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Topic: Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

  1. Ggrand
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    3 March 2021

    Hi everyone..

    Their are days when just getting out of bed is a huge achievement...Other days we can achieve things like washing up the dishes or clothes, sweeping the floors, mopping the floors..very mundane and automatic robot like chores for the mentally well...They do these chores without even thinking about them...for people struggling with their mental health..these are huge tasks...

    Very often I’ll get my vacuum cleaner out to vacuum ...then it will sit their for days, me looking at it, walking over it...until I can get motivated enough to vacuum..after I do find the motivation to vacuum...I am pleased with myself...
    Right now I have a small foot cycling peddle machine, sitting on my front veranda..I got it out last week..to start exercising..it’s still their, I’m still looking at it...My thoughts each night is I’ll use it for a few minutes tomorrow..

    My car hasn’t been washed getting close to a year now I think...Today I did managed to wash it....and discovered that it has a nice shine on it.....I did it...I achieved something positive today..which made me feel better in myself...

    Have you achieved a little something today...and how did it make you feel...If you want to share that achievement it might make other people a bit more motivated to achieve something they need/want to do..

    Looking forward to hearing about your achievement....and how it made you feel..

    Little steps and achievements can lead to bigger steps..and bigger achievements...

    My kindest and most caring thoughts...everyone.
    Grandy...

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  2. Sleepy21
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    3 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy

    Nice thread!

    Made me think of my own situation. My car is also very dirty and I don't know how to wash it myself... I live in an apartment with only a hose in the garden and I'm not even sure how I'd manage it.
    Today when i went to the service station for petrol I used the portable wipers and quickly wiped down parts of it. I felt good about that. It made such a minimal difference, but at least I felt empowered that I'm doing something small to make my life better (and shinier)

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  3. amberlite
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    3 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    nice nice lovely really lovely post, reading it made me smile, which is a massive achievement, thank you for supportive and understanding words you peeps it amazing.
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  4. randomx
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    3 March 2021 in reply to amberlite

    Don't like using car washes sleepy or ?

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    3 March 2021 in reply to randomx

    it scares me a little bit for some reason....

    i used to wash my car at home when i lived with my parents and then my flate mate and i did it together. i've never taken it to a car wash. I'm scared of it.

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  6. Ggrand
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    4 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi Everyone..

    Sleepy like you I am also scared of car washes and wouldn’t even know how to use one..plus I think they cost $s which I don’t have...

    I think that’s a brilliant idea to use the front screen blades...😂...

    I haven’t done it as yet..but today I’m going to try and clean the inside of my car....

    Hope everyone has a nice day today...

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  7. amberlite
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    4 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand
    Hi peeps my old dog Moby loves the car wash it's like he gets really excited and looks in all directions but he does lick the inside windows cause the foam looks so yummy to him. Have a good one.
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    4 March 2021 in reply to amberlite

    hi all,

    yes - why are they so scary grandy?! Yay for window wipes at the gas station....

    Today I handed in an ipad i found on the street to the police station. It was a bit embarrassing but I asked them if the person doesn't want it i I could keep it -
    The woman was so sweet and said absolutely and thats how they do it - and if they don't want it they'll call me. Probably they do want it which was fine but it was awkward to ask so i'm proud i did :)

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  9. Ggrand
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    4 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi everyone..

    Sleepy I am scared of them..because I’ve never used them...I know it’s a silly reason..plus all those brushes..knowing my luck..it would break down while I’m in the middle of it and I’ll get stuck their....

    Today I vacuumed sand armour oiled the inside of my car..woohoo it looks shiny inside and out...and I feel pleased with myself for completing a job....doesn’t matter how long it took...I did it first time in over 12 months....now I don’t want to use it....living out country NSW..the first few kilometres my car will be once again covered in bugs....😂..

    Grandy..

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  10. Sleepy21
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    4 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    your car will be sparkling grandy... great achievement! celebrate and enjoy that.
    I feel the same, scared of getting stuck, have seen horror movies (is it scream?!) set in car washes...and just good ol' anxiety.
    My neighbour is always outside washing his car, maybe i'll ask him if I can use his taps and wash mine. My street is funny everyone is always in each other's business and doing things together. Almost like the last bit of community left in this world!

    My neighbour gave me a flower the other day from his garden and i nearly cried. It's so nice to have ppl acknowledge you sometimes.
    Today this is very tiny but I'm worried I'm getting sick so I've been extra careful today washing hands and putting on warm clothes. That's my achievement.

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    4 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    funny that sleepy. still remember first ever car was . lt grabbed your front wheels and dragged the car through- no turning back haha and l'm thinkin this things gonna kill me,

    1 mtr monster round brushes hammering the car top sides bottom l'm thinking these things will strip the bloody paint and crush my bloody car. l thought they'd be really delicate on the car ha, forget it. To my surprise made it through in one piece and the car was spotless rx

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    5 March 2021 in reply to randomx

    hey rx

    you got it 100 percent... the no turning back is the scary part!!!

    that spotless car part sounds... perfect!!

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    Lovely thread, guys. I like how you've normalised how hard it is sometimes to do even the "basics", Grandy.

