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Topic: Mindfulness: What Is It? (Even if you dont know please post so we can help grow the forums accordingly)

  1. Missing user
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    6 March 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Thanks Paul for the explanation, seems pretty easy to do mindfulness sometimes, huh? I'm going to try and do more of it.

    I agree with your words, thanks again. And thanks to everyone on this thread and the thread itself.

    Tayla

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  2. Missing user
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    7 March 2020

    Today my mindfulness was:

    • Admiring the arts and crafts at the art show where I live. I admired how long it all must've taken people, tried to take my own interpretations from it, admired the colours, frames, everything about every piece of art and craft. I love those events and stuff like that.
    • My daily walks as I always mention - looking at my surroundings, taking in the nice smell of the fresh air, Eucalyptus trees, etc etc.

    Tayla

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    12 March 2020 in reply to Missing user
    just saying hi to all. I hope you're enjoying some mindfulness today, if you feel it helps... thanks for all the suggestions.
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    12 March 2020 in reply to Missing user

    Hi everyone!

    Hey Tayla.....Thankyou for your kind post! I wrote this thread topic ages ago as I didnt really understand what mindfulness actually meant..and when I 'overthink' mindfulness can be difficult for me to do...yet you have a good grasp of it from your post above :-)

    Hey Sleepy....your post is just as valued as mine or anyone else's and thankyou for the peaceful vibes too :-) I do hope you can stick around the forums and continue to share your helpful thoughts...Great post !

    Happy Friday :-)

    my kind thoughts

    Paul

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  5. Missing user
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    13 March 2020

    Hi all.

    Thank for the kind words again Sleepy and Paul, I appreciate it and it means a lot.

    Take care everyone.

    Tayla

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    13 March 2020 in reply to Missing user

    Hi Everyone,

    It is always rewarding and encouraging reading people's posts here and elsewhere on the forum.

    Today I went for a walk in an area I have not walked before. On returning home I looked at the photos I had taken while on the walk and some of the views I did not recall having seen!

    Part of me thinks if I had been more mindful of my surroundings and the environment when walking I would not have been wondering what on earth the phots were of.

    Then part of me realised I was feeling stressed out and anxious about even going on that walk, so achieving the distance I walked is something to celebrate.

    There may be times when I really have to concentrate on being mindful to achieve it.

    Next time I am walking I will try to be more observant and grounded and in the moment. If that doesn't work for me, I will try to be mindful for a few moments at home to practise the sensation.

    Cheers all from Doolhof.

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    9 April 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hiya Pauly and everyone ☺

    " mindfulness strengthens the good parts of your brain and helps calm the parts that stress you out"

    I was looking at some notes looking for what I didn't find 😆 but on the same subject I stumbled onto a good interpretation of mindfulness as above.

    Not sure who wrote it. Possibly on this thread.

    Hope you and everyones going as well as can be ☺

    Take care everyone 🌴

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    9 April 2020 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Everyone! New members are always welcome to post too :-)

    Hey Dools.....Thankyou for your valued input especially in these very difficult times....Your are spot on where grounding ourselves is concerned....Its only my own humble opinion that 'grounding ourselves' is more helpful than 'mindfulness' at this time....(Unless a health professional can advise otherwise of course !)

    Hey DB!....Its always a treat to have you help out on the forums and thankyou!

    Demonblaster mentioned a great point.."mindfulness strengthens the good parts of your brain and helps calm the parts that stress you out".....This is a 'keeper' and great post

    my kind thoughts and appreciation

    Paul

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    13 April 2020

    Hi guys,

    Great thread and great question!

    To me, mindfulness feels is just 'being' and accepting everything as it is. It's like accessing your 'flow-state' - and by that I mean a point where you're feeling, not analytically thinking. For me, it feels like being on auto-pilot.

    This state can be achieved in a variety of ways. It could be meditating, breathing deeply, closing your eyes and sun gazing, surfing, running, hugging a partner or family member, listening to music, reading a book, or any number of ways that make you feel present with yourself and whatever it is that you're doing.

