Unsure,
Not sure if this forum allows YT links but hearing this talk of game theory reminded me of a relevant thing that clinical psychologist Jordan Peterson said, that you can never win in an argument in an intimate relationship- if you win, your partner loses... and for someone you care about, you never want them to lose, period....
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mvqhSTcwIOs
I understand that things are rocky and very uncertain for you at the moment, but if a relationship is a true reciprocal relationship (which many in this world are not), then your goal is not to win, negotiate as you would a business deal (negotiate, sure, but with the realisation that both people are flawed individuals), lay down the law and assert your dominance....
Not saying that you are doing any of this... I just think that the ideal is what’s best for both of you - which may mean lose-lose, as in the termination of the relationship, or it may mean lose-lose as in you both accept fault...
I get that you’re in a weird state of limbo at the moment and hurting though.... I think further down the road one would prefer to look back as having been a bit more accepting of someone who ultimately was not right, than having asserting their will over someone and wondered “what if ?.....
I was going to ask a while back something but then you and dng seemed to get on a roll.
What precipitated her thinking you were cheating? I believe you when you say you didn’t, but I wonder if you are close (in a non-romantic way) with the person she accused you of cheating with? Humans are designed to be sensitive to not just their relationship with another, but with that other’s relationship with others...
I hope this is sensitive enough as you are in a very - uncertain - time.. I get that there had been a lot of conflict with her accusations and disorder and medication adherence etc etc. so I hope this doesn’t come across as overly judgmental. My heart goes out to you.
ps if she calls you to hear your voice, talk to her... even if things don’t work out, she’s still a human being.
take care Unsure.