Welcome to the forums (again) and I hope you find this space safe and supportive.
I see you've found the Staying Well section and hope you can get alot out of those!
So what's going on?
Is it this in a nutshell?
- you finished school (BIG one)
- your first love and you broke up (another BIG one)
- you hope to get into Uni (yep BIG one)
- you're feeling a bit "low" (sorry to hear but logical considering)
- you could be moving to go to Uni (HUGE too).
You sound like a really kind and considerate young man. Clearly with that and the other opportunities just burgeoning on the horizon you have a LOT going for you too.
I'm so glad to hear you have some friends you can hand out with!
Tbh I think it's normal that you feel lonely and a bit low from time to time with what's happened and what's about to happen (we hope ie Uni).
I mentioned that I have LOTS of 18yo sons lol and they're gorgeous and going through alot of what you describe. They're only in Year 11 atm so the rest is yet to come.
Still that doesn't make ME an expert in being an 18yo boy!
TBH I think it's a really difficult time in this Historical moment for boys (and girls) your age. So much has changed just in my life time around the "societal expectations" of young people, differently for each gender.
I know FOR SURE that Social Media is a HUGE negative contributing to the "always happy and incredibly beautiful" image.
It's not real we know that. I hope you do too.
If you have Netflix then you may benefit from watching Brene Brown's "The Call to Courage".
She's a researcher and found (much to her dismay and sending her to a therapist herself lol for 8y) that you acknowledge your own vulnerability to have courage. The 2 are inseparable. You need one to have the other.
Boys / men are STILL expected "to be brave" 24/7. Either within themselves bec of society or just bec of society. It's not right nor fair. Not even human lol.
Have a watch, you might like the story of the young man who told his gf that he loved her BECAUSE of Brene Brown's work and was dumped on the spot!
Breakups? well I have LOTS of experience there!
It stinks lol.
Nurse your heart.
Guard your heart.
Do fun things.
We'll be here throughout your journey.
Hope you can pop back to your thread and let us know how you're going!
I'm looking forward to hearing about it.