    Nico

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    13 April 2020 in reply to Nico B

    Hi Nico B

    Thankyou for your super kind & helpful post :-)

    Nico B mentioned 'For me, it feels like being on auto-pilot'.....I love this Nico B as mindfulness is exactly that....Being able to function without having to deal with the 'interference' of our negative thoughts

    I wrote this post ages ago yet I still have difficulty understanding 'mindfulness'

    Great post and thanks again for being a part of the discussion Nico B!

    my kind thoughts

    Paul

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    13 April 2020 in reply to Nico B

    Note: Any health professionals are welcome to help out on the advantages of 'mindfulness' in the difficult period we are going through!

    The more help the better

    my kind thoughts

    Paul

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  12. Gambit87
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    I've been using mindfullness alot to help me get through the days when I really feel the cabin fever.

    I also tell myself that im helping by doing my part to flatten the curve.

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    14 April 2020 in reply to Gambit87

    greetings all.

    Gambit, I am glad mindfulness works for you. I try to concentrate on doing one thing at a time so I don't get overwhelmed by overthinking everything.

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    15 April 2020 in reply to Gambit87

    Hi everyone....New members are always welcome to post too :-)

    Hey Gambit....Thankyou for the helpful post! Its always a bonus to read your valued input...Can I ask how you have been using 'Mindfulness' during this difficult time? Any examples are welcome!

    Hey Quirky...Thankyou again for sharing your life experience when you mentioned "I try to concentrate on doing one thing at a time so I don't get overwhelmed by overthinking everything" I also keep trying to do the same!

    If anyone finds 'Grounding Ourselves' more effective than 'mindfulness' please let us know :-)

    Of course health professionals are encouraged to provide some support too!

    Take care....Paul

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  15. zguenzl
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    16 April 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hi blondguy & everyone,

    I practice mindfulness by using the SmilingMind app (guided meditations that are a good length so that you can centre yourself without getting fidgety), by appreciating the good things in every day (no matter how small), and making an effort to accept what is out of my control.

    Interested to hear how other people practice mindfulness.

    Thanks all!

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    16 April 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hello Paul and everyone..🤗.

    Thats an interesting question..

    For me if I’m over the top with anxiety I can’t be still enough to try to do mindfulness...

    My mind is to chatty, my muscles are very tense, my body doesn’t want to be still...I need to ground myself first, to slow down my thoughts and body, and to relax my muscles to a certain degree of calm before I can even think of doing mindfulness...

    Kind thoughts, love and hugs 🦋💜🤗..everyone..

    Grandy..

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    16 April 2020 in reply to zguenzl

    Hello zguenzl,

    Your mention of apps reminded me of one I found recently that's been a lifesaver for me! It's called "Stop, Breathe & Think: Meditation & Mindfulness". Apart from daily check-ins, it also recommends you exercises ranging from grounding to dealing with change. I've found it very useful, especially when the anxious tension gets too much.

    Cheers,
    Emmen

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    17 April 2020 in reply to Emmen

    Emmen,

    I am not that good at downloading apps but Stop, Breathe, & Think, Meditiation & Mindulness. seems like a great title and useful app.

    I don't know where you find some apps as I cant seem to find them.

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    17 April 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Hello quirkywords,

    Just navigate to Google Play and the Apple App Store and search for it there. I got it from Google Play. Alternatively, do a web search for "Stop, Breathe & Think" and you'll get to their website. There are links there to the app on Google Play and Apple App Store.

    Hope this helps!

    Cheers,
    Emmen

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    17 April 2020 in reply to blondguy


    Hey Gambit....Thankyou for the helpful post! Its always a bonus to read your valued input...Can I ask how you have been using 'Mindfulness' during this difficult time? Any examples are welcome!

    Hi Paul and everyone!

