Hi Mum to Tjj. Im new here too.
My son is an elite athlete & has had some serious injuries. Depression in athletes is common. 1 IN 5
As a young child he was very ADHD and we used sport to manage his behaviour. This taught lots of lessons such as routine, discipline, safety etc in an environment he enjoyed, doing something he was good at and this made him feel good about himself. He was accepted in a social group who had things in common. Consider there are alot of negative connotations for kids like this throughout the day.
Each person in our family is good at something and not so good at other things. Ive always encouraged them to do the things they're good at because this makes them feel good about themselves. My daughter can sing pitch perfect which i understand is a rare talent and plays the guitar. She is beautiful to listen to. My son the athlete likes to sing but I dont like to listen to him sing.
The things they're not so good at I encourage to have a go and make an effort but I dont focus on the more negative.
My Jj had a bad crash, first race of the season in warmup and broke his collarbone. The fracture was messy and took 3 months to heal. He couldn't go to gym. And his time at gym was important to him because the gym instructor was a mentor to him and it was a big part of his routine and he made friends in that group.
This also put him off the bike for the entire season & also made him feel down. Achieving makes him feel good about himself, not winning. He loves the feeling he gets riding. Even the pain in his legs.
You see the kids with bad injuries and when they come back to racing you can see the fear. Some get over it and some dont. I believe that PTSD from surgery/injury is common.
Perhaps TJj is worried about his shoulder, knowing what to expect from surgery. A shoulder injury is serious (so my GP told me last week about mine). There aren't many sports where you only use your legs or jobs either. Even walking uses your shoulder.
Football gives Tjj a social group to belong to and structure to his life, fun and probably an outlet to stresses of uni. Stress is exhausting, hence the need to rest.
Disabled or not disabled, we all have different things that make us happy. We are all different. Tjj is disabled by injury & these are significant injuries that could very well be lifelong.
If Tjj is not exercising as much, his body probably isnt demanding too much food right now. Maybe ask if there's something he feels like.
Nice to meet u