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Topic: Vent and then let it go...

  1. Shelll
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    9 December 2020

    Not sure about anyone else but sometimes I just need to vent, including venting any frustrations, fears, hopes, worries, longings and anything else. Most of the time I don't want any advice or any responses. Just need a way to get it all out from within me.

    So thought this thread could be for those sort of things. No one replys to you with words or anything. It's a place to let it all go. Just dump whatever it is you want to say and leave it here.

    So yeah no replys please.

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  2. Shelll
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    9 December 2020

    Feeling discouraged, sad and overwhelmed.

    Overwhelmed with many issues that feel so very heavy

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  3. quirkywords
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    9 December 2020 in reply to Shelll
    I find when people say I understand what you are going through when they have no idea really annoys.
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  4. Sleepy21
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    9 December 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    So exhausted about concealing and witholding everything I feel

    I could have a full-conversatin with a "friend" and not tell them while I'm talking to the triage 5 minutes earlier due to having intrusive suicidal thoughts

    Have got so used to concealing my essence because I never feel self to share myself with others,

    fear of rejection, laughter, insensitivity, dumb comments, mean comments, selfish comments, selfish ppl -

    The collection of insensitive comments I hear about myself and others re mental health just bursts something inside me, punctures it with an arrow.

    I feel pain that I have to feel pain alone.

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  5. Shelll
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    9 December 2020 in reply to Sleepy21
    Just longing to go back to the upper place. Sometimes the desparation for it is intense. I don't belong anywhere else but there. All sense of heaviness is gone it is so very freeing up there. Such peace within my very being. I spent about 5 minutes up there and it was enough to experience and know that I was home. How I long for it again.. This is something I cannot let go either.
  6. Shelll
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    9 December 2020

    Finally found something, made it for my teeth. They feel so much cleaner. And my teeth a and gums did not hurt while using it. Coconut oil, bicarb soda, peppermint essential oil and eucalyptus essential oil. Just brushed my teeth with it.

    I was often filled with fear going to the dentist when I was a child. When I was old enough to make my own decisions regarding this.... Well I never really went except if I had a toothache. That involved getting the tooth removed just to relieve the intense pain.

    Over the last month, I have had issues with my mouth. Pain around some of the teeth and gums. So I managed to go to the dentist. It was pretty expensive. I was scared whilst I was in there, so much so I could hardly think clear enough to answer any questions or talk very much. I could not help but cry when they put a square looking thing in my mouth to xray a tooth. I gagged. I have a small mouth. I was awkward and uncomfortable around other folk plus the scared feeling as well. I went to that dentist twice. The second time they were super busy and rushed around a lot. This did not help one bit. I was even more scared then the previous time. They did let me squish a stress ball the first time. It gave me something to do.

    The dentist is expensive, and my finances are limited.

    Lots of toothpastes just sting my mouth. So glad I made this natural one.

    My teeth have been aching on and off. The dentist suggested I had an abscess. Suggested antibiotics. I am unable to swallow pills, just gag on them. I am also into all natural things anyway . So I researched and a couple of girls in this cancer group I am in suggested using colloidal silver. They gave me names of trusted brands. And also a name for a pain relief.. a natural one.

    I have been swishing my mouth with coconut oil, peppermint oil and clove essential oil. It helps with the pain. And also sea salt and water rinses as well.

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  7. Shelll
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    10 December 2020
    Woke up with a headache.. Feel far away. Just about to sip on coconut water. That sometimes helps with the headaches 🥥🥥🥥
  8. romantic_thi3f
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    10 December 2020 in reply to Shelll

    Hi everyone,

    Shelll - thank you for starting this thread. I love it.

    My little vent today - "I know how you feel". No, sorry, you don't. You don't get it. I know deep down that there are other people going through what I'm going through, but no experience is ever the same. Your grief is not my grief. My pain is not your pain. So when I gently tell you that you don't get it, please accept that and stop comparing.

    rt

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  9. Sophie_M
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    10 December 2020
    Dear Shelll and all who have contributed so far to this thread,

    We know there can be therapeutic value in venting life's little frustrations in a safe, friendly and anonymous environment like this. The alternative can often be detrimental to our wellbeing: keeping all life's little frustrations bottled inside is not sustainable long term.

