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Topic: Help needed

  1. Farmer680
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    9 October 2020 in reply to smallwolf
    Thank you Tim, at the start it was very hard the only reason I knew about beyond blue was we were at a stationary engine rally many years. a go a man done a speech he said he started off beyond blue because his 16 year old son committed Suicide, I googled beyond blue then thought people will think I am mad if I tell them I wanted to leave this earth, butI signed up and posted my first post, and people actually understood and cared,if only the people out in the world knew there are people that do understand and care in this world they might have a second thought about committing suicide ,I know I would be absolutely lost with out talking to someone outside my family, I would just let it all bottle up inside, until there was no way out it’s a scary world we live in, thank you everyone much appreciated
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    12 October 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer and everyone ☺

    Such a shame to meet people in these circumstances.
    It's good to help people in their darkest times.
    You've helped so many, now's some good coming back to you here ☺

    There's constant change with every second of life which can begin recovery

    A way to ease some stress is to give your mind a break from the constant pain.
    Many may feel meditation sounds too hard.
    It's not that I don't think, like anything worthwhile it takes practice.

    Deep slow breathing as often as you think of is proven to help greatly with stress

    First get into a rythym of breathing. We're very tense with pain, it helps relax us & gets the oxygen around.

    • Feel the new fresh air entering your body
    • Slowly breathe out feeling your shoulders relaxing.

    • By thinking about something that has/does give you pleasure, maybe being in the water, being amongst the animals you care for, nature, music taste smell etc

    • Closing your eyes frees distraction.

    • Picture the scene and surroundings in your mind.

    • Remember and importantly feel the pleasure you've had or get.

    By not thinking how an unwanted thought makes you feel...it's easier to gently refocus back to your good place.

    Repeat this process about 5,000 times 😉

    Even 10 seconds free of negatives is 10 seconds free of pain making room for other thought.

    I think suicide and mental health's (mh) slowly now starting to be more openly spoken about. Not a moment too soon

    Reiterating constantly the many reasons thankfully you have helps take suicide out of options

    • The world needs good people Farmer.

    • You've done and I have no doubt will continue helping others in which ever direction in the future you choose. It's in your nature.

    • You and your loving family need you.
    You all have a right to know happiness and live in peace which would be denied if you give in.

    • Previously/now you help children into a good life.
    You didn't give up on them. They can't see you give up either.

    • The animals need you

    The best survival technique is not giving thoughts of suicide any power.
    Be firm with yourself saying NO It's not an option. Your mind then looks for other ways of coping

    You're a survivor which would be helping many here dear Farmer ☺

    Hold on matey You're doing incredibly well in very hard times. Power to you.

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  3. Ggrand
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    16 October 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hello Dear Farmer...

    I hope your feeling okay...and trying hard to be kind to you..

    I have been listening along here, but not replying not...I’m going through a bit of a hard time right now...

    You are so correct with your post above our beautiful Deebi’s...I signed up here in a bad way..after a few months I was suicidal and stayed talking on here...I found a beautiful bbff on here...and many great friends with there kindness and care got me through the roughest patch I had ever been through....I still fall quite a bit but I will continually keep get up because of these wonderful people here...I also wish other people feeling so down knew about this great organisation...I am so pleased you found us here at Beyond Blue....

    You have been doing so well managing your mental health and we are all so proud of you...Try hard lovely Farmer to keep those negative thoughts distracted when they start invading your thoughts....Dwelling on them..makes them grow so strong at times that it’s hard to distract then....The early you can distract your mind away from them..the easier it will be to manage them...

    You have such a beautiful and kind heart..helping children to get ahead in this world....giving them plenty of care and a family environment...The organisation that dropped you from their services really should be ashamed of themselves..they have known you many years..I am sorry they did that to you..

    Talk here whenever you feel up to it Dear Farmer..you’re a valuable member of our community family...

    Sending my kindest thoughts with my care...

    Grandy..

