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Topic: Three self-care things you did today!

  1. missep123
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    16 January 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Today my 3 self care things:

    1) Cleaned my room and bathroom downstairs. It actually felt so nice to make the bed and see it so clean. It was a form of self-care that I didn't think about before!

    2) Watched Netflix as usual (makes me very happy!)

    3) Made myself an ice coffee - I haven't bought coffee outside for a long time now!

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    18 January 2021 in reply to missep123

    Havent had coffee for a week, trying to reduce from 4-5 cups per day to none. So im using some cold water infusion teas.

    Got quite anxious about my BIL’s relationship breakdown. We’re helping him where we can, but there is only so much we can do. Even that is so little, but i had to keep telling myself that it is well out of my control, and as long as we’re there for him that is all we can do.

    put my project together. After all that sanding and painting, buffing etc, i put the pieces together, and came out with a guitar. Doesnt look perfect, but i like it. my blood sweat and tears has literally gone into it.

    i hope everyone is treating themselves well.

    Not_Batman

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  3. ecomama
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    18 January 2021 in reply to Not_Batman

    Hey SCers!

    Hi missep, Yes I absolutely agree that making our beds CAN be a form of self-care, why not!
    My kitty cat LOVED sleeping on my freshly made bed all day long lol lucky him.

    Hi Not_Batman, what? A GUITAR?? Had no idea that's why our thread was covered in all that sawdust! lol... awesome. Hope you love playing it.
    re: your BILs r/ship breakdown... sad to hear.
    This can be really challenging for us as we want to 'be there' as much as ppl need... I've had to detach, somewhat, from a 'fair weather friend' as it were who's going thru a really rough time and after not seeing her for 10+y asked to move in!
    She has lots of family helping her.
    Um NO, not moving in at all.

    "Oxygen mask on self first".

    I know I sound mean. I'm not. But managing my own MH is plenty with all my family's stuff too.

    My self-care:

    * made my bed with fresh linen lol

    * had a long scrubby bath this morning after working till very late last night

    * ate healthy food & drank lots of water.

    Love EM

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  4. missep123
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    18 January 2021 in reply to ecomama

    I was stressing all weekend for today because I knew that I had a very difficult call to make at work but:

    1) Cleaned my room as self care - helped me to unwind after

    2) Had a coffee - I love the smell! I want a coffee candle

    3) Watched reality tv! It helps me just switch off I find it relaxing!

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  5. Jstar49
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    18 January 2021 in reply to Not_Batman

    Hey not b,

    well done on persevering with the mower!

    I had to smile at your description of mowing being self care- I don’t think my h describes it as that! Tho he does love it when it’s finished.
    I have read that mowing is great for anger- something about the smell of fresh cut grass..... I shall add your self care viewpt to my mental note now :)

    cheers

    j*

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  6. Jstar49
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    18 January 2021 in reply to golden82

    Hi all,

    golden that’s such great progress you’re making, Blues is right. Breaking rules which don’t serve any useful purpose ( apart from maybe making you feel bad about yourself, not worthy) and giving yourself permission to enjoy life more. And more and more! And when you can you can come visit me and we’ll visit some lovely rivers that flow down out of gorgeous mountains and you will be refreshed.
    maybe you can Google for inspiration! And imagine yourself bathing in the beautiful waters. It is said that imagining something is nearly as good as actually doing it. Sportspeople use the trick to improve their game.
    love so much of what I’m reading- love the hand made guitar not Batman!
    love the smell of coffee misstep!

    love all the lovely caring things you’re doing for yourself as a normal everyday thing Tayla. You’re awesome! Keep smiling, cos you’re beautiful!
    em and Blues you guys are awesome and so observant, looking after everyone who comes on here. We all feel so loved I’m sure! I know I do ❤️

    yesterday I went to a drumming workshop, which was really great. I remembered some of the rhythms and played them on my body today when I was processing some emotions- it really helped.

    another river swim - so lovely.
    easy dinner- broke some files myself and dishes to choose from included pesto pasta and honey soy chicken strips. Sweet corn and salad. The family loved it. I was so surprised!

    cheers

    J*

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  7. ecomama
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    18 January 2021 in reply to missep123

    Hey missep, don't you just hate when you know you have to do something unpleasant and it distracts you all weekend?