    We thank you for taking the initiative and creating this thread which we hope many will find benefit and a sense of community in. Who doesn't like to know there are others who have the same or similar bugbears to us!?

    That said, we just want to remind anyone thinking of contributing to this thread to consider whether or not this "Staying well" thread is the most appropriate place to share their concerns. We urge those wanting to share more serious matters (concerning things like abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm) to consider doing so in a new thread of their own.
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  10. Shelll
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    13 December 2020

    Learnt how to massage my jaw and parts of my face. Sometimes with lavender, peppermint and coconut oil. Sometimes without. So thankful it is helping take the pain away from those areas.

    Father God I forgive the female doctor who spoke unkind to me. I forgive her for saying those awful and fearful things to me

    Father I forgive that lady in the ultrasound..

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  11. pl515p1
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    15 December 2020
    Many aspects of this world and life anger me right now.

    I hate the fact that my father worked hard his entire life, always treated people with respect and kindness, gave of himself to all, and especially to me, yet he was robbed of being able to finally retire and enjoy the fruits of his labour.
    He is taken away, yet people who kill, steal, abuse their spouse, abuse strangers, lie, cheat, deceive or otherwise contribute nothing positive to the world, continue to live to inflict suffering, and in some cases thrive on it.

    I despise the bureaucracy of our world, in which people are only numbers, we are assigned a number at birth, a tax number, a health number, a marriage number, and even a death number. To be wiped away from their systems once our time is up.

    Having to deal with many facets of government recently has highlighted to me how people fall trough the system so easily. It was only when I myself contacted higher powers that I was finally treated as a human, I guess when people feel that their employment is in jeopardy, they actually begin to take their work seriously.

    I hate myself for being a burden to my father for too long, and the fact that I can never repay him in this life the way I feel I should.

    I am angry that I am powerless to change what happened. I am angry that I must feel this world now deprived of the radiant spark of my father.

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  12. Shelll
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    15 December 2020 in reply to Shelll
    I don't belong here,longing for the upper place
  13. Ggrand
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    15 December 2020 in reply to Shelll

    Hello Shelly...

    I am sorry you said no replies...But I am concerned for you and wanted to know..RUOK.?..

    love and care dear Shelly...an a warm comforting hug..🤗.

    Grandy...

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  14. monkey_magic
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    15 December 2020 in reply to Ggrand
    Feel betrayed that certain ppl can act one way to your face but are the complete opposite behind your back.

    How am I supposed to feel knowing that my own blood father has rejected his only daughter. The man has problems and issues but I didn't think our relationship would probably become non existent.

    Why would a father be such a pathetic father. For someone that's achieved a lot how could he be so inhumane.

    I've known this as a little girl. He is a cruel and empty person at times, detached and cold hearted.

    Other times he's so generous and you would swear he's an angel.

    Some ppl believe there is a place for bad ppl in this world. Maybe he will go to hell.

    Perhaps that distance between us means it was never meant to be.

    My vacant father.
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  15. Shelll
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    17 December 2020

    I have spoken the wrong words again. I am so horrid, ugly, mixed up. And sad.

    I didn't mean to hurt him with my words. I have asked him to forgive me and that I am so very sorry.

  16. Shelll
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    18 December 2020 in reply to Shelll

    I am not horrid. True the words I said were ugly, horrid and unkind. And I think it grieves me to know that I have said them. There is power in words... there are words that can build people up and words that are destructive and can possibly tear them down. I long to only have kind and building up words come out of my mouth towards others and especially this person that I think I hurt. But I did not have them that time. It was never my intention to hurt him. I was so hurting myself.

    Sometimes it is so hard for me to say the building up words especially when I am frustrated, tired, sad, hurt and feeling so rejected. So just tuned in to my own self, so focused on my own self. Sick of self.

  17. Sophie_M
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    18 December 2020
    Hi all,

    We just wanted to step in and restate our earlier reminder on this "staying well" thread.

