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Topic: Three self-care things you did today!

  1. Not_Batman
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    1 December 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    EM, Blues, Sleepy. Well done

    today i;

    acknowledged my anxiety was there

    reassured myself. Im not in danger, i know what im doing right now, i know what i have to do today, i have a lot of work, one step at a time...you cant put all of the water through the hose at the same time.

    did some breathing mindfulness.

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    1 December 2020 in reply to Not_Batman
    - got my first ever pedicure

    - bought some much needed clothes

    Enjoyed a meal in the air cond
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    1 December 2020 in reply to Blue's Clues

    Dear Blue

    I get everything you said, I've been there also in seeking help - all to no avail.
    Almost 100% of the time, let's say 99% lol, I've given up calling after getting to dead ends after dead ends and got on with it all myself.
    I have many thoughts about WHY this is the case but it's better left alone lol.

    My self-care today:
    * followed my new dental care regime at home and at work

    * stood up for myself with the vet - well done Sleepy for standing up for yourself too!

    * said yes to a fully catered event tonight which will make my clients happy. Trying to get more Christmas cheer into my life. All my kids are working tonight anyhow so it's a nice, free dinner I don't have to prepare lol.

    * taking time out to come onto the forums after a VERY early start, busy day and before my busy night.

    Love EM

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  4. ecomama
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    1 December 2020 in reply to Not_Batman

    Hi Not_Batman, HIGH FIVE to you too!

    You're doing great with tapping in to your anxiety levels in busy times.

    Love your analogy with a hose lol. May I use it?

    Hey Sleepy

    I'm so glad the helplines are helping! 1800RESPECT have made the world of difference to my life.

    Hi monkey

    Gotta love new clothes lol. How are your new wheels travelling?

    Your first pedicure! WOOP WOOP!
    Does it feel weird walking on those shaved feet? lol

    Love EM

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    1 December 2020 in reply to ecomama

    Hi EM

    gee i dont know, i was going to trademark, and copyright it. Ah what the heck, ok you can use it!

    Not_Batman

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    1 December 2020

    - Bought some yummy golden kiwi fruits

    - reached out to a friend

    - went to pliates

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  7. kody love
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    1 December 2020

    1) Think: 'if I were trying to make myself miserable, what would I do?' Almost always, the answers I come up with (not showering, keeping my room a mess, not getting sun, etc) are things I am already doing. Usually promptly gives me the motivation do change at least one thing I am doing.

    2) Clean! I live with a messy person and mess can aggravate my depression and anxiety. So, I get cleaning - makes me feel a lot better.

    3) Get out and do something, as much as I don't really feel like it. The beach or just out the back for a read is usually my go-to.

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    1 December 2020 in reply to ecomama
    Hi Em,

    Wheels r going excellent!

    Shaved feet feel smooth. Much better than the hard stuff lol...yep took the new feet for a test walk and I like.

    Needed lots of new bras n undies...and I got them.

    Sprucing up my life!
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    1 December 2020

    you go kody :)
    Yay MM

    pedicure would feel so nice. Hae you been enjoying driving ur car with the aircon?

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    1 December 2020 in reply to Sleepy21
    Sure have Sleepy.
    Best thing ever.
    I start it with aircon on and jump in the coolness!

    And now I know what a pedicure is all about!
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    1 December 2020 in reply to Not_Batman

    Wow Not_Batman, TRADEMARK it? lol... gee thanks!

    I'll use it, just so you know.

    EMxxxx

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    1 December 2020 in reply to CalmCat

    Hi Doz86!

    Wow great self-care things! I LOVE kiwi fruit of any colour lol.

    Thankyou for sharing Doz86!

    LOVE YOUR WORK!

    Love EM

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    1 December 2020

    basic dinner = less cleanup

    therapy session

    reading a magazine

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    1 December 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    Selfcare

    believing in myself

    knowing I will fall down but I will pick myself up

    eliminating the word failure from my vocabulary

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    1 December 2020 in reply to kody love

    Hi kody love!

    💚💙💜 A huge warm welcome to the BB forums and to this friendly thread! 💜💙💚

    What a clever way of thinking of things and getting some motivation from those thoughts too!
    I'm pretty impressed lol!

    OH messy people!
    I am fighting that inner messy person lol... well she's fighting with my inner TIDY person and lately my inner tidy is WINNING!

    Winner winner chicken dinner lol.

    I have LOTS of teenagers living at my house - luckily I gave birth to them otherwise... yeah.
    So we've had a few Family Meetings lol and we've made decisions as a group to move towards a home where EVERY THING has a place and it all goes BACK to that place.

    Easier said than done BUT I'm the only parent here so sadly I have to lead by example lol.
    We're changing three whole bedrooms to other bedrooms and it's HUGE for us.

    Having a VISUAL of what we'd like each room in our home to LOOK like is helping.
    Chipping away at removing all things "surplus to our needs and wants" is a long process here but it's happening.

    My heart goes out to you!
    I'm feeling your pain lol.

    Thankyou for posting your pearls.

