I found a web site that is most interesting.

We often wonder who we are, why we think in a certain way and why we clash with others or if we are introvert or extrovert.

Google

16 personalities test

I did and found I'm a "mediator" and my wife an "advocate". Such descriptions are spot on.

It could answer many of your questions of your behaviour and put your mind at rest.

TonyWK

Hi Tony,

This sounds interesting, I will have a look.

I'm curious, you mentioned your wife is "an advocate". Did you check this site out with your wife? I am wondering if she came up with the same choice for herself?

It surprises me at times when someone tells me I am such and such and I have no feeling that is me at all.

Cheers to you from Dools

Tony

thats Myers Briggs is t it, it has been around a long time and I get a different answer each time I do it!!

I agree with Mrs Dools, when people say I am this or that and don’t consult or listen to me.

I like quizzes and they can be fun but as to accuracy who,knows. for me I change my answers depending on my mood.

i can come out as an Introvert or extrovert depending on my mood

PS I came out as mediator which is just one word and there are for other descriptors as well.

Always interesting to do a quiz, thanks Tony

Quirky

Hi Tony and Quirky,

I Googled the topic and many different sites popped up.

I selected one, went through the multiple questions, then they wanted my full name and email address so I stopped it.

Guess I will keep just being myself regardless! Ha. Ha.

Cheers from Dools

This site

https://www.16personalities.com/

Allows you to take the test. No need to go past "conclusion " at the end of the test.

My wife and I did the test at the same time and found both conclusions very accurate and very helpful ( more on that later)

Quirky I think you and I are very similar in personality in terms of sensitivity, kindness and so on (handsomeness aside lol).

Dools, good luck.

What we got out of it was significant for us. It answers why we react in a certain way, our behaviours are defined and it is separate from what I've always thought was mental illness to blame.

Eg sensitivity is one of the main personality traits of a "mediator". The question is- if this is so, is one prone to such sensitivity to manifest/multiply in childhood by mistreatment, bullying, dominance, expectations and so on.

If so, all along I've purely blamed such sensitivity on my upbring rather than consider the foundation of my state has been my personality type that has reacted to mistreatment greater than I otherwise would have.

Ironically my psych in 2009 when my the fiance now wife was handed the accurate diagnosis of my illnesses said "you'll find it hard to differentiate beyween the illnesses and his personality"

The benefits in distinction is the separation. Eg we live our lives through our own eyes. We assume others think like us yet in my wifes case advocates make up less than 1% of people! Mediators around 4%. Thats rare.

Reading through "advocates" and how she behaves in contrast to me all makes sense. Her patience talking calmly to others for hours to others anout their problems without a hint of data to support her effectiveness is pure advocate and her!

By studying these personalities we can put logic as to why some people enjoy being ambitious sales people and others would shy away ftom selling a suitcase on ebay, why our spouse might be more calculated with budgetting than us, why some are attracted to political careers and others couldnt think of anything worse.

But above all there will be situations where ones behaviour will lead to seeking adjustment of medication dosage when it is how we are wired and little to do with our illness.

That is significant.

TonyWK

Tony my partner did the test and he came outs same as me - I was so amazed as I saw us as very different.

So now he says why don't we do the test as how we see the other person!!

I will let you know the results.

I had a great childhood I just thought I was over sensitive because that was me.

So people would describe me as extrovert but I always come up I this test as introvert but maybe a talkative introvert.

It is funny how I will accept a label from a test but don't want a mental health label.

Quirky

Hi Tony,

I tired the site you suggested and the result that came up was "Defender". I read some of it and will continue to read it tomorrow. Some of it made a lot of sense and had me thinking, yer, that is me!

Cheers to you for this from Dools

Hi everyone,

Tony this is an interesting quiz. I was surprised to get Mediator as well but a lot of the description makes sense or is eerily accurate (especially the part about disappearing to recharge and feeling uncomfortable speaking via telephone).

I would love to see what hubby would get. It might help to understand how he sees the world and what he needs because we are incredibly different. Also would be interesting to see what I would come up as if he tried the quiz for me.

Thank you for sharing this link.

Tony,

y partner did the test answering how he felt I would answer and he got same result as me, I did the test as him and got Entrepeneur for him and complete opposites in every category.

So does that mean he knows me better than I know him or that I am more transparent.

Does that mean he acts one way but feels another- who knows but did surprise me.

I realise the test is not meant for someone to pretend to be another.

Quirky

Yes, it is interesting

My wife and I laugh at our traits.

A few years ago my MIL and her husband were going shopping. As they approached the car in the driveway her husband having last seen her approach the passenger door, vanished.

He searched the house and garage and looked up and down the street

Finally he returned to the car and found her beside the car on hands and knees weeding the grass. An arguement pursued as to why she didnt get in the car and why she didnt tell him she felt compelled to weed the grass.