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  4. Farmer680
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    21 October 2020 in reply to Ggrand
    Hi Grandy and everyone, you are so right it has been hard, the organisation we fostered the children with for 10 years just chucked no explanation no nothing, all we wanted was the children to have a life they would never have otherwise, everyone child that come to us couldn’t read or write or tell the time but when they left they could read books write and tell the time. we only wanted the best for the children, the teenagers we had that were in permanent care they could read write or tell the time but now the one who stayed with us when her sister took off is in year 11 and doing fantastic, that’s all I wanted was for them to get a better job than what I have, and the other sister who was doing fantastic when she was living with us she took off over her phone was taken yes she has her own phone but is now struggling at school and that’s the reason we said no mobile phone until your 18,also we have been told by our lawyer he is quitting 25 years of being a lawyer he can’t stand the way good people are treated criminals the way it is now bad people have more rights, he also said and we wonder why the suicide rate has gone up, now we might have to find another lawyer. it’s been very stressful I need to stop thinking about it and stop the dark thoughts, they will not win we have done good to a lot of people then it all ends up like this an absolute nightmare I am so glad I can come in here and not be judged thank you so much
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    21 October 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer and everyone 🖐

    Good seeing you ☺

    It's really poor form isn't them just dumping you.
    All you've done so well should be taken into account.

    I was wondering if you feel up to writing or emailing them stating your case and how it feels to be presumed guilty if that's the case and deserted by an organisation youse have supported and done so well by for yrs. Possible the law says in these cases they have to stop contact but I don't know.

    I think standing up for yourself would be a good thing to do for yourself. You're choice just my thoughts.

    That's a real shame your lawyers moving on.
    You poor people that's another hard blow.
    Would he be able to recommend someone with luck.
    It'd be soul destroying for them seeing people go through the mill like this but Farmer it doesn't mean you're going to as well.

    I completely understand the constant thoughts and how deep they go. Your minds trying to fathom it and not knowing the next step must be agony.

    Try which takes practice focusing on only one thing. Pick something in the room that's neutral or pleasant think only about that. Gently allow other thoughts to move through without further thought on them.
    You need a break from constant pain you poor man.

    May I suggest that you jot down the numbers Sophie gave you back there a bit like mensline, suicide call back here etc.
    You always have here and as you know we care very much.
    They're professionals and also might have other lines of help that we're unaware of.

    My heart goes out to you and yours good man.
    You're in a terrible unfair situation by a nasty vindictive person who with any justice in this world will be caught and get the help she badly needs.

    Hold on Farmer you deserve to keep going. Good people need to stay. It's your right.

    Say Hi to your lovely animals for me plz.

    See you later. Thanks for keeping in touch ☺

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  6. Farmer680
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    24 October 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Thank you very much for your encouragement it’s very hard at the moment another blow loosing our Lawyer, he said the whole system needs an investigation , this person will never stop her lies, she told her twin sister who is living with us now, she has 9 intervention orders and was jumping up and down clapping her hands with excitement, I told our lawyer she will never stop because she kept saying my lawyer is free and laughs. surely legal aid would have to do something about it, also the organisation that chucked us after 10 years allowed this person to go around to the other foster children we had and put stuff in to there head more lies I just need to get a grip and stop thinking about it night and day, I need to fight the dark thoughts I have too,my wife goes and has another foot operation in two weeks as the first one never worked properly she has to rest for 6 weeks I have to go to court on the 11th of November and the 1st of December and that’s what I am scared of if she has made up more lies and I get taken away who will look after my wife, there will be no money coming in we will loose everything wow it makes me sad,all the organisation had to do was tell us ten years a go in training this could happen and it usually does we wouldn’t of done it, but they don’t, the organisation said children can come out with stuff ten years later and has to be investigated ,sorry it’s very very hard on us all here, it seems the police ect aren’t interested in what we say we have never hear from them they haven’t been back near the farm, or spoken to us.so we don’t know what’s going on. I will ring the numbers and talk to someone because I am stressed real bad.
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    24 October 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Dear Farmer ☺

    You're very welcome. Wouldn't it be awesome if we could do something to change this terrible living nightmare you're all going through.

    Doesn't seem right does it the Police not being in touch geez you need support from them too. I don't know at all but I wonder maybe this is out of their hands atm.

    I'm so glad you're going to ring the numbers. I hope you find some relief talking to them and they might know of somewhere you can get help. Let's hope Farmer, you're well and truly due for a break.

    Although I think it's wise to look ahead to prepare if possible for situation changes but be careful matey that you don't overfocus on what's not happened as yet. I do understand how you'd be thinking ahead just if you're able put most of your focus in what's going on atm. Hard I know to do but what you think potentially might occur God I hope for you won't eventuate so if there's anyway of preparing in case fair enough but if not it's energy you need now being used up for an unknown future for the moment.

