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Topic: Vent and then let it go...

  1. ecomama
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    27 February 2021 in reply to Emo

    Thanks Emo! Yep bully was dealt with immediately by Big Boss yesterday.
    Kids are great, Yvette's work friends birthday party tonight lol.
    I kept a packet of lollies, want some?? I ate all the pineapples & strawbs and cream, you can have all the others lol.

    You're awesome, get well, come back, hugs!

    We'll be waiting for you. xxxx

    Hey amberlite, I'll take your anger off of you!

    If you want to blurt out every single thing you're angry about here, or on my thread or on your own thread (which I haven't found yet ummm??) then GO FOR IT.
    You can do one at a time if you want to?

    I'm super good at dispelling anger, so hand it over lol.
    No keeping any in little secret spots either, OUT WITH IT.

    Here for you.

    Love EMxxxx

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  2. Ggrand
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    28 February 2021 in reply to ecomama

    I am so over this mice plague...Therecare no holes where they can enter my home..except the doors..which I leave open for my furs during the day...I can’t lock them inside nor outside they need to run free....

    I done something..I put mice bait out...Which I hate doing..I mean the poor mice didn’t ask to be born mice..did they..they have a right to live like we do...Now I have a dead one in my laundry...Karma will get me...for taking some of Mother nature’s lives...

    My laundry smells bad..now I need to search it out..and remove it...then disinfect the entire room...I am not physically well today..nor mentally....but I have to do it...They are tiny little field mice...so cute..so very small...only looking for food.....they mean no harm to me/us.....Why can’t they go back to the fields they were born in?....

  3. Sleepy21
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    28 February 2021 in reply to Ggrand
    can understand u shelll as mice are hard to deal with. Had them in Winter and an exterminator got rid of them with traps.... never seen one again.

    Feeling a bit lost today. Nowhere to turn to really,, feel a bit blown off by others.

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  4. amberlite
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    1 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    still trying to let go of my anger i cant remember the grief circle but i think thats where i am each morning i have anger about having a mental illness its the tag i wish they had not told me and just said take this pill to get better yep thats it cause i can feel the annoyance as i write about it gotta go
  5. Ggrand
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    1 March 2021 in reply to amberlite

    Dear amberlite,

    I hope you don’t mind me popping in to just say to please don’t be angry about having a mental illness....Acceptance of our mental health can help get rid of the anger your feeling...so many people are effected by mental health...your not alone lovely amberlite....

    amberlite...you are not your depression or whatever other “tags” you have been diagnosed with....You are a beautiful person please don’t let those “tags” define that beautiful person you are..

    I can choose to let it define me, confine me, outshine me or refine me..or I can choose to move on and leave all my yesterdays behind me”...

    My kindness and care..amberlite and everyone ..

    Grandy..

  6. Sleepy21
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    1 March 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    today was one of the worst days

    a MH worker at the hospital lost their temper at me and talked to me like i was an idiot

    i feel gross and upset

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    2 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    Sleepy I am really sorry that happened to you.Its happened to me to.It should never happen.
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  8. Sleepy21
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    2 March 2021 in reply to Matchy69

    hi mark it wuld be amazing if this didn't happen

    i had such a rough night and am hurt and angry

    they have called my GP apprantly but won't confirm when or if and say that duty of care means they can do anything they want. But then withhold the info from me.

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  9. Sleepy21
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    2 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    called again and the hospital said someone misread the notes and no one called my gp

    that no one from the hospital has followed up at all. I believed their stupidity which is why I got stressed. handover sucks there.

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  10. amberlite
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    4 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    I think selfish people are the ugliest people of all if you don't care about others you should go and find a cave.
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  11. Sleepy21
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    4 March 2021 in reply to amberlite

    hi amber lite there is a beautiful poem called "I will tell you about selfish people" by Rupi Kaur

    it's one of my favourite poems

    selfish ppl are the worst, totally with u there.

