I am new to beyondblue and these forums, so here is a brief overview of me and my battles. I am nearly 25, engaged to the love of my life for 4years now, we have both had our battles with mental health, mine past and his present. He helped me through a very difficult stage in my life when i was diagnoised with endometriosis, had surgery and then dealt with the depression and anxiety that followed. I would not have made it without his love and support.
Now its my turn to be the care giver, i am struggling to help him and maintain myself. He was diagnosed with depression earlier this year, tried medication but had violent side effects, tried herbal remedies with success but then stopped taking them. The bad episodes are not consistent, they happen at anytime even without know cause.
Latest episode started December 24th and is still ongoing, he has shut me out, we dont communicate. Occasionally he has broken out of this for 1hr or so and everything has seemed normal and then dives straight back into that dark zone.
I have no idea what to do now that he is not communicating with me. Should i push him into counselling, will he get angry if i push him towards help?
In the past we had to wait for him to decide to get help. I dont think i can mentally or physically handle waiting for him to come to the decision himself.
Had thought of giving him some self help reading material but he doesnt like reading.
I am tired, anxious and desperate for change.