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Topic: Vent and then let it go...

  1. ecomama
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    9 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Feeling pretty cranky that the vet left metal staples in my daughter's dog grrrr AND tried to charge her for removing them! She refused to pay, it was ALL inclusive in the quote.

    AND tried to charge her for removing the ones they left in today! Repeat response.

    omg I wish they'd realise that NOW we have OPTIONS.
    There never used to be many options here, so maybe they'll learn.

    We're all changing vets to one who our friends have used for 15 years.

    Also what upset us was what Alexa heard them saying right behind a door about a deceased pet, it was cruel and uncaring and she was panicking that it was her dog.
    So my feedback will include this too.

    We gave them feedback on the terrible condition pup left the surgery and they apologised and tried to make amends but none of their workers felt this way.

    Onwards and upwards I guess.... moving on.

  2. CMF
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    9 February 2021 in reply to clown of mine

    Great thread!

    My partner's sister lives with him and his boys - owns part of the house since his divorce. He has a really bad back atm and I'm so sick of him doing everything while she just worries about herself. Her crap is all over the kitchen and living room, i never see her do housework or clean. The pool is green and he was trying to clean it but struggling with his back. Her and her bf use it, she is always sunbaking so why can't she clean the damn pool, after all, she owns part of the house now. I'm so damn sick of it, of her and her crap being around all the time.

  3. Shelll
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    9 February 2021

    Starting TAFE tomorrow.

    Feeling scared, so I am choosing to let go. But I am also feeling a bit excited, as I do like adventures. So I am going to hold onto that

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  4. Ggrand
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    9 February 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Good luck Shelly tomorrow starting Taffe...you’ll do good...You got this lovely lady....

    Deep breathe if and when you need to...

    We are all right next to you...cheering you on..

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  5. Missing user
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    9 February 2021

    Feeling bad now about my earlier comment saying my GP doesn't help. He helped me today but I had to nag him, and distract him. Luckily he didn't ask me about a Psychologist so that worked.

    Turns out I have Asthma though and to make it worse, I'm that stupid I can't use the Inhaler properly. I really have no IQ, I'm so stupid. No wonder I didn't finish year 10 and left, I'm surprised I even made it that far. Like who doesn't know how? Little kids do. I'm so god damn dumb.

  6. Matchy69
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    9 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Tayla you are not dumb.It is new to you and just need time to get use to it.
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  7. Ggrand
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    9 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Tayla....you’re not stupid or dumb at all..please don’t be so hard on yourself....

    I was diagnosed with Asthma after the horrid dust storms we got in 1999...and it took me a while to be able to use it...even now some days I don’t get it right.,,,It takes patience and practice to do anything well....

    Keep trying and you’ll get there....

    Grandy..

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  8. Missing user
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    9 February 2021 in reply to Matchy69

    Thanks Grandy and Mark, but I am.

    Everything is so hard lately, everything going on. They won't fix my bunion (same with another patient who had a referral done there) at the hospital where my Doctors is (30 mins away). He said I should go to the city (3 hours), Mum has to go there tomorrow. I think I'll stay home, the city triggers me, I hate it.

    So I asked if I could go to a hospital 1 hr & 15 mins away, he said he'll do a referral. I need an ultrasound since my last period was heavy & I'm on the pill.

    I don't like being home alone but I should be ok. I'm WAY too dependant on my parents and that's disgraceful at 21 - I can't do anything. I can barely cook. I learnt at school but the teacher helped me with most of it even if I didn't ask.

    Sigh, so I really am dumb, but thank you. I know a few people are dependant on others when they have mental illnesses. This is part of my AVPD (Avoidant Personality Disorder) also. For example those who live in mental health housing, those with disabilities, etc.

    Sorry for rambling, everything sucks & everything comes at once for me.

  9. Missing user
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    9 February 2021
    Had a bad day, so I'm feeling depressed and suicidal (I'm safe). I tried speaking to Lifeline. I got distracted and did something while I wait, they cut me off. I forgot the screen was up, I guess that's my fault. Sigh.
  10. Shelll
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    10 February 2021

    I couldn't do it.. Tears now sitting in the car park.

    I arrived at the TAFE. Managed to find where I needed to go. Saw everyone else in uniform but me.

    What was I thinking... The teacher chef showed us around, like fire exits, lockers etc. Then said that we will be working in the cafeteria until 2pm. So I walked with everyone else in through the kitchen, which was massive. A full commercial kitchen. With many chrome benches, pots, bowls. She said she would get me a uniform. As she was showing us things, the panic started to increase. Their were students in their chef uniforms all around me. Thoughts of working in this environment freaked me out.

