I use the new year as a stock take. I have typed a document with my goals for the year which I can then review and adapt at the end of each year.
Along with each goal I specify why this goal is important to me. For example one goal is to spend 4 hours a week on housework. The aim is to keep my house tidy so I can find things easily (Wasting time looking for things is EXTREMELY frustrating for me so this is really important) and so the house feels pleasant to be in. The limited time frame stops me spending too much time trying to get everything perfect and then not having time for other things. This goal works for me so I will keep it for 2021. Since I'm in the habit of doing it it makes it easy to achieve this goal.
For me the review is about looking at the goals for 2020 and deciding how you have gone. Is it something which is helpful in which case it can be continued. If is is no longer relevant or has been finished delete it for next year. Are there things which you haven't achieved but are still relevant? Think about why you haven't succeeded and then what can you do to refocus so you can succeed.
For me there were a few things I discussed with my psych last year but the events of 2020 made it too hard to follow the advice. These are still really impacting my MH & life negatively so I need to refocus and follow through in 2021. Recognising they are challenging for me is important because I know I have to allow myself the time and mental space to do these things. expecting myself to do it easily and beating myself up about it won't help. One thing I need to do is get some respite from my carer role. My psych has been encouraging this for years but it has become more crucial now because I have become so stressed and tired. My low mood has affected my ability to care for my husband properly so I do need a break. My difficulty is guilt about spending money on myself so I can go away and I will have to deal with negative thoughts while on my own so it not easy.
New year resolutions or goals need to be based on your needs not just societies expectations. Being realistic about the effort required is important. Knowing why you have chosen a goal is essential to give the motivation to succeed.