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Topic: Resilience

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  1. white knight
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    27 December 2020
    We shouldn't allow mental health issues to fool us. During psychotic episodes or deep depression, we believe there is no hope, no other direction other than- downhill. Perhaps it's more an absence of hope and any feeling of recovery that is the core of the problem?

    Time is my answer. Even with the absence of hope, time seems to be the answer. Time allows us to regroup, get things into a better perspective not to mention the mind returning to some level of normality.

    My ritual is to visit a park. My lovely wife knows this and also knows I'll be safe. I watch, keen focus on my surrounds, my mini foxy frolicking in the bushes, nose penetrating to seek out the smells. A wedgetail twitching her tail, magpie songs pierce the silence and chase that crow away.

    It rains, soon the gum tree weeps like we all do, people begin to run for shelter, I wonder why umbrellas are less popular now? Orchards droop in the breeze and an old man digs in the community before garden, rain to him is irrelevant.

    I walk, a stranger smiled at me, gives me hope. A toddler runs away from her mother...toward a road, I stop him, mum grateful, I'm feeling better. An elderly neighbour widowed for 15 years prunes her cherished red roses, I ask her for one, she cuts it and she asks who's it for? Then I give it to her.

    I return to the home I just built. I'm kick started. We enjoy a coffee, talk about my 45 minute park visit, all that beauty...then return to my shed. I realised our chat didn't include my depressive period, the reason for my walk.

    Resilience through the use of time and distraction. Life is amazing, much more amazing than 2 hours ago...

    TonyWK
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  2. Missing user
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    28 December 2020 in reply to white knight
    What a nice thread, thank you Tony
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  3. Mishmo
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    29 December 2020 in reply to white knight
    Love it <3 />
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  4. Gambit87
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    29 December 2020

    Great thread!

    couldnt agree more.

    Getting out and about - especially to a park or garden really helps with my depression too.

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  5. white knight
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    29 December 2020 in reply to Gambit87
    Thankyou for your replies.

    I have to say that getting a dog 9 years ago has been a very good move.

    TonyWK
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  6. Jstar49
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    29 December 2020

    Tony,

    What a lovely walk to the park I had with you! thankyou for sharing.

    And how beautiful to give your rose to the lady who cut it for you, she would have enjoyed that.

    It's so good when we can give back to others isn't it!

    Thankyou for your beautiful thoughts and words,

    J*

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