Welcome to the bb forum. I am really sorry that you are struggling to access help for your daughter. Of course, I am also sorry to learn that your daughter is unwell.
I have walked in your shoes. My daughter fell ill at age 13. I can remember waiting to access care, just like you, and I understand your pain and frustration.
It’s really hard to watch your child become even more unwell over time but, at the same time, not be unwell enough to access emergency care. I get it. It’s a heartbreaking place to be.
A couple of ideas come to mind that may assist you.
You could go back to your GP and ask for a referral to another child psychiatrist. There will be a wait, as you know, but worth it to be in the queue.
You could also ask your GP for a referral to a paediatrician (I did this with great success). I suggest this for three reasons.
First, a paediatrician can manage medication for mental health conditions, whereas your GP might not want to do this and a psychologist can’t do this. So if you can’t get a female psychiatrist this could be really important.
Second, they are also really good with mental health conditions.
Third, from my experience, a paediatrician may have better knowledge and networks with local child mental health practitioners. This means that you may well get a more thoughtful and appropriate referral from your GP. And with a call from the paediatrician you may get in faster.
I would also think about finding someone to provide you with mental health support. I found a mental health nurse in private practice and she was like my coach.
I told her about what was happening at home and she gave me strategies and advice on how best to support my daughter. I know I became a better support person with the knowledge and insights she shared with me.
The system is over burdened and the impact of COVID has exacerbated the situation. But I encourage you to hang in there. It can get better.
Kind thoughts to you