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  12. amberlite
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    4 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    One Thousand Thankyou's this poet Rupi Kaur is stella she cuts right through to the heart, thankyou for leading me, you are number one person!!!
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  13. Shelll
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    4 March 2021

    I desire so much to let go of unhealthy fear. Well actually more then let go... Rather throw it, stomp on it and whatever else to get it out of my life. And perhaps everyone else life as well.

    It holds you back, it in prisons you, it can squash you, it can whisper lies to you, it can shout at lies to you, it wants me to hide away, it cripples you, it can blind you to real life, it does not like you, it robs joy from you, it can steal happiness from you, it hinders you, it can muddle up your thoughts. It does not love you. It does not desire the best for you. It is not on your side.

    I desire to stomp on it all. Stomp stomp stomp

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  14. Sleepy21
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    4 March 2021 in reply to amberlite
    hi amberlite was speakig from the heart as your post reminded me of that gorgeous poem. She is heart and soul for sure. I remember that poem distinctly from her book as it was clearly and miles ahead of the others my favourite.
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  15. Sleepy21
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    4 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    every apartment i'm seeing has just ONE thing missing from it

    No carspace? No laundry facilities? Creepy neighborhood? i'm waiting for one which ticks all the boxes and is safe. Let me find somewere safe and secure to live and be okay as asingle woman in this city!

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  16. amberlite
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    8 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    slow burn anger continues this I can do without. I keep stuffing up and I do it cause I cant see Im doing it and thats super annoying.
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  17. Sleepy21
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    bumped into someone on the street, someone i was friendly with before pandemic times, and he was so unsettling and upsetting in conversation. so off. I think I was less aware of it before, and just realised I don't want much to do with him. Boundaries boundaries boundaries.... i want a fresh start and to feel anonymous and safe again.
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  18. Sleepy21
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    8 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    extreme social anxiety, so annoying. mustering courage to leave the house for a social event. i am going by myself which i feel fine about in theory but on a deeper level has always made things hard. i check my outfit 50 times and struggle to get out the door. Hate this pre-amble part of going out. Just want to be there already and over this suffocating anxiety
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  19. Shelll
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    8 March 2021
    Sadness, flatness, rejection.
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  20. ecomama
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    9 March 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Upset that there are bullies "in our lives".

    One at my work I had to report, I wonder if my boss would've believed me saying "Oh ____? Really? I've never heard of her doing anything like that".
    Well wake up sunshine lol. I'm not the only one.
    Then I told boss I had a recording app on my phone. Grrr. I didn't let her listen to the recording, said I'd seek independent Legal advice first.

    Bullies at school.
    One son is leaving school today because of them. Grrr.

    Bullies in another year at school.
    Youngest d is struggling to see her way thru to legal age for leaving school because of them. Grrr.

    I've reported the bullying at school to the Executive there "there's really nothing we can do about it" kind of attitude. Well I WOULD.

    Just more obvious layers of our society's screwed up views on abuse.

    The abusers get the freedom and the victims are left to suffer the consequences.

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  21. Harpbird
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    9 March 2021 in reply to ecomama

    I too was bullied all through school, not physically but because I has such a large chest, was more groping trying to grab me, some days I would walk the 11 km home so I wouldn’t get touched.

    now I suffer chronic pain because some poo head rear ended me at a set of traffic lights while on his mobile phone, he got off Scott free now I live a horrid life. So I agree the bullied and victims suffer in the long term. The abusers and careless have it all.

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  22. Sleepy21
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    Finally have been linked in with the NDIS - took one year of drama and being passed on and it was actually simple to get just needed to have the right people in my corner... why did it take so long ?
    The MH system in Victoria is apparantly "good" and yet... so many ppl fall between the cracks.
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  23. CMF
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    10 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    Hate when im6on the phone with my partner and his sis is in the room lidtening/commenting/talking to him in the background.