    Love EM

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    1 December 2020 in reply to monkey_magic

    OH YEAH MONKEY!

    Shaved feet are the WAY TO GO! lol.

    New "smalls" are awesome too!

    You'll be sitting pretty on your way UP the highways very soon our darling girl.

    MORE POWER TO YOU!

    Love EM

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    1 December 2020 in reply to Sleepy21
    Sleepy21 said:

    you go kody :)
    Yay MM

    pedicure would feel so nice. Hae you been enjoying driving ur car with the aircon?

    Oh wow SLEEPY! This thread has exploded! lol.

    Thanks for keeping the ship steering straight ahead sweet thing!

    Should I add the EXTRA self-care I did today... why not hey?

    * got ALL dressed up to the nines with my spandangly new Christmas earrings and my brand new dress (2nd hand from an Op shop but looks like it was MADE for me)

    * then went out for a work event & had a LOVELY dinner

    * then followed my instincts and left an hour early... drove through the HUGEST winds I've ever seen up there - the otto bins were being thrown across the road! I phoned my daughter and we talked all the way through the lightning and storm and home again, where my pets were panicking so I locked them in the quietest room.
    So that was my phone a friend when I was feeling a bit unnerved.

    Thanks Sleepy. Hey.... get that pedicure, you deserve it!

    LOVE EM

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    1 December 2020 in reply to quirkywords
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    Selfcare

    believing in myself

    knowing I will fall down but I will pick myself up

    eliminating the word failure from my vocabulary

    Quirky those are SUCH WORDS OF WISDOM right there.

    I like "learning opportunity" lolololol.... had billions of those in my life!

    What word are you using instead of the EFF word (failure)?

    Thankyou so much.

    LOVE YOUR WORK!

    EMxxxx

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  19. PinkFeather
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    1 December 2020

    - cancelled everything off my 'To Do' list and allowed myself to just rest

    - got up early and attended to essential jobs to clear way for the above

    - stopped by here with the intention of being positive...and here I am!

    Today has been better. I've still got ME!

    Hope this day has treated you all well, and most importantly, you've treated yourself well.

    Goodnight xo

    -

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  20. Blue's Clues
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    1 December 2020 in reply to PinkFeather

    Wowzers, this thread got busy!

    PinkFeather and Kody Love, welcome to the forums. You've both got some good self care happening. You too Doz and Quirky, some real healthy options.

    Sleepy - thanks, the wetlands walk was great. You made me smile saying you like reading what I write (and can relate), I often think I get a bit long winded for most people. Can't help myself. Glad you've had some positive results from calling the hotline. And look at you ditching a bad counsellor and standing up for yourself with pushy people. Great work.

    Not_Batman, you've got to be proud of that, you're doing great. Your quip about trademarking your analogy gave me a chuckle, too, I enjoy your humour.

    Monkey - pedicure is great. I haven't had anyone do one for me, but I do my own at home. Feels pretty good.

    EM - it's hard work, isn't it? But you know what? The satisfaction of finding out just how much we can do for ourselves is pretty good. Not that I'm suggesting we shouldn't be able to seek help if we need it. That's... just not worth going into, for now.

    So, today my partner has been doing way better. He even went out to pick up a table for our breakfast bar. That allowed a lot more room for self care.

    - Set up the breakfast bar with all the coffee/tea/toast stuff. So good to have those appliances off my kitchen bench, there was barely any room left to prep meals.

    - Went for a walk with my partner. Not a long one, he still doesn't have a lot of stamina, but it definitely counts.

    - Played a game with my partner for a little while.

    - Had some choc ice-cream and berry sorbet.

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    2 December 2020 in reply to Blue's Clues

    Thank you everyone for the truly awesome posts

    Love them and love you

    blues loving the sorbet. A delightful little self-care treat !!!

    - called Beyond Blue after difficult few days

    - Mango! (yum)

    - nice hot shower

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    2 December 2020 in reply to PinkFeather

    Hi PinkFeather! And a big huge warm welcome to the forums lol... wow the more the merrier!

    I gotta say I loved your very first self-care point.... that made me laugh.... love it.

    I saw a post on the forums somewhere once where a member suggested a "DONE list" instead of a TO DO LIST.

    There's so much bossiness in a to do list lol.

    A DONE list means you already done it I suppose? LOL.
    Awesome.

    Sometimes I read back on people's self-care lists here and I'm in so much AWE of everyone posting!

    Some of us are only in our first few rodeos of FOCUSSING on self-care but hey when we do it, it DOES feel good.

    I think we need to get us some more of it lol.

    Here's some of mine for today! lol... I laugh at my own sarcasm sometimes.

    * Had a lovely bath of types... sat in the bath tub watching MAN DOWN omg so funny Blue!! lololol. Love it.. and then left the plug out and washed all the grime off from being in the garden (because gardening is my NOT so secret addiction)... I liked not having the yucky water in the tub with me...

    * I got dressed up AGAIN wow guys a few days in a row lol... to take my family out for my eldest daughter's birthday.