    I did not think much more, just made my way through the people, walking around them back out.

    I cannot do it... too much... In a daze...

  11. Missing user
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    11 February 2021

    Sick of the receptionist/executive assistant at the company where I see my Psychiatrist (Telehealth).

    I email her if I have a question for my Psychiatrist or need something passed onto him. He replies, isn't annoyed and frustrated, and he works at a private health insurance company aswell as that, so he's twice as busy but still has the time. Like it's just an email?

    If people at the company aside from her would DO THEIR JOB & REPLY whether I call or email, I wouldn't.

    I'm going to ask my Psychiatrist if I can contact him if I have a question or an issue, I know some Psychiatrists let their patients contact them. I'm sure, well I hope so, if I explain the situation he'd understand. I wouldn't invade his privacy etc though.

    I don't need to be spoken to like that when all I do is send an email. I don't know what her job involves and is that hard to type something and send it, seriously?

    I told my Psychiatrist about her last time & he wasn't happy, I don't think he likes her.

    Sick of her & her crap.

  12. monkey_magic
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    11 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Money does seem to be the root of evil.

    At the dentist the female dentist dominated the situation and gave me injections of numbing stuff into my gums because she said getting the x-ray can be a bit painful.

    Ok, now, when the thing was put into my mouth to take the x-ray it was uncomfortable but I didn't need painful numbing injections for this.

    My mum says she did it for the extra money.

    Yep.
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  13. Missing user
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    11 February 2021
    Looked up Psychologists near me, I found one that looked ok. Then I saw the Manager of the Headspace Centre I went to now works there. I complained about her & she was fired, because of how poorly she treated me, so did the Psychologist & group members. I was instantly triggered, & still am.
  14. Shelll
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    12 February 2021

    Issues with my mouth again. I am so weary of this. I can't take it anymore. I am not used to verbally speaking up in regards to myself. Going to the dentist yet again on Tuesday. Just wish there was someone to take care of it all for me. Make the decisions for my good. I have struggles making decisions about myself. Seems like a bad dream a lot of the time. How does one know what the best decision is for oneself? Which way to I go, what to do in this circumstance.

    I have super sensitive gums, that is what they said. Even when they numb areas in a certain spot in my mouth, I still feel pain there. I have even wondered if they damaged a nerve somehow before. I wouldn't know.

    The filling they did last time, fell out yesterday. What does this all mean? Did they not do it right, does my body just reject it or what? Do I need to pay for it again?

    In a daze, maybe a faraway place

  15. Missing user
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    13 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    Everything sucks, sigh. So alone.
  16. Matchy69
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Hi Tayla I am sorry you are feeling very low.I just want you to know I am allways here to listen.
  17. Harpbird
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    15 February 2021
    My vent is why does the medical receptionists pass the buck, why not if you forget to pass on patient information say “ sorry I over looked it” one says they forward onto GP , then they say they haven’t received it, Meanwhile we wait and wait. ahhhhg ok vent done .
  18. Missing user
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird

    Thanks Mark.

    Harpbird - oh my goodness, tell me about it. I thought I was the only one that happened to, I'm glad I'm not. That happens for me all the time with the Telehealth company I see my Psychiatrist on.

    Including today. My Mum got a call saying there's a cancellation today at 11am (I also was meant to have an Ultrasound but I decided not to) to see my Psychiatrist. My Mum bought the phone into me and I rang straight back, and they said it's not available? What? It was literally in minutes.

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  19. Harpbird
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Hi mb20 lover, isn’t it just so frustrating. Happens to this certain pain clinic ALL the time. My osteopath tells me ring them , ring them , the more I ring them the more they say no appointment available, so I get really anxious before ringing them as I feel like I am pestering them. But now I realise THEY arnt relaying back to the patient grrrrr. So more waiting for this pain management plan to get started. Lucky I can’t hold my breath long.

    I did get a call back from the psychologist today ( only waited two weeks) they had a cancellation today, well thanks for the notice, so couldn’t attend and now Atleast got an appointment in 4 weeks . Take care

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  20. Missing user
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird

    Hey Harpbird. Yep it is frustrating, I'm sorry that happens to you often.

    I email the Telehealth company, they never reply, even if I call them, and ask them to pass something onto my Psychiatrist, so I email the Executive Assistant, at least she responds, but she gets mad at me, like that's part of her job? If I had a way of contacting him privately, I would. Ugh.

    Sorry to hear about your Psychologist.

