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Topic: Vent and then let it go...

  1. Shelll
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    20 March 2021 in reply to Shelll

    In my imagination... And I am still just holding on there. I look forward and see rows and rows of bars on that monkey bar thing. Feels overwhelming actually and a bit scary. So I will attempt to shorten my focus and only notice the couple of bars in front of me. Perhaps only one of them. One bar is one day. Just need to live one day at a time.

    Maybe my imagination is weird, I don't know. Could be a good thing

  2. randomx
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    21 March 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Angry at myself, and bloody annoyed.

    Full stop.

    rx

  3. Shelll
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    21 March 2021
    Something happened today that left me feeling sad. I chose to forgive the person. Because it seems if I don't then either I just keep hanging on that monkey bar (that I wrote about whenever that was) not moving forward at all or I keep looking back on the situation and how sad it was. Why do I keep looking back it only causes more pain. What is the point of that.
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  4. Shelll
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    21 March 2021

    Being rejected by other people hurts. That happened a lot to me while growing up and even now. I am just invisible.

  5. Missing user
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    21 March 2021 in reply to Shelll
    I know how you feel Shelll, trust me. That's happened to me my whole life and still does also. I'm sorry that's happening to you and you feel that way. You're not invisible, especially here. We're here for you.
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  6. Sleepy21
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    21 March 2021 in reply to Missing user

    why do i say i'm fine when i'm not fine?

    it's a natural response for me

    conceal the pain, at all times

    never be truthful

    make other ppl feel "comfortable" to talk to me

    don't be "too much"

    don't be "too depressing"

    be friendly and light

    hold on the sadness in, at all times.

  7. Shelll
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    21 March 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Sorry you experienced that too Tay. Rejection can hurt a lot. Some days I can handle it, some days not.

    And I definitely feel invisible on BB. I think it is because I don't know how to truly connect and most conversations that I have on here don't seem to flow back and forth. It is like that in real life as well. What's that word Rapport? idk. Can't do it no matter how hard I try.

    Anyway I am very sorry you experienced the pain of rejection. It can be the worst of hurt there is

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  8. Shelll
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    21 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    Hug if you will accept it Sleepy. No reply needed at all either. I will just leave the hug here for you.
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  9. randomx
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    21 March 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Yaknow acceptance or rejection stops worrying you when you stop caring what other people think. l finally stopped giving a damn a few yrs back now except of course with anyone l really care about , best thing l ever did. l see people , l know what they think good or bad , but so what , who cares what they thing l simply just don't care anymore. Funny thing is too that when you stop caring the seem to like you more anyway . Give it a go , start training .

    Hi sleepy . Yeah it is weird l know being that way . 99.9% of people would have no idea how l'm really feeling , but me l kinda like it that way. Bc it's not only not really their problem , it's mine , but it only brings everyone down anyway , me included. l find some good under the rug pretty handy mostly .

    Go easy on yourself hey . rx

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  10. Harpbird
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    22 March 2021
    My vent is crazy drivers, were flooded in, water rushing under the house out over the road, drivers must think it’s fun to go that fast their cars have disappeared in the water spray. Then causes waves into our house. So many are actually driving holding there phones filming as their going along , rgggggg
  11. Missing user
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    22 March 2021 in reply to Shelll
    I know how you feel Shelll.
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  12. Sleepy21
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    24 March 2021 in reply to Missing user

    the passive-aggressive note....

    my neighbours in my block have put notes in all the mailboxes

    guys! stop opening the gate late at night! stop watching TV or vacuuming late at night! we can all hear it

    I've never vacuumed late at night or opened their gate or whatever but prob havee watched tv late at night and now just feel grrrr like you could just talk to me - what is this handwritten note making us all feel like criminals..
    It's a small block.
    Always prefer a chat please not to be bombarded with accusatory notes.

  13. Matchy69
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    24 March 2021
    Feel like I am just an emotional punching bag for my ex.
  14. randomx
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    24 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Haa back when this chick knocked on our door 1am and says , guys l'm really into guns and roses myself too don't worry so l'm not trying to be a pain but it's 1am , l can't sleep. We were across in a bushy valley didn't think anyone else could even hear it, she was so nice about it . We started being good haha.

    rx

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  15. Sleepy21
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    24 March 2021 in reply to randomx

    i'm the same lol i can handle a disucssion but i hate hate hate letters in the mail box like this one

    "It's really important that evryone be careful not to put tvs on or vacuum late at night..."

    "Keep bin area tiday!"

