It sounds like you have so much going on, and are so focused on helping everyone else, that you are starting to feel as though you are burning out, yeah?
To be honest, I don't really know what kind of advice to offer, but I do want to just let you know that you are not alone in this. Here at Beyond Blue, it's a bit like a zoo; in that there's one of every kind here!
A few years ago I (unfortunately) divorced a man whom I believe was/is on the Autism spectrum and who used to say the same thing; that he just needed more time alone to sort things out by himself. Of course, that never really helped us to get closer or work through things together, so we parted ways.
Anyway, I know I'm not too much help, sorry. Perhaps it's time to switch your focus a little, now that you have a lot more home help, towards getting some more help and support for yourself, yeah? Do you think that might help take a little of the pressure off?
Anyway, I don't know if any of that helps or not. I do hope that things start to improve for you soon.
Take care, I'll be thinking of you. xo