    Have you been able to get a new lawyer at all. Huge blow mid case finishing. Must be heartbreaking for good lawyers who give a dam let alone you poor people.

    I wish you every good bit of luck possible in this awful painful situation dear man and to your loving family.

    Easy to say but please hold on. At some point in your life you'll be looking back on this.

    My wish for you all is peace 🕊

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    25 October 2020 in reply to Farmer680
    Hello Farmer,

    Just saw your thread now and wondered how you are coping today?

    I'm sure you're busy on the farm (no such thing as weekends for farming families) but I hope you can find even a moment to do something just for yourself that you enjoy.

    Your story is so upsetting to read. I can't imagine how hurt you must feel. No wonder people feel so reluctant to foster kids.

    Have your local community been supportive of you? Do you get much contact with other farmers in your area? The legal costs alone and risk of losing your farm must be devestating.

    Is there anyone locally you could ask for help to fundraise to cover costs? Maybe your colleagues at the hospital?

    Another thought was whether you have been keeping detailed records of what she has been doing to harrass you? If she is at the hospital for example they might have cameras that can support your side of the story. Or write down anyone who was also a witness. It is awful that you are having to defend yourself after simply trying to care for a child.

    I would hope that in court they are well aware of how often the system is abused and see through her crap.

    Living in a rural area too the topic of suicide hits close to home. I wonder whether you've heard of the blue tree project? It was started by a farming family here in WA who lost their son to suicide. Whenever I feel at risk I like to read about it and plan which trees I want to paint. It reminds me people do care and gives me hope for myself. I hope it helps you too.

    One day at a time. As long as you're still here trying there is hope.

    Love Nat





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  9. Farmer680
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    26 October 2020 in reply to Quercus
    Thank you very much Nat and everyone else I really appreciate all the support, we had good news today our Lawyer said he will see our case through and that's the last, as he already had our files and everything he said he is going to take her to the cleaners she's not going to know what hit her its the biggest waste of taxpayers money, our lawyer said you won't get any support from the police which is disappointing, I need to take one day at a time i am starting to think too far ahead which is making me worse i need to calm down and stop thinking things. the problem is she lived with us for 10 years so she knew exactly how we lived, what time i started work and finished ect she knows the system, and the last time she had the intervention order against my wife and daughter after she did a runner because they found her phone she was hiding she would message them and say sorry for ruining your family and making the stories it up, but she never meant it she was playing us.its all fun for her because its free.
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    27 October 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hey there Farmer and other good people ☺

    Wow that's such good news the lawyers going to stick with you. I was thinking about that. So happy for you. Sounding like he has plenty to throw at her. Good job!

    Must be a huge relief for you all. About time something went your way ☺

    My feelings well at the very least hopes are she'll trip over herself which with how she's carrying on makes for a good chance.

    Yes our minds shift quickly into overtime when hard times are on us. Good you're aware of this which will help you focus on other things to give yourself some reprieve poor man.

    Ok Farmer and your lovely family ☺ let's hope this is the beginning of better days for you all. Certainly a good break well deserved.

    Thoughts care and support to you all.

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  11. Farmer680
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    30 October 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi we got a phone call last night the girl that is living with us her father tried to commit suicide they had to rush him to hospital he was in intensive care he said he can’t handle the lies his daughter is spreading he said she is Evil, and wants nothing to do with her. Hoping he will be ok they won’t let him out of hospital until he sees a physiatrist The whole thing out of hand lies after lies when will it ever end, I get bad anxiety never used too I just want it to be over so when can have a normal life. again.
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    30 October 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi there Farmer ☺ and everyone 👋

    Quite understandable you just want this all to be over. Such a roar deal it's so unfair. I continue holding high hope that you'll get through this and have the peace you deserve.

    Anxiety is very difficult to live with. Something good is we can get on top of it. Certainly wouldn't help the stress with you I assume still not sleeping well poor man. As often as you can think to Farmer keep deep breathing and attention to relaxing your shoulders on exhale it does help.

    Is there something you enjoy maybe music singing walking etc. You need as many chances to distract your mind. It's needed to break away from constant painful thoughts. I know you wouldn't have a lot of time. Sometimes it can be therapeutic to just pick up a pen and let whatever comes out happen. Doesn't at all have to be a master piece it's for some release.

    Very sad about the girls father. Geez not good at all. He's in the right place it sounds that they're looking after him. The whole deals so wrong!

