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Topic: Three things you aren't sorry about today...

  1. Guest9337
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    28 July 2021 in reply to amberlite
    I am not sorry that someone else perceives the potential harm to an institution or community, is greater than that someones perception of harm to myself + those similar to me.
  2. Sleepy21
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    28 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    hi everyone

    obsessed with this thread and concept - so liberating

    i'm not sorry for being different to how ppl remember me - for meeting them again, at this different stage in my life, and being a different style of person than they remember

    i'm not sorry for being shy today and not wanting to talk to new ppl

    I'm not sorry for my diagnos, a lifelong of trauma has earnd me the right to carry it proudly, and for those who will jduge me, i'm not sorry that i reject their judgements.

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  3. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    Not sorry for being upset about something you thought I shouldn’t be upset about. I’m not you and I feel how I feel.

    Not sorry I ate a whole pizza. I enjoyed every mouthful.

    Not sorry I skipped my MH peer support meeting. Doesn’t mean I don’t want to get better. Just recognising my limits and respecting them.

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  4. amberlite
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel
    Hi to all, I am no longer sorry that I can not understand cryptic posts, somethings are just meant to remain a mystery to me and that no longer bugs me. I am not sorry that my boss left me the task of handing out 31 warning notes to those at work who collectively bunked off. Also, I am not sorry for pretending to write down their rude responses, it was actually funny I am paid to ask, 'do you have a response to this warning slip?'. Der
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  5. Guest9337
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    29 July 2021 in reply to amberlite

    I am not sorry for showing the tiniest bit of irritation to a person who was repeatedly behaving in an irritating manner.

    I am not sorry I am playing my music medium volume right now. Go Alicia!

    I am not sorry to see Aussies winning gold, silver, bronze's in Japan, Go aussie go aussie go.

  6. Sleepy21
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    30 July 2021

    love it d and g

    thanks everyone for writing so honestly here

    i'm not sorry for

    not being attrcted to smeone who is ttracted to me

    being a "bother" to ppl nd having bad anxiety

    letting some opportunities slide and not being the perfect go-gettr today. maybe another day i'll have that ambition

  7. Guest9337
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    I am not sorry I just had a sneezing fit, crikey I'm gonna have to clean the monitor again.

    I am not sorry that pretty much every TOC I have ever read aims to restrict rights of users and decrease responsibilities of service providers.

    I am not sorry that my suffering today was a heavy burden.

  8. Guest9337
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I am not sorry that my suffering now is heavier than earlier.

    I am not sorry the sky is blue.

  9. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    I'm not sorry for wanting my kids over a DV partner
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  10. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Also not sorry for being who I should be or being the best partner I could have been even though it wasn't good enough.

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  11. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    I’m not sorry that I’m a random stranger sending you virtual hugs, dng and unsure

    I’m not sorry I’m in bed stuffing my face again

    I’m not sorry I hate winter. Winter is stupid.

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  12. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    For starters thankyou for the hugs, I hate winter too.

    I'm not sorry for having beers tonight.

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  13. Sleepy21
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    1 August 2021

    hi all

    i'm not sorry that i am obsessing over small things. i'm trying to cope and my mind is trying to keep me safe in this strange way

    i'm not sorry that i didn't put myself first today, but am going to try harder for the rest of the weekend

    i'm not sorry for taking space away from ppl today

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  14. Guest9337
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    1 August 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    I am not sorry for starting round two of the lucky discussion with wife.

    I am not sorry for something that is real and observable.

    I am not sorry for wife's over reactions to our discussion about luck.

  15. supababe
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    1 August 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Hello David 'n' goliath,

    Thank you for this wonderful thread:

    1. I'm not sorry that we had to isolate at home & stay safe, making others safe also

    2. I'm not sorry that sometimes I'm not always understood, clear or precise; (it's always clear in one's head)

    3. I'm not sorry that we have the freedom to express own options, in our own way.

    Thanks as this is my first post :)

  16. Sleepy21
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    1 August 2021 in reply to supababe

    i'm not sorry for having my ownways of doing things

    I'm not sorry for watching trashy tv sometimes, and finding it soothing. I'm not sorry for not being highbrow.

    I'm not sorry for being hurt a bit by someones comment. I'm not sorry for feeling suspicious of a strange gift. I'm not sorry for standing up for myself and loving myself more than my abusers would like.

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  17. Unsure77
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    2 August 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    I'm not sorry for still being in love with my ex partner.

    im not sorry for trying to contact her make sure she is ok, even though her kids won't tell her I have.

    im not sorry for the decision I made

  18. quirkywords
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    2 August 2021 in reply to supababe

    Supababe

    welcome to the forums. Thanks for making your first post here and sharing your thoughts.

