Hi Blueangel, welcome
It's great you have that outlook and its a good question for other readers here. I hope they chip in with their own ideas on motivation.
For me, I have a foundation of positivity. It isnt easy to grasp it and maintain it constantly so on the odd occasion I relax it and let myself become a little negative then bounce back again. Sounds silly but being ultra positive all the time is a little odd and unnatural IMO. My positivity is then realised more when I bounce back from a sorry state.
I think my greatest advance in motivation was my total acceptance of me having the illnesses I have. They are now a part of me and I'd be lost without the positives they bring to my life. What? What is White Knight saying? Positives from mental illness?
Yes, my creativity, sensitivity, open kindness to others in need and my need for some solidarity and alone time. All positives. Do these positives make up for the illnesses...???? of course they dont but I've trained my own mind to think they do. How? Because I've learned over the years to turn many negatives into positives.
I might ahve a day when everything goes wrong. By late afternoon I'm a mess and me depression has been with me for days.This happened many years ago on one particular day. I walked outside and sat on the steps and focussed on a daisy.
Then I did this, thought this then wrote this-
On your saddest day
You take a daisy flower
You pick petal for each of your woes
And count them by the hour
And when it becomes a stem
Your problems as big as a city tower
Your problems total all together
Still not as many as that flower....
A simple poem kicked in my positivity to keep rolling. And being positive is contagious. Your partner or friend will spring into action to. When my wife and I have a really bad time, at the point we think there is no return, no hope, I ask her to look me in the eye and I tell her "we will be ok, we will have a better day tomorrow....now how about a walk on the beach with fish and chips for dinner?" By the time we are at the beach we are fine and closer than ever.