Hi Ausdog, welcome
Ive been whete you are at. I nearly didnt survive it. That was 1996, my kids 7 and 4yo. Last June I walked my daughter down the aisle and gave her away. Had I not made her my priority...that terrible day 22 years ago, some other man would need to be chosen.
Ausdog, Im not telling you anything new. But hanging on trying to be a good dad is so important to your child. And we sacrifice so much for our kids, thats our job.
You have visitations. Great. Keep them going. When he gets to 18yo he will drive to your place when ever he likes. No more child support.
My big mistake was living with a woman that didnt like my kids. If I had my time again as a step mum she'd need to be a nurturing sort of lady. Make certain she likes kids...All kids.
With relationships, we should try to accept that with break ups it could be our fault, their fault or no fault of either party. That lady that said "you love too much" likely is just incompatible with a loving man. So blaming yourself isnt fair to you.
Distraction is the golden answer Ausdog. Keeping busy, don't stop. Please google
Topic: distraction and variety- beyondblue
My kids are in their 20's now mate. Im glad I hung on and got through that period. If your boy gets to 14yo and wants to live with dad....make sure you have your life ready for him.
All the best.