    * I put on make up and nice perfume.

    Ahhh that was fun.

    EMxxxx

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    2 December 2020 in reply to Blue's Clues

    Oh thank you Blue!

    What a lovely post!

    I'm so happy to hear Fred's home again. I just gave him that name for fun. Change it if you want to!

    He's doing SO WELL too! Picking up your breakfast bar (well done Ms Minimalism Lady lol) because it sounds SO ORGANISED!

    AND EVEN going for a walk, awww so lovely.

    You got this girlfriend.

    Love EM

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    2 December 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    Awww Sleeps, what's going down there girlfriend?

    How you doing? Big hugs!

    Helplines are a LIFE SAVER and the best self-care action we can do in tough times.
    WELL DONE YOU!

    I like the sorbet idea too... not a fan of ice cream.
    But my belly is like a Buddha tonight after the Thai food and chocolate cake.

    LOVE YOUR WORK!

    Love EM

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    hey Em - struggling a lot with nightmares and poor sleep - then collapsing during the day :( Then a friend said something stigmatising to me and I broke down unfortunately. Too tired and too overwhelmed. Self-care for sure needed!!
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  26. Blue's Clues
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    3 December 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    Sleepy - the sorbet was great, really refreshing. Sorry to hear you're having a rough time. Hope you can do some things for yourself to feel a bit better. Start with remembering you've been doing some great work with standing up for yourself, and seeking help when it's needed.

    EM - I chuckled at you sitting in the tub watching Man Down. Glad you're getting a laugh out of it. :)

    Don't know if I've mentioned it on the forum recently but the "done" list is something I advocate. When I'm having a rough day I sometimes write some things I've achieved on my whiteboard. The idea came from finding some old to-do lists that had everything crossed off. It was a real eye-opener just how much I had achieved, looking at those.

    Haha, he's definitely not a Fred - too sexy for a name like that! Love having him home, and it's a bonus that he was able to do those things. We love the breaky bar, you bet it's organised.

    I'll list off yesterday's self care for now, I've done sod all of anything so far today:

    - Called about my work idea yet again. Disappointing result, but it was a daunting task and I did it. Courage, y'all!

    - Another wetland walk, took my binoculars to watch the birdies.

    - Made green curry, it was pretty darn tasty.

    - Watched some anime with my partner.

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    3 December 2020 in reply to Blue's Clues

    Hi EM, Sleepy, Blues, et al..

    EM..Thai food and chocolate cake? Interesting mix..bet it was delish.

    Sleepy..hope the nightmares stop tonight. Be strong, it will pass.

    Blues..enjoy those walks. Strolling and listening to the birds is great mindfulness.

    Monkey..ive never had a pedicure, but my daughter has painted my nails before. Interesting experience

    well i didn't achieve much today, but i dont mind.

    Listened to an audiobook in the car.
    just about to sit outside with Mrs Not_Batman.

    Respect to y’all.

    Not_Batman

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  28. Blue's Clues
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    3 December 2020 in reply to Not_Batman

    You're right, Not_Batman, the walks are great for that. I generally come back from them in a much better frame of mind, gets me into the present (there is a lot of "Ooh, bird!", haha. Sounds like you needed some relaxing time, and did just what you needed to do. :)

    Have done some me things today:

    - Did my nails, each one a different colour (cheers Sleepy, for the idea).

    - Made a vegetarian mornay, and solved the mystery of the lumpy roux (white sauce)! The recipe asked for half as much butter as it needed so I was always having problems with that component. Came out beautifully this time, have written the fix on the recipe.

    - Got a "date" with my man to watch some anime shortly.

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  29. PinkFeather
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    Hello ecomama, I loved your warm welcome and thanks so much for this thread. It's such a lovely way to get to know you all and to nail in some positive vibes. Big hugs to everyone else too, thank you for sharing.

    Today was good, not one anxiety attack! My 3 things:
    1. Tended to my animals and took the time to absorb their contented sounds as they ate. I did that! Made other beings feel safe and cared for.

    2. Weeded my veggie patch. It was such a beautiful cool morning after much needed rain, the earth smelt damp and rich. You guessed it, before I knew it I was in there for longer than expected, getting lost in the moment and not obsessing over mouse-wheel thoughts.

    3. Took a walk into nature and sat on a rock. Saw the play of the sun on the quartz and again was able to just experience the moment and be.

    It really has been a beautiful day. I must always remember it is nature that soothes my soul in the dark times. Thanks for being here everyone! xo

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    3 December 2020 in reply to PinkFeather

    Hi PinkFeather - I love your Nature Day!
    Blues - yum, agreed sorbet is the best frozen dessert (controversial statement?) Thanks for ur encouragement re my good progress :)

    Not_Batman - thank u!!!

    EM - Love the warm tone of this thread and thanks for keeping us all accountable with self-care - it is an amazing way to help each other.

    - hot cocoa while watching a show

    - Texted my friend about what I needed

    - followed up on email which was about getting assistance with something really important.

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