I left little post it notes on her desk about some positive things I saw her doing and THANK YOU notes.

    It boiled over to other areas / ppl!
    My boss approached me on Friday and asked me what was going on lol!
    I didn't know... seems like the negativity was spewed to other ppl.
    NOT ME.
    yay!

    My eldest d, Alexa, is doing her Honours in psychology and has a really abusive NDIS client.
    Last week the client sent so many awful emails and texts... Alexa ignored them all.

    Did the Gray Rock & 180 strategies!
    No replies.
    Nada.

    Then client did a total 180.

    We TEACH people how we expect to be treated.
    If there's no respect then we have strategies at the ready to use. Esp if we have to live or work with them.

    CMF this is a TOTAL Blessing for you having 3 day's PEACE. Yay.
    I'd keep all email responses to the letter in regards to WORK in point form like 1. 2. 3. .
    Keep calls to a minimum.

    My kids gave me some KMart room fragrances for Chrissie and I took 2 in to work.
    Spraying those has LIFTED the energy in my office... I visualise it radiating OUT.

    therising I only share what I want to with IRL ppl.
    All my closest peeps are good to share quantum field stuff with.
    That's pretty mild for what else we've done here re: fertility of the soil etc and cycles of the planets etc.

    As Brene Brown says, c We're hardwired to care about what people think (about us) but the trick is to ONLY care about what SOME people think. The ppl who make this list are those who love us because of our vulnerability. These ppl have our backs but will pull us into line when we've gone wrong and say "that wasn't ok".

    All the others who try to knock you down are occupying the "cheap seats"... the haters.
    It's THOSE ppl we block out.

    ANYONE who is brave with their life and living in the "arena" are those who make the team.

    Boundaries.

    Love and many Blessings!
    EM

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    Hi EM

    You are so very inspirational :)

    There's another wonderfully inspiring person who is one of my 'go to' people, based on her enthusiasm and informative videos. Her name is Christina Lopes. She speaks of 'body language' of a unique kind. She inspires the need to learn the subtleties of what your feelings are telling you, so as to help tune into intuition. As she says - Work out what No feels like, work out what yes feels like and so on, as a form of guidance regarding the way forward. It's about learning to feel your way through life I suppose you could say, with your feelings as your compass. EM, I can feel your words speak to my soul, that deeper part of me. Whenever that deeper part of me pricks up her ears I get a chill. It's a beautiful feeling that not everyone has the ability to trigger in me. You could say it's about feeling the truth.

    It's taken a lot of years and self education to finally get a significant and liberating feel for life, in a way that strengthens that amazing natural part of us, the super natural self. Our super natural self feels a challenge, feels inspiration, feels a deep connection when it's there, feels the truth, feels a lie, feels degradation, feels pain for another and so on.

    It's kind of funny in way how your mindset changes when you begin to 'trust your feelings'. While years ago if someone was to degrade me I might THINK 'They're right, I'm a horrible person'. Nowadays, if someone degrades me, there are times when what comes to mind is 'I can literally FEEL what you're doing to me. You're bringing me down. Why is that?!' Thinking and feeling are 2 completely different experiences.

    EM and CMF, I feel so much inspiration here to the point where I'm now vibing on a whole new level.

    Thanks for raising me :)

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    Many blessings to you all this Tuesday

    Thought about your inspirational selves yesterday when something thoroughly amusing happened. My daughter and myself were in the car yesterday with my mum when we were explaining to my mum how much we love a particular car made by Kia, known as a Stinger. My daughter was trying to find photos on her phone which would do it justice but wasn't having great success. I wished we would actually see one driving along but wasn't keeping the faith that this would happen, as I'd never seen one on the road, only at a car dealership. About 5 minutes after making my wish and while being stuck in traffic, one actually pulled up beside us and slowly edged forward giving us the chance to have a really good look at it.

    As mentioned, I thought of you as I felt the Universe smile, reminding me to keep the faith. While a lot of people sadly like to use the phrase 'It's just coincidence', I'm one who loves to see the little miracles in coincidence and synchronicity. I figure, why not look for the magic in life.

    :)

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    16 March 2021 in reply to therising
    Hi therising and all friends reading,

    Reminds me of a few weeks back my little miss and I were chatting about car colours. I m mentioned id8never seen a Yaris is yellow or any other colour besides black, white, grey, red, silver and blue. I dropped her off st school and on my way out saw a yellow Yaris and another on the way to work. I see them often now, yet I had never seen one before that morning.

    Have a wonderful day. Raise those vibes!

    Cmf x
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    Hey therising, those are such beautiful things to say & FEEL, awww. Hugs. 💚🧡💜

    We come to new levels in various ways ofcourse, the way doesn't really matter (ugh not meaning to offend anyone bec it DOES matter at the time but then it doesn't lol) but the levels & destinations are important to focus on. Don't limit yourself.

