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Forums / Staying well / Self Help

Topic: Self Help

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  1. honeybean
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    9 posts
    8 April 2015

    Hi all, im pretty new to the forum and wanting some recommendations on what helps you with your depression. Although I have struggled with low self esteem and sadness throughout my life it is only recent (last 8 months) that I have been diagnosed with depression via my doctor. I am on a new medication that seems to be working without bad side effects, although early days and will now be having psychology sessions as only meds scenario didn't work. 

    In the meantime I have found a book on the net called "Mind over Mood" which is CBT (did I get that right?) but was wondering if there is something else that has helped you. Specifically how to get rid of the all intrusive negative thoughts.

    Thanx in advance

    Honeybean  

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  2. white knight
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    9 April 2015 in reply to honeybean

    Good on you Honeybean. We dont often get a member that has taken the correct course towards their recovery eg GP, Therapy, meds and asking for further advice.

    Yes, meds alone like any other action ALONE, likely wont work. Other ingredients in the cake mix towards recovery are- re-evaluating aspects of your daily life like relationships (esp getting rid of toxic people from your life), relaxations, calming background music, seeking financial stability leading to part time work above full time, a move to the country, etc

    CBT, Cognitive behavioural therapy. I went through that process once but it didnt do much for me. It does however do a lot for many sufferers. I found that I need to seek several therapy sessions every couple of years to bring me back on the right line of thinking. Anything that you find helpful is good. Cognitive therapy for me was to try to catch up on the social abilities I didnt adopt in my teens, wisdom if you like. My emotions were sky high and erratic. Eventually I was diagnosed with bipolar 2, dysthymia, anxiety and depression. Aging also helped. I'm 59yo now.

    I also tried 12 types of meds over many years and just as I wanted to give up I went on mood stabilisers and wow- it did the trick combined with a small amount of anti depressants. Everyone is different. It stabilised me the most but I still combine all sorts of those things above.

    One of my greatest helpers has been a man named Maharaji or Prem Rawat. He has many Youtube videos. It is not religion. It is wisdom and other deep things. Google his name and "sunset" or "the perfect instrument". His teaching are amazing. You might benefit.

    Finally. I want to mention sadness. For most of my life my sadness was soooo low. 20 years ago I started writing poetry. I found I could only write it when in a sad state. And according to others it is very good poetry. So I began to write poems to victims of crime and people that lost loved ones. Soon I realised that this sadness was a gift. A gift that I wouldnt have without my condition. Then I read up on how many famous people have depression and other forms of mental illness I realised that I could immerse myself into my sadness and feel that gift of love and feeling.

    Try to accept it, use it to benefit others, embrace it and give love

    Once in the fast lane I now watch a flower bloom from closed to open, sit on a hilltop to watch a sunset as Maharaji taught me, feel the beauty of my tears falling.

    What gifts.

    Take care Honeybean.    Tony WK

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  3. Chris B
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    1757 posts
    9 April 2015 in reply to honeybean

    Hi honeybean,

    You might want to check out our thread SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION which a lot of members have contributed to.

    There is also the beyondblue resource A guide to what works for depression which covers a whole range of therapies and treatments.


  4. honeybean
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    9 posts
    13 April 2015 in reply to Chris B
    Hi Chris thank you will check it out.
  5. honeybean
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    9 posts
    13 April 2015 in reply to white knight
    Hi tony thank you for the reply. Yes I too write poetry I posted one in the "If your depression was a creature" thread but find it hard too write sometimes to get in that zone so to speak. Sometimes I sketch too. I have looked up sunsets by prem rawat and found one on youtube with music which has really resonated with me. Appreciation is something I need more of in my life. Still on the long road of finding a good therapist but think I may checkout the resources on website. As the one the Dr referred me to looks like they are no longer in business. Have a good weekend 😊
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  6. Chris B
    Community Manager
    • Works for beyondblue managing these forums. Not a mental health professional, but here to help. Email: christopher.banks@beyondblue.org.au
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
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    1757 posts
    16 April 2015 in reply to honeybean
    Hi honeybean, if you'd like to share your poetry we have a poetry thread here - it doesn't have to be related to mental health.

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