This action highlighted a distraction trait that is evident in my wife. While building our caravan I'd enter the house and suggest she come to the garage so I can show her the latest development. I'd wait in the shed and wait and wait. I'd walk back toward the house to find her watering the garden. She'd get completely distracted on her way 6 metres to the shed.

What was important for me was to realise such actions were not an action of inconsideration or lack of respect but of innocently focussing on what she sees.

Everytime I ask her the same thing I say "and no weeding on the way". Lol

That is a small example of how we are all wired differently. Once we realise this and the impossibility of changing personalities, we can focus less on the why's of how others think.

But the lawns are well manicured

TonyWK

Hi all,

I like to do quizes like these. I just did this one. I came out ISFP - T Adventurer.

I also did the myer Briggs one a couple of years ago. A member called Blue started a thread on here about it. I am about to do a search for this thread. As my results for that quiz are on there. And I am keen to see if I am the same as before

Anyway Thanks Tony

Hi all

I have always found these sites helpful.

A while back I was a ISTJ-A LOGISTICIAN.

Now that I am doing a bit of Self-therapy and recognising a few things about myself ...

... this time I am a ISFP-T ADVENTURER.

Nice to see that I have changed in the areas that I was not happy with previously - sign of Progress in Personal Development.

I.

Hi Irene

Maybe a it of both? They dont include that possibility!

A logical adventurer sounds very challenging like Captain Cook perhaps?

TonyWK

Lynne, thats intetesting. Does that fit your personality?

Are you a mountain climber?

TonyWK

Hi tony i didnt read up on the adventurer so i dont know. I did the test again but got mediator so go figure. I havnt read up on that one yet cause theres ALOT to read in it. No i havnt had the oportunity to mountain climb but i would in a heart beat if i could. I love going off the beaten track in a bush and climbing up bushy hills ect

Lynne

Well, I'm a mediator. You are a softy like me.

TonyWK

Has anyone else done this test?

Like to discuss it?

TonyWK

mbti is a psuedoscience + isobel brigg myers was a white supremacist

stan Big Five Personality Traits for actual scientific merit. my main ones are neuroticism and openness to experience

Hi Tony,

I was looking in the Staying Well section for another topic but was pleasantly surprised to find your thread. Whilst I take all such things with a grain of salt, I do find the Myers Briggs Type Indicator to be an interesting and useful framework (among many to peruse with a critical eye) for self-analysis.

I am an INTP ("Logician" I believe they called it, I tend to use the initials). I've come up as INTJ on occasion in the tests as I sit on the border between the two. For the most part the INTP description is quite accurate (with a few INTJ traits like being decisive and not endlessly procrastinating like the average INTP) so that's the ring I throw my hat in. My partner is an INTJ and there are subtle but definite differences that the MBTI accounts for and helped me understand how we are so alike yet approach some things very differently.

I've also found the personality type descriptions helpful in identifying why I react to certain people the way I do - for instance I gel well with other "intuitive" types and tend to butt heads a lot with "sensing" types (though interestingly my best friend is one of them).

Interesting about your mother in law. I smiled knowingly at that story - I can be similarly distractable (albeit not *quite* that bad). I have the double whammy of a distractable personality type *and* (recently revealed) ADHD. I don't stand a chance!

You mentioned you're a "Mediator". That was ISFP or ISFJ, I think? How have you found the information about it helpful?

Blue.

Hi Blue

I didnt find it that helpful except it made me aware of how and why people act and respond the way they do...so different to me.

Mocha Delight- mountain climber? lol

TonyWK

ISTP-T Virtuoso

I agree with the letters but have never had that label before.

Just for interest sake, I got 92% for introversion. I took the Myers-Brigg test donkeys years ago, & got 100% for introversion. I’m becoming more social in my old age lol.

I got 'Advocate' - INFJ.

Reading through the weaknesses and 'Sensitive to criticism', 'Perfectionistic', and 'Prone to burnout' kind of sum me up well. It is interesting really that this line "Advocates just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves too" is something that my psychiatrist has been encouraging me to work on. It seems that I prioritise caring for others to the detriment of myself and my own needs.

I must admit that reading through the first few other famous INFJ's makes me feel a little inadequate compared to the high bar they set - Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Mother Therese!

Hi Fred,

My therapist 33 years ago said "Tony, when are you going to stop saving the world"?

Similar situation. Hence the white knight syndrome.

TonyWK

I under took original post test today...My current personality type is: Mediator INFP-T.

and about idk, maybe 8 years ago I was an Architect INTJ.

That's interesting to see personality is not entirely static.

Quite timely - I couldn't sleep last night so I did the quiz (I hadn't even seen this post yet)....

And like both yourself and white night, I am also INFJ-T (Advocate). Did make me chuckle when I was reading it AND seeing your post....

perfectionist - tick

prone to burnout - tick

standing up for what's right and deeply held principles - tick

questioning who you are and who you are meant to be - tick

Makes you smile that as rare as we are, there are a few of us here :)