That's a really beautiful idea J*.... you reminded me of something, funny how that happens all the time on this thread lol...
There's a site called "Good Grief" and through this a program for children called "Seasons for Growth" for children who've experienced grief and trauma. It's SO beautiful. We're all children at heart and we've all experienced grief and trauma.
In this program there's a little activity with a light cardboard heart that the children colour in and fold in half.
Then in a dish of water they all put their hearts in and they OPEN UP!
I think what you've described J* is open hearted living.
Acknowledging the feelings we have, both sad and poignant, and also the joy we have in our hearts for those relationships.
My fiancee lost his first wife in his mid 40s, we've talked about his feelings alot over this shocking, sudden loss. She was a wonderful wife to him.
Now we both feel joyful that she was part of his life, he can now talk about lovely things they shared without crying, darling man.
My mother spoke about her grief at losing my brother and said it was like having her arm cut off.
She missed this arm and will miss it for the rest of her life, but she had to learn how to live without it. This made alot of sense to fiancee.
I feel that way about my Nana. She made Christmas the MOST WONDERFUL TIME! She was a real joker and so much fun, GOSH she was a great lady!
She thought having all of us were such GIFTS and spoke to me all the time about how much she loved having us all in her life - regardless of the issues lol, and there were LOTS of issues lol.
She also lost so many people but her focus was on the people around her; family, broader community.
Gotta leave now, better get to work!
Lots of love EM
The delight in seeing hearts open up is wonderful to see and experience.