    The funny thing was that I popped back on to put a BIG thing on my self-care list for today because my M.O. involves avoiding expressing the most difficult things.... a work in progress lol.

    SO I had a horrible altercation with a rude arrogant dentist on Friday.
    I actually had to tell him to "back off"... I've never had to say that to someone's face before, well not someone like a Dentist!

    I asked for time to think about a way forward with treatment.

    But he pressured the receptionist to take a $500 deposit from me for my next appt.

    (ummm what is that?).

    I was still shaky so I paid.

    Then Googled all his proclamations about my Health Fund and all else Friday night.
    He was SO wrong.

    Decided to sack him Sat & get a refund.
    Ahhh son had the car for work all day Sat.

    It had to wait till today.

    I tried not to ruminate over it... TRIED.... sometimes successfully! LOL!

    So I did SELF-CARE before going in.... my scrubby bath lol... with a bottle of water in the bath... lots of nice smelly things.

    I didn't dress up OR put on make up. Nup. What you see is what you get today.

    My Counsellor had phoned and I'd missed her call, so I only had 30 mins left of my appt and called her back in the hot car park. We spoke briefly about it. She said I sounded so much stronger this week.

    You bet.

    I Prayed for a calm interaction and peaceful resolution.

    Walked in.
    Another family there so I said what I had to say quietly, calmly and politely.
    Receptionist wasn't expecting it, she meandered and tried to re-book me etc.

    I repeated request. "I'd like a refund of my deposit and to cancel my appt".
    Put my card in front of her.

    After about 5 minutes lol she decided to do it.
    Then asked why?
    I told her that dentist was "horrible", she tried again to rebook me.

    I said thankyou, took my card and walked out.

    WHAT a palaver.

    It's DONE now.

    So GOOD to have that behind me!

    Yes I have a GREAT recommendation for another dentist.
    Will call this week.

    I'm really proud of you missep for dealing with that difficult call today and what you did for yourself AFTER it also!

    I'm sure we're all dealing with some difficult things, possibly procrastinating, but dealing with them when we're calm is the way to go IMO.

    Onwards and UPwards!

    Love EM

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  8. clown of mine
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    19 January 2021

    3 things

    I cooked meat

    I spoilt the dog (doing so gives my great happiness)

    I began the task of hair removal seriously it's like planet of the apes around here.

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  9. ecomama
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    19 January 2021 in reply to clown of mine

    Lol @ "planet of the apes" 😂🤣

    Today I:

    * had my tyres replaced, safe car = caring for self and others.

    * treated myself to a gourmet breakfast at a Cafe my daughter's friend owns - got a hug from her too!

    * dressed nicely, put on jewellery and make up.

    EMxxxx

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  10. Missing user
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    19 January 2021

    Haven't done much self care for myself lately.

    Yesterday, I saw my Psychiatrist, which was mixed really, like the session before Christmas (I have no issue with him though, I've seen him since 2019). I bet he hates me though, same as my GP etc.

    Going to look for some more colouring books to buy for myself.

    That's all I can think of right now.

    Nice self care as usual everyone.

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    19 January 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Taylah, how could they hate you!

    Booked myself a docs appt, to get a referral to see my psychologist again.

    took a mental health day

    went for a nature walk with Mrs. Not_Batman to talk things through.

    Ended up decluttering, organising the car shed, and filling holes in the roof to keep the rain water out.

    Not_Batman

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  12. Missing user
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    19 January 2021 in reply to Not_Batman

    Everyone seems to hate me Not_Batman, I guess a therapist would too. I probably annoy him.

    Nice self care you have, I love how you wrote Mrs Not_Batman, haha

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  13. Not_Batman
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    19 January 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Hi Tayla. Well since weve never me, i think its not possible for me to hate you.
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  14. Missing user
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    19 January 2021 in reply to Not_Batman
    I guess you're right Not_Batman, but people who don't even know me and have never met me do. Thank you for the kind words though. I've been bullied my whole life online and in person. 
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  15. smallwolf
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    20 January 2021 in reply to ecomama

    perhaps more of a reminder for myself. bit down my myself but still self care.... On Monday...

