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Topic: Vent and then let it go...

  1. Missing user
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    1 February 2021

    Thanks Grandy and Shell, I appreciate that. I like you both too.

  2. monkey_magic
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    1 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    She's got the issues. Not me. She's pushing me away...at another place I just might stay. She's projecting onto me. She's insecure.

    She did a major damaging thing to me in the past.

    Really our relationship is only hanging on by s string... actually I feel she's broken the relationship.

    We will live like strangers...not like mother and daughter.

    Years upon years of being lashed out at...

    Is enough for me to push back....

    I can sever the tie, doesn't she realise this. But do sociopaths even care, probably not.

    She's selfish...always seeing what she can get.

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  3. clown of mine
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    1 February 2021
    it is hard renovating sometimes I need to do things that I have never done before I use utube and I read if there is material in the local library it stresses me sometimes and other times I feel dumb, but we are pushing on regardless It's just hard
  4. Missing user
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    1 February 2021

    I always feel like I constantly do something wrong on here and I don't mean to. I wish I was good enough.

    I wish I had friends, even just 1, in person. I just want to do basic stuff - shopping, go to the movies, stay at home, go out to eat, the usual stuff. No one wants to do that these days, it's all involving clubbing etc. That's not my thing and never will be.

    I just don't fit in anywhere. I'm a nobody. I'm nothing.

  5. monkey_magic
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    1 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    You are good enough.

    I hope you can feel like a somebody.

    And I hope the things U want can come true for you.

    Of course you fit in somewhere.

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  6. Rynn
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    1 February 2021
    When the person you trust and love the list most gets drunk and forces their misguided views on you
  7. Rynn
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    1 February 2021
    Accused for the hundredth time (just because he’s drunk) of cheating when I’ve never done anything like it.
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  8. monkey_magic
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    1 February 2021 in reply to Rynn
    Hi Rynn,

    Sorry for what U are currently receiving from him. I relate except the pushy misguided views happen when she's sober.

    We deserve better.
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  9. clown of mine
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    1 February 2021
    wish their was more love and understanding amongst humanity
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  10. Missing user
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    2 February 2021 in reply to monkey_magic
    Thank you, MM.
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  11. clown of mine
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    2 February 2021
    as bradley cooper sang maybe it is time to let the old ways go
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  12. Missing user
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    2 February 2021
    Everything sucks. Stuff just keeps going wrong.
  13. Missing user
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    2 February 2021
    I don't even care about myself or if something happened to me. No one cares and would miss me.
  14. Ggrand
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    2 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Dear Tayla...

    We would all miss you here😢..you are a member of this wonderful Beyond Blue family...and are very well liked and cared for by many people here...

    Im sorry your feeling this way sweetheart....I wish I could help you...to know that you matter to so many people..

    Grandy..

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  15. Matchy69
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    2 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Hi Tayla I agree with Grandy we all care about you here on here.You are a lovely caring person.
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  16. Sophie_M
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    2 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Hey Mb20lover,

    We're so sorry to hear how low you're feeling today. 

    We would encourage you to reach out to our Support Service or the Kids Helpline to talk through some of the emotions you're feeling. Kids Helpline counsellors can be contacted 24/7 via telephone and also via webchat if you go through the website provided: https://kidshelpline.com.au/

    In addition, the Beyond Blue Support Service can be contacted anytime on 1300 22 4636 or get in touch with us on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST here: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport

    You're are valued member of our community and please know we hear to support you. 
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  17. Shelll
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    2 February 2021

    Choosing to reject fear that is hovering around in regards to this TAFE course that I will hopefully start soon.

    Fear of what people will think of me. Fear of verbally speaking. Fear of going into the unknown. Fear of being with other people.

    I am definitely going out of my comfort zone.

    What is the worse that could happen?

    Life is short on earth, I am over being fearful a lot of the time.

    Not sure how I will go

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  18. Missing user
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    2 February 2021

    Thank you Grandy, Mark and Sophie. I posted here since it's a venting thread. I'm sorry to invade your thread, Shell.