    You're doing so well holding on there Farmer. You'd be an inspiration to so many. Keep on keeping on matey as hard as it is you do have the strength which you're drawing on.

    Kind regards to your family and of cause yourself ☺

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  13. Farmer680
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    31 October 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi the father will be ok he has come out of hospital but will be seeing a physiatrist he just said it’s too much for him,and what his daughter is doing to us. I remember when we used to have our foster children 3 years up to 16 years old we had 5 one stage every Saturday night was guitar night I would get out the electric guitar and play while the children danced, they would dress up and the absolutely loved it they couldn’t thank us enough, then sometimes I would go outside and they would all follow behind me I would say we are looking for bunnies and we would sneak around the garden and the look on their faces was priceless, then all of a sudden one teenager gets her phone taken off her after hiding it from us for nearly 12 months, then lying and saying she never had one then she takes revenge on us. and has 9 intervention orders against people. It’s so wrong the stress is unbelievable lack of sleep I have big bags under my eyes, my point is how can a person get away with it surely someone with 9 intervention orders that would have to red flag the justice system they would have to see that and think something is going on with this person. I need to calm down but it’s hard. thank you everyone
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    1 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer and everyone ☺

    It was so lovely reading the many by the sounds really good times you've had. Good on you remembering them. They sound magical. Glad you're thinking about those. Nice to have a pleasant break from the negative thoughts.

    I think she'd surely miss her time with you allalthough I doubt understandably that'd mean much to you at this point.

    I agree about the 9 interventions. It's so extreme isn't it. I'd think your lawyer would be onto that. He sounds committed which is encouraging. Keep hope alive matey.

    It is very hard to calm down, so much going on it's awful. I feel very sorry for you all.

    Farmer do you feel up to seeing your GP to maybe give you something to help you sleep and or possibly something to help calm you. Our full strengths in enough sleep. You need as much as you can to help with coping.

    I'm so glad you're talking here. I hope it's even a small release for you.

    Please take care of yourself Farmer.

    Care and support 🌿

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  15. Farmer680
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    2 November 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Thank you everyone, I have been doing a lot of thinking today she is not going to win, I will stand up to her I have Been on this earth 41 years longer than her. if she thinks she is going to destroy a good family with all her lies and false allegations she has got another thing coming, Remember she has to have a good memory to cover up her lies,My wife has just had her second foot operation today, so I will be working from 5am until midnight looking after my wife the farm and my hospital job I will keep as busy as possible so I don’t get stressed as much,she will not win, the dark thoughts won’t win I still have a good life on the farm and she is not going to take it away from me .thank you with out the support from people in here I don’t think I would be here sorry but it’s the truth.
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    2 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Farmer and everyone hi ☺

    Farmer man it's SO good hearing that set in your voice. Good on you. Loven your strength and determination!

    That's a really good way to keep the demons at bay. The more you're determined to make it the less reason your mind looks for alternatives.
    Kudos matey 👍

    Wow you're going to be so busy.
    True it all could keep your mind from wandering.
    Be sure to eat well and plenty of water and deep breathing good man.
    I know your sleeps not happening much poor man it makes life so much harder but you're holding through it all.

    I'm glad the fathers going to be ok the poor man what a nightmare for so many.

    Really good knowing here's helping you too.

    You're doing really well Farmer. You have a great deal of courage and stamina.

    Wishing the best to your wife.

    See you later ☺

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  17. Farmer680
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    9 November 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi everyone going ok today, my son in-law who is friends with a couple of police was told she now has 11 intervention orders 2 against her school teachers. we have court on Wednesday to try and get rid of the intervention orders against us, then my court case 1st of December the problem is she has spread it all over her school and town and a lady I work with her daughter goes to the same school and she come home and told her mother and her mother told me it’s getting spread all over the place can’t afford to get back to my boss at work or I will loose my job of 21 years this is out of control and no one seems to care we have told the police and our lawyer who was going to put a stop to it but it’s to late it’s already been spread around I don’t know what to do it’s really getting to me.
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    9 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hey there Farmer and everyone ☺

    So good hearing you're going ok today good for you.

    Wow she really doesn't muck around with these cursing intervention orders does she. I hope that's a big part of her undoing. Ridiculous isn't it.

    It's awful it being spread around town especially when it fabricated. That'd hurt deeply I imagine. I'm sorry to hear that.