    Today I talked to someone about my anxiety. I knew I would cry and shake and it would be uncomfortable, but I decided to do it anyway. And I'm glad I did, because there's accomplishment in pushing through that discomfort, but also now that person understands and we can work together on strategies for dealing with it in this particular context. So I guess mine's a little like yours, Sleepy - speaking up even when it's hard.

    As for your car, Grandy - inside AND out! That's huge! I wouldn't want to drive it now either lol

    Thanks for this lovely thread. Katy

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    5 March 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Katy, excuse me popping by but you had just posted and I saw it..

    I was in the library today and there are so many books there about anxiety it just shows what a common problem it must be for people! So maybe it might help a teeny bit to remember that there are many others with the same problem as you have.. so you have lots of company (me included).

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    5 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hey beautiful Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 and all lovelies 👋

    Just tagging for now. Good thread huns

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  16. Ggrand
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    5 March 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hello everyone...

    Dear Katy...I can understand how hard that would have been as I have a similar problem..

    I think you had a huge achievement in doing that....especially when you knew that the tears and shaking will be apart of you while disclosing your anxiety and mh face to face....well done dear Katy...

    The positive outcome dear Katy..is next time you speak to this person...it hopefully will be much easier....

    My kindest thoughts lovely lady..

    Grandy..

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    5 March 2021 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi Deebi....

    Thank you for tagging..it lovely to see you here..🦋..

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    6 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy! Such a beautiful thread, thankyou sweet lady.

    You must be SO PROUD of your car now Grandy! Bugs be gone lol!

    So true how hard it is when suffering from depression & anxiety.
    I remember this feeling so vividly. Some "bits" still linger especially when I've had a rough time, like the past 24h.

    It was fear that stopped me washing my car for the longest time.
    Fear I'd be seen by perps, be put in danger, even in my own driveway.
    Fear that I wouldn't have money after paying for a car wash. Money I would desperately need.
    Always fear of some thing or another.

    I'm good with doing it now. Some times, not too often. 😉

    This afternoon I did something I was also fearful of.
    Same ole same ole, "go to feelings" for recent reasons.

    I just decided to go into Spotlight.
    Realised I was anxious but pushed through with it anyway.
    Asked one lovely shop assistant so many questions about different things.
    She was SO patient (I was fearful she'd snap at me but she answered kindly every time).

    Then I was fearful that the things I was choosing for the kids, they'd hate, ridicule me or the like.
    The total opposite happened.
    They were SO in love with what I bought them. Thrilled in fact.

    Then I wondered why I put myself through the elongated fear scenarios.
    I know why it's a "go to".
    Just not why I still go TO.

    New Vet for rescue poodle tomorrow. Feeling fearful about that now and can't sleep. He'll be fine. It's just recent bad experiences with previous Vets.

    Many Blessings everyone.
    Hugs Grandy
    Love EM

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  19. Ggrand
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    6 March 2021 in reply to ecomama

    Hello ecomama...

    I haven’t been inside Spotlight nor any other store other then the Woolworth and Coles in so many years now.., out of fear on being on my own....So I must admit I’m a little jealous that you were able to do that...and very proud of you at the same time.....Well done lovely lady....

    How beautiful that your children loved your gift...Fear is strange the way it makes us think.,,puts all these scenarios into our head that we believe...unfortunately it’s so hard to unbelieve them though....

    It’s beautiful to hear that your fears are no put to rest....hmmm until the next time..

    Hope you and everyone else enjoys their weekend..and ecomama.....please enjoy your new rescue poodle...he/she will have a beautiful life full of love and care....with you and your family....

    Love with caring hugs everyone..

    Grandy...

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    6 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Dear Grandy, thankyou.

    I took poodle to the New Vet today.
    It was a palaver lol, he barked all the way in the car and they were running "15 mins late" which actually converted to 45 mins late..
    We both came home, ate then had a long nap together lol.

    We've had poodle for 3y now, it was the Vet that was new. He had huge anxiety when he arrived so we carried him around in a baby sling for months (and today I had to hold him like a baby darling pup).

    Grandy I would love to go into Spotlight with you.

    I listed the fears in my head as I walked across the car park to Spotlight yesterday.
    (demon had been across the road at my kid's work a few days before you see)...
    As I listed them I KNEW some were not around anymore, so wrote those ones off.

    I faced the fears, walked right thru them and power walked IN.

    Aha NEW ones surfaced omg lol!
    Then I realised "I can just bring the stuff back if the kids don't like it".
    So continued... in fact they had to get me out at closing time!

    Love to you always dearest Grandy
    EMxxxx

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    6 March 2021 in reply to ecomama

    well done EM

    my small achievement today is getting out and going for a walk and a coffee when i felt pretty down.
    I didn't like being outside today so just went up the road and made the goal smaller to do it.
    Keep seeing the same characters on my walks and recognisig them - eg guy with bright bike shorts, woman with long hair, guy with large dog.
    Also I spoke to my neighbour today which was a big achievement for me with social anxiety.

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    6 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    Today I made a zucchini slice , I don’t do much cooking .
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    7 March 2021 in reply to ecomama

    Hello everyone...