    I sometimes use the smiling mind 'walking' meditation when im walking to get a coffee in the mornings, or I focus focus on the things around me (sights/sounds/smells/the feeling of walking) etc

    I've had to setup a small office in my spare room so i can work from home. Sometimes I feel isolated so I focus on what I can see and hear outside.

    I make sure I close my laptop at the end of the work day, leave the room and close the door behind me. I say to myself work is done for the day - its me time now. I usually go for my normal walk along the river. Again focusing on what I can see/hear/smell/touch around me.

    saying to myself '1 day closer to the end of isolation/quarantine'

    It all helps :)

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    17 April 2020 in reply to zguenzl

    Hi everyone and thankyou for being a part of the 'mindfulness' discussion :-)

    Hey zguenzl...great to have your input on the forums! You mentioned "I practice mindfulness by using the SmilingMind app"...Thankyou for helping out

    Hey Grandy....always a bonus to read your life experience and thankyou!

    Grandy mentioned "My mind is too chatty, my muscles are very tense, my body doesn’t want to be still...I need to ground myself first" Ditto here Grandy.....I find 'Mindfulness' helpful yet being old fashioned I also prefer to ground myself....especially in this difficult period we are going through

    Hey Emmen.....Thankyou so much for helping out with your helpful post!

    Emmen mentioned a helpful app "Stop, Breathe & Think: Meditation & Mindfulness" Nice1 Emmen :-)

    Hey Quirky...what can I say? You are a 'rock' on the forums with sharing your wisdom and life experience..Your ongoing support on the 'Coping with the coronavirus' thread is wonderful to read :-)

    Hey Gambit....You are a serious legend on the forums and thankyou for your post above mentioning "I sometimes use the smiling mind 'walking' meditation" and....

    Gambit also mentioned "I make sure I close my laptop at the end of the work day, leave the room and close the door behind me. I say to myself work is done for the day - its me time now" This is an excellent tip Gambit...I have been doing exactly the same since I joined Beyond Blue in 2016.....Great post!

    Be well nice people!....Paul

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    18 April 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hi Paul and everyone who has contributed to this particular thread, I've found this site and I'm sure many of you have looked at it 'positivepsychology.com › Mindfulness'

    To be 'Mindful' of a situation may not be consistent and change from each particular circumstance and from one person to another, such as you can do something for this situation but it won't work for another time and that's what we find to be frustrating because there maybe no comparison or similarity.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

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    20 April 2020 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff and everyone!

    I appreciate you mentioning 'positive psychology' as this is a subject that some private schools in Victoria are now including in their curriculum. I am happy that Beyond Blue have avoided mentioning 'mindfulness' in the 'Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak' thread topic as it wouldnt be helpful to new members during this difficult period

    Thankyou for your input especially during this difficult time Geoff

    Stay well

    Paul

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    Hi Paul and everyone I was wondering if anyone is familar with the smiling faces app.My daughter was given this app to download on her phone to try by her psychologist.

    Mark.

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    Sorry that app was meant to be smiling minds not smiling faces.
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    Is anyone else struggling with mindful meditation at the moment? I had gotten to a stage last year where I could easily lay down, put on a guided meditation and really just clear my head of all crazy thoughts. I don’t think that I have been able to successfully meditate once in the past few months. I purchased a lavender scented eye pillow to use when I meditate and that does help to calm me a bit but I am still not able to meditate like I used to.
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    Hi everyone

    Mindfulness to me is stilling the mind. Being in the present moment.

    Even for a moment.

    I have had quite a lot of meditation input and some of the lovely ways to draw my mind to a focus point is to focus on a flower in a small vase or a candle. At the moment I have a BEAUTIFUL big moon shining above a mountain and reflecting light across the water. I could stare at the moon for seconds! lol. Repeatedly :-)

    Things that help me during mindfulness moments or meditation are:
    * open the back door of my mind to let the scrambling monkeys out and 'watch' them scrambling away - to let the monkeys in my mind escape. It brings me a chuckle but they happily leave, cheeky monkeys.
    * hear sounds and know they are distant. Sense any other things and allow them to 'be'.
    * attend to thoughts and know you command them. Tell them to sit and wait.
    * putting a pleasant scent on my temples eg lavender to signal a change in mind space.
    I choose different strategies depending upon my mood.