    You've looked after kids for several yrs Farmer and you've helped many people that I hope you'll find won't forget your kindness and many know you're a good man. Chances are her names not high in esteem around.

    Same goes with work it would be extremely unfair to dismiss you through someone making false accusations. I truly hope after all that time it doesnt come down to that.

    Keep your excellent mindset Farmer I'm so glad you dug that extra vital strength up. Helps no end.

    Hope your wifes foots coming along ok and that you're ok. You have a lot on atm. You're doing great under very hard circumstances.

    Best to you all. Sending good wishes care and support.

    Catch you later Farmer 😊

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  19. Farmer680
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    Thank you for your kind words my wife’s foot has to stay up above her heart for four weeks hopefully it will of worked this time, I am working long hours 7 am until midnight but I don’t mind at all, I do get help from the girl that stayed with us when her sister took off, she will be doing VCE next year and that’s all we wanted was them to get a good education but all we got was false allegations made against us so sad it’s my birthday today Remembrance Day been on this earth 57 years and helped hundreds of people, I really do appreciate people in this forum talking and not judging it’s very much appreciated.I am staying strong
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    11 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hello Dear Farmer...

    I wanted o pop in and wish you a Happy Birthday with all the best wishes I have to you..

    I have been listening along to you and our beautiful Deebi, but I have not been replying so much...as I have a few things going on mentally that I’m trying to manage....my heart and hope is always with you...Dear Farmer...💜🦋..

    My kindest thoughts and best wishes always..

    Grandy..

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    11 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer our beautiful Grandy and all ☺

    Happy birthday dear Farmer. I hope you have a lovely day free of worry and hurt.

    Hope it works out well for your wife. Thzt must be quite awkward keeping the foot elevated so high.

    You're working very hard. Good man.

    I'm so glad the sisters being a help. She sounds like a good soul.

    Hope it's a nice calm sunny day for you where you are.

    Good on you staying strong. That's the way.

    Take care and try hard to think of the good things around you. Not easy is it but it gives your mind a rest even for a few seconds and some peace that you well deserve.

    See you later ☺

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  22. bettertomorrows
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    12 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer,

    I'm really sorry that you've been through alot, but you sound like a really good person, trying to help kids do better and get a good education. Really touched by the many good things you're doing and it's given me strength today. Wishing you a belated birthday and a speedy recovery for your wife. Hope that things will get better for a kind person like you and your family.

    Best wishes

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  23. Farmer680
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    15 November 2020 in reply to bettertomorrows
    Thank you for your kind words it’s giving me strength to fight off the dark thoughts, we were supposed to go to court on Wednesday just gone but she got it postponed, playing games it’s just one big game to her, the lawyer is wild he wants to put a stop to it but he can’t while she keeps postponing it, she knows the system it’s not the same person that lived with us for ten years she has changed so much since been out on her own. The sister that is living with us gave me a birthday card and present it said thanks for everything you do for me and everyone else, as well as being an aspiring role model through out this very different year,i nearly cried because that come from her heart,she believes in us and knows how much her sister has lied to try and destroy our family, we told her your a valuable part of our family and she cried. all we want is the other sister to go away and leave us alone she has her phone now, don’t come near us stop her lies so we can live in peace. It’s hard on us everyday. thank you everyone.
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    16 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer and everyone 😊

    I'm glad hearing better tomorrows supportive post was a help to you. Supports very powerful isn't it. You deserve as much help as possible.

    I feel the time will come that she'll fall. She certainly makes it hard but that I hope can only last for so long.

    Your lawyers going to do his best with her, I wouldn't be surprised if she's getting a bit nervous.

    How beautiful your precious time with her sister she really sounds lovely.

    Stay strong Farmer you're doing incredibly well holding through this horrible rot.

    Best to your wife family and of course you ☺

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  25. Farmer680
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    25 November 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi sorry for taking so long to reply, I have been working long hours mostly 7am until around 11pm , I have been so stressed it’s hard to concentrate on my cleaning job at the hospital, and do farm work, it makes me sad a then 16 year old can just about destroy a whole family with lies and get away with it once she has destroyed us she will move on to another family and do the same, and legal aid just keep funding it. When you have someone with 11 intervention orders jumping up and down clapping there hands excited about it something is wrong mentally, but the law protects these type of people I just have to keep going it’s getting harder and harder my wife has been back in hospital with her foot her leg went red with cellulitis she was in 2 days hopefully it gets better I have court next week so will see what happens the dark thoughts are trying so hard to take over, it’s making me confused bye for now.
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    26 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi there Farmer and everyone ☺

    Good to hear from you and thank you keeping us up to date it's good knowing how you're going.

