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Forums / Staying well / When all is lost....what can you do? Be radical? how measured?

Topic: When all is lost....what can you do? Be radical? how measured?

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  1. white knight
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    22 January 2022

    Some years ago I wrote a post - When all is lost....what can you do? Be radical?

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/when-all-is-lost-what-can-you-do-be-radical-

    When I reflect on the content of that post, a post designed to give you options when all else has failed, its intent was to avert suicidal actions brought about due to not being able to find solutions. By taking radical steps you could just be saving yourself.

    What are "radical steps"?

    • Change of career/workplace
    • Change/addition of social interests
    • Addition of therapy groups
    • Change of environment
    • Change of living location
    • Change of relationship status
    • Identifying/acceptance with ones own sexuality

    All these changes have different impacts on us. There is a balance however as to the extreme of the changes. Any kneejerk reaction can have a negative effect and plunge us deeper into the abyss. Like any change we need a carefully thought out plan but that is not always possible when desperate. So what do we do? How radical do we act to avoid a more serious situation?

    My suggestion is to make subtle changes that become more radical if those subtle changes aren't effective enough. Eg A city dweller might identify that city living is having a negative effect...better to try living in a regional area rather than a true outback environment. After all in a small regional town one can be just as isolated if one chooses but a outback residence can impose extreme isolation when people contact is still a good thing.

    The message is clear- radical steps to save yourself should be measured. The steps above are radical indeed when implemented even when measured. We should avoid extreme actions that could pose more adverse results on our well being.

    Discussion welcome

    TonyWK

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  2. Elizabeth CP
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    22 January 2022 in reply to white knight

    I have been struggling badly for some time. Things which used to help no longer possible or don't help any more. Psych advised that the situation is now critical. I need to make some major changes if I want any chance to get better.

    I agree with the need for a radical change but with my low mood trying to work out what to do and to have the emotional strength to follow through is very hard. I need to avoid extreme actions that could pose more adverse results on our well being. I need an extended break from my carer role so I can recover from burnout which has left me exhausted which has led to severe MH problems. The effort of arranging this feels overwhelming and triggers guilt feelings. I need to find a measured step which is achievable.

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