    1. chat with C

    2. coffee and chat with G (coffee for me was chip and soft drink)

    3. reading Daring Greatly

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    20 January 2021

    On Tue...

    1. reading Daring Greatly (something I read in bed)

    2. listening to relax melodies. (good and bad here... sounds nice but like I was watching vs participating)

    3. an old friend came to office for a chat

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  17. Rynn
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    20 January 2021 in reply to ecomama

    I absolutely agree that reading these SC points is refreshing and also inspiring.

    I don’t often do something during the day specifically for me except for some housework. So this thread has got me thinking about how I do things throughout the day. Perhaps breaking the day day up into sections e.g doing some of the chores then something for me, then some downtime

    I feel that when we’re happier and feeling better about ourselves we are able to do more and enjoy more.

    So far today I’ve,

    made myself a cup of peppermint tea

    read and posted in this thread

    opened the blinds to let natural light in

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  18. Missing user
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    20 January 2021

    - Bought myself some more colouring books, might buy more. You can never have enough, haha.

    That's all so far.

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    20 January 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Tayla.

    even after all of these years i am still terrible at staying in the lines. I have one of this paint by numbers apps and Now my colouring is perfect ;) at least on the screen.

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  20. Missing user
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    20 January 2021 in reply to Not_Batman

    Hey Not_Batman. I colour outside the lines too, it's so hard! I look at some people's colouring in, painting, etc. and it's just like WOW, like a photograph. And I think how? I wish I could to that.

    I also have a Colour By Numbers app on my iPad, called Happy Colour - it's free, and quite relaxing. So many pictures.

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  21. clown of mine
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    20 January 2021 in reply to Missing user

    three self care things

    Still having hair removal issues/ motivation

    went to a clothes shop and got a shirt

    put the air conditioner on at 2pm instead of being cheap/ also put my dog in it's pajama's cause the aircon makes it cold and now it sleeps beside me making little snout noises and I feel Buble' good.

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  22. Blue's Clues
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    20 January 2021 in reply to clown of mine

    Hi all,

    Welcome Rynn. Not_Batman, impressed you made a guitar. Go you! And decluttering, too (you bet I approve, that's my area of expertise, haha). Thanks J*, glad to help. EM, that dentist fiasco sounds horrid, you did really well.

    Tayla, you mentioned trouble with bullying. I'd like to remind you that bullying is always about the person doing it, not the person it's being done to. If they hate anyone, it's themselves, they want to make someone else feel small and hurt. Next time someone is unkind to you, I'd like you to stop and remember that it isn't about you or anything you've done. It just isn't. It isn't worth being hurt by them, if you have to feel something, make it pity that they don't even know they're so misguided and small. Also, great work with the colouring. My trick for staying in the lines is go slowly around the edges, following the lines closely, before doing the inner areas.

    Okay, on to my stuff. Struggling a bit with it this week, but trying.

    - Massively long sleep today, was super burnt out from work.

    - Asked my partner for help with some jobs (work in progress there, I am still internally very resistant to asking for help).

    - Left off on cooking proper food (partner will help with that later) and made the chocolate cheesecake brownies I really wanted to make.

    Blue.

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  23. missep123
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    20 January 2021 in reply to TheBigBlue

    Today's self care things:

    1) Taking a shower after a long day - that's the best feeling!

    2) Condensed milk coffee this time!

    3) A little bit of shopping is my favourite self-care (just a little bit!)

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  24. Missing user
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    20 January 2021 in reply to Blue's Clues
    Thanks Blues, it's just hard to think that way when I've been bullied so much. It shouldn't happen to anybody.
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    21 January 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Hey everyone, what a beautiful array of self-care up here now!

    SO many ideas to draw from, nice ones peeps.

    Welcome Rynn to our wonderful caring self-care group! I totally agree we can get caught up in working all day long, great idea to stop and do a bit of self-care.

    Mine for today:

    * travelled to visit a young old friend lol. I met her as a child thru my work c25y ago. I met her 4th baby and he began saying my name within a few minutes! Too cute for words. I brought a yummy lunch and we all ate together. It was beautiful.

    * put my car in for a service and an early Rego check before I start back at work next week. Rego isn't due for a month but I know it helps reduce my anxiety when I do things like this ahead of time, so I schedule them IN ahead of time lol.
    Plus I got to use the mechanic's loan car for the long trip, runs on the smell of an oily rag that zippy little motor lol. Not like my beast.

