Dear Farmer...

Thank you so much for keeping us updated on what’s happening and how your feeling....

It heart warming to hear that your feeling better today...I hope you can enjoy your day today and all the tomorrows..

Talk anytime you feel up to it..

Sitting with you ..with kind thoughts and care..

Grandy..

Dear Farmer and everyone ☺

Thanks matey for letting us know. Good hearing from you. Have been thinking and hoping it all went well.

Must be hard but also maybe a relief expecting it to be on that day and again put off till later.

I hope you're managing better sleep and so good you're feeling a bit better.

What also really made me happy was hearing you say along the lines of you're not going to give in. You have some serious strength you're accessing there. Keep that momentum up Farmer it's your survival mode kicking in.

Wishing you good outcomes on Dec 1st. That'll give your lawyer some time to build your case.

Lot of thoughts care and support Mr Farmer ☺

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Hello Dear Farmer..

I can relate to ridding ourselves of dark thoughts only to have them pop into our thoughts the next day...

You’re doing a really good job Farmer of erasing them when they start chatting to you...I’m really very proud of you..

When my dark thoughts invade my peace..I will listen to music, sing a long with it..Do some gardening or housework, anything to keep my mind and thoughts occupied on what I’m doing and away from the darkness...They are hard to quieten,,,

Please Farmer remember that you done nothing wrong..those dark thoughts are not warranted at all..they are lying to you....believe in yourself dear Farmer..and try hard not to listen to your thoughts...Cover them over with things you like to do..

My kindest and caring thoughts for you..

Grandy..

Hi Farmer ☺

I too can relate to dark thoughts.
They're the pits and yes they are very persistent.

There's so much to deal with when we're under such high stress as you certainly are.

Not only do we lose a lot of sleep over days weeks and so on which apart from the cause of tremendous pain our emotions go into turmoil and even moreso with depression setting in.

Our minds reaction is desparately wanting to be free of the pain and anguish. Hence dark thoughts.

It doesn't feel like it but we are capable of holding up until they in time start to back off. Especially if you don't think more about them.

She's deeply hurting & affecting all your lives in so many ways. If you acted on the thoughts possibly she'd feel more power like she's won. No dear Farmer don't give that to her!

I urge you not to let her take anymore from you and your family.

Hope to see you later if you're up to talking anytime and that you're finding more strength each day.

Take care. All of you 🌿

Hello Dear Farmer..

Thank you for getting back to us with an update..

Farmer...Please don’t give her the chance to destroy you and your family..Stay strong Farmer..and don’t let her win by destroying you...

Your doing the right thing with distracting those dark thoughts...

Do you think talking to your GP or a professional at all..even just for your lack of sleep and your anxiety?...They might be able to help you with meds or help you with talking your concerns out with a professional..Only if you want to...no pressure..

Farmer..I don’t understand how kids today put so much of themselves into their phones..Idk..maybe it was her security blanket..she didn’t feel safe without it..it’s so hard to know what they think...

I hope you can continue to fight those dark thoughts..you’re important and valuable to your family and friends..and to us here...Please take good care of you..

Sending my kindest thoughts with care..

Grandy..

Hello Dear Farmer..

Thank you for keeping us updated...

I hope you managed to talk to someone at work today..

Its a bit worrying the she is hanging around your work, especially with another person....Please be very careful and if possible don’t be on your own when she is around...I mean she lies, and has another “witness” with her..if she decides to “set you up”...I feel it’s extremely important that you’re not alone and no where near her/them...

Farmer if your at work and you see her..please can you immediately call the police, instead of emailing them...If she is breaking the intervention order she is breaking the law....

I can understand about helping people and they turn on you...It hurts so much..You have done no wrong Farmer...You gave her a home, family, care, clothes, schooling etc..

When those thoughts come..keep trying to distract them as best as you can..We are here for you...with care...

Talk anytime you feel up to it....Wishing you....all the best wishes I can..

Kind thoughts with care..

Grandy..

Hi Farmer Grandy and everyone ☺

Good seeing you Farmer thanks for popping in and keeping us in touch with how it's going for you all.

Dear man she's really making it hard for you. What a nightmare.

I agree with our lovely Grandy best to ring the police directly you don't need more grief on top of what you have. I'm hopeful she'll trip herself up with these weak going ons. It might be a good idea to tell your lawyer too Farmer.

You're under tremendous stress I know. It's incredibly hard all the time to stay on top of the extreme thoughts.

Keep dismissing them Farmer. Alliw your next thought to say why you want to live. You have love in your life and reasons to keep going. She can't take anymore from you and your family, they need you and you them I've no doubt.

It's terribly sad people like you doing such good for people and the community have to go through this.

I hold high hope for a good outcome.

Wishing you warmth care and support to you and your family.

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hi. I have read your story and it is sad the position you are in from the latest post. And I guess your sleep issues would not be making anything easier for you.

i guess that 10 years ago you had a dream, a vision, that you could do something for young people in trouble. To give them a start in life they might not have had otherwise. And now everything seems to feel it will come undone because of this situation. If you were anything like me, these thoughts would the spinning around in your in different forms that you cannot get rid of.

I do not think that much I would say here would help you overcome the anxieties you feel.

