i’ve never really posted on anything like this before so here goes nothing.
basically all year i’ve been in this friendship group of four girls. within the group, i am best friends with this one girl, we’ll call her stacy. and im very close with the two other girls in the group as well, we’ll call them amy and emma.
all year stacy has felt really excluded from our group, because she felt as though i was closer to amy and emma than she was. because of this, she’s felt really insecure with herself and therefore been really possessive of me and would always get angry with me if i would take photos with them/ message them which would always make me upset but i wouldn’t say anything because i’m too scared to upset stacy.
i’ve managed to juggle all this all year just fine, but just recently amy and stacy had a massive argument that started over something very small and escalated into them calling eachother names and saying they have always hated eachother and now my friend group has fallen apart and it’s really upsetting for me because i like all of them and want to be friends with them all.
and now stacy is not letting me talk to amy or emma because stacy feels attacked by them and feels that it i were friends with them it’s like an act of betrayal. but the thing is i really really love amy and emma they’re really good friends of mine and the idea that i could lose them forever is making me so anxious and sick. but if i stay friends with them, i’m going to lose stacy. this situation i have found myself in it’s just too much for me, i feel like it’s a lose lose situation.
i’ve been feeling sick to my stomach all day thinking to the point where i can’t eat and i’m constantly on the verge of tears, i jsut don’t know what to do.
i realise the obvious solution is to just tell stacy that i still like and want to be friends with amy and emma, but i have mentioned it that verify yesterday and she got really upset with me saying that i shouldn’t even want to be friends with them considering how they made stacy feel, and if i’m stacy’s best friend i should always stick up for her.
the other thing is i’m really afraid to upset stacy because she’s told me before that she’s tried to commit suicide and i’m scared to do or say anything that’ll contribute to that feeling she has.
i just am so lost in what to do and i feel so sick thinking about it, i just wish everyone could be friends with everyone and no one would ever fight.