    I know the more I have on my plate, the more I need these practises in my day. A monk once taught us to mindfully wash dishes! It's a pity I haven't transferred that habit to the rest of the housework lol. ;-)

    EM

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    9 May 2020 in reply to ecomama

    Thanks ecomama for your list of mindfulness moments,

    I think the trick is to try to find a way that suits you.

    In this thread people have given examples.

    I find that knitting now, just simple, helps me to concentrate and remain calm.

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    10 May 2020 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi everyone...New members are always welcome!

    Hey Matchy (Mark)... Thanks for your helpful post...The 'Smiling Minds' app is good value when we are seeking some peace of mind for sure...The app does deliver when we use it frequently

    Hey fred4761...Always great to have your input on the forums!....To answer your question..yes this is an unprecedented time to find mindful meditation for sure...The lavender scented pillow is an excellent idea to help us find some peace of mind....During the Covid19 period some of our usual coping mechanisms may not have the same 'grounding affect' as we used to experience..(just my humble opinion from my symptoms) yet every coping technique is a good one! I dont see any crazy thoughts fred...You have a wonderful focus :-)

    Hey ecomama...Thankyou for sharing your experience on the forums....The more help and lived experience we have on the forums the better we will be! You mentioned "attend to thoughts and know you command them. Tell them to sit and wait" You also mentioned 'Lavender' like fred4761 did....I may have to adjust my mindset!

    Hey Quirky...always appreciate your life experience where ever you post on the forums....You mentioned......... "I think the trick is to try to find a way that suits you" (where being mindful is concerned)...Thankyou Quirky!

    amazing people.....thankyou x

    Paul

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    11 May 2020 in reply to Just Sara

    From 2017, same thread...

    Just Sara said:

    Great thread Paul!

    I don't think I need to add to Star's words as she's summed things up well, I'd like to say one thing to Penelope though; kids are more grounding than any other thing or activity!

    Though, one can be 'too' grounded. This is for Dottie and anyone who suffers with depression. That's the 'heavy' feeling that drags around with us throughout the day. We feel depleted of energy/motivation and movement is exhausting. Everything's an effort!

    With anxiety, we're 'up in the air' in our heads and somewhat detached from our bodies. Grounding brings us back to earth so we acknowledge our physical environment. Has anyone driven a car a few blocks without registering they've been driving? That's mindlessness as opposed to mindfulness!!! Ha ha (Thanks Paul...good one)

    So, depression causes heaviness, and anxiety causes light headedness. Getting to the middle ground seems pertinent for both yeah? If you think about it, anxiety is a way to escape situations, and depression is feeling trapped in circumstances.

    In other words, carrying around a heavy burden on our shoulders without knowing how to escape, (or give it back to the person it belongs to) is one way of looking at depression.

    Anxiety is not facing what frightens us for fear of uncontrollable repercussions; constantly running away out of physical harm's way.

    In summary? Depression and anxiety respond to very different forms of mindfulness. In fact, being individualised is best practice. If you think of what makes you feel lighter Dottie, and what gives me a sense of connection to my environment, it's opposite ends of the same pole. Not running away, and not being held down by our fears/beliefs.

    I'd really like to hear what people think about this. It's my own theory, so please be kind.

    Sara x

    This is one of the best descriptions of anxiety & depression I've ever seen. Also what helps both. Thankyou Sara xxxx.

    This most especially "Anxiety is not facing what frightens us for fear of uncontrollable repercussions; constantly running away out of physical harm's way." I relate to this exactly atm. I want to add it's not only physical harm's way. If we have experienced trauma with a person and are confronted with having to have any contact with said person, then harm we may be anxious to avoid is emotional and psychological too. "mindfulness of..acknowledging our physical environment" no wonder gardening is something I 'practice' a lot.
    EM

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