    Hare6thst she lives with him yet doesn't seem to help with dishes, he tells me cos he dirtied them, yet he is in pain with a bad back. He was using the tens m machine last night, she brought him a coffee but he then got up to finish the dishes. Guess she doesn't want to ruin her nails.
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  24. Shelll
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    11 March 2021

    Overwhelming and such a heaviness about the health of my body.

    Feel so alone in this

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  25. randomx
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    11 March 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Me too, in life. l feel as if it's so short and l need to be somewhere , and not alone anymore. But l'm pretty well no where , and at the end of the day l am still alone. l can't afford gambles now , can;t just exists for tomorrow anymore but still not today, it's never today, always tomorrow. l need to make it today bc it's just no damn good living for tomorrow, tomorrow tomorrow. Don't know how l can turn yrs of tomorrows into the now though, the todays instead.

    Ever known those people that can just walk up n smack life in the face, yet somehow still land on their feet , ha, often even practically rewarded by life, or the AH's of the world , that can somehow still just do no wrong anyway. They really get on my nerves. rx

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  26. CMF
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    12 March 2021 in reply to randomx
    Rx,

    Yeah I know those people. Every thing just goes their way and they seem to get more and more given to them.

    I just don't get it.
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  27. randomx
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    12 March 2021 in reply to CMF

    Me either , try , get crap , don't try , get crap, g figure.

    l've been through this so many times in my life but once again l need to start reminding myself again to enjoy whatever l can in the now . learnt that lesson 100 times but l'm a repeat offender and keep slipping back, everytime. There must be things today , yaknow. No matter how small , think l need a sign on the wall for that one too. rx

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  28. Sleepy21
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    12 March 2021

    i like this thread more and more as i realise how healthy it is to vent and let it go

    and be angry

    and be frustrated

    things sometimes are just plain madness.

    I think or know that I made a stupid choice this week but I've been stuck between two hard places... two not perfect choices... and I had to choose one, and I did so impulsively and it wasn't the right one... but neither really are...

    I'm so scared half the time more of pissing people off, annoying ppl, not being good enough, not being perfect, not making the perfect or smart choice, I always just harm myself in the end...

    What does your heart want? they say -

    I have no idea in the slightest.

    I want to have choices that make sense and not to be shoved in a corner.
    I want to feel that whatever I do is okay

    i want to have options and flexibility and to move through life without being afraid of failure

    I just want a break, really.

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  29. CMF
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    13 March 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    My work colleague lives an hour from the office. Her choice. Since last year's lockdown she hadnt6wanted to be back in the office, wants to WFH. She is always modify and peeved off, always wingeing. I get it,but enough is enough. I'm new in the role and learning and her moods sre6bringing me down. She's now told she can do a few days from home, 2 or 3. She's choosing 3 of course. It's a good thing but not sure how it works with me still learning. I'll probably be better off as I eont6have het negativity and wingeing but we're also getting new systems soon so I'll be learning a new job, new system and be on my own 3 days. How's thst6gonba work? It's unfair on me that I have to keep hearing how she hates it in the office and doesn't want to be there. She's always unhappy about work and herself. She's nice to people's faces but not behind their backs. It us affecting me, all the negativity. Can't wait till she's at home.
  30. Guest_9486
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    Feeling so overwhelmed tonight. I find that sometimes when everyone else in the house is asleep is when I get panic or anxiety, maybe it’s some kind of release from being everyone else’s support during the day?? I feel a lot of guilt sometimes as I feel like I’m not really cut out for motherhood. I don’t cope well with being depended on by everyone and I feel all their issues and upsets very strongly. It takes a huge emotional toll on me. I get through and put on a happy face but then sometimes at night, like tonight, my son woke up briefly and then after he went back to sleep I just found myself sitting up in bed feeling so panicky over what seems like such a minor thing. But I know it’s like a build up of lots of small stressful things releasing. I wonder how many other people feel like this, like they’re kind of just floating along trying to get through just the simple stresses of normal life?? Not sure how people cope
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