Welcome to Beyond Blue (BB) forums. People here are friendly, caring, supportive and respect individual's privacy. We're not counsellors or therapist, though we've all had experience with mental illness.
I can see you really care for your family. They are so lucky to have you. It is such an important part of healing and recovery for your daughter. She may not realise that at the moment, with comments like - 'butt out'. I guess that hurts. Though if you can look at it as part of what she is going through and not take it on personally it may help you. Eight years is a long time.
To help you, I may ask some questions, though there is no pressure for you to answer these. I'm not being nosey just trying to understand better so I can help.
You say your daughter has PTSD and PND. Is she currently seeing a gp and/or therapist about these conditions?
While PTSD, anxiety and depression can be debilitating at times, it is manageable with good support from the right professionals and a range of self help tools.
I have PTSD, anxiety and depression and find that what helps me manage these - is to have a good gp who understands me and a good therapist who is able to give me tools to cope.
Ultimately, your daughter will need to take responsibility for herself and make the move to manage the PTSD and PND. It requires ongoing management.
Did she drink before having her baby 8 years ago? Or is that something since the birth?
It's pleasing to hear that her husband is going to stay about to help. That's really good. Your daughter needs to participate in her own recovery as part of his willingness to stay.
Many woman have PTSD, anxiety, depression, your daughter is not alone. Have a browse through the forums and the Beyond Blue home page.
Look forward to hearing back from you automatic.