    Oops EM...My silly mind read wrong..I am really sorry..My eyes can see the words printed in front of me..then my brain scrambles them around a little and puts me way off the understanding of posts..it’s not the first time it’s happened..probably won’t be the last time either....silly me...

    Sleepy...I hope you enjoyed your walk and coffee..it doesn’t matter how far or little we can manage when walking...I recently though okay I can do this...got out my front gate...walk maybe a dozen steps then returned home....I am so upset with myself that I just cannot walk out my front door, out my front gate..then down the street and back..When I told my counsellor about my teen weeny walk...her response was totally different that mine....She said to me..congratulations you walk 12 steps outside on your own...that’s an achievement I should be proud of..next time you feel up to walking...try to take even one more extra step...then eventually before I know it,.lill be walking to the corner and back....small steps do become bigger steps with persistence and want....Sleepy you done so well....

    Hello Quirky...I Definitely am not a cook....My late husband stuck to the same meals over and over again....different recipes or food were not allowed in the house...I don’t cook much for me...usually something I can zap in the microwave..like those ready made meals...I think cooking a zucchini slice was a nice achievement..I have googled them since I listened to your post...and there’s a lot of preparation in getting them ready to cook..then cooking them...A very well done and yummy achievement lovely Quirky....I hope you enjoyed them...they do sound and look yummy...

    I have to mow my lawns before Tuesday.. we are expecting a couple days of rain....if I don’t mow them before it rains..It will be twice as hard to push the mower through the long grass......Is the rain motivation enough for me to mow them?....idk..I’m sitting outside talking to you all and looking at the grass..Wishing it would start growing downwards and back into the seeds they come from😁...

    I hope everyone enjoys their day the best you can...

    Kind and caring thoughts everyone..

    Grandy..

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    7 March 2021 in reply to ecomama

    Oops again I’m sorry EM...I didn’t reply properly to your post here..really if I could trade in my brain for a more brighter and smarter one I would.

    That would be lovely to go to spotlight with you..Last time I went in..it was over 10 years ago I think...it was to buy a long stitch pack I seen advertised...and like always late Hubby came with me...and bought what he wanted me to do for him....not the one I wanted..then once I got all the wool sorted into their colour groups and put them through the holes in the numbering board.,.,he took over and done it..hmm...,anyway...

    Listing your fears in your head and going past them...that’s would have been hard.,especially since seeing “demon” a few days prior to you visit....You have a strong mind and gentle heart dearest EM...I think you know and understand your children more then you realise..,I listen a lot on your thread..and love hearing the beautiful bond you have with your children and grandchildren.....Unconditional love and care is a wonderful part of life...I’m so happy for you that you have that in your life.....Raising children to be good and caring adults is the biggest and most satisfying achievement in life....

    Kind thoughts lovely EM...

    Grandy.,

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    7 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Darling Grandy!

    All GOOD!

    Hey Grandy if WE went into Spotlight together, I think we'd giggle our heads off for no other reasons than, we DID IT.
    They have a 50% OFF sale atm so there's motivation to flick the lawn chore and head to Spotlight!

    Do you know what I did during the "dark ages" and the lawn grew SO TALL?
    I threw a myriad of different seeds out there and created a FOOD FOREST.
    LOL I DID!
    Omg it was so much fun venturing through the food forest and finding a pumpkin here and a watermelon there and oh there's some type of herb lol.

    I rolled the seeds in vermicast first and that was it lol. I ended up with 45 pumpkins! Plus the rest.

    I ran a bath today.
    BUT I wanted to clean it first, it was pretty grubby lol.
    So I put on a Brene Brown podcast that was BRILLIANT and ran the bath very slowly lol.

    Then I remembered that when I'm IN the bath, I don't like looking at the cobwebs and dirty windows.... I was enjoying the podcast lol...
    So I did that and it was revolting lol!

    Then I LAVISHED in my bathtub like a toddler in a bubblebath.

    We're all clean now lol.

    Love EM

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  26. Unbeliever
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    I worked out how to pop out all of the sliding windows in my mothers house so that I don't have to manually unscrew all of her security screens just to clean the glass on the other side.

    I felt relieved, now a twice a year chore that makes her happy when it gets done will only take me a few hours instead of taking an entire day to do.

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    8 March 2021 in reply to Unbeliever

    Hi everyone...

    How good is that Unbeliever....Well done taking the time to try and find a much easier way to do something that means a lot to your beautiful mother....

    I got fed up with my fly screens getting all dirty then when it rains or is a dusty wind the windows ended up muddy..,,I took them all off..except for my bedroom, bathroom, kitchen and laundry as those windows I leave open 24/7...and don’t want little flying visitors day or night...😁..

    I hope today that you achieve a little something that adds a bit of light into your day.....

    My kind thoughts with caring hugs..

    Grandy..

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    8 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    i got out of bed today although i felt very down

    maybe i can even make my bed, which would be a nice feeling for today

    small steps for me.

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  29. amberlite
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    8 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    achievement zero I done stuff but there was zero satisfaction

    no omf, no laughs, just waiting for a better change

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    feel better amber

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