    * spoke with my fiancee and he doesn't seem to have Covid but needs to do the test anyway. We had a scare this week as he became ill after being in Los Angeles helping there. We're coping with the separation as best we can, just being kind and understanding with each other.

    * bought Vietnamese for dinner at the shopping centre, saved me making dinner for us all after a long day!

    * might have a nap before I do the midnight kids pick up from work tonight.

    oh and I just saw a Seahawk enjoying the breeze, soaring over the water in front of our home.
    A peaceful sight.

    Love EM

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  26. Missing user
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    21 January 2021
    Once again, no self care for me today.
  27. Jstar49
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    Hi all,

    Good point you make there Blue, about the way ppl treat us is more about themselves. However sometimes we can make ourselves an easy target. I still don't get it, but it does seem like you can't be too nice to some ppl, they just don't respect it.

    Tay I think I remember reading somewhere that not colouring in the lines is really good, from a creative viewpoint. It means you may not follow the rules, you think creatively, and behave in an unconventional manner. So! It's a great thing! Let those lines go hang!

    My self care for today was to let myself have a big ol' cry. I was resisting it, cos I think, I've cried enough about this, but, turns out I haven't really. So I let myself cry, and then visited the nursery and bought myself a plant. Which is def self care for me.

    I also bought my kid an icecream, which is sharing the caring around!

    Also walked my dog on the beach, which he loves.

    Small wolf I'm reading Dare to lead- snap! She's pretty awesome hey!

    And Rynn, I kinda have this deal going with myself that if I do housework in the morning then I def get to do something fun in the afternoon. Cooking at least, or gardening, but pref sewing. And fun sewing, not like chore sewing. Do you have a hobby you like doing?

    Cheers,

    J*

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  28. ecomama
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    22 January 2021 in reply to Jstar49

    My self-care has gone wanting somewhat due to looking after our darling chicken but thankyou all for mentioning what you're doing... it helps me alot and I'm sure helps others here too.

    * I've had lots of tears over darling chicken today, everyone who comes near our house will be asking where she is, maybe for years. I can tell them she had a miraculously long and healthy life till nearly the end. We've loved her well.

    * spent time in the garden with chicken on my chest.

    * watched a series I like on ABC iView.

    * made brunch.

    * will try to have some fruit tonight. Maybe a mango and some watermelon.

    Love EMxxxx

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  29. golden82
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    22 January 2021 in reply to ecomama

    Hi EM and all,

    EM - I am having mango and watermelon for dinner too. Seriously, when I read this in your post I had to reply lol. I hope you enjoy it. I find it is refreshing and yum...so yes, definitely self-care there.

    So for me:

    1) Getting support and advice from the beautiful ppl on these forums

    2) Listening to music

    3) Mango and watermelon for dinner

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  30. golden82
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    22 January 2021 in reply to golden82

    Hi again everyone,

    Looks like I missed a couple of pages of this thread... when you don't check for a few days and there are so many posts in this busy thread - I get lost in it all. So sorry I have not meant to ignore -

    EM - no, I don't think I have heard of ABC?? I will have to google it. Thanks as always x

    J* - wow, you wrote such a kind post to me a while back that I haven't even read til now and so not acknowledged. Sorry. & Everything you wrote - straight back at ya and then some more. I love reading your posts too. I read on the gardening thread of you getting yourself some fresh corn on the side of the road - well that could come under this thread of self care too hey x

    Blues - thanks for all you help me with and your straight-up style which whenever I read makes so much sense, just gotta keep reading your posts for reinforcement x

    Not Batman - I hope you are okay and keeping up your self care/mowing and the like. I read somewhere you had a rough couple of days. We are here for you - you are super :)

    I also welcome Rynn - your self care sounds perfect to me :)

    & Everyone - I don't want to keep listing ppl in case I leave anyone off accidently - but every single post I have appreciated and am getting ideas from - so thanks all

    ps Tay - Blues makes an excellent point re bullying. From my experience it is better to walk away and reclaim your power/ empower yourself, rather than feeling you are a victim. It is not you - it is them. You have this forum :) and btw very cute pic

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