Hello Brent, you are right judgemental people will only feed negative thoughts and will, unfortunately, find a crack they can weave their way through, block that access point and deny them any ability to enter, even if they pretend to be friendly, but you know what the outcome will be.
A box of chocolates doesn't give them the right to come to you if derogatory comments will make you feel worse, especially if you know this will happen.
Look after yourself.
Geoff.