    I also get a physical reaction, goosebumps, when I hear soul penetrating truth. High five sister! ✋😆

    You said 'learning to trust your gut'.... it's more "remembering" to trust your gut instincts.
    I get a bit deep here (surprise surprise 🤨).
    We are mammals.
    Animals have excellent instincts & follow them. (Discounting those who've been abused same as humans).
    Ever remember seeing a usually happy, friendly dog react angrily to a person & we later find out they're a bad person? Tha dawg was right on!

    We have the same gut instincts. We are mammals after all.

    What we do is ignore them! And suffer the consequences

    Even in that Course I did for women escaping dv, which was Govt approved, had a huge theme & the priority point was for women to follow their gut instincts. Amazing!
    Remember them peeps!! 😀

    IDK how I feel about this therising, bit sad awww..
    "...if someone was to degrade me I might THINK 'They're right, I'm a horrible person'. Nowadays, if someone degrades me, there are times when what comes to mind is 'I can literally FEEL what you're doing to me. You're bringing me down. Why is that?!' Thinking and feeling are 2 completely different experiences."

    Perhaps once we master enough knowledge to KNOW that when person 2 is degrading person 1, it's p1's shyte, NOT ours, then it's easy to flick it. (I find usually it's in attempts to bring us down to their level ewww).
    I never spend time any more trying to work out WHY others are bitty lol. (Unless I have to oppose them in Court ofcourse lol).

    Gut says NO.

    Boundary UP.

    Move on. Happily.

    Your points about "Thinking and feeling".... hmm.
    They're beautifully connected within this one organism being YOU!
    And me and each other person.

    They create a 'feedback loop'. (Research is showing this, esp in the work of Dr Joe Dispenza).

    Bringing them into line with each other creates this feeling of 'total freedom'.

    Talk about RISING therising .... having this feedback loop occur with clean thoughts purely following our instincts... well what can I say!

    I can say this took me ages to write bec I was watching this AWESOME make-up tutorial lol.
    Fanceee.

    Love ya awesome lady,
    EM

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    Hi EM

    You got me really thinking about that feedback loop. I suppose it's kinda like a 'feel, question, answer, feel, question, answer' loop in a way, a feeling and mental processing loop. How we use the loop is dependent on what we've been taught or what we've learned. Two very different scenarios:

    • Someone who's been conditioned to think poorly of themself will feel degradation, with this feeling leading them to question whether what the abuser says is true, possibly answer with 'They're right, I am stupid', feel more down and will degrade themself further, question the point of their existence and mentally process their 'truth' with the answer being 'There is no point to me being in this world'. So incredibly sad and heartbreaking
    • Someone who's managed to reform themself out of destructive conditioning will feel degradation, question why the other person is degrading them, possibly answer with 'That person is thoughtless and manipulative', perhaps feel the need to question why that person possesses that nature and then feel positively charged through having had some epiphany/answer and having walked away without a (psychological) scratch

    Agree, there are times where I don't even question a person's nature, I just feel what they're doing and think 'Oh no, I'm not going there to the place of deeper contemplation. There's no point in wasting my time on you dude!'

    I've said to my kids on occasion - When someone is leading you to feel down about your self, be careful when playing 'follow the leader'. Be conscious of your own leading question, often an intuitive question, 'Why is that person being so mean?' Whether we're someone with high self esteem or low, this will often be the 1st question that comes to mind and it's a good/valid one. It's a 'fork in the road' question, leading us in one direction or another. The ultimate challenge is to choose wisely. It's sad when a person's upbringing/conditioning leaves them with no sense of choice, when conditioning has always led them to question themself and not the abuser.

    Meditating on and manifesting inspiration is one of the most beautiful forms of 'Follow the leader', from my experience. Inspiration always leads me in the best direction, sometimes to heaven on earth. Meditating on the words and actions of cruel or thoughtless people can be like hell on earth. We've all been there, in one way or another.

    Sending loving vibes while you travel your liberating path of personal evolution (the path of self love)

    :)

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    Hey therising

    Your "spectrum" you described is one way of putting it that makes sense to you. I chuckled a little as I also try to articulate thoughts and processes in ways I understand with a focus of teaching my kids stuff too.

    I used to be more of a 'validating' and observational parent. Basically that and some teaching too ofcourse lol.
    Now I'm a "my gut instinct is telling me NO for some reason, I don't think you should do that BUT if you want to, then we can wait and see" parent... seriously EVER-Y time I've 'measured' this... 100% correct - thanks gut instincts!

    Sometimes when my gut instincts are to push the kids OUT of a situation... it may call for boundaries to be explained and give them examples of how to do this (at school at work or in friendships) AND / OR just keep saying "Jump into the abyss! My instincts are telling me you'll soar!" and they do.

    So I think your spectrum have those and all sorts of variables in between and more but impossible to articulate in one tiddly post! lol.

    We need to check in and see AND feel how our own feedback loop is travelling.
    Like monitor the 'health' or 'success' of it.

    My daughter's instincts are so more attuned than mine. Very quick. Spot on.
    My son's are more like mine which is fine, they're young so it's all good.