What I can tell you is this... your job as cleaner makes you a valuable person. your life on the farm makes you a valuable person. wanting to be foster parents make you a valuable person.

I also hope that you would have some sort of plan for you when you need help - containing numbers like lifeline and 000 for when you need to reach out to someone.

Tim

Hi Farmer ☺ and everyone 👋

Please don't feel you're talking too much. No not at all. It's great you're letting some pain out.

We care and can see you're in a really bad situation and are here because we want to stand by you.

Good on you working so hard to support your family.

I wonder do you think it could be worth seeing if your GP could give you something to help with sleep and anxiety.

Beautiful what her twin said to you both. She spoke from her heart by the sounds. You need to hear some good things to remind you what good you do.

Farmer always listening anytime you need to talk ☺

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Farmer

i have read all your post and am glad there is support. I had someone close to me accused of serious allegations which were untrue. He was a farmer and avo affected his work. It is sad and unfair after you helped this girl but you know she is very troubled .

Hopefully she gets the help she needs before more people are hurt.

Take care

Hi Farmer ☺

It sure is a roar deal. I'm so sorry that you're all going through such malicious treatment.

I'm hopeful that your time and experience with your previous foster kids can be used in your case that you've both done well by these children.

I'm glad you're talking here, it's an outlet for you.

I'd forgotten you work at the hospital as well when I suggested a walk you probably don't have much time spare I imagine.

Are there cameras at work that could prove she's hanging around. Alternatively could someone take some pics for proof.

I really hope there are some times that you can smile amidst all this Farmer.

Stay strong like you are Mr Farmer. You have a great deal to live for.

Best to you all ☺

Thank you my Daughter who is a Div one nurse was told by someone high up there is going to be a massive investigation in to Dhs and foster care association by A Current Affair They said the suicide rate has gone up for carers who have had false allegations made against them, and I know exactly how carers feel when false allegations are made against them it’s hell on earth and straight away your brain tells you the only way out is suicide, it’s alright the children get protected by child protection but who protects the carer when they have high risk children or have false allegations made against. No one you get zero support from anyone and if you commit suicide your just another person who left the earth, they will find someone else to take your place. Sorry I am trying not to get to the stage where there is no way out but leave the earth.

Dear Farmer,

Please don’t consider that the only way out is suicide...because it really isn’t, she will win if you do that, and your family will be absolutely devastated...and so will we all be.....

You have such a beautiful soul, fostering these children, and also you work in a hospital as well as farming your land....

If she is hanging around the hospital, the hospital security cameras will pick her image up..that’s proof for you that she is stalking you....The police are able to get hold of the cameras and act on it....

My heart really does go out to you....Please don’t give up on you....You have done so much good and giving young children a chance in life...not many people can do that..I’m sure the courts will speak to ever foster child you have cared for and will get good reports from them...even her twin sister says she is lying...The courts should listen to these reports and work out she is lying....

Keep strong in yourself farmer...keep your hope that the courts will see through her..I mean she is the only one that has made allegations against you, and only because of a phone...I’m praying so hard that you can remain strong and hold your faith that this will all turn out the way it should...You’re innocent farmer...I believe you, why shouldn’t the courts?..

I am deeply sorry that I can’t offer you any more then a few words...I care about you dear farmer..your family loves you..Please stay strong...and talk here anytime...I have been listening here..with my care, concern and love..

Gentle and caring hugs 🤗 Dear Farmer..

Grandy..

Its said that you feel let down and angry at the system that you wanted to help those years ago. I know your situation is unique (not everyone will go through it) but that not knowing and in you case of what is happening or when things will be resolved sounds the worst thing to go through.

I don't know why your foster child did what she did but understand that you are not the first person to have allegations made against them - I did a google search for "foster parent accused" and "foster parent how to deal with accuse" to learn something about what you are going through.

(It could also be true she did not have full awareness of the consequences and just wanted the phone back.)

I hope you are able to find some time to look after yourself. In QLD and NT there is also Parentline you could contact, and NSW has APANSW. Similar organizations might be able to help you feel not so alone and isolated.

Tim

Hey Farmer and everyone ☺

Wow staggering isn't it the amount of people going through this.

It seems each time she doesn't get her way she retalliates hard.

I'm hoping it'll be in your favor as well that so many knew she was lying.

It's good you're talking here. I hope it gives you some outlet.

Always wishing for good for you all.

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If you find posting here helpful to you, I would ask you to continue. There is nothing worse than keeping the feelings and thoughts you have inside. People here will respond and as I have said before, are all supportive and non-judgemental. Our stories are different and many of us have an understanding of each others ups and downs at some level. Remember each day that you start to feel low, that you have made it through before.

One other thing... you are not a madman - the stresses this puts on you is not something I could comprehend.I would think you reactions would be natural for someone in your position under investigation.

In telling your story here, and be open takes courage.

A very quick story - I was getting tests done for cancer last year. It was a couple of weeks before I would find out result. The specialist told me to try to compartmentalize the thoughts and possibilities. Nothing eventuated luckily. But that waiting period for a result is difficult.

I feel your situation would be worse than that.

As I said, I hope writing in this space help you.

Tim