iv come over here for some advice and support from people who have maybe gone or are going thought similar situations and could maybe help me understand what I should be doing.
I’m not diagnosing but I believe my husband does suffering from a mental illness. This has happened more then once and I’m starting to see a pattern and my husbands mother also suffers with depression.
We have 1 children and another one on the way, very pregnant :)
I’m wondering how I can help him, and help myself as it’s really starting to affect me. I would call myself a naturally caring person. I do understand some types of mental health. I have actually done a course in mental health to do with my job as I am a care worker. But due to being pregnant I have to say I’m not really %100 strong myself at the moment.
As I said he has done
this before but it starts with him becomesing very insecure and feeling as though I don’t love him or an attractived to him. He needs constant reassurance and affection. He was doing amazing for 2 weeks, happiest I had seen him in months it was almost over the top he has now come crashing down real hard. He has come withdrawn, won’t talk to me, or go near me and just comes home and goes to bed. He says he feels horrible and really crappy about himself but doesn’t know why and doesn’t want to deal with it.
im trying so hard to love him, care for him, even just hold his hand, cuddle but he doesn’t let me and pushes me away. Iv tried sending sweet messages daily and doing sweet gestures liking bringing him his favourite drink into work.
Iv mentioned I’m here to support you, you know how much I love and care for you, I said I can’t help you if you don’t let me, and have said about maybe talking to someone, his father, friends or even a professional.
As i am pregnant I can’t help but to take it a lot more to heart. Along with trying to be strong for my toddler and baby inside me and now my husband. It’s hard to be around someone you love and care so much for who will not let you in or help them.
I’m starting to think about maybe seeing someone myself to help support me to help support him as best as I can. Maybe then if he sees I’m getting help he might feel more welcome to come along or go himself.
Iv tried talking to my own mother and sister in law but I don’t really want to worry them or get them involved.
Just any advice or stories would really help me get a grasp on where I can go from here.
thankyou even for just listening.