    "Loud banging of apartment doors have been noticed!'

    yaaaawwwn

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  16. Liz22063
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    24 March 2021
    I’m sick of having such a low self esteem I can’t score anything or get anything I want because I always feel like I’m holding myself back and if I do do what I want I feel like I’m setting myself up for failure and disappointment I don’t know how to change this thinking and it effects me every single day
  17. Shelll
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    24 March 2021

    Tired of the human race. We are all equal. No matter what we wear, how we look, what job we have or don't have. How much money we have. What we eat or how popular we are.

    I am so over the condescending and condemning ways of humans. Have to say I hate it.

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  18. Missing user
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    25 March 2021 in reply to Liz22063

    Hugs Liz22063 (and welcome).

    Hugs to anyone else who wants one.

  19. Shelll
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    25 March 2021
    So over this
  20. Sleepy21
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    25 March 2021 in reply to Shelll

    feeling awkward accepting a favour

    someone was going somewhree and i asked them to pick something up for me, as a favour

    feel upset about it and weird, don't wanna owe anyone anything

    Sigh, prefer not to ask sometimes

  21. Missing user
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    25 March 2021 in reply to Shelll
    You ok, Shelll?
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  22. Ggrand
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    26 March 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Hello Shelly..

    Hugs precious lady..

    I came in here to have a vent about people...

    I am over some people ....thinking that they know what’s best for me.....and that I don’t have a say in what they decide is best for me....

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  23. Missing user
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    26 March 2021
    Still haven't heard from the Continence people about my Bladder. Meanwhile it's still stressing me out. Been 3 or so weeks and haven't heard a thing, since my GP did a referral there and gave me the bad news of it. Why is everything such a drama and so care free where I live?
  24. Sleepy21
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    26 March 2021 in reply to Missing user

    the difference between ok and not ok is so subtle

    not sure where i sit - i bounce between the two so frequently

  25. Matchy69
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    26 March 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Tayla I am so sorry you are still waiting.I know what it's like I have waited months to see specialist even being a category one I have had to.
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  26. Missing user
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    26 March 2021 in reply to Matchy69
    Sorry to hear that Mark. I'll tell my GP about it on Monday.
  27. Sleepy21
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    27 March 2021 in reply to Missing user

    missed 3 (!) calls from thee psychiatrist (appointment time rlated perhaps)?

    called back and their closed.

    The second i take a break they call me back. I've been calling for weeks. Darn.

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  28. ecomama
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    27 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Group hug.

    I think I'm pretty cranky about stuff but I'm trying to work out exactly what!

    I'm not happy my kitchen ceiling is bowed from the water damage...

    I felt anxious over what p.son told me last night and what he DIDN'T tell me!!
    We've only seen him briefly once in 9 weeks.
    Last night I was the only person at home and he talked and talked and kept saying "omg it feels SO GOOD to finally be able to TELL someone what's been on my mind" poor baby...

    I'm so concerned for him, so I have to remember to breathe OUT.
    It's so perplexing trying to detangle what's going on for him.

    So with that already playing heavily on my mind THEN seeing the ceiling... well....

    next vent - I got super frustrated at BF thinking he could tell me what to tell my son... omg what the...
    THEN speaking to me like I was born yesterday about the ceiling...(stuff a 10yo would know grrrrr)
    THEN telling me that no one recovers from depression and anxiety because look I was upset (not crying at all lol) that my ceiling may cave in AND about p.son
    OH and telling me when I'm his age, I'll be just as everything as him.
    I had to remind him he MET me at younger than my age and I've never held that POV like EVER.
    Grrr.

    Well I just told BF he was frustrating me and got off the phone.

    Had a beautiful long lunch with all my family - first time since Christmas Day.

    So I had lots of cleaning up to do - yay lol.
    It WAS actually fun because I immediately made a Thai flavoured soup with some leftovers.

    Okay last rant for this hour (maybe)...
    I'm so confused and in quite a pickle about the Govt grants for damages due to our area being declared a disaster zone.
    I WON'T inflate costs bec I hate wroughting.
    But have no idea who to phone anyway so just another pile of yuck stuff to do.

    I HAVE A HOME. Someone tell me to shut the back door.

    I'm off to wash the floors - yah dogs and kids!
    Listen to some James Cordon car pool karaoke. Yeah.

    EMxxxx

  29. Missing user
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    27 March 2021

    When you try to help someone although you're not 100% sure on their situation but you give advice to the best of your ability and the knowledge you know of what they're going through, but they don't care. They don't appreciate the advice, they don't say thank you, or want to take it. I know how difficult it is but honestly a thank you would be nice.

    PS- Sleepy, I'm sorry, I hope it gets sorted. I wish I could call my Psychiatrist but I can't because of privacy.

  30. randomx
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    27 March 2021 in reply to ecomama

    l hope your sons ok em, and that you score a pile of insurance money or something from the floods. lf it's any consolation it took two yrs but my brothers basically rich now from the qld floods yrs back. My best to your son. rx.

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