    We know there can be therapeutic value in venting life's little frustrations in a safe, friendly and anonymous environment like this. The alternative can often be detrimental to our wellbeing: keeping all life's little frustrations bottled inside is not sustainable long term.

    We thank you for taking the initiative and creating this thread which we hope many will find benefit and a sense of community in. Who doesn't like to know there are others who have the same or similar bugbears to us!?

    That said, we just want to remind anyone thinking of contributing to this thread to consider whether or not this "staying well" thread is the most appropriate place to share their concerns. We urge those wanting to share more serious matters (concerning things like abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm) to consider doing so in a new thread of their own.

    While we understand the "no replies" sentiment expressed at the beginning of this thread, this is a discussion forum so back-and-forth conversation, with replies and replies to replies, are encouraged.
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  18. romantic_thi3f
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    18 December 2020 in reply to Sophie_M

    Hi,

    If I can be so bold- I think this thread can be a little tricky to navigate. There is so so much power in venting it out, having a space to be with no-judgement, not having to worry about what people think and being able to feel what you feel without anyone trying to fix it or make it better. So I do really appreciate this and it's intention; we need it. I haven't posted again here but it has reminded me to journal again since that's often my place to go.

    At the same time though, this is a support forum- which means we want to be here for each other, not just to share experiences but to offer support, strategies and to help people feel less alone. I think we try to create a sense of community, which is why a thread like this is so different since the aim is to really not talk to each other!

    I'll leave it there for now but hopefully something to think about when posting, and also making sure that everyone here can have a balance of being able to vent and being able to be heard.

    rt

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  19. Shelll
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    18 December 2020

    Other ways to vent...

    Write it all out on environmental friendly paper. Then tear it up in pieces and toss it way out into the ocean.

  20. Shelll
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    18 December 2020
    Now being ignored by him. So very sad. Started to have a bit hope before. Hope that things may be better. But no it has gone back to the way it was before.
  21. Shelll
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    27 December 2020

    I just want this to get out of my life... the sadness, the aloneness, the fear, the misery, the grief, the pain in my mouth, the regrets, the lost feeling, the awkwardness, the self conscious sensation, the tired up and prison feeling, the heaviness, the ugly and fat feeling,the lack of true connection to other people feeling, emotional eating, shame, despair, discouragement, unforgiveness, bitterness.

    You will no longer keep me trapped and locked up in all that yuckness and what feels like hell. This is not who I am.

    You have no hold on me.

  22. Shelll
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    8 January 2021
    Can feel bitterness in my very soul. I hate it. I want it to get out from me. I know it distorts the way I see.
  23. Shelll
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    14 January 2021

    Not sure where I am up to

    The stuff I am on now is all natural except the antibiotics which I have a couple of days to go on that.

    The natural is helping some.

    Last night was not so good. I started using something chemical free to help with my gums. But it somehow dropped onto that filling tooth. Pain shot up from somewhere in it and around it. I was praying and oil rinsing /pulling with the clove. I could not take anymore of the chemical pain killer as I just took the last one about an hour before. And my three days were up of the safe amount of time to take them. The oils did help. And I massaged with lavender and peppermint oil which helped me go back to sleep and soothe my mouth once again.

    All these meds, natural things, and the dentist appointments are adding up. As in money. We are not a high income family at all. It just feels like so much money has been spent on all this. And more to come.

    An appointment was made last year for an appointment at the second dentist for this year. They were an holidays. The appointment is on this following Monday. I am going to pray that she can work all this out in my mouth. I just want the ordeal to end. So much fear, confusion, heaviness I have felt over all this. It has been so hard verbally speaking to all the people. Pretty sure it all or mostly all came out in a complete mess. As nothing was clear in my thoughts. Just all a jumpled up mess.

    The latest dentist I saw referred me on to a specialist. I rung them up and I know whatever I said was just a mass of confusion. And somehow I have an appointment now on the same day as the other one. I cannot make it to both. There is not enough time in between.