    Whenever I try to go on the helplines no matter the time and day, I always have to wait hours so I give up.

  19. Shelll
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    2 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Ah where is the invader? 😊:)

    It's all cool Tayla. No sorry needed at all. Rest easy

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  20. Missing user
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    3 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    Thank you Shelll xx
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  21. clown of mine
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    3 February 2021
    Please people remember to drive your car carefully - have your car serviced every 6 months - and slow down cause we all wanna get home.
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  22. Matchy69
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    3 February 2021
    Why do I even try I offered to do a nice thing and am just made to feel like crap as usual.
  23. Missing user
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    3 February 2021 in reply to Matchy69

    Hey Mark, I'm sorry you feel that way. I think it's something I, and I'm sure many others, relate to unfortunately.

    You're a good person either way and we appreciate you here.

  24. Shelll
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    3 February 2021
    Sometimes I feel not real.
  25. Matchy69
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    3 February 2021
    I feel like people think of me as a bottomless pit of money.
  26. Shelll
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    3 February 2021

    My sister was sharing with me today and gave an illustration of something.

    Imagine....

    You are sitting down or just on a platform of a train station. You are just watching one train after another passing you. They do not stop at all. Just zoom past.

    Then within you start to sense fear. Or you sense rejection, or you sense guilt, or you sense aloneness, or even a thought of ending your life. Or maybe hate towards another person. You look at the next train on its way towards the station. It has a word on it. And has the train gets closer and it is going slower too, you see the word plastered on the train in big bold letters. ( mine is fear) The big bold letters spell fear on the train in my life at the moment. And I am feeling a little fear, not hugely. But I sense it there. And I recognise it. I don't bury it deep within me or pretend it is not there.

    I now see the train with the big bold letters has stopped at my station. It is a nice looking train. And looks inviting. Now I can simply choose to get on that train, find a comfy seat and away I go. And allow that train of fear to take me wherever it wants. Once you are on the train, the inside is dark and ugly. And the fear can grow.

    Or simply I can refuse to get on that particular train.

    Anyway I may have got some of the story mixed up.

    But I am choosing to let that fear train go. I am not getting on it. I don't want it to grow.

    And as I keep refusing to jump on that fear train it stops less and less at my station. I mean there is no point of it stopping as no one is jumping on it. I learn to keep refusing. And I have no desire to get on it.

    Eventually it just zooms past like all the other trains. I may still get an inkling of fear, because it is still approaching me. But it does not control me. I have a choice.

    So yeah I am letting the fear train go.

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  27. Missing user
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    3 February 2021 in reply to Matchy69
    That's not true Mark, I'm sorry you get treated that way.
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  28. Ggrand
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    3 February 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Hello everyone....🤗..

    Shelly....I like the train story...

    And you letting the fear train go speeding on its way....without you in it...

    Well done....💖.

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  29. monkey_magic
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    3 February 2021 in reply to Ggrand
    I think it can be really hard and daunting to try and accept certain behaviours in some ppl close to me. I do a lot to help but you can lead a horse to water but can't make them drink.

    For example a morbidly obese friend of mine has diabetes but is still eating a lot of the wrong foods and isn't taking his health seriously enough. I, on the other hand are losing weight and exercising and wish he would follow my suggestions. He's looking at an early grave. But, I can't help him.

    I've given good, solid advice to lots of ppl who haven't taken it but I can't change them for them, they have to do it.

    It sucks because I can't help and see their lives heading in the wrong direction.
  30. Shelll
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    4 February 2021

    Think I am starting to exist in the place that is not real. Out of touch. Inward. Misty. I don't belong here. I don't like it. Feels like I am not awake. Physically I know that I am. Other parts of me are not awake.

    When I was a teenager I use to read book after book. Fiction stories about girls roughly the same age as myself. I think I lived in the book. Dinner time at my place... I would physically stop reading my book. I would be physically sitting at the table and eating. But my mind was still in the storyline written on the pages. A not real feeling. A not connecting to real people. Living in a make belief existence. Happened many times. Similar sensation

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