Hi Quirky 😊 (and Hi too to everyone joining in).
I'm well and truly out of the loop as I haven't been reading much lately. What happened to set your critic on a rampage? Are you alright?
I like Jojo's idea about the stop sign. I think recognising the thoughts are unhelpful and cutting them off sounds good. But in practice I need to be busy as well. Too busy to think. Distraction like that isn't always easy though.
Another thing I noticed lately is how it can be liberating to make the active choice to stop caring what anyone thinks. Inner critic included. What prompted that is my return to being unwell. I'm sick of busting my ass trying to meet expectations... Most especially my own expectations of myself.
So I found myself listening to my critic waffle on about how useless I am and how everyone would be better off blah blah blah. Same old. And I just shut her up. For good or bad I'm here and not going anywhere. Yep I am weird and kinda useless at some things. But I'm also ALLOWED to be!
Last week I spoke with my friend's 14 year old and was absolutely gutted to realise her self esteem is worse than mine! I asked her what does she do that makes her feel good about herself? And what makes her feel crap that needs to be cut down or out.
Driving home I figured I'd take my own advice. Working outdoors and gardening makes me feel fitter and happier. So that's where I am as often as possible.
Is there anything you do Quirky that in that moment you usually feel ok with yourself?