    And now as I write all this, it appears I am one of the people that somehow sees issues like mine as huge mountains. And like I am in some horrid drama. And I have exploded everything. I hate that in me, if I am doing that.

    I am just not used to all this. I am mostly a keep to myself person in real life. And definitely not used to going to appointments after appointments. Just like living life simple like.

  24. Shelll
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    14 January 2021
    So tired, mixed up thoughts all a mess
  25. Ggrand
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    14 January 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Hello Lovely Shelly...

    Im sorry you’re I. Pain with your mouth and gums...I need to go to a dentist and have most of my teeth pulled out and have some dentures made...atm the cost and waiting is too high..Ill wait until I reach aged pension then I think it’s free...

    Do you have an infection on your gums?..don’t have to answer that..I just asked because I am a real believer in a warm salt water rinse a few times a day...I don’t like to take antibiotics...and the salt water works well for me...worth a try if you wanting something natural...also Bon Jell (babies teething gel also helped me....

    I use warm salt water for any infection I get on my skin, mouth etc...

    Are you okay lovely Shelly?...

    I know your only want to vent dear Shelly..but sometimes it does help to chat to someone..Here for you with a lot of care if you do want to chat..about anything at all..

    Big hugs lovely Shelly with a hug 🤗..

    Grandy..

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  26. Shelll
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    14 January 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Thankyou for your compassion Grandy, I felt it through the screen. Not sure what to say about you getting dentures. But I hoping you yourself is not in any mouth, gum or teeth pain. It's horrid.

    My mouth ordeal has been going on since mid November.

    It is almost the first time in my life that I have taken antibiotics. My face was very swollen up. I hung off as long as I could. I am very much a natural person. Prefer to only consume things that will not harm me.

    Not sure exactly what is wrong and none of the dentists have told me a lot. And even if they did, I may not remember clearly as emotions like fear speak so very loud to me. I most likely sound confused when I do verbally speak.

    And yes I have been doing warm salt rinses as well.

    As soon as my head clears more, I will write any questions down and also what has been happening with my mouth. I just decided that as I was writing to you just now. Give it to the dentist on Monday.

    Some days this feels like more then I can endure. It has been going on for so long now.

    I so much desire someone to just come into my bedroom, were I am lying down at the moment. And say gently it's going to be okay. You will be alright. Then tell or show me what to do about all this. It's just all so heavy Grandy. Others may be able to cope with this kind of stuff. But not me.

    And yeah I know about bonjella. The gel for babies.

  27. Ggrand
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    14 January 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Dearest Shelly..

    I can hear you sound so defeated through your words..I really wish I could be sitting next to you lovely lady I would hold your hand and and gently give you a warm comforting hug....Shelly you will be okay..I believe in the strength you have in your beautiful soul to get through this...Please don’t loose your hope nor faith that this will pass...because it will...I so much wish that I could help with your pain...

    I mentioned Bonjella...because the clove oil can burn your gums or nerves in the teeth..and cause more pain...Please be careful when you use the oil....

    Good girl writing things down...about what’s happening..it’s easy to forget what we want to ask once we are at the appointments due to our anxiety...

    Just wondering if you listen to “Abide” stories on YouTube..while your trying to sleep...They are bible stories and very comforting to listen too...I listen through the day sometimes when I’m feeling overwhelmed...

    I hope you sleep good tonight and tomorrow will be a better day then today was for...

    Remember lovely Shelly..that I/we are here for you..and want to help you the best we can..

    My love, care and hugs..Shelly..💜🌹🤗.

    Grandy..

  28. clown of mine
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    16 January 2021
    migraine
  29. Missing user
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    16 January 2021

    Hey Shell, I know this is just a thread for you (and maybe others, I don't know) to vent, but I just wanted to say that I hope you're alright, and I hope others here are aswell.

    I'm always here for all of you, take care and be safe everyone.

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  30. clown of mine
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    16 January 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Shelll"s I Love this Thread

    To Dump and Go like an RV recreational vehicle Stop.

    zero reply advice or response.....Cool

    Today I have Migraine and have experienced passive aggressive bullying

    All this Trouble I leave behind and now vamoose.............................................................

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