  21. CMF
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    15 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird
    I hate that we are on a little lockdown again
    I hate that I got so annoyed with little miss today over her school work.
    I hate that my partner is always so positive and had had such an easy life while I've had so many struggles.
    I hate that his sis lives with him and his boys, that she has a bro crush on him and parades around in a bikini in front of him.
    I hate that she loves attention so much and had to put every thing on social media.
    I hate everything today.
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  22. Harpbird
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Mb20 lover, thanks for your reply, you offer some good tips that help people.
    Atleast I am not the only one getting overlooked. No wonder we end up stressed. If I was game enough I would do my block but if I did that I would never get in to receive my pain management injections. Yes I was please the psychologist rang and thought of me yesterday and only have a month to wait for an appointment, Atleast I have one YAY. I hope she can help me cope with my head. I have only seen one other psychologist and she just stared at me making me feel so uncomfortable while my heart was broken. Had no intention going back to her.
    I think these Telehealth phone calls are the worse thing that has come out of covid. Takes longer than ever to get an appointment and they rush you through it. The medical centres will be making a fortune just calling people. Though covid hasn’t effected our area , which I am thankful for as my health couldn’t take getting that sick.
    I do have my daughter coming over today so I get some special time with my bubby granddaughter while she takes her son to dr.
    take care
  23. monkey_magic
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird
    This is truely horrible.

    I've been in pain and cramping for the last 5 days.

    Doc weaned me off hormone tabs meant to regulate woman's business and it came back with a vengeance, for the last five days and counting.

    I'm back on the tabs and I hope it stops again.

    It's too much.
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  24. Harpbird
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    16 February 2021 in reply to monkey_magic

    Oh monkey I am so sorry your going through that. Going of meds is so dang hard , I really feel for you , I am lucky enough to live in a rural area so man I go out and scream sometimes till my throat hurts , might look like a fruit loop (well I am a little nutty sometimes) , but helps 🤪. A couple of years ago I was on a concoction of meds To help my pain , plus I was taking more meds to help with the nausea, constipation, dry eyes and mouth. So I asked my GP to refer me to a pain specialist and to help me wean off and start from scratch, I tell ya it was the worse 7 months in my life , it was hell. I never want to go back there. I wish you well and hope they can help sort it for you. Xx

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  25. Missing user
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird

    Thanks Harpbird, I appreciate that. Yep, I've always seen my Psychiatrist on Telehealth, but I do agree, sometimes it's bad and rushed, and is hard to get appointments.

    Sorry to hear MM, I hope you feel better.

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  26. Harpbird
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Your very welcome mb20lover, good to have people like you on this forum helping others xx

    I do have an awesome osteopath, can’t praise him enough , he even will have ordered me a piping hot chai latte ready for me on a cold morning.

    I really don’t know wether to laugh or cry at the medical team I have. I do have his price mobile number for the times my spine locks up and I need treatment.

    i used to brag about having such great medical practitioners caring for me .

    I just rang my GP’s medical centre (again) just now to find out if my approval form has been signed and sent to the pain specialist. No they have not received any forms at all 🤦🏻‍♀️.

    so rang the imaging place Where the pain specialist works from and they said they have definitely sent them out 🙄and will re-send another Lot of forms out now and I will hear back from them with in the week. So 🤞 . .

  27. Missing user
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird

    Thank you, love your profile pic by the way, lol.

    That sucks, I'm sorry. I know how you feel.

    I have a mild/moderate bunion that is quite painful, my GP referred me to the Orthopedic Surgeon to see if I need surgery, and they said I didn't meet the criteria, even though I just wanted to see if I need surgery?

    He said he can try a hospital 1 & a half hours away, I asked him to, rather than the city which is 3 hours away (I'm in VIC). Haven't heard anything yet, hopefully he has.

  28. Harpbird
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Thanks that profile is definitely me lol.

    Bunions can be very painful, my friend has finally had hers done. Can they Atleast get you on a waiting list so by the time the pain becomes unbearable your ready to be done. I agree 1 & 1/2 hours is much better, 3 hours , yeh , nah

    i meet with this lady every 2nd Saturday for coffee, she has mild pain so we use it as our sooky Saturday, we whine about everything that hurts and don’t judge each other. She had a friend that joined us last week , was a funny lady, so good to have such actual belly laughs.

  29. Shelll
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    16 February 2021
    Went to the dentist again today... So much hoping this ordeal is over now
  30. Missing user
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird

    That's nice you have a friend, I wish I did.

    Shell - I hope you feel better

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