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Topic: 8yr old with anxiety

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  1. EsmeEsme
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    13 December 2017
    My daughter is having some anxiety ATM, she is being bullied by a few of her classmates. I also found 'I hate myself' carved/written on her bed frame. Has any other mums experienced this? I'm a bit lost what to do.
  2. CMF
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    13 December 2017 in reply to EsmeEsme

    Hi Esme and welcome,

    how awful for your daughter and I can feel your suffering too. Have you actually spoken to your daughter ie will she open up to you? I would suggest speaking to her school/teachers. They should be good with keeping an eye on things and dealing with the culprits. At that age the bullies are probably not aware of the effect it is having on your daughter and they need to be dealt with and their parents made aware also.

    hope this helps and you can get your daughter feeling well again.

    cmf

  3. Sophie_M
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    14 December 2017 in reply to EsmeEsme

    Hi EsmeEsme, welcome to the forums.

    The pages below from our Healthy Families website contain information that you may find useful:

    Dealing with bullying

    Managing emotions

    Good luck and best wishes.

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  4. blondguy
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    14 December 2017 in reply to EsmeEsme

    Hello EsmeEsme

    Thankyou for writing such an important post that effects so many children (and parents too of course)

    I am a dad and my daughter was writing the same at 10. I understand where you are coming from Esme

    CMF and Sophie_M have great help above including active links to help you and your daughter

    You are more than welcome to post back if you wish and let us know your thoughts

    My kind thoughts for you and your daughter in this difficult period

    Paul

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  5. K3t77
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    14 December 2017 in reply to EsmeEsme

    Hi EsmeEsme!

    I know how you are feeling, my 8 year old son is also suffering from anxiety, due to medical history and previously bullying, not just by kids but also adults. He often hits himself and calls himself stupid or he hates himself. When he gets frustrated/angry about things, he often says to me "Mummy please help me, I can't control my anger" so I am trying breathing exercises with him. He gets very anxious when I leave him at home with my sister, so I can go to work, which I then feel guilty about leaving him. He doesn't trust anyone else but me. He won't tell anyone else when he is feeling unwell, he'll wait all day until I pick him up from school and tells me. I can see in his face how unhappy he is, he use to be such a happy, carefree little boy, but over the months, I can see how unhappy he is and it's breaks my heart. For Christmas I am buying him "A Worry Plaque" from a company called "The Irish Fairy Door Company", I am hoping this will help with his anxiety.

    I am also a bit lost and worried for him

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  6. blondguy
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    14 December 2017 in reply to K3t77

    Hi K3t77 (sorry to hijack your thread EsmeEsme)

    Welcome to the forums and thankyou for having the courage to post too!

    My daughter also used to be the same at 8 too.....unhappy and only trusting me like your son is which I wasnt happy with as a dad.

    Sophie_M ( Community Moderator) posted above with two active links that may be of assistance to you

    My Best Wishes

    Paul

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  7. geoff
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    15 December 2017 in reply to EsmeEsme
    hello EsmeEsme, I'm so sorry that your daughter has been bullied at school, especially at such a young age, and obviously it's a great worry to you.
    I'd also like to welcome K3t77 as well, and I believe that that the schools are taking this issue with great concern so please google this 'bullying at junior school' as well as 'strategies to respond to bullying', they are aren't big sites but they maybe able to help you.
    I also believe that you should visit your doctor where they may suggest ringing Reachout and/or Headspace, these are people who are trained to talk with the younger generation and also older kids, so please give a ring even before you visit your doctor. Geoff.
  8. CMF
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    15 December 2017 in reply to geoff

    Hi all,

    There is an organisation in Melbourne called 'Bully Zero Foundation'. They are not for profit and go around to schools and workplaces giving talks on bullying, the different types and how it affects people. The gave a talk at my daughters school, just need to contact them to organise. Not sure if the go interstate. They have wonderful ambassadors like high profile sports people, comedians who will share their own stories.

    hope this helps. It breaks me heart to hear of young children suffering like this.

    cmf x

  9. K3t77
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    16 December 2017 in reply to blondguy

    Afternoon Everyone!

    Thank you for the suggestions, I will be looking into them all. I just want to see my son happy again.

    EsmeEsme, hope things settle soon for your daughter.

    Kind Regards

    Katie.

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