    You poor man doing such incredibly long hrs working. Good on you that takes a lot of stamina

    And your poor wife's having such a rough time too. I hope that gets sorted soon. Quite painful I've heard. Please send her my best wishes for a good recovery.

    You must be incredibly tired Farmer which added to a highly stressful situation would no doubt be creating more pain and frustration.

    Matey I really do understand how the thoughts bombard it's terribly hard to not give in. I'm sorry you're going through so much pain. If you can keep thinking about the farm and your loving family and know your determination will see you through Farmer. The main thing is not to give the bad thoughts any power. As soon as they come immediately dismiss them as not an option then tell yourself why you want to stay. We want you to as well good man ☺

    One day at a time matey. You really are holding up incredibly well.

    Sending thoughts and support to you and your lovely family. Loves very powerful it helps us to get through.

    Wishing you the best outcome for court too.

    🌿

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  27. Farmer680
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    27 November 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Thank you very much, the dark thoughts are so powerful it’s like the devil taking over your mind and telling you to destroy yourself, you then try and fight it off which seems to get harder and harder when your mentally worn out I have never had this happen before I can now understand how people leave this earth the dark thoughts just take over and win telling you there is no turning back it’s horrible why can’t people see that it’s all a game to her and put a stop to it, I am actually getting mentally worn out thinking where did we go wrong and in the end we should never of taken up foster caring but then the organisation should of told us what happens and the bad side of foster caring but it’s never told.I need to stay strong I have too my eldest daughter is having a baby in January she is a Div1 nurse she has had an intervention order against her for the last22 months from the same person because her phone was taken so she felt threatened by my daughter the courts seem to hand them out like candy surely they would have to red flag a 16 year old with 11 intervention orders, obviously not. thanks everyone
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  28. Sophie_M
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    27 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680
    Hey Farmer680,

    We're so sorry to hear that you've been experiencing such dark thoughts, and can hear how mentally draining all of this must be for you. You've shown so much strength in reaching out here to your friends on the forums, and please know that our supportive community are always here to help you through this really difficult time. We also think it might really help to talk through these thoughts and feelings with a kind and understanding counsellor at our Support Service (1300 22 4636) as well as our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) and Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) who are all here for you 24/7, as often as you need during overwhelming times like these. You never have to go through this alone.

    We hope that you can find some comfort in the kind words and support from our community, and we hope you continue to keep us updated on how you're going, whenever you feel ready. 
     
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  29. demonblaster
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    27 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hey there Farmer ☺

    You know people say I can't imagine how it would feel being in your position.
    I can imagine the hurt frustration and injustice but it'd be nothing to what you're feeling especially when all you're about helping people and giving them a better good life.
    You have and are achieving this good man.

    She's sadly one that's got serious problems and clearly needs intensive help which I dearly hope will result from this nightmare.

    You've helped many people. I think you did the right thing fostering kids.
    Just so awful what's happening.

    Our lovely Sophie here has suggested good people that can help you with how you're feeling Farmer.
    You know you always have here. We're close by and listening.
    They're trained and might know of people that can help more.

    What's so hard for you I feel apart from the obvious is the extreme lack of sleep and the fact that it's dragging on so long. Both these and your situation are bound to create deep depression. It's cruel what she's doing. So malicious.

    I imagine it feels that nothings happening but thank goodness the lawyers sticking with you.
    The first court is soon.
    There's positive & forward movement.

    Very difficult not just to throw in the towel matey I really do get it but remember friend if you do she wins and she's one that needs to be stopped.
    I hold high hope that your lawyers going to with your help stop her.

    Always wanting the best outcome for you and your family ⚘

    Keep going Mr you've come way too far to give in. Believe you are strong enough to hold on because you are!

    See you when you're up to it ☺ So glad you're talking here.

    🌿

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  30. Farmer680
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    29 November 2020
    To be honest it was hard to reach out to this forum because I thought people would think I was loony, but with out this forum I can honestly say I wouldn’t be here I would of left this earth. She knows exactly 100% what she is doing to us and she will be laughing her head off, I will let you know how it goes tomorrow Tuesday court day. Thank you
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