    "..there are times where I don't even question a person's nature..."
    perhaps when an individual is in an outer circle OR when we just "know" OR when we can identify their M.O. - this is good.

    More harm is done when they're very "close" to us ie the abuser in a marriage, abusive direct supervisor at work, narc psych etc.
    Can we pick 'em?

    Bec of FOO, I couldn't for many years.
    My gut instincts were confused by the abusers. (Apparently our confusion is the first gut instinct that something's not right).

    You can see my main work, initially, has been detangling from abusers / abuse.
    I needed to Study all sorts of disorders (narcs, sociopaths, psychopaths) to understand this person, mainly to fight them in Courts and win.
    It took A LOT of study.
    Awful but immensely beneficial.

    Once you "know" them, you know.
    Then you can identify more quickly and take action to exit lol.

    Just my ramblings since it's not all always straight forward.

    Love EM


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    Hello dear friends,

    Those that know me know that my partner and his sis live together and although she is lovely, she does my head in. We have no privacy, she interrupts and everything is about her. I've been wishing for a while thst she'd go away, not be there every time I go over. Well, the last 3 times I've been there she hasn't been there. Wow, it's so good. M and I can chat. We've watched the footy. I feel like a couple. The Universe has responded to ehst I want. I hope it continues 🙂
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    Hi CMF

    Gee you're a legend. I wish I could remember to practice manifesting as much as you do. Wondering how you got into the habit of remembering to do this. What prompts did you use? Maybe I need to put bright sticky notes all 'round the house. I find I'm kinda on auto pilot in life to some degree. I'm lucky my kids are there to wake me up as much as they do. I suppose this is one of the benefits of raising them to be their soulful, adventurous, imaginative natural selves. We keep each other 'awake' through life to some degree.

    So, how to form the habit of manifesting. Any tips? The more the merrier.

    Continue to enjoy quality time with your partner. I imagine he's come to realise he's been missing out on spending one on one time with true magnificence.

    :)

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    Hi Therising,

    What great question. You know, I don't consciously practice manifesting all the time. I Just wish for things and picture them ie, when I'm frustrated with my partners sis being around i wish that she wasn't. When i feel that negativity i picture us without her being there and make it a positive thought. I guess that's where the manifesting begins. Catch the negative thought and turn it into a positive about what you want. My v work colleague us negative
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    Hey CMF and therising,

    CMF I love your new quotation on your name thingy. Nice!

    IDK too about keeping our visualisations present in our minds...I guess we run the danger of NOT enjoying the moment too?

    My dream folder is a great reminder.
    But over many years, I've written or printed out quotes or photos and put them up in places I would see most often. A bit like that guy on The Secret who put a $1 000 000 cheque on the ceiling above his bed so he saw it the MOMENT he woke up every day.
    (He got there btw too lol).

    My fave place is behind the loo door lol.
    Atm it has the 2021 Astrological Calendar with lots of stuff to read on it.

    I kept alot of positive statements on the loo door during the Court era and the best Full Restoration Prayer. Getting there...

    Love to you all
    EM

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    Hi CMF and EM

    Thanks for the tips. In both cases you have conscious prompts. A negative thought is a prompt and a visual cue is a prompt. It makes sense as to why I don't remember to practice manifesting; there are no obvious prompts in my life for me to remember to practice.

    It's amazing how you can be helping to manage the lives of everyone around you on a daily basis but forget to manage your own self in a way that serves you best. At 50, this is the first time in my life where I've experienced a degree of sickening anxiety. It's only happened on a couple of occasions lately but it really impacted me. I feel the Universe is kinda saying to me 'It's time you got your poop together girl! Start managing differently!!!' You know what it's like, you start to feel a little stressed and overwhelmed when it comes to all the things and people you gotta contribute to managing so you start putting some things off so as to fit other things in. Then the deadlines for the things you've put off start getting nearer and then, bamm, your mind and body go into states of super hyperactivity and not of the good kind. Anyhow...

    Again, thanks for the prompts. I'm already starting to visualise what is going to manifest...the people around me are going to become more self sufficient. I can already see it happening. Actually, I can also see them beginning to serve me more. Magic :)

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    Hey therising

    I really love the way you SAW those 2 responses very differently and compartmentalised them so efficiently!

    You are one SMART cookie!

    If you're talking about "anxiety" then I can only guess and HOPE that visualisation would help that too...

    BUT there are specific things for anxiety, including:
    ~ SELF-care
    ~ SELF compassion
    ~ true empathy for yourSELF and so many other things.

    I LOVE the prompt of "catching" a negative thought and turning it around.
    I'm going to try it but I think I do that already... I'll see lol.
    I'm pretty sure I don't 100% when an event occurs that takes me by surprise.

    The wonderful things about being TAKEN by surprise is that I must not have been anxious to venture into the world and then get that shock.

    But I was diagnosed with C-PTSD and have done oceans of work on that specific type of anxiety.

    Bestest wishes
    EM

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