hi and welcome to beyond blue.
Your partner is lucky to have to you that you care about them so much. Gentle nudges are OK but if the other person really does not want to, it is a bit hard to force them. There is also a section on the beyond blue web sit for partners supporting someone which you might want to look at.
what I am about to tell you is part of my story and associated thoughts, what I have been told etc. I hope some of it is useful.
I started seeing a psychologist a bit over 2 years ago. I have also been seeing a psychiatrist for most of that time as well. I am nearly 50. I believe my issues started in primary / high school days. Since I started seeing the psychiatrist i have changed medication a few times.
There are many factors that may affect the time it takes to "get better". For example, length of time, medication, whether they do homework from psychologist, does the homework work.
Last week I felt I was getting better. This week not so.
- You have to look at how far you have come vs how far away you are from getting better.
- Talk therapy when used in conjunction with medication helps
- If you are offer a distraction (like going out) then do it even you don't feel like it. (I have bailed on some outings cause I felt low. Talking about that with my psychs it was suggested that not bailing was better as it can act as a distraction.)
- Even if I don't feel like walking somewhere, I force myself to do it. After a while I can feel a bit better. I live close to a botanical garden.
- Work out what distractions and coping tools work and what do not.
- gratitude journals.
- read the happiness trap.
- find things he likes to do.
For myself, it takes a number of tools to use at different times, learnt over the space of this 2+ years. A bit like a marathon vs a 100m sprint. I am hopeful your partner will get through this struggle and it may take time. Be kind to yourself and him.