    I relate to your no 2 , I am not sorry as I tend to confuse people as I know what I want to say but I can ramble.

    I am not sorry for being tired for many reasons that some don’t see or understand

    I am not sorry for standing up for myself

    I am not sorry for still being affected from a traumatic event 19 months ago.

    Thanks again DnG for this thread. Hope you are feeling better.

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  19. Sleepy21
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    2 August 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi Quirky - i relate to that

    i'm always tired and unsatisfied with the quality of sleep

    i'm bothered by a tooth ache today, i'm not sorry if i have to leave my dentist to find someone who can see me sooner. im also not sorry if i decie to wait it out just bcuse i want to see my own dentist. not sorry fo rmaking inconsistent choices and deciding what feels comfy for me on the day

    i'm not sorry for barely excercising all year, and now starting to get into it, which seemingly should make me feel bad, but hey, they timing wasn't right

    i'm not sorry for not wanting to speak to certain difficult ppl on the phone, so opting for email today to make me feel safer.

    i'm not sorry for finding this thread comforting

    i'm not sorry for eating foods that i barely need to cook because im low on energy

    i'm not sorry for needing lots and lots of help with my mental health and for leaning into that and acceptig it.

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  20. Sleepy21
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    5 August 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    i'm not sorry for not being decisive when i'm stressed, maybe everything was a little overwhelming for me at that time and it was extra hard to focus- in.

    i'm not sorry for sometimes relying on others when i'm at my lowest

    i'm not sorry for puttng my tv on loud

    i'm not sorry for not feeling awesome atm

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  21. Guest9337
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    5 August 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    I am not sorry for writing 8000 words today to my best male friend.

    I am not sorry, for not being sorry.

    But my knees/thighs/calves are still quaking.

  22. amberlite
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    10 August 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    not sorry for wasting money on silly happy gifts, hemp oil for my big old dogs' legs, a disney furry squishy ball face for my tiny dog, a silly new tea mug for the hubby and black love heart sunglasses for me.

    not sorry my boss called in and had to answered the door in a wet full body wetsuit because i was floating in the bath like a happy hippo.

    not sorry that life is full of surprises like Forrest Gump's mum said ' life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get.

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  23. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    10 August 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    Sleepy21 said:

    i'm not sorry for sometimes relying on others when i'm at my lowest

    Really appreciate you sharing this, because I always feel bad about being needy when I’m low. But it’s so ok.

    Im not sorry I spent the day in bed again.

    I’m not sorry I have feelings.

    Im not sorry I haven’t got my sh* together. It’s a socially constructed concept anyway and I’m not here for it.

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  24. Sleepy21
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    10 August 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Im not sorry for trusting myself more than others

    I'm not sorry for telling the truth

    im not sorry for having a hard day

    i'm not sorry for owning my own mind

    im not sorry for anxiety and tears, and only wanting to share them with ppl who have proven themselves to me and worked their way into my heart

    im not sorry for being a bit inconsistent at times

    im not sorry for needing a supportive friend

    im not sorry for being well and successful at the moment, and caring more about my recovery than anything much else.

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  25. quirkywords
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    10 August 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    I am not sorry foe being assertive

    I am not sorry I ask questions

    I am not sorry that see selfcare as important

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  26. blondguy
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    10 August 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    Im not sorry for the people that find excuses for not seeking treatment for their own mental health as doing so is the first step towards recovery....denial and self justification doesnt work
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  27. Sleepy21
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    i'm not sorry for complaining about bad parts of the service i received in the public health system, even though the other parts were good

    i'm not sorry i cant transition easily to new things durng this pandemic, and that i really need a break from pressure now

    i'm not sorry that ppl who struggle with MH but won't admit it - that i can't help them. I'm not sorry that they are askign me for something impossible that I cant deliver - to help without helping, to answer without answering, to listen without listening, to just solve things wihtout having an open discussion about them - i'm not sorry to say that is impossible.

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  28. quirkywords
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    12 August 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    I am not sorry thst I stop making excuses for people’s rude behaviour.

    I am not sorry that I want life to be without conflict.

    I am not sorry for doing what I need to do to stay well.

    sleepy I agree with your last sentence.

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  29. wail
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    12 August 2021 in reply to blondguy

    I am not sorry for telling Eagle that it is meant to be three sorry's.

    I am not sorry some people tell other people off because I do it too.

    I am not sorry about how the world just is.

  30. Running Foot
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    13 August 2021 in reply to wail
    I'm not sorry that I didn't go to my friend's funeral on webcast yesterday. I know my limitations of how much more pain I can deal without spiraling at full steam. I am very sorry and feel deeply for any one who's lost a loved one in death.
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